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Suit of the Week: Reiss

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Reiss Premium Collection SuitWell, well: I did not realize Reiss has a premium line of suiting. According to the site, it’s “exclusively created in-house with a focus on luxe fabrications and precision fit.” Other retailers have tried this, of course — The Limited still has their Luxe line, but Banana Republic has stopped and started its “premium” line, Monogram. (Awww, here’s a link to one of our very first Suit of the Week posts featuring a Monogram suit.) Still, Reiss’s suiting is great, and the price point isn’t too much higher, so this new Premium line is definitely worth a mention. On the pictured suit, I love the texture, as well as the cut. The blazer (Moss Textured Blazer) is $495, and the pants (Dartmouth Trouser) are $230. A couple of more affordable suits are here and here. Here's a plus-size option (jacket and pants). (L-all)

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152 Comments

  1. I know dating sites can be regional – following this mornings discussion any recommendations for dating sites in Houston? This is for a late twenties professional.

    2. I found good luck on Ok Cupid. Plenty of Fish was not good at least in my part of town

  2. Early TJ – My engagement ring is set in white gold. As I’m more of a yellow gold person, I was debating getting a non-matching wedding band set in yellow gold. Has anyone mixed metals like this before? I do want the two rings to look like they go well together… is this possible?

    1. I think Kate Middleton’s rings don’t match — the wedding band being some historic gold source IIRC.

      but have you considered changing your engagement ring setting?

    3. My engagement ring is set in white gold, and my wedding band is yellow gold. They don’t “match”, but are very similar in style. I love the combination, and have received a lot of compliments. A friend of mine actually did the same thing, and loves it.

    5. Very likely doing this myself! Can you go try some on to see how they look together? And yes, Kate Middleton’s looks great!

    6. As Rings said, the Duchess of Cambridge pulls it off! She wears a yellow gold wedding ring, platinum engagement ring and platinum diamond eternity band all stacked in a row.

      It’s definitely possible to mix metals and have it look good!

    7. I have a white gold e-ring and a rose gold wedding band – both are half eternity but the widths don’t match at all. I love the look and get plenty of compliments on it. I think the key is to look intentionally non-matchy. If the bands are the same, just different metals, its too easy to look off as opposed to intentional.

    8. My mom’s wedding set was a gold band flanked by two white gold. It worked for her for 40 years (she had to have them sawed off in the ER when she injured her finger!).

    1. As a mostly non-drinker (1-2 drinks a year, if that), this article mostly drove home for me the fact that a LOT of people are unable to comprehend that some people just choose not to drink, and they can’t relate to that at all. It’s not an addiction issue, it’s not a religious issue, I’m just not a huge fan – and that does.not.compute.

      1. +1 Yup. I don’t drink much alcohol because I don’t like the taste and would prefer to take my empty calories in the form of molten chocolate cakes and I get asked “pregnant, Mormon or in recovery?” all the time. It is unfathomable to people that someone would just…not like alcohol (even though my parents, in-laws, husband and several close friends all drink about the same or less than I do so clearly this isn’t THAT weird).

        1. Hey. Molten chocolate cake is not empty calories. If I recall correctly, chocolate has antioxidants. ;)

    2. As someone who drinks too much, I think what the author is missing is the idea that “XXX & wine” probably means 1 or 2 glasses to most people, not enough to get totally blasted, like it would for her and for me. I sympathize that when you are trying to maintain sobriety is is pretty obnoxious that so many activities aimed at women include a booze component.

      1. To be fair, a lot of activities aimed at men include booze as well. All sport spectator opportunities seem to involve beer, a colleague of mine went to a “suits and scotch” event where one was fitted for a bespoke suit and drank scotch, and my husband recently went to a carpentry class that had a craft beer tasting component.

        1. Carpentry and Craft Beer, that sounds like something sponsored by a Accidents R Us.

    3. I am a non-drinker, not for any particular reason other than I just don’t like the taste. And no matter how matter-of-factly I order a soda at a happy hour or politely decline a glass of wine with a “no thanks, I’m good!” people look at me like I’m an alien, and will try to insist that I order a drink. I was working an event and I had coworkers who told me I was being unprofessional for only drinking soda.

      And I don’t know if it’s a “being a 24-hour” woman thing, but I can say that majority of women I know DO crack open a bottle of wine every night after work as their way to de-stress. I don’t know how they do it, because wine=disgusting to me, but to each their own.

      1. As a drinker, it drives me insane when others act like it’s weird for someone in the group to not order a drink and try to pressure that person about it. Are we in high school? If people don’t want to drink, leave them alone!

        I’m sorry people give you a hard time about it.

        1. + a million. It’s no one’s business if you don’t drink, and I say this as someone who likes bourbon … well, a lot.

        2. Exactly. I enjoy drinking and the taste of wine. I would also never pressure someone to drink who didn’t want to – regardless of the reason. Because I’m an adult and not in high school drinking Bartles & James.

    4. I’ve seen this article everywhere. Some of it resonates with me, but I disagree with its central premises.

      Yes, I’m exhausted by trying to woman correctly all of the time and dealing with a constant barrage of sexism.

      Yes, I, like many women, use light (and once in a while heavy) social drinking to unwind, relax, and have fun with my friends.

      No, I do not believe that I drink *because of* stresses particular to being a woman living in a sexist society, or at least, that that does not inspire a significant amount of my drinking. I just don’t think that this conclusion follows for most people and she’s intertwining these two concepts too tightly without justification. Nor do I agree that drinking utterly crushes my desire to improve my world. I take issue with the way she implicitly judges women by asserting that they drink to mollify themselves *instead of* attempting to change their lives and fight the patriarchy. Rly? No.

      I agree that our society pushes alcohol at all opportunities, which can be problematic for many reasons including the challenge to stay sober. But I think the author takes some of the Culture of Wine, so to say, too literally and too seriously. In re; her facebook post about her shoes and people saying “wine, immediately”: I do not believe that anyone was seriously suggesting that she drink wine at 10am because she skinned her knee. Comments like that appear to me as short hand for “ug that stinks! hope you find something to cheer you up.” Wine, in my social circle, is a proxy for ‘relax, social, fun, unwind, girl-time,’ but not ‘get drunk to erase your problems.’

      1. +1. As someone who hardly ever drinks (MAYBE 1 drink a week) I still take issue with her premise. Wine is the currently-socially-acceptable way for women of a certain status to destress and/or focus on herself. It’s shorthand for ignoring your other responsibilities for a minute and doing something only for yourself. Men used to do it with golf outings or turning on a TV. The difference is that wine now conflates with the weird societal fixation on alcohol and the moral implications of people who do or do not drink, so it’s way easier to be a Judgy McJudgerson about the whole thing.

      2. Agreed. I probably drink more wine than I should but not because of that reason.

    5. I got dropped like a hot potato by many of my friends when I stopped drinking. This was shortly after college in my early 20s so no one was married or had babies yet and my friends social lives revolved around going out to bars, having long boozy brunches and girls night at home with tons of wine. I didn’t care if people drank around me and I told people I was still happy to participate in that stuff (maybe not so much the bars, but definitely brunches and nights in, where I could hang out w/o drinking) but my friends faded away. Some of them explicitly told me it was “weird” to be around me when they were drinking and I wasn’t, and they thought I was secretly judging them. Now that I’m in my 30s and many people have kids, social lives revolve a lot less around drinking, but my current close friends are all non-drinkers or “one or two drinks a year” types. I don’t have any close friends who have a nightly glass of wine, and I suspect that’s not a coincidence even though I’m not consciously avoiding them as friends. Maybe people just feel more comfortable around people who have similar drinking habits.

      1. I get drunk so easily that I can’t have more than 2 drinks in short duration. I’m in the habit of declining the second glass at work events, and when I do I am instantly accused of being pregnant… which is also clearly not ok but also completely typical/something I have to expect at this point. Sigh.

        (bonus sting: I’m TTC and starting fertility treatments. NOPE. NOT PREGNANT, FOLKS.)

      2. I hang out with a mix of heavy, light, and non-drinkers. In my group, at least, no one really cares at drinks #1-2. It’s #3+ that there’s a real difference. The heavy drinkers are all SUPER HAPPY AND EXCITED ABOUT EVERYTHING while the non-heavy drinkers are still their normal selves. To the heavy drinkers, all but the peppiest of the peppy non-heavy drinker look like kind of a stick in the mud in terms of energy level. And to the non-heavy drinkers, the drunk people are all being super ridic because, no, in fact, that trash can is not the funniest thing that any of us has ever seen.

    6. This makes me think of the line of clothing that Eva Longoria just released for The Limited. There are SO MANY graphic tees that reference wine. “Wine a little laugh a lot,” “wine, love and more wine,” “#winegoals,” etc…that’s not even all of them. It’s like, ok we get it, you like wine! I’m starting to think Eva has a bit of a problem.

      1. Yeah, stuff like that bugs me (as someone who does have 1 – 2 glasses of wine a night). I don’t really like to talk about it or emphasize it; that always feels really tacky to me.

    7. I think her commentary about the 24-hour woman is interesting, but I can’t get on board with the commentary about drinking because the world she describes just doesn’t resemble mine. A bar that doesn’t have water? Strange women telling one to drink wine at a flea market? A guest at a baby shower pressuring the pregnant mom-to-be to drink alcohol? Possibly the scenarios were exaggerated for effect, but that sort of takes the wind out of the sails of her point.

      1. Agree — zero desks at my office have alcohol on them, and I think that’s far more typical than her description of her office, which, frankly, I just don’t believe.

          1. There are 30 lawyers in my firm. I would say at least half the offices (mine included) have alcohol in them. Anecdata point, but I am not sure we are that unusual.

        2. I had liquor on my desk at my old job, and most folks did, but we joked that they were “in case of emergency” alcohol. Drinking at work was not normal.

      2. +1. I think many of my friends drink more than is healthy, but I’ve never seen people pressure a pregnant woman to drink and I’ve never seen a bar at a work event that couldn’t serve water or club soda. I think she’s definitely exaggerating.

        1. Among my friend group, I’ve seen rolled eyes when a pregnant woman wouldn’t have a sip of alcohol. If we were out and someone was like “oh this new drink is amazing, everyone try it!” And the pregnant woman would say no thanks, the person offering would roll there eyes and say “really, you can’t even have an itty bitty sip to taste it? That can’t do any harm can it?”

          I’ve also seen the same reactions over a champagne toast. That just a sip can’t hurt.

          1. Don’t know your friends, so I could be wrong, but I actually wonder if that’s coming from a different place than the drinking culture. It seems to me that there’s an enormous amount of judgment of pregnant and/or nursing women’s decisions about what to eat, how to exercise, whether to use epidurals etc, basically just EVERYTHING. I have seen some occasions where it seemed to me that women were pushing back against that judgment by loudly insisting that it was fine to have one glass of wine and they weren’t killing their freaking fetuses thankyouverymuch, and possibly taking it too far the other way.

          2. Yes to ELaw. So much judgment on pregnant and postpartum women. I’m pretty modest, so I plan on covering up while b-feeding, but I swear to god if I get any comments from judgey strangers about how they’re glad I’m covering up in public b/c b**bs are private, I’m whipping off that cover and flashing them. Because IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU, people.

      3. She’s not exaggerating at all. You just don’t notice all the alcohol and lackthereof alternatives until you stop drinking and are in recovery.

        1. I’m pregnant and not drinking, and my perception of alcohol and non-alcoholic alternatives has not changed so there’s a reasonable chance I was able to judge it correctly. I’ve certainly not had difficulty getting water or club soda in a bar or anywhere else. I’ve not disclosed my pregnancy yet, and no one has pressured me to drink.

        2. I’m not in recovery, but I don’t drink and never have and I think her account is wildly exaggerated. Yes, alcohol is everywhere and at a certain age (college-mid20s) it is a huge part of the social scene for many people. But I have been to plenty of bars and never had a problem getting non-alcoholic drinks and I’ve never seen alcohol on people’s desks at work. The only people who are judgmental about the fact that I don’t drink are huge jerks and are just generally bad people in many ways that have nothing to do with alcohol.

          1. I think a lot of the people that make comments about other people NOT drinking are sensitive about their own drinking. In my group of friends we have a person like this and her drinking has been out of control at times.

          2. To long time lurker – you’re exactly right, I think. In fact, I think the concept applies even further than drinking. For example, the ones who make the most fuss about other people’s appearances are often the ones who are the most self-conscious about their own.

        3. Hmm, I wonder if part of this is a perception issue: to someone who is indifferent to alcohol, it’s no big deal to refuse if someone offers a drink, or to go to events where other people are drinking, but to someone in recovery, or who has quit drinking because of an unhealthy relationship with alcohol, the presence of alcohol everywhere, or even someone offering it relatively innocuously, can seem like a really loud noticeable obnoxiously blaring siren, “here is alcohol why aren’t you drinking we are judging you for not drinking!!!” And also if you were once an unhealthy drinker, and part of a group that drank together, the other women might be sensitive to judgment and thus more likely to insist that you drink. But that experience does not correspond to my own as a sometimes-abstainer, with many friends who are heavy drinkers, but never rude about me not drinking.

    8. I feel like our culture is currently in a moment where we are encouraging each other to use alcohol as a main coping device. I see it so much with my friends and particularly with wine. Personally, I find this incredibly unhealthy. We don’t encourage each other to start smoking, even though that helps with stress. We shouldn’t encourage alcohol as a daily tool to get through the day. There are other ways to cope.

      1. I completely agree with that. My parents weren’t great example of people with good coping skills (mom= ignore all negative feelings, stuff everything down until you explode with rage… dad= pills and liquor) and when I found myself at a complete loss as to cope with a really stressful situation earlier this summer I ended up googling “healthy coping methods”. Because for me and for so many of my friends the answer usually is “wine”, and while that’s okay sometimes, I need to learn other healthier ways to deal with things.

      2. I think it’s also part of the “Work Hard, Play Hard” culture that is common among my peers (early 30s). A cocktail or a glass of wine seems to be a shortcut to switching gears from work to play without wasting any time.

        1. “A cocktail or a glass of wine seems to be a shortcut to switching gears from work to play without wasting any time.”

          I don’t drink, so my shortcut is changing into lounge-y clothes as soon as I get home :)

      3. I think this is huge. A lot of us alternate between “busyness and taking the edge off.” Alcohol is an easy coping mechanism for some people. I expressed some sympathy and concern about my (former?) friend and her stress level and she said she was fine with just drinking her cares away and crying to me. This, after she showed up drunk at my house for dinner. She says she fine since she’s not as dysfunctional as a bunch of her other friends. Aaaaand she’s always pressuring me to drink.

    9. I think the author is an alcoholic looking to pin her problems on the rest of us.

    10. If you replaced wine or booze with food in this article, it seems like the logic falls apart. Or at least to me.

      Trying to eat healthier or with dietary restrictions makes people treat you like you’re nuts in social settings. For non-drinkers, there’s the option of water at a bar, but try finding something vegan or even low-cal at an office BBQ. I’m not equating alcoholism with obesity by any means, but for people for whom eating healthier is a literal life or death situation, it can often feel like being a recovering alcoholic, and food is everywhere. 9 am meeting? muffins. 11 am meeting? muffins. business lunch. 2 pm trip to starbucks for wake-me-up coffees. 5 pm happy hour. business dinner.

    11. I think the idea of women being 24-hour women is one issue and the idea that wine is marketed to women and women have to some degree embraced that is a very different thing altogether?

    12. Probably the only one but it totally, totally resonated with me. I’m a new mom, I hate my body, I’m catching flack at work and from family about everything. Striving and failing every day. Wine blurs the edges and numbs things for me, I’m only half joking when I ask someone if 10 am is too early. It’s crummy and pathetic but I love the article because it hit so close to home.

      1. I think there are good and bad points with the article but I doubt you’re the only one feeling this way. I went through a period where I was definitely turning to booze too often – I was working two jobs, felt completely adrift in my career, new marriage, new city, etc. I really thought about what function the booze was serving and tried to replace it with other things. I still drink to unwind sometimes, but not nearly as often and in smaller quantities.

        TL;DR – you’re not alone!

    13. I thought it was a drag of an article. I am in a heavy drinking profession, and before I moved in-house there was always booze in the office (ask me about pretending to drink the friday wine while hiding my pregnancy!) … but nonetheless it read to me like “instead of spending Sunday drinking and swimming and singing and laughing with your friends, you guys should have been [dismantling the patriarchy? or just doing all those things but not with booze? unclear]” For me, as someone who likes a drink but doesn’t have a drinking problem, it just felt like “oh, great, another way I’m falling short as a woman if I try to take a few hours off. THANKS.”

      1. This^^^ This line kills me:

        “that side of the pool seems like a Greek chorus of women who have major grievances with their bodies, faces, children, homes, jobs, and husbands but aren’t going to do anything about any of it but get loaded and sunburned in the desert heat.”

        Oh, you saw a bunch of women drinking *at a bachelor3tte party* and concluded that that is *all* they do, to the exclusion of improving their lives? Hello, bitter, judgey, blaming, logical fallacy! Isn’t your whole premise that it’s awful that people keep telling other women how to exist? Also someone needs to teach her what “facetious” means.

        1. Yeah. I was at a similar party (maybe we were those girls she was hating on? no, we didn’t look obviously bachelor3ttey) and it was fun and smart and awesome. The women I was getting “loaded and sunburned in the desert heat” with are doing super impressive patriarchy-crushing things in their professional and personal lives, for the record. And on that very trip we read books, played silly word-games and laughed until we cried, and helped one another strategize meaningful ways to be happier in our lives — in spite of our pina coladas!

  4. I’m in my first trimester of pregnancy and dealing with terrible nausea. I’m panicking because I know how important it is to eat nutritious foods, but most of the time when I even think about food, it makes my stomach turn. The only thing that really seems palatable to me is soup. So, what are your favorite soup recipes?

    1. I say this with love, but you’re in the first trimester. It can be miserable. Eat what makes you feel better, nutritious or not.

      That said, homemade tortilla soup with onions, bell peppers, corn, tomatoes, chicken stock, and a shredded rotisserie chicken (or make your own chicken if you’re motivated) is my go to soup.

      1. Thank you. That does actually make me feel better. I guess I am struggling because I was previously morbidly obese and have completely changed my lifestyle around – exercising, eating healthy, etc. and have not eaten bread, pasta, rice, or desserts in several years. Now that I am pregnant, I am craving ALL THE BREAD, and cakes, donuts, fries, etc. I am terrified of falling back into old habits and the thought of trying to go to the gym right now seems insane.

        1. Try to make healthy choices with in that category? Like whole wheat English muffin instead of donut?

        2. Late I know, but just chiming in to say that I am in the same position (but a few weeks further along) and understand the fear. There were a few weeks when I only wanted carbs (ideally with chocolate spread), but that has eased and I’m now eating my usual diet with extra (mostly healthy) snacks. I found the first bit of weight gain pretty scary, but feel better now that I have enough of a bump that people around me can tell I’m pregnant.

      2. +1 I’m in my first trimester, and I throw up most of what I eat anyway so nutrition is a bit of a wash. A LOT of foods make my stomach turn at the moment, so I eat whatever appeals to me in the moment. I do find that split pea soup is one of the things I can eat endlessly because it doesn’t have a strong smell or texture.

    3. Avogolemono? Chicken broth with rice and generous squeeze of lemon juice. Whisk in a beaten egg when the soup is hot but not boiling, for a creamy texture. Light, bright, and with a good helping of carbs and protein.

      2. Love avgolemono. We make it whenever anyone in the house is sick. We make it with orzo though.

      3. I do risi e bisi when I’m ill which is also rice cooked in stock but with peas. So soothing to the stomach and mind.

    4. I like chicken and wild rice soup. The blogger Iowa girl eats has a good recipe (I think she has two, I use the one that is not made in the crock pot.)

    6. eat what you can tolerate!! Just coming out of my first trimester and getting over the morning sickness hump. I am normally a very healthy eater, but I just started eating vegetables again after about a month hiatus (I still ate fruit in the meantime). I ate a lot of mac & cheese and really anything I could tolerate. I did lose weight due the morning sickness. Your baby is VERY small and getting the energy/nutrition it needs from your body, what you’re eating, and your prenatals. It’ll be fine. You can start to eat healthy again when you feel better. I also wasn’t able to exercise as much as I planned (or would like), but again you can start to do that when you feel better.

      Also….I feel like everyone on this site is pregnant right now!

      1. this. baby will take what it needs from you. get down your prenatal vitamins, and eat what you can. first time around i ate mac & cheese and steamed string beans almost daily and not much else. its ok to eat the same thing all the time — you will feel better soon and be able to eat more variety. broth is fine, try some vegetable broth based soups if you can’t stomach the actual veggies. try tossing some whole wheat small pasta shapes or brown rice in. that way you can get the carb fix while also getting some fiber and more nutrients than cake or doughnuts. even better is making your own bone broth — its easy to do if you cook a chicken in the crock pot (you can feed it to your partner or freeze it for later if the chicken itself is unappetizing) then stick the bones back in with water, onions, celery, carrots and let it cook for another 18-24 hours. best with organic chicken. there are apparently tons of nutrients that cook out of the bones.
        i found that avocado worked well when most other stuff was gross — i would sometimes eat it sliced on a whole wheat toasted english muffin.
        i also admittedly ate large quantities of (pasteurized) brie with challah. because i could eat it without gagging. its only a few weeks — if you do the naughty foods in moderation and eat whatever else you can stomach you’ll be fine.
        good luck and feel better!

    7. Joy of Cooking has a Tuscan White Bean soup that is so simple and fresh. Easy to put together, few ingredients: white beans, water, rosemary, garlic and fresh tomatoes. And beans may help with your nausea – they’ll stabilize your blood sugar, which seems to have an impact on pregnancy nausea.

      I also like chicken and wild rice soup and pureed butternut squash soup.

    8. I make a lot of soups, usually from scratch. But I also buy this lentil soup mix and its super easy and oh my god it’s so good. Even my mother – “I only like home made food and I make my own pastry dough and grind my own meat” mother – thought it was delicious. http://www.soupsonline.com/p-527-lysanders-lentil-soup.aspx

      Also: agree that you need to give yourself a break. Pregnancy is a crapshoot. Eat what makes you feel good and keeps you from feeling too nauseated. If you’re craving carbs, maybe try making your own zucchini or banana bread – I do it with my leftover fruits/veggies, usually only add a 1/2 cup of sugar per loaf and lots of nuts and berries or whatever is on hand, and it turns our delicious and satisfies those cravings.

    9. When I’m sick, I will just have hot chicken broth with some black pepper and lemon squeezed in – takes two seconds to make, and at least feels like you are getting something down

  5. Can anyone in DC recommend a place for shoe repair – heels fixed, overall freshening up after sitting in the closet all summer, maybe even stretching? Preferably in the District (live and work in NW.)

  6. Triggered by the last post:

    How old were your kids when you stopped being naked in front of them? Like just showering or stepping into the bedroom to get something or whatever? Kat said she bought new jammies because she felt weird being in front of her toddler in a chemise. I am naked in front of my three year old quite frequently, pretty much every day, because he is there when I am getting ready.

    1. Not a parent, but I remember my dad being naked (stepping into or out of the shower) and I was probably 7 or 8. My mom would be naked in front of me (changing or whatever) to the present day. My parents had my brother and I sharing baths until I was about 8 and he was 6 and frankly, I think that was too old.

    3. I can’t remember my parents being naked. DH’s family in German and were often naked around each other well into teenage years – co-ed saunas without swimsuits is a thing in Germany.

      We’re naked around our 5 year old but we also let her set the boundaries. E.g. – we close the bathroom door, but if she wants to come in she can. She knows we want privacy sometimes and that she can ask for privacy too. We both sleep in pyjamas so it’s only showering/toileting/getting dressed time where we might not have clothes on

    4. I’m 31 and I still see my mother naked! She has no problem with changing in front of me, etc, when I’m at their house. My dad stopped changing in front of me when I was maybe 8 or 9?

      1. Also, a 3 year old does not care. A 3 year old has no concept of shame or boundaries, and that’s the way it should be.

        1. The reason I ask is that he is starting to talk about bottoms and private parts, and he will point out mine.

          1. My 3 year old is the same. I just label things correctly, occasionally mention privacy, and move on. Boys are allowed in the women’s locker room at my pool til age 6, so that’s probably my cutoff.

          2. I don’t see why that’s a problem. It’s healthy and normal to talk about bodies, the proper names for parts, and the differences between boys and girls.

          3. Often comes up around age 3 because they are toilet learning + have enough words to ask questions. Use proper names. Mommies grow babies in their bellies and have [correct name for privates], daddies have [correct name for privates] for peeing. Etc.

            I often talk about that these are our private parts and mommies or daddies or daycare teachers help us clean up after the potty. I hope that talking openly about context for adults touching those parts will make inappropriate touches, if they ever happen, stand out. Being comfortable in talking to your child will also help them feel comfortable to tell you about anything that happens. You want to avoid any sense of shame with being naked or talking about body parts.

            I used to work in child protection. Having a child tell someone that their ‘cookie’ hurts and then talk about a ‘muffin’ when being interviewed formally is just confusing for everyone and upsetting for the child when they are trying to explain what’s wrong/what happened and workers are struggling to understand.

          4. @Anonymous who worked in child protection – my mom actually got a call from my kindergarten teacher because I told another child “it’s not a kitty, it’s a V*G*NA” on the playground. My mom was like “…and you’re calling me because you’re really impressed by my child’s vocabulary and grasp of biology, right?”

            I’m a big fan of using accurate terminology with kids and being very frank with children about how the body works. To your point, we shouldn’t cloak normal aspects of biology with some sort of veil of secrecy; that only makes it harder for children to tell adults if an inappropriate situation has happened.

            Side note: I am so bothered that I felt like I had to use asterisks in my first sentence to avoid moderation. It’s actually kind of an illustration of the issue we’re talking about.

    5. My parents are prudish and never walked around naked that I can recall. My mom changed in front of me sometimes (even into my teenage years) but she made a big deal about how it was ok because we were both girls. I don’t remember ever seeing my dad naked except once when I was five or so and it was an accident and my parents were very clear it was a mistake and wouldn’t happen again.

    6. No kids yet, but I can never remember seeing either of my parents naked. Dad accidentally once, when I was a teenager walking into my parents’ room and he’d just gotten out of the shower. But it was super awkward and we promptly ran in opp directions.

      When I’m around my parents or in-laws now and we’ve spent the night, I always wear a robe over my tank/shorts — PJs only feels too personal.

    7. For me, it’s a bit of a gender issue. Once the child is old enough to recognize the difference between male and female bodies, I’d probably stop being naked in front of an opposite gender child. FWIW, my nephew is 3, and now making comments about noticing cracks and hair – my sister decided that was the right time for him to no longer see her naked. YMMV.

    8. Am I in the minority that my husband and I plan to walk around naked as needed until the kids tell us to stop? We have a 4yo and a 1yo and so far it’s been fine. We have the talk about control over their own bodies, privacy, but it has not been an issue yet.

        1. Nope. My son is 5 and he loves to be naked and feels no shame whatsoever (nor should he). I am not super naked around the house but if he sees me showering or changing, no big deal. They are just bodies to him now. We also take him to a pool that has family changing rooms, so naked is a part of the dressing/undressing process.

      2. I wouldn’t wait for the kids to tell you to stop.

        Honestly, I wish my father had stopped walking around naked earlier. I probably started feeling a little uncomfortable about it by age 7 but it continued for several years more. My Mom was a little more modest. I would have never said anything as a child. My parents taught me nothing about bodies, sex etc..

      3. My husband and I walk around naked- well, we live in the city, so it’s pretty limited to bathroom/bedroom/hunting for a shirt in the dryer- and we have 8 and 5 year old girls. I’m not sure if I would feel differently if I had boys, but I figure I’m doing my daughters a service in letting them see my imperfect aging body.

        1. Actually, as I think about it more, I’d say my husband has covered up more as the girls have gotten older. He doesn’t walk around naked, but he doesn’t react/scold if they come in to ask him something when he in the shower. My older daughter has gotten very modest about herself, so she’s not as likely to burst in on us.

    9. My parents never stopped, even after I told them I wasn’t comfortable with it. I remember being on vacation at about 12 and the heat had affected my dad… no preteen girl should have to see that.

  7. I’m traveling to meet my 2 month old niece this weekend, and I’d like to take her a small gift. She has tons of clothes, and I already gave her some of my favorite childhood books. Any suggestions on other age appropriate gifts?

    1. I bet she won’t notice a gift. How about something nice for Mom and Dad (or partner, spouse, etc.)?

    2. I think a 2 month old is a littel to young to read book’s! Rosa’s kid’s read at age 2, and they were considered normal.

    4. Sophie the Giraffe is nice.

      I also like the Haba Kringelring, Manhattan Skwish toy or a plain wooden teether (I like Camden Rose).

    5. Most 2 month olds really won’t play with toys, but at around 6 months my daughter liked a oball (you can find them on amazon) and books. Two “newer” childhood books that my daughter loves are the Pout Pout Fish and Giraffes Can’t Dance (ok, I mostly love that one).

    6. She probably already has a Sophie, because that’s like the most popular baby gift. I love Melissa & Doug toys.

      1. Even if she has a Sophie, it probably gets lost all the time. I wouldn’t worry about it.

    7. What about a tag blanket? I think the brand name is “taggies”? I thought it was so dumb when my sister gave me one as a hand me down, and then our kid went through a phase of being OBSESSED with touching, pulling on, and finding tags. So when we gave her a blanket covered with tags, she was in heaven.

      1. +1. The Kid received a Taggie as a baby present and is obsessed with his to this day. If your niece attaches to a Taggie, buy an extra one to be the “stunt Taggie” . . . if The Kid ever loses his, it will be WWIII at our house.

  8. I just saw the thread for part time work – if you are in NYC, I have a lead on a part time high level litigation job. If you’re reading this and that is of interest to you, reply and we’ll try to do an email thing.

  9. What is the popular online dating s!te/app these days? Tinder doesn’t appeal to me at all and apparently you have to pay for Bumble now. Any other good options?

    1. Bumble is still free, you just have to pay for additional features (to get expired matches back or to see the people that have swiped right on you).

    2. Bumble. It’s still free there’s just a premium paid option that you don’t need.

        1. Me too. I don’t have Facebook. I don’t really want to get it just for online dating purposes either.

    3. Bumble is still free – you have to pay for additional features (getting expired matches back and seeing who has swiped right on you) but you can still use the app for free.

    4. What’s wrong with Tinder? Not only did I meet my amazing serious boyfriend there, so have several other people I know.

      1. Tinder in my city is VERY MUCH techie bros who want to have one-night-stands. Bumble seems a looooot more “classy adults who want real relationships.” I also like the women-message-first aspect of Bumble a lot, wading through a dozen “hey wanna f***”, “your hot wanna have fun?,” “lets go get wasted” type of messages gets very old, which is what I get a lot of on Tinder and almost exclusively what I got on OKCupid, which I deleted and don’t plan to re-sign up for after a date went very (very, very) wrong.

  10. Don’t get why Reiss would start a Luxe line. It makes sense for lower-priced retailers, but Reiss is already up there.

  11. Wanted to share a shoe recommendation: I got these nude-for-me (pretty pale) block-heel pumps at DSW, and they are cute and comfortable!

    http://www.dsw.com/shoe/nine+west+thistime+pump?prodId=365266

    I wore them today, brand new, forgetting that I had off-site meetings which required more walking than usual – I’ve already gotten in my 10,000 steps for the day. No blisters, no shoe bites, no pain. The heel is really stable, the deeper heel cup stays on nicely, and I’ve had 3 shoe-specific compliments today. Totally worth the $60!

  12. Petite ‘rettes: Does Reiss fit you? I’m 5’ and 107 lbs – anyone similar who has been successful purchasing Reiss blouses, dresses? Thanks so much

    2. It may be too late, but fwiw, I’m 5’3″ and your weight and find Reiss 0 to be perfect nearly every time, particularly their tailored pieces (although I need to hem pants). I’m longer waisted/shorter legged, for reference (so usually regular sizes in tops and sometimes petite bottoms).

  13. Reiss sizing – does it work for petites (e.g., 5′, 107 lbs, usually wear AT or BR 2 petite?

  14. Nice gift for SO who (hopefully) got a new job that is very much wanted and long-anticipated? Since it is something he wanted so much, I want to keep that celebratory feeling going as long as possible.

    2. Maybe something for the new job? Suit, tie, briefcase, leather padfolio, work boots – you didn’t mention type of job or budget. I’d do an object to use at/item to wear to the new job + a celebratory consumable, like booze, champagne, or chocolate.

  15. Any recommendations for a tailor in Boston? I’m in the South End so anywhere close by!

  16. Hey Kat, Nice looking suit. I got impressed looking such an awesome suit of this week. I always prefer shop a all black view suit for me and my family member too. My friends suggest me to shop other color too but I’m not. Glad to see the Reiss premium line of suiting through your wonderful post.

    Most important thing for me is : it comes with such an affordable price. Yeah really, I’m also a big fan of texture design. I watched the moss textured blazer and pants dartmouth trouser. Its really awesome designed and impresses me.

    Thanks for sharing this post.
    – Ravi.

  17. Caution: Reiss has a strict exchange-only/store credit only policy, at least in NY SoHo store. I was shocked to learn this after purchasing over $1,000 of very nice but very expensive clothes for work. I was planning to try them on for my 17 year old daughter (she’s critical, so when she gives me a thumbs up, I’m good) with the appropriate heels. Fortunately, all of the items passed, but she did point out that one suit was made of fabric which had much more of a visible shimmer to it in the brighter light of my apartment than in the store. She’s right – and I probably would have returned it if could. I would have kept the other blazer, dress and two silk blouses.

    Probably won’t be buying from Reiss again unless/until they change their return policy.

  18. Thanks for turning me onto Reiss suiting! The usual suit options are either black, gray, or navy, or a St. John/Escada suit that just isn’t my thing. Reiss has colors and feels contemporary — yay! I had to see the “olive” in person, so I went to the store rather than clicking through — sorry about that. It isn’t olive at all. It’s a very dark, almost black green that feels very professional.

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