Splurge Monday’s TPS Report: New Julian Two Dress

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DIANE von FURSTENBERG Dress - New Julian TwoI still don’t own a classic DvF wrap dress — in part because I’ve been waiting for a great print that I could say, WOW, I love that. And, after years of waiting, I think I’ve finally found it! I love this abstract “cable squares” print. It kind of reminds me of a map, actually, especially with the occasional little pink squares. Love. It’s $365 at Bloomingdale’s (but a number of other stores have it as well, including Neiman Marcus). DIANE von FURSTENBERG Dress – New Julian Two

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  1. Have utterly given up on Dvf wraps…they are not for the hourglassy, voluptuous ones among us. The waist tie just rides up and everything looks larger than it is.

    Can I just rant about Saks ‘ super arrogant customer service? I received an item that isn’t mine…and I had paid to have it shipped to me in Asia from the US, before I realized it wasn’t my order. Offered to return it to saks and asked them to refund my $25 shipping charge. Which they refuse to do without a receipt. And my postal service doesn’t give me a receipt. Guess the super brains at saks are happy to lose $250 but not happy to refund $25 in exchange……and the arrogance of their emails has to be seen to be believed. Huh!

    The future is…..nordstrom.

    • Hhhmmm . . . I’m hourglassy, and mine fits great. Interesting.

    • I totally agree on anything wrapped – shirts and dresses. They do not look good one anyone with a big chest. I hate seeing something cute and then realizing its a wrapped style and that I can’t wear it without making my chest look ridiculous.

      • FYI all, there are now two Cats – me (Philly BigLaw Cat) and this new Cat. I’m not sure on etiquette for non log-in based usernames, but for continuity purposes… not me (who, incidentally, is a wrap dress LOVER.) :)

    • hellskitchen :

      Seconded. I wish fashion mags would stop advising large chested women to wear wrap dresses. All they do is focus more attention on my chest. Perhaps it works well for true hourglasses but I am more of an inverted triangle with a bosom that is larger than my hips and wrap dresses don’t work for me. I have had better luck with boar necks and scoop necks

    • I love DVF wrap dresses on my hourglassy figure. I do have to size up in DVF but feel fabulous in her dresses.

    • I hate Saks’ customer service too. Bought something online as well and had the hardest time trying to even make the purchase. It’s now exclusively Nordstrom for me (at least for online clothing purchases).

    • Anon in sf :

      I’m somewhat larger up top, and used to wear a camisole with my wrap dresses. This was fine in the winter when I could tuck the camisole into my tights. But in other seasons, the camisole would invariably bunch and ride up during the day.

      Then I found the perfect solution! Natori makes a bra with a camisole type thing attached! It is brilliant! Covers cleavage and stays put. I wear my wrap dresses way more frequently now.

      This will give you the general idea, though I have one that is not lace, made of plain micro fiber material.
      http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/natori-zen-134020-contour-cami-bra/3058142?origin=keywordsearch&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=Sandstone&resultback=0

      • I wear mine with a slip, which gives the added bonus of making the whole dress less clingy for the office, but I am a big fan of those types of bras for other low cut issues. Natori bras for some odd reason just do not work on my b**bs, but I like the 9 to 5 bra from Wink. Genius idea.

    • SF Bay Associate :

      I have also had terrible customer service at Saks. Bleech.

      • I feel like I should step in to defend saks. I have always had good experiences. They even once located a sold-out pair of boots for me in a store somewhere far away and mailed it overnight. My only gripe is they use fed ex to ship which always causes problems for my building for some reason.

    • Sherrie!! :

      I’ve only made one purchase from Saks, and I too found their customer service to be aweful. I puchased a pair of Simple 100′s and paid for overnight shipping. I got the shoes on time however, I received the wrong size. I called customer service and was told I needed to wait two weeks and then the service rep did not want to refund the money I paid for overnight shipping. I took the matter to social media it was resolved in two days-new shoes and a gift card! Had it not been resolved, they would’ve lost $625.00 in sales- I would’ve taken my business to Bergdorf’s, lol. #1stWorldProblems

  2. Have any of y’all frozen the Nantucket pie? I’m planning to make it for the first time for Thanksgiving, but I’m having a bit of a logistical dilemma. We are travelling about 4-5 hours on Wednesday. When we get there, it’ll be a zoo with tons of people, so I’d rather make it before we leave. But my parents are staying with us tomorrow night, so that’s not ideal either. Can I make it tonight, freeze it, then take it out of the freezer when we drive on Wednesday and just let it thaw during the drive?

    • you could try that and then throw it in the oven during dinner to warm up.

      Or, what about preparing it in the pan, and freezing it raw?? And then let it thaw while driving, put it in the oven 45 min before time for dessert? It needs the oven at 350 which is common for other things people might be puttin gin the oven. That might turn out better than freezing the final product, bc it wouldn’t affect the texture of the crust. But i haven’t tried it, so just a thought. ;o)

      I am making the pie for our thanksgiving, too, i can’t wait!

      • Thanks, zora!

      • Unbaked pie usually freezes well. The Kitchn just had a post with tips!
        http://www.thekitchn.com/for-convenience-161169

        • Wonderful! Thank you.

          • Meg Murry :

            May I suggest you call your host before you make it and ask if they’ll have room in the fridge to store your pie and room in the oven to bake it? Right now our fridge is stuffed to almost overflowing for Thanksgiving, and if someone came to my house on Wednesday night with a pie that needed to go in the fridge until it could be cooked Thursday it would take a LOT of re-arranging for me to find a space for it. I would do it, of course -because yum, pie – but I would be a lot less flustered with a heads up about it before the pie showed up. Just my 2 cents.

    • I don’t know what Nantucket pie is, but I freeze unbaked pies all the time. Whenever I visit my parents I make around 10 pies for my stepdad in 8 or 9″ aluminum pans, and then I freeze them in big ziploc bags and he has pie for the next 3 months or so. Note that this wouldn’t work well be with a pie with a filling that’s liquid until baked, like a pumpkin or sweet potato pie.

  3. Oh, and I bought a DvF dress last year, and I love it. I wear it to all sorts of occasions. Definitely size up, though. I’m usually a 6, bought an 8, and sort of wish I had bought a 10.

  4. Threadjack regarding eye floaters. One appeared yesterday in my left eye. It’s most noticeable when I look at light colored backgrounds, like paper and computer screens, which is to say, it’s super annoying at work today. Do I get an eye patch and just say “arrgh” until it resolves?

    • JSAAMO?

      • ARRRGH! Kinda fits my mood today. I like it.

        • In all seriousness, is it any easier if you print out stuff you have to read? Towards the end of the week I have to do that alot, as my eyes get worn out from looking at my computer screen for too long. And if not, at least it’s a short week! Hope it goes away soon :)

    • Ahh, this happens to me too (post LASIK). An eye patch isn’t a terrible idea, I just close my left eye (always the left) which is not the most attractive look.

    • This can also mean your retina is detaching. If this isn’t something that happens to you typically, get to a doctor now.

      • Second this. I am severely myopic and was told to run to a doctor if I kept seeing lots of floaters. Your retina could be detached (I hope not, but best to be careful). You should see them when looking at bright lights, but not when looking at a computer. Please make an appt, good luck.

        • Yikes. My vision is borderline high myopia. Never had a floater before and it’s just one right now. I’ll see if I can get in with someone. Do I need to push for an opthamlogist? Or can an optometrist check it out? Not that I have secured either in my new city…

          • Also, if you don’t do this regularly, wear sunglasses outside if it is remotely sunny and bright outside. My eyes are a lot healther after I religiously started to wear sunglasses.

        • Locomotive :

          I am also severely mypoic (-10 both eyes) but I believe it’s only ‘retinal detachment’ possibility if you are seeing TONS of floaters and they have suddenly appeared. I would not worry about 1-2 (bc I get those all the time and they just go away), but if you suddenly see a swarm, go get it checked out.

    • My husband has had two detached retinas :

      Third this! Check with your opthalomologist ASAP. (My husband’s first detachment occurred when he was in his mid fifties, so you can relax a tiny bit if you’re a lot younger…but only a tiny bit.)Politely but firmly make. an. appointment. for. today. and Do. NOT. allow. anybody to defer your appointment until after the Thanksgiving weekend!

      • My husband has had two detached retinas :

        P.S. He was fortunate to have _great_ medical care thus still has vision in both eyes (not great peripheral vision however) but you don’t take risks with your eyes. Please go.

        P.P.S.: Don’t know where you are (and don’t stop to tell me–go to the doctor ;-) ) but Philadelphia has the Wills Eye Hospital and other large metro areas may also have eye hospitals.

        • Can this be done by an optomitrist? (I can’t spell.) Mascot, if you’re on Long Island by any chance, my sister works for one, and I can make sure you get an appt either today or tomorrow!

      • Don’t think that’s accurate — my BFF had a retinal detachment freshman year of HS. Get it checked out regardless of age, and esp. if you have genetic or environmental predisposition to this.

    • Thanks for the push ladies. Earliest appointment I could get is tomorrow afternoon (large hospital affiliated practice in my Southern town). Hopefully it’s nothing.

    • I don’t think floaters go away. You just get used to them and then you don’t see them any more. I have one and I’ve pretty much forgotten about it, but I freaked out when it first appeared.

      • But yes, to what others said, when I freaked out, I went to an eye docto. I went to an optometrist because that was the first place I could get in. I have what looks like a tiny squiggly black line that I only see now if I really concentrate.

      • Yeah, don’t freak. Floaters don’t always mean detached retina. I’ve been seeing them my whole life.

  5. DVF.com has a promotion on where, if you sign up to be a “DVF Insider” you get $50 off a purchase greater than $250! It only applies to full-price items, though – I found out the hard way. Still, pretty solid deal. Plus they’ve got a pretty robust sale selection.

  6. As an alternative patterned (faux) wrap dress I can recommend this:

    http://www.zappos.com/michael-michael-kors-petite-petite-l-s-wrap-dress-chocolate

    I think Macy’s has it as well, and in some solids too. I like to have one dress like this in my wardrobe at any time, and I loved the chain pattern.

  7. Not telling yet :

    Suggestions for what I tell people who ask if I’m pregnant? The thing is, I am pregnant but it’s early and we’re not ready to tell anyone. The people asking are people who we’d tell if/when we’re ready to tell, but not people who we’d tell about a loss. I feel like they’re being rude by asking, but I don’t want to be rude back.

    • Well, could you ask why they are asking? In a ‘ha ha’ kind of way?

    • Almost There :

      I think the same thing you’d tell them whether you’re pregnant or not: “Why do you ask?”

      • Ha. Love this. Also, this sort of tone is why I never, ever, ever ask a woman if she’s pregnant. Not worth the potential embarassment.

    • Deflect with a non-answer, followed with a change of subject. “Oh, geez, I knew I shouldn’t have worn this top today! Have you seen any good sales lately? I really need some new clothes!”

      Or… “what a strange question! speaking of, I had the strangest encounter the other day….”

      • I like this, in part because it also acts to embarrass the asker a little bit (as it should – not an ok question, people!). And, now I’m coming up with fun alternatives (“Note to self: fewer cheeseburgers!”).

      • Woods-comma-Elle :

        To be fair, if someone did this, I would immediately assume that I had hit a nerve and they were in fact pregnant.

    • “Sorry, no news on that front” and promptly change the subject.

      • e_pontellier :

        +1

      • Not telling yet :

        Thanks, I like this. It’s simple and honest.

        If everything goes well we’ll be ready to tell in a week or two. Until then, I’ll likely be buried under work so hopefully no one else will notice any “obviously pregnant things”.

    • I feel like you’re being way oversensitive if you think they are being rude. If your being asked a lot (as it seems since you need to ask here) your probably doing very obviously pregnant things/looks.

      • Agreed.

        Most people dont ask cause you have a little belly bloat. It’s more the “soo obviously wont even touch the glass of wine” thing that makes me think this.

        Which always makes me wonder, like at weddings with a toast, you can pick up the wine glass preggers ladies, when you dont even touch the glass like it’s cyanide and will kill the unborn through osmosis of hte glass or something ridiculous.

        • troll?

          • What is the relevance or good that even comes from this type of post? Just to think that some other idea is so far removed from yours but you aren’t sure, that that person has to be fake? Cause everyone else on the anonymous internet is obviously so obviously real?

            You ladies are like a mob lately if someone disagrees with you.

      • Nope, they are being rude. You just don’t ask a woman if she is pregnant. Ever. Unless you are her doctor (or her spouse) it’s really none of anyone’s business as to whether you are gestating.

      • Totally disagree. It’s rude to ask anyone, period, no matter what. People don’t have to explain why they aren’t drinking wine, even if they aren’t pregnant, and it’s really none of anyone’s businss.

        • anon bc i've told this story a zillion times :

          it is rude rude rude to ask or assume someone is pg. this happened to me at a party. i was wearing a dress w/ a bit of an empire waist (never again) and had in fact gained a few pounds due to a stressful situation. the person who said it ASSUMED i was pg and said you look great when are you due? i of course said, I’m not pg, I’m just fat apparently!!! I could not help it, it just came out, and the other person was mortified. yet, I do not feel bad about this because she never should have said anything. I am a person known for liking my wine and I happened not to have a glass in hand because I had set it down to go off to the restroom. so if i find myself in the situation of actually being pg i will: (i) at all times carry a glass of wine at parties (and not drink from it, of course) and (ii) never wear an empire waisted dress ever!!!! in all seriousness, i agree with you that someone’s wine-drinking or not is no one’s business and the question is totally inappropriate. i felt really self-conscious and bad about my weight/body after this comment and did not get over it easily.

          • This happens to me on a regular basis. It doesn’t really offend me too much because I am apple-shaped, and I can see how I might look a little pregnant to some people, but it is just so embarrassing in the moment.

          • When I was a tad heavier, people on the bus would offer me their seats because they thought I was pregnant. When I’d politely refuse, the passengers would discuss their utter shock that I was saying NO. Eventually, I gave up and just politely thanked people for their seats. //Kanye shrug//

          • lucy stone :

            This happened to me once at a baby shower and I almost cried. I will never ever ask anyone now.

      • “Obviously pregnant things”? Seriously?

        • Yup, If multiple people are asking you (not just one rude person, it’s probably really obvious because usually that whole fat instead of pregnant thing is not something that happens more than once)

          1. Going on a bachelorette weekend and not having wine and massage at the spa = obviously pregnant.

          2. Wearing pants with the belly band = obviously pregnant. (if just fat you buy new pants, no non pregnant person does not button their pants).

          3. ANy of the above and being sick every morning = obviously pregnant.

          4. Having a superior attitude about how “I’m pregnant, obviously pregnant, omg that woman said horrible things, like she has no idea what pregnant’s like, lets all scream at her and say it’s soo rude, omg, omg, omg” = obviously pregnant.

          you get the picture I’m sure.

          PS. a lot of you sound very mean and combative. I suggest you have a glass of wine (unless your obviously pregnant)

        • Yup, If multiple people are asking you (not just one rude person, it’s probably really obvious because usually that whole fat instead of pregnant thing is not something that happens more than once)

          1. Going on a girls weekend and not having wine and massage at the spa = obviously pregnant.

          2. Wearing pants with the belly band = obviously pregnant. (if just fat you buy new pants, no non pregnant person does not button their pants).

          3. ANy of the above and being sick every morning = obviously pregnant.

          4. Having a superior attitude about how “I’m pregnant, obviously pregnant, omg that woman said horrible things, like she has no idea what pregnant’s like, lets all scream at her and say it’s soo rude, omg, omg, omg” = obviously pregnant.

          you get the picture I’m sure.

          PS. a lot of you sound combative. I suggest you have a glass of wine (unless your obviously pregnant

          • Troll?

          • Lady Enginerd :

            But the correct response if your friend is exhibiting all those behaviors is to keep your mouth shut until your suspected expecting mother is ready to announce, and then give heartfelt congratulations. My SO figured out a coworker was pregnant before she announced and he apparently started asking her with somewhat more frequency how she was feeling (genuinely, because he knows it’s no picnic to be queasy) to the point that she knew he knew even though he never asked outright. I told him that approach isn’t exactly the most polite either…

          • 1. You can attend a girl’s weekend but not have the money to enjoy wine and a massage.
            2. I’ve never seen a belly-band in my life. I wouldn’t even know if I was looking at someone with unbuttoned pants unless their shirt was above the waist of their pants. Nobody dresses like that intentionally. Plus, lots of people wear clothes that don’t fit properly.
            3. Any of the above and being sick every morning = sick, not necessarily pregnant.
            4. Also, someone who is trying to hide her pregnancy will not walk around with the I’M SO SPECIALLY PREGNANT, BLESSED ME. Also, I have never encountered this unicorn.

          • It’s not rude to THINK that someone might be pregnant (cause they’re not drinking, throwing up in the morning, look a little bigger around the middle). It IS rude to ASK if someone’s pregnant (because there are lots of other explanations for these things and the risk that you’ll embarrass them and hurt their feelings is too high).

          • Susan (edna_mode_nyc) :

            I wonder a lot of things about people.

            Like, if the guy across the hall from me will ever clip his long, claws that can only barely be called fingernails.

            There’s a guy who works in a sort of related-to-us department who has the worst coffee breath. I wonder if he’s unaware, if his wife is unaware, and if he will do something about it already.

            There’s another person who gained a lot of weight recently. He looks like a giant eggplant. It could also be a tumor.

            In all of those cases, yes, it’s obvious there’s something off physically…but nobody who isn’t a fricking troll or nosy jerk would come up and ask them. P, you’re pretty combative yourself. It must lonely and cold under that troll bridge of yours.

      • The thing is, it IS rude to ask a woman this question. If she is pregnant and wants you to know, she will tell you.

        She could be:
        1. Not pregnant – really embarrassing to all concerned then.
        2. Pregnant and worried about loss of the pregnancy. In this case, none of your business.
        3. Pregnant and not telling yet. Also none of your business.

        • And if she’s not pregnant but wishes she was, a host of other emotions come into play. It’s a question that should never be asked, and unless you are her SO, it’s really none of your business anyway!

        • lucy stone :

          Word. My SIL looked pregnant well before she was due to the infertility drugs, and I don’t know how she held it together when people would ask her.

      • I think the question is rude because it’s prying. Someone asked me if I was pregnant when I was in fact miscarrying. I barely held it together.

    • I’d go with a “Why do you ask?”, followed up with a raised eyebrow with “If and when I become pregnant and am ready to tell people, I’ll be sure to let you know” if they continue to be pushy. And then change the subject.

      If they still push after that, then go for the “I’ve already answered you. Is there something else I can help you with?”

      • Woah Passive aggessive and rude, did any of you even read her question.

        Seriously is it like MOnday before the holidays everyone is in a B mood day?

        • Actually, that was really clear and direct, which is the opposite of passive aggressive.

          • Since, you apparently need clear definitions:

            Passive–aggressive behavior is an umbrella term describing certain types of behavior in interpersonal interactions. It is characterised by an obstructionist or hostile manner that indicates aggression, or, in more general terms, expressing aggression in non-assertive, subtle (i.e. passive or indirect) ways.

          • And it manifests itself as learned helplessness, procrastination, hostility masquerading as jokes, stubbornness, resentment, sullenness, or deliberate/repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible. None of which are clear or direct forms of communication. I might even posit that there is an argument to be made that those behaviors are the opposite of clear and direct statements of a person’s expectations as they rely on non-assertive (opposite of direct) and subtle (opposite of clear) behaviors.

            Refusing to answer rude questions is not a sign of passive aggressiveness. Asking a person why they need to know a piece of personal information is not passive aggressive. That is boundary setting.

      • +10

    • I think for *all* personal questions that you dont feel comfortable answering a simple, but polite “Why do you ask?” (perhaps said w/ a smile) is perfect.

      Are you looking for new work?- Why do you ask?

      Are you in a diet?- Why do you ask?
      and so on and so forth

      • Waoh, this is like passive agressive bitchy times a million.

      • She said she did not want to be rude back, all these answers show rude back. Especially this one.

        Reading comprehension ladies! Wake up!

        • I don’t think “Why do you ask?” is rude at all. In fact, it is the Miss Manner-approved response to nosy questions.

        • Panda, are you really upset about the responses to this topic because you like to go around demanding status updates on the contents of the uteri of your female aquaintences? If so, please stop.

          • PANDA is making me a Sad Panda.

          • –slowly backs away from computer—

          • Are you really that upset because this apparently happens to you a lot? If so, please stop.

            Pot, meet kettle.

          • Do you understand the meaning of the pot/kettle saying? The two situations are not equivalent. A person’s right to privacy >a person’s right to ask intrustive questions.

        • I don’t think “Why do you ask?” is rude, unless it is said in a rude tone of voice. If it is asked honestly & sincerely it helps the asker of the rude question to realize it is inappropriate.

          Panda – if you don’t like this response, what is your suggestion to the OP on how to deal with this inappropriate question?

        • Sydney Bristow :

          Panda, how would you respond? You’ve made it clear that you think some of e responses here are rude but haven’t offered any suggestions of your own.

          Personally, I like the “why do you ask” response, especially if its someone that you’re planning to tell once you reach that point. Other than that, I’d just respond by saying “nope” and moving on. When you do tell people, I think they’ll understand why you lied since its really not common to tell everyone really early on.

          • I think the joking way is fine, or an “uh oh, do I look that a mess?” in a joking way. but these responses of “why do you ask? Raised eyebrow, I already answered your question” responses or lying is absolutely 10 times ruder than someone without the tact to not ask appropriately.

            And to those who worry about announcing too early and jinxing and all that, i find it absurd there’s no karmic jinx or something to lying to people who you consider friends or who are only inquiring with the best of intentions (although I agree it might be a little lacking in tact in situations).

            i feel the majority of these responses are people sooo offended that someone would even bother to ask that they fail to realize that I like to assume the best in humanity and I truely believe 90% of people inquiring have no intention of being rude or acting rudely and truly are inquiring about your life because they care.

            But you all asssume “personal space, back the f off everybody, how dare you” that it really makes me wonder how jaded and angry and sad and quite frankly awful most of you are in real life.

          • Panda, have you ever been pregnant? Have you ever encountered the situation the OP is outlining for us? I’m genuinely curious as to what your response was.

            Also, different women have different personalities. I personally would be the jokey type. But other women are not. Some are shy or serious or just simply could not care less about who’s asking the question.

            Also, the relationship of the questioner can just be flat-out inappropriate. If my coworker kept hounding me about a supposed pregnancy, I would absolutely blast out with “Why do you ask?” because there are boundaries that shouldn’t be crossed. If it was a friend, I’d smile and joke about eating too much or whatever. But stomping around here judging all of these people who are helping the OP with tools to address her difficult situation is odd. But whatever, bro. JSFAMO.

          • Sydney Bristow :

            I don’t think people lie because they don’t want to jinx it. I think it is completely reasonable to wait until the risk of miscarriage is significantly less. It would be extra heartbreaking to have to go back and tell someone that you’ve already told you were pregnant that you had miscarried. Especially if that isn’t the sort of news you would normally share wi that person.

            For what it’s worth, I took the “why do you ask” response as one delivered in a lighthearted joking way. The raised eyebrow and “I already told you” responses come after someone continues to pester you about it.

          • For me, Panda, I didn’t want to tell not only because of miscarriage risk, but also birth defect risk. Due to family history, I had a higher risk of birth defects than average, and my husband and I had agreed that depending upon the condition, termination of the pregnancy was a possibility. So yeah, I kept my pregnancy quiet with my coworkers, because nothing is more fun than a controversial conversation with my coworkers about how I might be voluntarily aborting my unborn child – one of the hardest decisions I probably would ever have to make, and no one’s business but mine and my husband. Fortunately, we didn’t have to make that decision, but it was not a conversation I wanted to have with anyone, let alone nosy coworkers. I know termination due to birth defects is a very controvertial topic and I leave it to each woman here to decide what is right for her family. Please don’t turn this into a conversation on the morality of that decision – at the end of the day, just let it be said that a woman “not telling” is her own business, and she can choose who and how she wants to tell on her own terms.

          • Susan (edna_mode_nyc) :

            You can’t both believe the best of humanity and then slag off on us for being “mean, bitter, angry, etc.” Which is it?

            If you think we’re mean, bitter, angry, why are you even here? Go play with your docile people who are willing to put up with your crap and nosy questions.

            We’re not going to change to please you and conform to how you think people should feel or react to this situation. Again, why are you even here?

          • As someone who didn’t wait to tell and then miscarried, I 100% vote wait. Telling people I was no longer pregnant was one of the hardest things I had to do during an extremely difficult time. And then there were some people who didn’t hear, and came up to me and say “Wow! You’re so tiny for 6 months!” or whatever. We wished so hard we’d kept it to ourselves. It would have made life infinitely easier.

          • Stop being so panda-aggressive.

          • omg panda-aggressive. This entire thread was worth it just for that. Somewhere, a Justin Bieber just got his fondue.

          • Motoko Kusanagi :

            Eek, I feel like your response is somewhat buried in here and may not get the attention it deserves. Unfortunate, because it is AWESOME.

        • (former) Clueless Summer :

          I totally agree. If someone, especially a friend (since you say this is a response to use with people who you would eventually tell) just said “why do you ask?” to me if I asked if they were pregnant, I would be extremely extremely insulted. It is incredibly passive aggressive. Just joke it off. That is really the best way. I don’t think asking if soemone is pregnant flat out is polite, but we all ask stupid questions sometiems, oftentimes out of excitement and happiness for someone, so don’t be a B about it.

          • Thank you, my point.

            Lying to friends or being snarky and “boundary setting” is a cover for bithcy. And they lying thing I understand as the “energy you put out into the universe” sort of jinx. I totally understand not wanting to tell people yet, but to lie to their face just seems sooo negative.

            Much like the mob mentality of this board from quite a few of you “regulars” who are constantly angry it seems . . . godzilla, DC jenny, I’m speaking to you.

          • Anonymous :

            This response indicates to me that you’ve gone from (former) Clueless Summer to (current) Clueless 3L.

    • You could make a joke about how Dave Barry says you should never ask a woman that unless you actually see her giving birth?

      • Not telling yet :

        Ha! I have one nosy friend who has asked me monthly for the past year and a half. After a while (and two miscarriages), I got so sick of her nosiness that my stock answer to her became “why, am I crowning”?

        • Seriously, monthly? It’s time to tell her once and for all “Stop asking me, enough is enough. If/when I am pregnant and ready to tell, I will let you know. Until then, STOP.”
          At this point, they are being so rude you are perfectly within your rights to tell them off. So sorry to hear you have “friends” this annoying

        • You are too patient. I would’ve told her to stop the second or third month she asked. Is she tracking your period or something?

    • If you really don’t want people to know, just say, “No, why?” The non-answers will make everyone correctly assume that you are. IMO, if someone is going to be so nosy, you are entitled to a little fib on this topic.

    • Not telling yet :

      I’m hesitant to jump back in given some of the responses, but here goes. Three people have asked. Sorry if I implied it was more. One of them has asked us every month for ages because I made the mistake of telling her we’d like kids someday – I recognize that one is my fault and I don’t feel bad giving her the same answer I’ve been giving her for the past year and a half! The other two who asked saw me get motion sick on a chartered bus (and I wasn’t the only one to get sick on this bus, the driver was horrible!). The bus incident was almost three weeks ago and they haven’t seen me since but are now asking!

      • Gah, it’s still rude that the one lady has been asking you for the past year and a half just because you expressed a sentiment that many people happen to share (we’d like kids)! That’s not your fault. She’s nosy. And the bus people are rude, too. Basically, what everyone else said: it’s rude to ask a woman whether she’s pregnant.

        • Word. Just tell the bus people that you got car sick. If you’re matter of fact instead of making up a huge elaborate story, they’ll forget about it. Until you announce your pregnancy =).

      • I had, until you replied, assumed these were family members, which deserve a different sort of deflection (cousin Y knows you’ve had 2 miscarriages and notices you’re not drinking your customary gallon of wine at Thanksgiving AND looking a little fat…).

        If these are friends/coworkers that are asking the status of your uterus, you can just say “Trust me, I’ll be sure to let you know when there’s news.” No lie, no answer. You’ll tell them when you’re ready.

    • I’d say no. Alternatively, “Haha, no news yet!”

  8. Anonymous :

    Does anyone have any recommendations for a place in MD/DC to get a leather bag repaired? I had a disastrous commute, and my poor bag is pretty scraped up. Thanks!

  9. I have a spaghetti-strap DVF wrap dress that I bought as a teenager and still wear – truly one of the most flattering garments I’ve ever owned. I have resisted getting one of the classic ones because I often dislike the prints, but I must confess that I kind of love this one…

    • You could always get a plain black one. I once stumbled on a blog where a woman wore the same black dvf wrap dress for 30 straight days in different ways – it’s incredibly versatile.

    • DvF is nice, but not for my figure and it is to expensive! Beside’s I voluntered in Far Rockaway with Myrna yesterday, and the peeople could realy use some help and heat and hot water. Did you know you can see the NY Skyline from Far Rockaway? Yay! It is amazeing!

      But it is so diferent there then here b/c of the storm. No heat, hot water and electric is spotty. Myrna gave her scarf to a little boy who was very helpful. Where is every body? Is this realy NYC? It seem’s that peeople forget once they get their electrical apliance’s workeing again. FOOEY on that. Peeople like David onley think of themselve’s and not other’s. It is time we think of other’s, especialy b/c it it Thank’sgiving.

      The manageing partner is thinkeing of joining us at the Soup Kitchen in the Bronx if he can be sure his place in the Hamton’s is being atended to properly he says. He also said we should get a picture for the law journal. Do they realy want to see me shovelling out stuffing to peeople? I do NOT think so.

      Finaly, Jim want’s to meet me in Saint Louis, but I am to busy in the next 2 weeks, so I voluntered for the manageing partner to sugest another asociate. I am not sure if that will be good for me, b/c I do enjoy the PORTAL TO PORTAL BILLEING. We will see what he say’s.

  10. Ms. Pacific :

    So, next Monday is my first day at my new job. I have a great feeling about the work, the new boss, the office culture, everything. But in my last position (which was at a large private law firm – I go in-house with a quasi-government agency next week), things were not so great – I was working for a few partners who were hyper-critical, bullying types, and was, well, bullied a lot. I handed in my resignation when I realized if I stayed until the end of the year, I would not have the confidence left that I would need to find a new job in 2013. I’ve taken a month off in the interim to try to “recover” before starting in my new position, but with a week left to go, I am uncharacteristically anxious, and still feel a bit feeble and underconfident after two years at the Big Bad Firm. Have any of the awesome commenters on this site experienced this? Any advice?

    • Congrats on the big change! I felt like that after law school during the financial meltdown which led to legal market meltdown. I’ve been “faking till I make it,” talking to people’s whose work and words I respect and keeping other things in my life happy and such, which have seemed to help. I am sure you’re super ready and will be great!

    • Give yourself permission to take any valauble lessons you learned in your last firm to heart and mentally flush the rest. You are not your past experiences and you are not your mistakes. I will note that it can be hard to not let those old ghosts haunt you when you make mistakes at the new place. The key then is to figure out how how much of your feelings are things you can change and how much of it is voices from the past. I am going through some of this myself so I will be interested in seeing what other people say.

    • Congrats on making your escape! Consider taking a class in something unrelated to work. It could be something new or something you had time to enjoy pre-law firm. Anything that will remind you that there is more to you than your work at the firm and that you can learn new things or improve your skills. Enjoy having the time to be a well-adjusted, well-rounded person again.

    • A couple of things that helped me move on:

      1) One of my mentors told me that most everyone has a terrible job experience at least once in their lives, and to consider the previous firm to be that experience for me, and be aware that it is done now.
      2) Avoid comparisons to your last job. Some of your new coworkers may ask you to compare the two. I would suggest just saying “you are happy to be at X now”. I found that instead of being happy I wasn’t at the old firm anymore, comparisons made me mad at myself for staying at the previous place for so long.
      3) I ended up not keeping in touch with coworkers from the old place. YMMV, but I found that when we got together we would end up ranting about That Horrible Place, and it just brought back bad memories. We send around the occasional “hope everyone is doing well email”, but no lunch dates, etc.

      • I had a similar situation. Before grad school I had a job with r-u-d-e colleagues and one nasty, nasty boss.

        It took (and is still taking) alot of work to shake off that experience and not carry it into my new job (which I love).

    • Ugh, SO been there. My husband calls it my PBLSD (post-BigLaw stress disorder). I’m much better now but for the first year or two after I left, I completely overreacted to every little thing. Like my boss would ask to talk to me, I’d think “Oh no! I screwed up something! I’m the worst lawyer ever! What is wrong with me!?” or someone would say “FYI, there’s a typo on page 5″ (of a 115 pg first draft) and I’d think “Oh no! She thinks I’m terrible! They all think I’m a bad lawyer!” Sigh. Not sure what advice I have but that (1) it gets better and (2) I’ve never had one interaction that was anywhere near as critical as you get in some law firms. Finally, (3) if you were anywhere near competent in BigLaw, as in you were at least able to tread water most of the time, you will TOTALLY KILL IT just about anywhere else you go. Seriously.

    • Hooray for Leaving :

      Congratulations!
      I was also bullied a lot at my first legal job and went into my second job scared of the courtroom (and the second job was one in which I spent every day in the courtroom).

      There were a few things that helped me. First, my boss was patient and never got visibly upset with me even when I screwed up – he probably was the biggest key to my success. You can’t control how your new boss behaves, but hopefully there’s someone in your office who is even-keeled. Second, I took advantage of being new and asked my boss all kinds of questions to make sure he and I were on the same page and also to boost my confidence. After all, he can’t disagree with X decision if he had a part in making it! Also give yourself some time to adjust and when you feel insecure, remind yourself that you’re not at the old job anymore. Third, seek out supportive mentors. In my case, this happened to be my boss, colleagues and the judge I was in front of every day. In the end, I just had to struggle through those first few weeks (in which I hardly slept) and it got better on its own.

      I’m now almost a full year out from leaving. It’s a distant memory and I’m sure that you’ll look back in a year and be amazed at how far you’ve come from how you’re feeling today.
      Good luck!

    • Second all of the above. Bullying is awful and not easy to recover from.

      Please consider seeing a therapist. In BigLaw, I saw a therapist regularly through EAP. After BigLaw, I thought I’d be fine but I wasn’t. Back to the therapist I went. We did a lot of cognitive behavioral therapy (no talking about childhood etc, more about my inner monologue while at work). Therapy didn’t solve my issues but it did give me the tools to take control of my anxiety. All told, it took about 2 years for me to feel “normal” again and I accept that I will never again love my job like I once did (my experience in BigLaw was with a partner with a firm-wide–across all offices–reputation for being awful).

      My therapist recommended medication. It wasn’t for me at the time. Looking back, I think it would have been better to be on meds.

    • If everyone had the courage and the brains to walk away from situations like that the bullies would never make it past entry level. So hooray for you!

      The cool thing about a new job is that you can be a new person there, different from who you were at the old job. More confident, more sassy, more cheerful. Or less. Whatever suits your fancy. Think about a coworker who you particularly enjoyed working with and see if you can be more like him or her. (Disclosure: I do this. It doesn´t feel like faking, more like being a better version of me.) Or think about the jerks and decide to never act like that.

      Another silly thing I do to calm the new job-jitters is to plan my outfits and commuting excessively. Basically take control of everything I can control.

  11. momentsofabsurdity :

    Can we just talk about my awesome deal of the weekend? I went to the Body Shop and got:

    1) Chocolate Body Butter ($19)
    2) Vitamin E Illuminating Face Cream ($18.50)
    3) Vitamin E Body Butter ($19)
    4) Citrus Body Scrub ($22)
    5) Lip butter ($6)

    and I spent all of $22 in total. Granted, I went in just to get one thing of body butter so I did technically overspend, but for $4 more, more than happy to get all this stuff!

    • Please share the secret! How?!

      • momentsofabsurdity :

        They were having some sort of special outside where you spun a wheel to get a deal and I got 40% off everything. I’m also a member of their insider’s club or whatever it’s called, and I guess I had earned a $15 reward and a $10 birthday gift (it’s my birthday this month).

        I literally went up to the counter with just the body butter (thinking, hey sweet, 40% off something I use all the time), and the woman was all “No. You can’t do this. You have SO many discounts. You have to get more” so I walked around like a kid in a candy store picking stuff up until I hit the magic amount where I had tons of stuff but didn’t spend more than I planned to. It was awesome!

        • Blonde Lawyer :

          That is how I started using their products. I went in for one thing on day they had the spin the wheel deal and left with a whole line of products for the same price as the one thing I was going to get. I love their stuff now.

    • Well done you! Their body butter is amaaaaaaaazing!

    • Well done! I went to Ulta this weekend and they had a table of things that were 5 for $5, so I got two holiday-scented/flavored lip balms and three similar lotions for $5 (ordinarily $3+ each). I love throwing little things like that in with bigger gifts for people.

    • The Body Shop is great for this type of thing, especially if you use some of their products fairly regularly. They always have promotions, like buy 2 get one free – part of me was concerned that they were going out of business since there is almost always a sale or special promotion!

  12. Would you think it’s rude if you asked someone how they are doing and they just reply with “I’m good, thanks” and walk away without asking you in return? Granted this is in passing in a hallway so maybe that changes things?

    • It isn’t rude. You may be overthinking this.

    • momentsofabsurdity :

      Sometimes if I’m in a hurry and I am rushing, I don’t want to take the time to stop and chitchat on someone’s weekend so I just answer their question and move on. I wouldn’t find that rude unless it was a regular thing (I always stop and say hi/ask them how they are, and they never reciprocate) — and even then I don’t know that I would find it rude, more take it as a “wow, this person doesn’t really like me” kinda thing.

    • No. I think that out of habit we say “hi, how are you” or some variation of it when what we really intend is a simple “hello.” And really, are you going to respond with anything other than a positive, short answer in hallway conversation?

    • No.

    • Not in the least – because I am that person! Sorry.

      I know it’s become astandard greeting, but I actually feel quite awkward using it because generally in a non-conversation situation people are not interested in how I’m doing, I am not interested in how they are, and it’s just an ultra-extended way of saying ‘good morning’. It feels almost hypocritical for me to ask it when I haven’t the time to pay attention to the response.

      I tend to feel, why not just say good morning or hello? Passing in a hallway when I’m probably in a hurry or don’t want to block the corridor, I’m even more likely to go for a quick ‘Hi!’ to acknowledge your greeting and keep walking.

      But if I’m sitting down with you for a coffee or you’ve popped into my office for a chat, by all means, I’d love to hear how you are. Which reminds me – have a seat; can I offer you a cookie? How have you been this week?

    • I’m guilty of this. Probably every day. The housekeeping staff here are a friendly motherly bunch and they always how I’m doing. Sometimes I stop to talk. Sometimes I don’t. I come in early and I’m not always in a chatty mood. I’m more of a “hi” then a “how are you” kind of person so it’s not a reflex for me. If I’m rude, then I guess I’m rude.

    • At least you got a response! During my law firm days, I would frequently not get an answer or even a look saying that to someone in the hallway. Made me wonder if I was a ghost!

      • hahaha. I don’t think I’m a ghost, but I tend to scare ppl with my gregariousness anyway, so I figure it’s all good, even if they refuse to say hello back. lawyers are awkward.

    • No, but you may have scared the crap out of an introvert!

  13. Can I please complain for a second about what horrible website TheGloss is? I don’t know why I bother to check it. The writing is terrible and ill-informed.

    Rant done. Thank you.

  14. Word of warning: I got my Narciso Rodriquez for Kohl’s order over the weekend and…it’s all going back. Not only was the quality really poor, but it was poor for the price. It looks a LOT better online.

  15. Former MidLevel :

    Wow, Kat – seriously gorgeous. Great pick.

  16. this is a great dvf print, i would buy it if it came in the jean two style (collared wrap)

  17. Diana Barry :

    You ladies are such enablers. I realized the bright green #2 skirt would look awesome with my winter white blazer with black piping (tuxedo-style), so I am going to keep it too. :)

    I am not, however, keeping any of the cafe capris. None of these ankle length pants look good on me bc they are too short!

  18. a regular but anon for this :

    After a lifetime of strife, I decided to end my relationship with my mother when she moved out of town this past September. She has emailed me a few times but I’ve chosen not to respond. Past discussions with my siblings have made it clear that they won’t have a relationship with me without either trying to force me to let my mother back into my life and reporting anything they know about me to her, so they’re now out too (not that we were ever close).

    Things have been very strained since I was very small, and there have been 2 other times I’ve gone a year or so without speaking to my mother, but that’s ended when we were about to be forced into a situation together and it seemed wiser to communicate than to allow her antics about not communicating to ruin someone’s graduation or wedding or something.

    So no, I didn’t have a long to do about being done, I just went silent. I thought a to do would just amp up my mother and set her off to stalker call/email or show up at my house sometime. Now though, knowing she’ll be in town next week, I worry she’ll show up at my door. As I work and I know she and her other kids can do online searches, I worry she’ll show up at my job. I wish she’d just move to a deserted island without internet or phone service… is that wrong of me?

    The holidays are coming and I don’t know what to do when it comes to gifts and such. Do I continue to say nothing and let them spend money when I know I have no desire to see them and I don’t want things being left at my house or mailed (no desire to reestablish contact)? Do I email them all and say something but essentially reestablish contact myself? How do I handle this? As for gifts, if they send them, do I sent them back or accept them? I don’t know that I could skip sending a thank you note but I don’t want that to come across as initiating contact. Hive?

    • I think you posted about this last week, too, no?

      I don’t think you need to say anything to anybody about gifts. You’re inviting contact that way and undermining all you’ve done to protect your sanity. If they send gifts, so what? Chuck them without guilt or if you want to put a little more effort into disposing of them, take the gifts to Goodwill or another charity. I wouldn’t bother with thank you notes either. Sure, your siblings might think this is totally rude, but you’ve already decided to end your relationship with your mother and, as a result, them. So what does it matter what they think? Worrying about all of this is letting them still control a piece of your life.

    • why would you buy gifts for people with whom you supposedly have no relationship?
      If you want to end it, end it. If you don’t really want to, then don’t be overly dramatic, and accept that you aren’t ‘ending your relationship’, you’re just trying to establish some boundaries.
      That may or may not work, but you can’t wish your family into oblivion. You can, however, cut them out of your life, but you have to actually do it for it to work.

    • MaggieLizer :

      In general, if you’re going to end a relationship then you should let the other party know, don’t just stop responding to them. There are of course exceptions, like if you think your safety is at risk, that justify a silent withdrawal. If you’re afraid your mother will do something to you in response to you telling her you’re terminating your relationship, then by all means back away slowly and avoid a confrontation. But it doesn’t sound like that’s the case with your siblings. If it’s possible to do so without triggering either them or your mother, then give them a short, plain statement that you wish them well but are not interested in maintaining a relationship with them. If you can’t do that without putting yourself at risk, and you’re concerned about holiday gifts, then just tell them you won’t be exchanging gifts anymore.

    • I have a similar family arrangement. I send back gifts that I receive, and do not send gifts. But I imagine the sending-back-of-the-gifts is going to create the “long to do about being done” that you seem to want to avoid. So perhaps wait to send them back until after the holidays, prepared to say your piece about why you sent them back.

    • Sydney Bristow :

      Just in case you didnt see it, I responded to you over the weekend. It’s on the 2nd page of comments.

  19. TJ: how does one go about finding a new doctor? I haven’t been in a while, but had one I liked. Her office is not convenient for me. I am really sensitive to bedside manner, because of an anxiety disorder linked to health issues. Ideally, I’d choose a new doctor without an immediate need for treatment, but over the last 10 days I’ve been having some new reflux/LPR symptoms. I’m DC area.

    • I’ve only EVER found a doctor i liked through recommendations from friends. When I’ve tried picking based on dr’s websites/bios i’ve always been disappointed. So, I would recommend asking around people IRL.

      One other option is there are ‘doctor review’ websites out there, so you could try looking at those for someone with amazing reviews, but I’ve never tried that myself, so I think the best is still asking for recs.

    • I’ve gotten 2 GREAT doctor recommendations from this site. Tell us your city, maybe we can help you out!

      • I did check out Yelp, but never quite trust it. Looking for someone in Arlington, VA

        • I really like Dr. Karen Lawson, who I’ve been seeing for several years now. She’s in Ballston, her office is small and soothing, she responds quickly to emails, and she’s taken very good care of me through a number of medical issues. Her website (klawsonmd (dot) com) is inexplicably focused on laser and botox treatments, but she’s never once tried to push me to do any of them — I see her solely as an internist.

          • Anonymous :

            Darn. She’s not taking new patients until after 1/1/13. Any other ideas?

        • I see Dr. Brickte Debass at General Internal Medical Group in Ballston. LOVE her. I will say it’s hard to get an appt there, so maybe not the best for an immediate need…

    • Ooh, me too: does anyone have a recommendation for Baltimore?

    • I basically just did internet research when I moved to the DC area; I looked at the providers covered by my health insurance, then plugged into Google. It probably wasn’t the most accurate way to go about things ever, but I think it worked out OK for me. I go to a doctor with One Medical Group in DC. She’s pleasant; can’t say anything really good or bad yet as I haven’t gone for anything major. But more importantly the group guarantees same-day appointments and that your appointment will be on time, and there is an online booking system that is super easy to use. The downside of this is that more routine appointments are very formulaic (sounds like the doc is reading from a script), so if you like to feel like you are establishing a close relationship, it’s probably not the way to go. But if you are aiming for convenience and efficiency, I give it an A.

      • Also look at office hours, do you live and work in Arlington (depends on if you want your doctor close to work or home), do you get paper prescriptions or electronic ones, what is doctor’s view towards care (my doctor is fairly holistic but will go hard-core drugs when needed, so she’s a good blend for me), what types of things does practice allowto be done over the phone and what has to be done in office, what kinds of in-office services does the doctor have (X-ray, labs, etc).

        Word of mouth is usually pretty good for me and I feel like you should get a vibe for the practice after 1-2 visits (front desk, billing, nursing staff, wait time).

    • applesandcheddar :

      I’m in DC and I highly recommend Dr. Andrew Lee. His bedside manner is incredible; he doesn’t rush you at all, he is very soft spoken and calm, and he is probably the most knowledgeable doctor I’ve ever seen. He really takes the time to explain everything to you and answer any questions you have. His practice is currently located in Chinatown but beginning in January they’re relocating to the Farragut West area.

      • Does he do annual exams, or do you go to a separate gyn? Can you get same-day appointments? Is he part of a larger practice, or is it just him?

  20. e_pontellier :

    Question for everyone: how often do you get your hair cut and/or colored? How often do you feel you should get your hair cut/colored?
    I’ll go first. I get both cut and color about 2-3 times per year but I feel like I should go every 3 months.

    • momentsofabsurdity :

      I’m really bad and get my (long, long) hair cut every 5-6 months. I don’t do color though. I do Japanese straightening about once a year.

    • Color every 4 weeks, cut every 8 weeks. I have a standing appointment. But I’m trying to hide grays, so I have to be more diligent.

    • Diana Barry :

      About every 12 weeks, bang trim every 3-4 weeks in between. I don’t color yet, it’s just cut for now. When I do color I will prob start going more often.

    • I do cut and color and go every 3 months or so. This year I went to the salon at the end of March, August 1st and then on halloween.

    • Silvercurls :

      This probably won’t be news: I go every 5-7 weeks but am resolving to make that every 4-5 weeks because wearing my short hair (which does _not_ grow out gracefully) and gray = double reasons to keep it looking neat.

      Hair coloring–especially when skillfully done–looks great on other people. I don’t do it myself because I don’t want to commit the necessary attention, time, or money. So far my wash-and-wear style has not interfered with my professional life; I don’t work in biglaw or other corporate & highly formal settings.

    • I should really be going every 2-3 months. My hair is past my shoulders, it’s very thick and is the winning combination of coarse/fine/wavy. For the last year, it’s been more like every 6 months. I need to do better.

    • Anon Analyst :

      I don’t color my hair, but I get it cut every 8-10 weeks. When my hair was shorter (chin-length) I used to get it cut every 6-8 weeks to maintain the style. Now I’ve been growing it out, and it’s several inches past chin-length, so I can go longer between cuts.

    • MaggieLizer :

      8-10 weeks, closer to 8 in the summer when my hair grows faster/my highlights are lighter and closer to 10+ in the winter when there’s less growth/my color is closer to my natural shade.

    • style advice needed... :

      When I was going regularly, I need a color/touch-up every 6 weeks (or sooner…) for my really ugly greys. I could stretch the cuts to every 3 months for my long hair.

      But I haven’t colored/cut my hair in almost a year. I just look terrible…. Can’t afford the upkeep, as I am not working. I should just dye it myself, but a single color always looks so dead/bad. Guess I’m kind of discouraged…

      Anyone know an affordable stylist in the Chicago area? I’m just West of the city….

      I’ve recently had two strangers mention my grey hair (and that I should fix it…). It stinks to have so much grey when you are younger ….

      • I’m just west of the city, too, and have not found the suburban (Oak Park area) salons to be very good. I trek to Lincoln Park to see Christin at Art & Science. She’s great, in that if you say you can only do haircuts 3x a year or whatever, she can hook you up with a style that grows out gently. As for color, I’m not doing anything yet, though I’m probably 5-10% grey. Home dye might be your friend in that regard—I’ve seen some great threads in the past about it.

        • style advice needed... :

          Thanks Jennifer. Yes, I have also had mixed luck in Oak Park. There are several new-ish salons in Forest Park on Madison that I was wondering about.

          Thanks for your Lincoln Park rec. I’ve been burned in the past when I went to Yelp for recs, so I appreciate your more personal rec.

          I will look for the threads about Home dye. I should just bite the bullet, and accept it is the best I can do for now.

    • PharmaGirl :

      No color. Cut 1-2 times per year. I always plan to get it cut more often but it’s just not a priority.

    • Color.. every 2 months or so- but my stylist is awesome and gave me a color blend that grows out nicely so it doesn’t look like I’ve gone too long. Cut every 4 months or so because it’s mostly just to keep it at the same length.

    • I go every 6-7 weeks. My hair is long (couple of inches above the bra strap) and has to be regularly trimmed or I’ll end up with split ends and droopy layers. I just get a gloss, so color isn’t really an issue. I used to be terrible about making regular appointments, so now I book my next appointment before leaving the salon and keep it no matter what (helps that the guy I go to books up in advance, so it is a huge pain to make changes to appointments).

    • Short hair – above the chin, with shorter layers & side bangs – every 5-6 weeks. No color because I don’t want to spend the time or money to maintain it. The only way I manage to keep it up is to make my next appointments while I am there – if I have to cancel, it tends to stretch into months before I manage to remember to make the call to reschedule and then get in. Actually, this is the story of everything in my life – if I don’t make my next appointment while I’m there, its going to be months late. So if you want to make yourself do it more often, just book your next appointment while you are there – I’ve found that I never have a problem making myself reschedule an existing appointment, only getting around to making one in the first place.

    • Haircut ~ every 6 weeks.

      Highlights when my stylist tells me to get them touched up.

    • Susan (edna_mode_nyc) :

      Cut – not often enough. I think I’ve got a bird’s nest on the back of my head at this point. Ideally, every 6 months. Reality: every year.

      Color – never tried it. I already know I’d be bad at maintaining it.

    • I have a pixie cut so cuts are every 4-5 weeks and color is every other appointment so every 8-10 weeks. My color is just a more fabulous version of my natural color so my roots aren’t noticeable until about week 7 or 8.

    • I go for a haircut every 4 months or thereabouts. My haircutting lady understands me really well and gives me cuts that grow out nicely. Short bangs that turn into longer sideswept ones, etc. I’ve never colored my hair, and one of the reasons I like my hair person is she doesn’t try to talk me into it.

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