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I have, historically, HATED green tea — but I've been trying to get into it as part of my lunch routine because it has so many health benefits. (I still love my herbal teas for after dinner, though.)
I've tried a bunch of different brands, and for my $.02, mint green tea is much more enjoyable than plain green tea — it's a nice dash of sweetness after my lunch.
One of my favorites is this green tea from Stash that's pretty widely available, such as at Target. I still like it relatively weak, though — a 2–3 minute steep is all I can stand.
Other favorite green teas include Trader Joe's Moroccan Mint Green Tea and Teavana's Jade Citrus Mint Tea. (Last year, Celestial Seasonings had a holiday decaf green peppermint tea that was great also — keep an eye out this year!)
Readers, which are your favorite teas?
(And YES I've seen this meme about green tea…)
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Pictured (clockwise): Peppermint Chocolate / Peppermint Bark / Chocolate Mint / Moroccan Mint / Pure Peppermint
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Sales of note for 9.19.24
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals through September, and cardmembers earn 3x the points (ends 9/22)
- Ann Taylor – Extra 30% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 50% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 15% off new styles
- Eloquii – Extra 50% off sale
- J.Crew – 50% off select styles — and 9/19 only, 50% off the cashmere wrap
- J.Crew Factory – Up to 60% off everything + 50% off sale with code
- Lo & Sons – Warehouse sale, up to 70% off
- M.M.LaFleur – Save 25% sitewide
- Neiman Marcus – Friends & Family 25% off
- Rag & Bone – Friends & Family 25% off sitewide
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Anniversary event, 25% off your entire purchase — Free shipping, no minimum, 9/19 only
- Target – Car-seat trade-in event through 9/28 — bring in an old car seat to get a 20% discount on other baby/toddler stuff.
- Tuckernuck – Friends & Family Sale – get 20%-30% off orders (ends 9/19).
- White House Black Market – 40% off select styles
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anon
Work has been insane lately. I’m handling too many projects and dropping them isn’t an option (trust me on this). I am working on delegating more, but that is going to require some training and hand-holding until everyone is up to speed. Not only am I exhausted, but I am making stupid mistakes, like introducing errors/typos in documents. They’re getting caught before anything bad happens, but it’s embarrassing. My work depends on paying attention to the details.
I work in a service organization, and after 12 years of doing this type of work, maybe I’m just done with solving these types of problems. IDK. I have taken a day off here and there, but I’m still fried. I’ve noticed that my will to care about the issues is plummeting; it all feels pointless and I find myself preferring whatever solution is simplest.
Help? I may, in fact, need a new job, but if I go that route, I’d have to change careers entirely. This is the downside of working in a niche field. I’d prefer to work on shorter-term solutions to feel less fatigued and get my mojo back.
Anon
I hear you!
We lost some senior staff that we had trained extensively in-person prior to COVID. Their replacements are terribly green, like first job ever green, and training / supervising / reviewing / giving feedback to them remotely is just a bridge too far when I am trying not to drown myself. Ideally, I’d be doing 30% supervisory work and 70% training for a green person, and 75% high level work with external contacts and 25% review / training when I had senior helpers, but now I’m having to do the 75% external part of my role and the 70% training of juniors part of my job, which is just way too much to do well. I need what I don’t have and it’s beg, borrow, and steal to manage my time and route the most important things so they don’t get lost.
Anon
Feel this. I have a very new, very inexperienced team and it’s exhausting to both manage the supervision and training as well as the external stuff (plus being the SME for our org on the work we do). I’ve spent all day today working on something that I should not have had to do but had to because one of the new team members royally effed it up and we didn’t have another choice but to have me do it so it got in on time.
Anon
If your typos are getting caught when they’re supposed to, that means whatever system you have is working! Don’t be so hard on yourself.
Anon
I agree! No one is perfect and a typo is not the end of the world. I know it is hard but can you try to lower your standards a bit to make things easier for right now? I know it is not the best idea but just to get through this rough patch. Good luck!
Anon
I know it’s way too common advice, but I was feeling like you for months and took almost 2 weeks off and am back today feeling much, much better. I was afraid to take time off because I worried I would come back to an even bigger pile of work, and even though that is true to some extent I feel much, much better able to actually tackle it. I know it can feel impossible to go away when you’re swamped but just do it.
Anon
I get annoyed that grocery store herbal tea choices are basically peppermint (which I do like, but I want some variety) or fruity. I want the herb part of herbal! I picked up a box of Les 2 Marmottes linden when I was in France a few years ago because the box was super cute, but it turns out I also love the tea. I’ve actually ordered tea from them a couple of times now and given how much tea I consume I find it worth it, but I recognize that’s pretty bougie.
Emma
Les 2 Marmottes is the best! I always pick some up when I’m in France. I do think there is more choice of herbal tea in France – I like verbena or linden, which can be hard to find in the US or Canada.
Anonymous
Look to see if there are some actual tea shops near you. That’s where you’ll find more exotic flavors and combos.
If you don’t have any near you, I recommend Adagio for mail order. You may not find the same lvariety, but they’re still pretty decent and ship fast. Bonus plug: I did their advent calendar with my mom this past year and it was so much fun trying something new each day.
Anonymous
Linden tea is great! If you have access to Clipper teas where you live, they have lots of infusions that are actually herbal, like chamomile, nettle, dandelion, fennel or lavender blends.
Anonymous
Harney’s has both linden and verbena.
Anon
I feel very basic, but I do not really like tea unless sometimes if it is a giant vat of iced tea (constant comet or plantation mint) that is really overly sweetened with sugar (and then iced well to compensate) or what my family calls “Russian” tea (remedy for a cold, served hot, equal parts: tang, ice tea mix, lemonaid; I prefer it double-strength). I also don’t drink coffee. I feel like my grownup card is getting yanked now.
Anonymous
Not at all! I love tea but I won’t touch coffee. You do not need to like tea to be a big girl.
Anon
I don’t think you know what “basic” means. It means being unoriginal/boring and jumping on every trend that’s popular with everyone else. Most adults drink coffee and/or tea so not liking these things does not make you basic at all.
anon
I like iced tea, straight up, but I don’t enjoy hot tea much at all. And I have TRIED, because it would be a good afternoon beverage for me! The exception might be chai with a lot of milk and sweetener.
Anonymous
I’m almost 45 and never learned to like coffee or alcohol. Just embrace it sister!
Ses
Y’all gonna live forever so +1 good for you!
Anon
Coffee and tea aren’t bad for your health, especially if consumed in moderation. Alcohol is a different story.
Anonymous
Well I did learn to love fatty + sweet foods, so I have other issues!
Anonymous
I hated tea until my 40s
Anon
I never liked anything but iced tea until I discovered Earl Grey tea with raw sugar. I don’t like any of the more tannic breakfast teas that require milk. So if you really want to like tea, maybe try that.
But no one says you have to like tea. I still can’t believe anyone likes green tea! I think it’s a hoax, like kale. Everyone’s taste buds are different. Enjoy the uniqueness of your own.
Anonymous
I love kale – and green tea – and the tannic breakfast teas – and olives – seaweed – marmite – plain espresso coffee – grapefruit – lemon pith, any old thing that people find too strong or bitter. But I cannot get used to Matcha tea. I don’t know what it is about Matcha, but I can’t get used to it.
A.
I can’t believe no one has cited Ted Lasso yet! “Hot brown water.”
anon
“Y’all know this is garbage, right?”
Anon
I love green tea. There is, however, a big difference between the stuff in the grocery store and loose-leaf green tea (dragonwell, jasmine), brewed at the correct temperature for the correct amount of time.
Kara Holzwarth
Yes! Big difference in the type of tea you buy AND the temperature you brew it at. Not to get too “well actually”, but green tea cannot be brewed with boiling water, it makes it very astringent tasting. If you brew it with 170-180 degree water, it tastes so much better and complex.
Anonymous
I get what you mean, since what you’re describing is basically sugar water, but everybody gets to like what they like.
It’s perfectly all right to prefer sweet drinks, and not enjoy the bitter ones. Personally, I’m the opposite and prefer black coffee and builder’s tea with no sugar, but as long as we don’t have to swap, have at all the sweet things!
On topic for the green tea – loved the green tea with coconut, ginger and lemongrass that Trader Joe’s used to have, as an evening tea.
No Face
Don’t worry, I’m drinking enough tea for the both of us!
Anon
Me too! I’ve been drinking 4 cups a day (decaf) and expect it to only increase as we get into colder months.
Gail the Goldfish
I don’t like coffee, and, despite being a southerner, I don’t like sweet tea (I wasn’t allowed to drink it as a child because it’s got more sugar than soda and now that i’m adult, I think it’s too sweet). I do like a nice green tea, though. My favorite is the Bigelow constant comment green tea. Also a fan of moroccan mint and jasmine teas. I didn’t really like tea until I started trying to find a caffeine replacement for soda that wasn’t coffee and just forced myself to drink it and learned to like it. Though my new favorite caffeine source is Bai (it’s just unfortunately quite expensive).
Anon
My soda substitution was seltzer with lime. It just looks happy. And the citrus is good for you. I am a diet soda addict (pref. Diet Mountain Dew, caffeine free version, which makes no sense at all and missed the point of Mountain Dew but is truly divine over crushed ice in a 24-oz Tervis Tumbler). I realize that it looks like ripe pee.
Anonymous
I grew up in California, where there used to be no such thing as sweet tea. At lunch during the interview for my first post-college job in the northeast, I was very confused when the waitress asked if I wanted my iced tea “sweet or unsweet.”
Sugar in tea is an abomination. My daughter was raised in the south and I am embarrassed that she loves sweet tea.
Anon 2.0
Non-attorney here needing some advice on what kind of attorney family member needs to hire. Basically, family member has a deeded right of way/easement to a private road shared among 3 parties total. One party claims the road is his personally and has placed a locking gate blocking all access to the road.
Obviously, the police are going to consider this a civil matter. Do they hire an attorney to write a strongly worded letter? Does this have to go to court? Just looking to guide them in the right direction.
AugNon
I’d start with a very knowledgable and very local real estate attorney. They may direct you to a real estate attorney who litigates (not all do) but I think you’ll want someone with a lot of experience in the immediate area.
Anon
Real estate attorney, and not just a transactional closing attorney, but someone who gets in to litigation, potentially adverse possession (is that what the gate-locker is claiming?), all that good stuff. Sounds frustrating.
Anon
If you’re in a small town, the local generalist lawyer might be he right starting point. Agree that real estate is the right technical specialty but sometimes you need the gal who knows the sherif and the people at the town hall.
No Face
I agree with the advice to find a local real estate lawyer who litigates. Another thing for your family member to discuss is “emergency injunctive relief” or a “temporary restraining order” to let them have access to the road while the issue is litigated.
Anonymous
As you’ve gotten older what are some misconceptions you’ve realized you held a long time?
Monday
The misconception that I am happier, healthier, or more appealing to others at my lowest weight.
Anon
That is such a good one. I lost a ton of weight and it didn’t magically solve all of my problems. It also didn’t solve my health problems!!
Monday
Yep. And for me the realization was more about the flip side– I gained weight, and life got so much better!
Emma
Yeah, sometime I come across a picture of myself in a bikini at 21 and think man, I was thin back then. But then I remember that I wasn’t particularly happy, didn’t feel pretty, and was so insecure. I’m much happier now.
Anonymous
I second Monday’s comment about weight above and I’ll add the misconception that the next diet will be different.
Otherwise, I’ve realized that I should not blindly trust the experts to recommend what’s best, either in terms of health issues or political issues. I learned that there are not only bad actors, but that experts are fallible and that I need to do my own research most of the time if I want to feel really confident in the data. You wouldn’t believe how many PhD social scientists will completely misinterpret the findings from a peer-reviewed study for a popular media quote.
Anon
1. That hard work and talent are rewarded in corporate America.
2. That my upbringing was emotionally healthy. I was definitely one of those people who was all about not blaming my parents for my problems, owning my own issues, of course my parents love me and we don’t berate people for not being perfect, etc., and it took me a really long time to understand how deeply dysfunctional and cruel it all was.
Anon
To your 1, it took me so long to realize that people liking you matter so much more than talent. I’m fortunate in that people generally like me (except for the whole thing where I’m not a white male so they can only like me so much) but I saw extremely talented staff of mine fail to advance because they didn’t care whether people liked them or not.
Anon
I’ve seen thoroughly unlikeable, untalented people advance because the people *above them* like them.
Anon
I’m 4:59 and agree – for the most part it’s people above you liking you. I usually coached it as diplomacy and showing up – you can disagree with someone while being diplomatic about it, and you show up for things that are technically “optional” because really, they aren’t optional.
Anon
There’s diplomacy, being likeable, being easy to work with, and then there’s “kiss up, kick down.”
Me
+1 on your #2
Anon
You’re spot on with both of these!
In no particular order, misconceptions
1) Pink clothes are ugly and only stupid people wear pink.
2) People only go to the gym because of vanity, nobody actually enjoys working out or playing sports.
3) The world will get better and women have more agency over their bodies and choices.
4) Low-fat, highly processed food is healthy.
5) Boot-leg jeans will not be back in style in my lifetime.
6) Everybody needs a classic white shirt in their wardrobe.
7) SPF 6 sun tan oil is fine.
All of these somewhat Corporette relevant misconceptions are ignorant views I have held, for periods from 5 to 25 years, before I realized I was a fool. One of them hurts more than the others.
Anon
Wow, I just caught up with the morning thread and I’m reeling.
Mostly I’m surprised that in this group of career oriented women we have anyone that passive.
OP if you’re still reading, take the responses on that thread to heart. Your husband is mostly at fault there and he sounds like a giant ass honestly, but you need to grow a spine. This is far from the only problem your acquiescence is going to cause, even though it’s a big one. What happens when you have children? What happens when you disagree on substantial things in your marriage? Find your voice!!!!
Anonymous
Why are you surprised? Women are socialized to accommodate, never speak up, and yes, be passive. It’s extremely hard to overcome that conditioning. We’re literally taught to be polite/quiet even in cases where we are being actively harassed by men or exposed to sexual predators – that’s how extreme it is.
Anon
So, so sad.
Senior Attorney
This is absolutely true. A good friend of mine is a kick-a$$ attorney with her own firm, the quintessential strong single woman, and it turns out she’s being harassed and stalked by somebody in our friend group and was afraid to tell anybody about it and is still afraid to take action because “he’s friends with all you guys.” UGH. It’s Captain Awkward’s The Missing Stair come to life.
Fortunately we are all ready to fix that staircase!!
anonshmanon
this. Why are you surprised? This is the world we live in. I am so glad this morning’s OP thought to ask for advice!!!
Anon
To be fair, from her post it sounded like her mom and her sister were much more upset than she was. I’m not convinced OP was devastated about her husband’s decision to exclude sisters, more just annoyed about the hypocrisy of having his sister there after making the no sisters rule.
Anonymous
I mean yes the situation in that thread is all kinds of messed up but let’s be real, being a strong, educated career woman has nothing to do with this. I work with and my friends with 100% career women and it is STILL a BIG DEAL to catch a man, have the wedding, have kids etc. And yes subtly they DO put you down if you don’t have those things. Ask me how I know. So in turn I’ve seen otherwise strong, professional, well educated, boss women agree to things with boyfriends/fiances that they didn’t like, weren’t happy or comfortable about because — gotta hold onto the man, my job won’t keep me warm at night etc.
Monday
All of this, and indeed I would say that this paragraph describes this board as well. I do *not* mean that everyone’s husband is a jerk. But I do mean that we have a very strong showing of jerk husbands (and boyfriends). Usually the poster also sounds cowed, just like this morning’s OP. And the culture here, like everywhere, tends to congratulate marriage as an achievement and a priority, despite all the other things that a high-achieving, financially secure woman has going for her.
I don’t think we should be surprised by these stories.
Anonymous
There’s likely also a strong showing of jerk husbands because people with decent solid husbands aren’t exactly posting on the internet for advice.
Anon
Yep. My husband and I worked out our issues in the first 10 years of our marriage. We’re boring now. I don’t feel the need to post about the minor disagreement we had this weekend over washing the pasta strainer by hand vs. washing it in the dishwasher. Which is the largest conflict we’ve had in recent memory.
That being said, something about the OP’s situation in the morning thread made me want to say to her “any man is not better than no man.” Not anything she said in the OP but when she replied about her husband having to go “way out of his comfort zone” just to communicate with her. That just doesn’t bode well. I have told many people over the years, relationships take effort but if it feels like work (or an unending slog) all the time, something is wrong.
I would also like to understand more about why she felt like standing her ground, even if that resulted in no wedding, was a lesser choice than keeping her mouth shut and just going through with it. I understand the intense pressure there probably was, after much planning and people traveling, etc. to go through with the ceremony but I can’t understand why she didn’t advocate for herself and her family in that critical moment. There are times to speak up and times to hold your tongue and this wasn’t a “hold your tongue” kind of moment. As the OP of this thread said, why was it so hard for her to find her voice in this situation?
Anonymous
This. I mean even IRL I know women who are absolutely the best in terms of personality, smarts, work success etc. married to guys where you really wonder WHY. And it isn’t a – head over heels, you wouldn’t understand their love – type issue. It’s usually more of a I needed to get married, this guy was interested even though not the best match so here we are, I figured he’d change/we’d make it work. Fast forward 10-20 years, he’s lazy or mean or a stay home dad who actually doesn’t do anything to take care of the kids, home or meals and really just watches our 5000 tv channels all day so I deal with being a biglaw partner 100 hours a week and on top of that running a household and raising the kids alone too.
Anonymous
This. Not surprised. Career women are still women – socialized by women their whole lives. Marriage is #1. If you aren’t married and a mother, what does your career success even matter blah blah? So career women – like all women – end up “overlooking” things they shouldn’t because hey, at least someone wants them.
Anon
Once I got engaged, I saw how intense and relentless those social pressures really are. It’s crazy and I do not look down on women who aren’t able to withstand the intense, all-around pressure to be someone’s wife and many someone’s mother.
anonshmanon
this sounds like a humble-brag to me. A weird one.
Anon
LOL. Sorry, no.
anon
Agree, this comment isn’t sitting well with me either. It’s not an inability to “withstand pressure,” it’s a unwillingness to settle for a raw deal.
Anon
The exact scenario we are discussing is a woman who should have seen the red flag of her then-fiance not allowing her own sister at her wedding because it was “important” to him. Presumably, the best thing for her would have been to call off the wedding, but the social pressures are intense and in the opposite direction.
Anon
Sure, that’s what the original post is about. But Anon @ 4:26 was speaking in generalities and coming across as condescending toward unmarried women more broadly. That’s what these specific replies are about.
Anon
I also found the “congrats” comment emblematic of this issue – the conditioning to view marriage, even to an utter as**ole, as a good thing is also disturbing.
Anon
It was sarcastic, I’m assuming.
Anon
It didn’t sound like it, sounded very much like an “ohh, wedding! Weigh in in issue but congrats!!!!”
Anon
I thought it was sarcastic…. (not any of the Anons above)
Anon
Only one person on the entire thread of ~80 comments said congrats and she said “congrats, though, I hope :/”. I think it was an attempt to be polite, because yes normally you do congratulate people who post about their recent marriage, but also clearly recognized that there are deeper issues here and unfettered congratulations are not appropriate. It was not a “this problem is NBD. yay, wedding, that’s all that matters!” comment and to suggest it was is really disingenuous.
Anon
I was taught that upon engagement/marriage, women should receive “best wishes” and men “congratulations.” The stated explanation was that one should never suggest that a women had snared a man. Viewing it in a different light, I think it suggests a foreshadowing of the nonsense that so many women tolerate.
Anon
What you’re talking about has nothing to do with being “career-oriented” though.
Anon
Maybe I wasn’t clear. I would think that someone who is incapable of standing up for herself in a situation this important to her also doesn’t stand up or advocate for herself at work, which is why I was surprised, as I think of our group as a fairly self-assured career minded professionals.
Anonymous
I’m still reeling too. I feel like maybe she lost sight of the day, like those bridezillas with crazy requests. Why have a super tiny ceremony and bigger reception? Why not have your MOH at the ceremony? Are they even legally married? Make it make sense.
Anon
Not sure why they wouldn’t be legally married, but hope for the OP they aren’t because she should be divorcing him.
Anon
In my husband’s social circle in the deep south, it’s not unheard of to do a small ceremony with only the closest friends and immediate family and then a blow-out reception with the whole town invited. Rationale being that only the people really close to the couple would care about the vows, but everyone loves a party. (Not opining one way or another, just saying that’s how they do things.) I don’t know what’s going on with the OP’s husband – maybe he has some killer stage fright and couldn’t manage “I do” in front of people, but there are places where small ceremonies and large receptions are the norm.
Anonymous
I get what you’re saying but in those instances no one is excluding siblings or better yet excluding the siblings only from ONE SIDE. I don’t have a problem with small ceremonies, but it has to be fair. If we’re eloping that doesn’t mean YOUR parents get to come but mine don’t. If it’s just parents and/or grandparents, then it’s ALL parents and/or grandparents. If it’s just parents + siblings, then it’s ALL parents and siblings.
anon
I’ve been to a few of these in the Midwest, too, but it’s hella strange to not have immediate family members, like siblings, present at the ceremony part.
Anon
+1.
Monday
This is all kind of beside the point though. The husband insisted on excluding siblings, but then had his own sibling there while OP’s sibling was not. You can disagree with his initial stance, but at least OP knew about and agreed to it. The last-minute end run is what’s disrespectful no matter what.
Anon
I would assume the sisters care about the vows as much as the party, though!
PLB
I had questions, too, about why the MOH wasn’t at the wedding. What was the point of even having one?
anon
If a future spouse told me he didn’t want my siblings at our wedding, the wedding would not have happened. It would demonstrate that we have VERY DIFFERENT values about family.
FWIW, my brother acquiesced to SIL’s demands that they have a wedding with only both sets of parents present. No reception at all. It was insanely hurtful, considering how close our sibling group is. I fault my spineless brother as much as my pushy SIL; that dynamic has continued throughout the marriage.
Anonymous
This. My sister is killing it on the career front but married a pushy guy who DNGAF about her keeping in contact with her family. She’s so passive about the whole thing it drives me nuts. She doesn’t even come home to visit our parents without him there.
Anonymous
I am all for couples eloping. But I have to agree that inviting parents to a wedding ceremony while specifically excluding siblings indicates something fundamental about how the husband views family. I would be hesitant to raise multiple children with such a man, because it would suggest that in his parenting, he would make no real effort to create or honor bonds between siblings. Sometimes those bonds never form or break, but I would want to parent with the goal of having siblings who are close to and supportive of each other. (Frankly, I think my mother is a bit like the husband here. She was baffled when I recently suggested I would feel some obligation to care for my sister in the event she is either disabled or (more likely) destitute. And looking back, I think she did more to foment rivalry and distance between me and my sister than she did to create any bond there.)
This is only a small piece of the issue OP presented, though.
Anon
Many women are successful in the workplace because they are willing to go to the ends of the earth to accommodate other people, to the detriment of their own physical and mental health and dignity. That dynamic is duplicated in their relationships. This is the product of dominant American culture and shouldn’t be surprising.
anon
Well, this is both chilling and absolutely true.
Anon
You’ve hit the nail on the head.
Anon
I almost posted this exact thing. I was in meetings all day and just got caught up. What did I even read over there? “Reeling” is the right word for it. My God. I cannot, cannot, cannot with that whole situation.
RR
I’m always thrown by the initial “should I talk to my husband about this”? The whole issue she described is a mess of lack of communication, but in general, why marry someone you can’t talk to? If it every pops into my head whether I should talk to my husband about something, I talk to him. We talk, sometimes we fight, occasionally we yell, but we’ve been married 23 years and a big foundation is that we communicate in some way. It would legit never occur to me to ask someone else’s opinion on whether I should talk to my husband about something. He IS the person I talk to about things.
Anonymous
While I did find this morning’s thread great in pointing out the “WTF is up with that man, run!”, I am truly puzzled by the idea that siblings MUST be present at a wedding.
I have been to at least three wedding receptions where the ceremony was a simple formal thing, no siblings, and the party was everybody and their aunt. No issue at all from siblings, no hard feelings, no mutterings, no drama, just great weddings where the formal stuff was done discretely with the required witnesses, and where the celebration was later in the day or even weeks later. No problem at all.
Anon
Why wouldn’t they be legally married? What an odd comment.
Anon
Nesting fail, response to Anon at 3:38.