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These heels are a bit surprising to me in a few regards. First: they're only 3.5″ — but they look a lot higher. Second: 123 5-star reviews at Zappos! I look at a lot of reviews in Zappos, and most products start to dip to 4 stars after the first 100 and so reviews. Looking closer, they have 76% 5-star reviews, and 15% 4-star reviews. That's pretty amazing. They come in twelve colors, sizes 5-11 — and they're only $99. Nice. Ivanka Trump Janie Pump Here's a similar shoe that's available in wide and narrow sizes (and is 35% off). (L-3)Sales of note for 9.30.24
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals through September
- Ann Taylor – Extra 30% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 50% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 15% off new styles
- Eloquii – Extra 50% off sale
- J.Crew – 50% off select styles
- J.Crew Factory – Up to 60% off everything + 50% off sale with code
- Lo & Sons – Warehouse sale, up to 70% off
- M.M.LaFleur – Save 25% sitewide
- Neiman Marcus – Friends & Family 25% off
- Rag & Bone – Friends & Family 25% off sitewide
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Fall Cyber Monday sale, 40% off sitewide and $5 shipping
- Target – Car-seat trade-in event through 9/28 — bring in an old car seat to get a 20% discount on other baby/toddler stuff.
- White House Black Market – 40% off select styles
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cbackson
I own these in multiple colors and can attest to their awesomeness.
Anonymous
Agreed! I have them in three colors and they are SO comfortable.
Anonymous
Are they really 3.5″? Is it an optical illusion with the heel? They really are smoking hot.
Care
But what color to get?? I’m between plum patent, navy patent, and deep gray suede. Is patent too much? I don’t have any patent pumps yet.
Shopaholic
I love the deep grey suede. I think it’s gorgeous and versatile.
Cat
+1 for the gray suede. I have a similar pair from 5 years ago and wear them tons every winter.
Heels for daysss
Do you find that the gray suede works well with tights? I get bored with black shoes/black tights all winter and this looks promising..
Cat
Yes – I often wear them with gray tights. I feel like Minnie Mouse with black tights and lighter shoes, but my gray suede is a little lighter so maybe these would work better with black?
Anyway, I brought my pair to a dept store and held them up to all the gray tights to get the tone correct (some grays are more heathered looking, others are more brown/warm vs black/cool toned). DKNY had the perfect match for mine!
anon-oh-no
patent is NOT too much! (said the girl that owns at least 30 pairs of patent shoes in various shades and colors ….)
KateMiddletown
Agreed – I have the burgundy pictured. The only time I feel like I can’t wear them is when I’m wearing burgundy pants. Only problem is they’re a little weirdly arched for me to walk more than a block (high arches) but I can definitely stand in them. Love these.
Lyssa
Do you wear them with tights (and what color(s))? I have some dark red/burgundy shoes that I love love love, but I’m always going back and forth about whether they work with tights. Stupid winter.
KateMiddletown
@ Lyssa – Today I’m wearing them sans-tights since it’s going to be 80 degrees in my area, and since I avoid wearing tights unless it’s chilly. I would definitely wear them as a statement shoe w/ black semi-opaque to opaque tights and keep the rest of my outfit in the black/greys vs. navy, but I’ve often worn them w/ navy skirts and nude tights. I wore them yesterday w/ a navy suit no socks. (They don’t get smelly so they must be leather insoles.) I’ve had them since 1 or 2 anniversary sales ago and the caps haven’t popped off or worn down at all yet. The soles will probably need some love this season because they’re leather.
APC
I’m having an awful day. My fiance snapped at me, my friend snapped at me, people are super cranky at work today and now a Bulgarian spammer is sending emails to my contacts under my name. CAN THIS DAY BE OVER NOW?
Anon
I’m with you. I’ve already decided that I’m having coffee chocolate chip ice cream for dinner while curled up in bed reading Harry Potter.
Another anon
This sounds like a perfect evening to me!
Anonymous
Oh man me too!
I dropped the breakfast I was super excited to eat (pumpkin pie oatmeal!) all over the floor of my office. Not a good start to the morning.
DisenchantedinDC
Yep, I’m on the struggle bus today too, as is everybody around me. A friend hasn’t gotten back to me about a trip another friend and I are supposed to take to visit her and it has me on edge. Everybody seems to be having some variation of a rough day. Mercury is in retrograde, ya know.
Anonymous from this morning
Me, too!
All these people on the internet are insisting it is okay to invite people to weddings at the last minute and they are just WRONG!!!
Let it go.
Seriously. You’ll feel better. :)
I'm cold already
Finish this sentence: “don’t buy uggs, buy ___”
Anonny
Sorel
Anon
Kamik’s “Brooklyn” boots.
Anonymous
Gold metallic Uggs.
Anonymous
Gold metallic Uggs.
Anon
+2392834o92387402374
boots
LL Bean boots
N.C. anon
Another fur or shearling lined boot, such as Frye Valerie Lace Up. If your budget is a lot smaller, I saw a knockoff at Target this week for about $40.
Anonymous
Or another style of UGG that actually looks like a shoe (ie. UGG Chauncy – I think) which is also shearling lined and half the price of the Frye versions.
If it’s the style that is of concern.
APC
Agreed. I have 2 pairs of Ugg shoes that are not the boot and I absolutely love them – super soft, fuzzy, cozy, and not at all identifiable as Uggs (they’re loafers that I live in Nov-March).
KateMiddletown
+1000 for asking this
Hollis
rugs.
PHX
Drugs.
Senior Attorney
+1
PHX
<3
Runner 5
Rum.
Constant Reader
Pugs :)
Liz
Smartwool or Darn Tough socks
anon
Costco knock-off Uggs, $20. Have had them every year for 6+ years in my area.
CountC
These are gorgeous.
TBK
Help. I have this wedding in mid-October. I’m so excited to go. It’s two really good friends. It’s in a GORGEOUS venue. My husband is a groomsman and all the weekend festivities sound amazing. We’re dropping kiddos with my parents for TWO NIGHTS — our first ever overnight together away from the kids — and the inn where the wedding party is staying is beautiful (and right, I mean right on the water). The problem is I have nothing to wear. I have an incredible gray silk gown I wore to an inaugural ball back in 2008 (2009 I guess by the time we got to the inauguration) but that was several years and two kids ago and it’s not happening. I ordered a dress from J Crew. Returned it. Went to the mall and tried on at least 20 dresses. Nope. Found the brick and mortar RTR in Georgetown and found a dress I liked…but it doesn’t come in size 14 and I wasn’t sure the 12 would fit. Dragged out another old dress but realized that while I could zip it, it really really wasn’t a good idea. What do I do? Trying on dresses is making me as miserable as trying on bathing suits. Trying to love my new mom bod, but it’s really hard going right now. Help?
Anonymous
You ask us! Needs to be size 14. Length? Formality? Boobs? Color?
Wildkitten
Boobs?!
(I understand the question but it made me chuckle anyway).
Meg Murry
Can you post the dress you liked at RTR, or describe it and why you liked it?
What about the new mom bod isn’t working for you? Is it just that you are overall larger, or do you have more boobs/pooch/hips that you didn’t before?
I hate dress shopping now too, so I can’t be much help. I will say though that one thing that made a major difference when I had to go bridesmaid dress shopping last year – wear whatever foundation garments you would probably wear with a dress to try it on. Spanx plus a well fitting bra can take a dress from “ugh, maybe” to “ok, I can work with this”
Cat
Are you pulling dresses that you’re used to working easily on you, but frustrated because BABIES make those shapes not flattering anymore? Maybe an appointment at Nordie’s would help – someone objective to pull a variety of styles you wouldn’t normally pull for yourself.
Renee
+1 to all the suggestions for a Nordstrom personal shopper. I agree it sounds like you’re stuck trying to dress your old body. I think a personal shopper will help bc they won’t have the old you in mind – they’ll dress what’s in front of them plus they have a wealth of info on what’s in stock and what’s been working on other NORMAL women’s bodies. I’m sure this can be overcome!
Diana Barry
Nordstrom personal shopper? Ordering a TON of dresses someplace else and returning? Getting a tailor to alter the gray one?
TBK
Length: at knee or longer (so many dresses I took into the dressing room turned out to hit a few inches above the knee — I’m 5’9″ so things run a tiny bit short on me). Formality: formal but not necessarily long. Husband will be in a tux but non wedding party men probably wearing dark suits. I’m pear-ish but more of a pooch/belly than pre-kids (twin skin!). I weirdly carry weight in my upper arms so things with very slim sleeves probably won’t work. The RTR dress was the Theia Violet Femme dress, even though it was on the short side. I liked it because it fit nicely through the bodice but had a fuller skirt, so no pooch issues. Also it had a sort of “I’m not 21 but I’m not the mother of the bride either” sophistication (which doesn’t totally come through in the photos — in person and on me it had kind of a modern Mad Men vibe).
Anonymous
What about this one in navy? http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alfred-sung-dupioni-fit-flare-dress/3835687?origin=category-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=SEASIDE&resultback=2900
Strikes me as similar fabric and cut of the Theia dress with the scoop back adding a little bit of not-young but not-old sexiness, and comes in a 14.
Anonymous
I also like this one as an option with a little less pouf around the waist, but still flared enough to be forgiving: http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/alfred-sung-satin-fit-flare-dress-regular-petite/3778615?origin=category-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=FIRECRACKER&resultback=7800
The site says these run small, but they do also have a 16. Plus, Nordstrom free alterations!
Dissent
I’ve actually worn this dress and the Theia in the past month! The Alfred Sung dresses are bridal sizes and I ordered two sizes up from my normal size. The material is not forgiving and I would not recommend it to the OP.
Meg Murry
Not sure how you’d feel about the print, but this dress looks like it has a similar neckline, fitted bodice and then fuller skirt, and is below the knee on the model.
http://www.modcloth.com/shop/dresses/uptown-twirl-dress
Cat
What about something like this? Not as splashy, but could be dressed up with sparkly jewelry. It’s 4″ longer than the RTR dress.
https://www.jcrew.com/womens_category/dresses/cocktail/PRDOVR~A1450/A1450.jsp
Little Red
Maybe, more than you’re looking to spend but it looks to be fairly versatile and could be wearable at multiple formal events in the future.
http://shop.nordstrom.com/s/adrianna-papell-jacquard-tea-length-fit-flare-dress/3562253?origin=category-personalizedsort&contextualcategoryid=0&fashionColor=&resultback=1531
shopping challenged
This is the brand that works best for me with my “mom bod”, which in my case means my butt is gone and I have a bit of a belly, plus just overall a bit bigger than before. Last time I needed a dressy dress, I went to a Nordstrom’s Rack (because I find them much less precious about the merch than a full-price Nordy’s) and found a helpful salesperson who went through several racks with me. We pulled off literally every single A-P dress in a couple of sizes, and she let me take them all (I think there were 14) into the dressing room. No, it didn’t feel fun, and yes, it reminded me of swim suit shopping, but in the end I bought two, because they are both lovely and fit me well.
Anonymous
+1 – I was going to suggest starting with Adrienne Pappell.
Gail the Goldfish
I saw some really pretty Adrienne Pappell dresses at Macy’s this weekend. Like “I wish I had a fancy event to go to just so I could buy that dress” pretty.
Pear
I was “blessed” with what sounds like a very similar body shape to yours: extreme pear (14 bottom, small/medium top) with a pooch that won’t go away no matter how hard I try, and I haven’t even had kids! I know you said you like fit-and-flare, but I find that a good way to hide the pooch is to go structured with more dramatic necklines or waist details.
Sparkly with a deep v-neck: http://www.lordandtaylor.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/en/lord-and-taylor/brands/wa-cocktail/lace-sheath-dress-0150-c802957deb–1
Unexpected details: http://www.lordandtaylor.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/en/lord-and-taylor/brands/wa-cocktail/contrast-sheath-dress-0200-250590474001–1
Black on bottom with a cool detailed high neck: http://www.lordandtaylor.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/en/lord-and-taylor/brands/wa-cocktail/sequined-combo-dress-0275-253574003001–1
Lorelai Gilmore
How about the Tadashi Shoji dresses on Nordstrom? They come in a bunch of sizes, colors, and styles. They are super-flattering. Adrianna Papell dresses are sort of the knock-off version – similar styles, but cheaper.
Also, and perhaps more relevantly, I totally understand. After my second baby, my body was just totally differently-shaped. I really miss having a waist.
Little Red
I just posted a link to a Pappell dress. Those were the first two brands I thought of too when thinking of designers who create flattering dresses in a wide range of sizes.
Lizbet
+! on Tadashi Shoji. I find the Adrianna Papell ones run smaller than size and have a hard time fitting them. The TJ ones make me feel like a princess!
Jen
+1000 The Tadashi dresses garner tons of compliments and are so good at drawing the attention upward. They’ll flatter your shape well.
Anonymous
Love Tadashi Shoji as well. Also take a look at Carmen Marc Valvo. Nordstrom carries the brand I think. Some very similar styles to the one you posted.
Anon
I recently wore this to a wedding and got a ton of compliments. It’s very glamorous in person. I also had a baby 8 months ago and the shape was very flattering, flares out above the pouch. The sizing is generous. I can be a size 8 in other dresses, but fit into a 2 and 4 for this. Ended up wearing size 4. Only con was that the feathers kept shedding, but eh no one cared because it was outdoor venue.
https://www.renttherunway.com/shop/designers/tracy_reese/flutter_and_fly_dress
Shayla
I recently wore this dress to a wedding and received a ton of compliments. I was in your “meh” state of mind with respect to shopping and baby body. I had to size up, so I think it might work.
http://tjmaxx.tjx.com/store/jump/product/women-clothing-dresses/Cap-Sleeve-Lace-Shift-Dress/1000098210?colorId=NS1003463&pos=1:71&N=3784554090
KateMiddletown
Tadashi Shoji tends to fit my mom bod. Stretch. Lots of cocktail and full length versions. Worn to 1 wedding and 1 museum gala. Loved both ways. ( I have a tan under-black lace cocktail length.)
Short-sleeved sweater
Can anyone recommend a fitted, short-sleeved wool sweater? Looking for an easy basic to pair with pencil skirts and pants this winter. I like short sleeves but not easy to find in wool. Thanks in advance!
Tetra
I’ve had luck with Uniqlo for this.
tesyaa
Talbots might carry these. You may need to size down
Cat
JCrew offers one in cashmere – I’m guessing that Macy’s and Lord and Taylor probably would too.
Anonymous
+1 on considering cashmere– I see lots of short-sleeved cashmere sweaters. Often at places like Off Saks and Nordstrom Rack, so not crazy expensive, either.
KateMiddletown
Yes – wear a tank and they’re awesome. Found my 1st @ consignment.
Anon Thinking of Stopping Drinking - Now Pimply!
So I haven’t had a drink in 22 days. There has only been one urge and that was the first week when someone at work really got to me. I’m super productive on my weekends now. This might stick. I didn’t do anything drastic in order to stop drinking. I have booze in my apartment and I have not thought of having any. I think this was a good little break. At the end of the month we’ll see where I’m at and how I feel about it.
My only concern… my face is breaking out like WHOA. I am using the same products as before I stopped drinking. I haven’t cut anything else out of my diet. I’m drinking a ton more water. There are some usual suspects (cystic on my chin for example) but the rest are tiny little baby pimples all along my jaw line, hair line and cheeks. Help!
HSAL
Don’t want to give links for fear of moderation, but I googled “breakouts not drinking” and the first result was a reddit thread where people had similar experiences. Looks like there’s a couple similar links as well, though the rest seems to be the opposite – people who breakout with alcohol.
Anon Thinking of Stopping Drinking - Now Pimply!
Ah! Thank you. Looks like I’m right in the zone of when people broke out and then cleared up. Ugh.
If I May Ask
Are you washing your face more religiously? Sometimes on nights I drink a lot, I don’t wash my face before going to bed. If you’re washing more, your face may be producing more oil. I have no idea if this is the case or not.
And if I may ask, what led you to stop? I’ve been considering it myself.
Anon Thinking of Stopping Drinking - Now Pimply!
Not really. When I’m super tired I still just use a makeup wipe but that’s rare. Haha.
I posted just before I started my “Sober September.” It was for a few reasons: 1) Heavy drinking summer so need a break; 2) weight gain/fatigue/blahness; 3) concern about if it’s a true problem. The third is the part I’m still figuring out. I don’t ever HAVE to have a drink. As I said, I’m perfectly fine with alcohol in my apt and not drinking it. My concern is when I DO drink, there are times (and it’s probably a 50-50 ratio) when I just can’t stop and I’ve put myself in some dangerous situations. Nothing, thankfully, has happened but I am old enough to know better. So, the next question becomes “Can I have one or two drinks and be satisfied?” Right now I feel good about not drinking. And maybe I’ll incorporate a glass of wine here or there but very sparingly. I don’t know yet. I do feel generally better and I think my body definitely needed the time off.
Marie
I stopped drinking 2 years ago for similar reasons. Coming off a heavy drinking summer (2L SA at big firm was a big part), weight gain/fatigue, and the times that I just… didn’t stop myself and got into dangerous situations. I just looked back on some times in my life when I had been in very real danger or had humiliated myself and asked myself whether that was the life I wanted to live. And it wasn’t/isn’t. So I stopped and honestly I haven’t looked back. I still go out, I still have fun with my friends… but no more hangovers, no more weight gain, can now spend more money on eating out and clothes, productive in the mornings on weekends, am better able to stick to my sleep schedule, the benefits go on. I know a lot of people who can drink and also enjoy all those parts of life, but I wasn’t before, and now I am, so I know it’s the right choice for me. Maybe I’ll enjoy some wine down the road but I haven’t missed it so far. Anyway, thought I’d share — whatever you end up doing, you’re not alone! :)
Anon
This hits close to home, thanks for sharing!
Anonymous
Could it be stress? You had an outlet before.
Anonymous
Some other thoughts in addition to the above–Are you resting your face on your hands more whereas before you might’ve used a drink glass as the place to put your hands? Working out more as a new activity to relieve stress (extra sweat can mean more breakouts)? Having dessert in place of wine in the evenings (I know for me it’s usually one or the other)?
KateMiddletown
Pregnant/new birth control/medicine interaction? The jaw/hair line ones are hormonal according to my derms.
KateMiddletown
Also you’re detoxing. When I did Whole30 I had the worst acne of my life. All the bad stuff has to come out somewhere. Good luck!!!
Anonymous
Oh jeez. No. I’m all for people making changes to make themselves feel better, but the good feeling comes from weight loss, eating more vitamin rich foods, and not being hungover. “Detoxing” is a myth: http://www.npr.org/sections/thesalt/2012/02/15/146927835/can-a-diet-clean-out-toxins-in-the-body
Anonymous
+1 – your liver is the de-toxifying filter in your body. And you typically don’t notice it’s effect unless things go wrong with it. The feel good stuff is most likely to being not-hungover or related to your gut bacteria not being poisoned by alcohol (ie, metabolizing it) on a regular basis.
KateMiddletown
By detoxing, I mean getting alcohol/ toxins out of the system. Eating “clean” is about as far as I go when it comes to detoxing :)
plump anon
I am so frustrated and just want to vent and seek commiseration. I weighed myself and realized I gained 10 pounds over the past year (I know it’s not that much, but I just FEEL it. I’m short, so it really shows). It came on slowly enough that I didn’t really notice it until just recently. My clothes still fit… just badly. I feel like I’m bursting out of everything.
I hate feeling like I have to track every bite or I gain, but it does seem like that’s the case. I eat healthy foods, but I guess I just eat too much of them. I also have a problem with eating REALLY fast. I hate this about myself. It’s so hard to slow down!
I exercise 4-5 days a week. I’ve remained in good shape in spite of my weight gain (I run, do spinning, weights, yoga, and boot camps). I already cook or prepare 90% of my food. I do buy healthy salads occasionally when out. I don’t drink soda, eat fast food, or drink highly caloric beverages, so I don’t see any easy wins. I also rarely eat dessert.
But I DO like cheese and crackers and crunchy snacks. I also have a hard time at parties, work lunches, book club… anything where I can’t plan a carefully portioned meal beforehand and know the calories in it. And I have a lot of days with events like that. I also tend to have events after work, so it’s common for me to eat all three meals away from a table (breakfast at my desk, lunch at my desk or in a meeting, and dinner on the go).
Advice/commiseration/shared venting welcome.
Anon4This
I could have written that. Just know that you are not alone.
shopping challenged
Good on you for noticing it early! It took me a couple years of 10 lb gains before I took it seriously, by which point it was a bigger (ha!) deal than you have right now.
If you’re unhappy with the way your clothes fit, you can buy new clothes or use your clothes as a guide to reshaping your body. For years, I used to gain 10 lbs in the winter, then lose it every summer. That 10 pounds didn’t mean much to me. But if you get into the middle-aged thing that’s happening with me right now, where the weight does not come off, then….
It sounds like planning a bit more for parties, work lunches, book clubs, etc would help. Pregame the parties and book clubs, then put one thing on your plate and make it your goal to keep it there, nibbling throughout the event. Get the menu before work lunches and plan your eating ahead of time.
Good luck!
BankrAtty
Hi, are you me? Any chance some of the gain is muscle?
emeralds
Oh, lady, I want to give you all of the hugs and support in the world. I have also gained some weight over the last few years. I don’t have a scale because that was a major trigger for my eating disorder, but the last time I was at the doctor’s and got weighed in July, I ended up bursting into tears because the number just seemed so huge, so unlike something I ever thought that I would weigh. I have similar exercise habits (running + barre + a lot of dog walking), eat a mostly plant-based diet (meat mayyyybe 3-4 times a week, max), cook healthy food, eat out infrequently, don’t keep desserts in the house and rarely partake at the office, get lots of sleep, drink a ton of water. I do all of the things right (note: I am not interested in any feedback or comments on this) and it makes no difference for the size of my body. Even if I believed that diets worked, I would not feel comfortable going on one without close supervision from a mental health provider and/or dietician because I know it would trigger me.
I get sad about it all sometimes. No lie. But after a certain point, I had to accept that this is the new normal. This is just what my body is now. I bought some new bras that make my boobs look amazing (I have cleavage! *I* have *cleavage*!). I remind myself how great my butt looks in pants (because I have one!). I remind myself that I do all of the healthy things that I do because they’re good for my body, good for my soul, and make me feel good as a human. None of that is influenced by the shape or size of my body.
So please, be kind to yourself. Keep doing the good things that you’re doing. Remember that sometimes you need cheese and crackers and crunchy snacks, because they’re delicious and good for the soul. Buy some clothes that fit and make you feel amazing right now. Remind yourself that you are so incredibly much more than a number on a scale.
emeralds
Oh and I will always keep plugging my friend’s blog on these threads. Seriously yall she is a shining star of grace and kindness in this arena, plus she is a trained medical practitioner (RD/RN, working on NP) who focuses her practice on women’s health and diets. This post from last week really struck a chord with me and is relevant to the discussion at hand: http://www.thereallife-rd.com/2015/09/exercise-anxiety.html
KateMiddletown
New bras change EVERYTHING. Great advice.
BankrAtty
I’m not the OP, but reading this helped me–thank you for such a wonderful reply.
OP
This is an amazing comment. You are so right about all of it. Thank you!
And a life without cheese and crackers is not worth living. So now I will go and live a life filled with carefully PORTIONED cheese and crackers along with my plates full of vegetables.
Have a good night, all!
Senior Attorney
OMG me, too. I lost a whole bunch of weight about five years ago and kept it off fairly easily, but in the last year I Met Someone, which has meant less gym time and more Fun With Food and Alcohol, and I’ve put on about 10 lbs from my lowest weight and it’s enough that I’m feeling it in my clothes. It seems to have stabilized and I haven’t really decided whether to push hard to get it off or accept this as the new normal. But man, I feel for you!
I will say that one trick to slowing down your eating is to have a rule that you are not allowed to have food on your fork and food in your mouth at the same time. I would always have the next bite loaded up and ready to go the instant the last bit was swallowed. Putting a stop to that really helped me slow down.
Also, I tend to get in denial about this so I encourage you to weigh yourself regularly so you can stop the gain. 10 lbs isn’t a disaster but if it goes on for a few years you’ll have a bigger issue. So nip it in the bud even if you can’t reverse it!!
Little Red
I’m in the exact same situation. I put on just enough weight this past year, that while I can still fit into them, they are unattractively snug. Like you,there don’t seem to be any easy wins in regards to diet. While I’m active, nobody would ever accuse me of being a fitness enthusiast so I have upped my game since with two reformer pilates classes every week and one or two days on the treadmill every week.
OP
Thanks, all. It really helps to hear that I’m not alone!
I didn’t mention this earlier, but I’ve been thinking about it. I am on birth control and a generic of Zoloft. This is the first year that I have been on both at the same time. I wonder if that has something to do with it… both are supposed to have the potential to cause weight gain.
Anonymous
It’s getting older and eating more cheese. Doesn’t mean you need to feel bad about it, but it’s the age and cheese.
padi
I love to crunch. Love it. The only solution I have found is to replace crunchy carbs with crunchy fruits and vegetables. I like apples and carrots but will go for radishes, broccoli, grapes, and other crunchy food instead. Good luck!
Emma
Hugs! I understand this and I’ve found that in the past few years, it’s suddenly become so much easier for weight to creep back on. I never was a big dieter — I was always kind of okay with being toward the high end of my healthy-weight range — but in the last few years I have lost and gained the same 10 pounds a few times.
*Don’t let the current number on the scale get you upset. It sounds like you’re trying to lose weight, and if so, then be glad that the number is so high! That sounds crazy, but as I have gone on my diets in the last few years, it feels so good when the weight comes off and when I can say “I lost 3 pounds” and then “I lost 5 pounds” and then “I lost 7 pounds!” etc. So, the higher you’re number is right now, that just means you’ll have that much more to celebrate when you take the weight off.
*And you CAN take the weight off! Like I said, I’ve never been much of a dieter. And dieting kind of sucks. But I have come to learn that even I am able to lose weight.
*Personally, I have found that controlling what I eat has so much more of an effect on my weight than does exercise. I know that exercise helps you burn some calories, and that muscle burns more fat, etc. etc. But it all goes back to what you’re putting into your body. I have found that low-carb is a great diet plan for me. And it’s sad because I love carbs! But low-carb is kind of okay.
*The dieting “tip” that has probably been the most helpful for me in limiting my food intake is something that I read in a magazine. Valerie Bertinelli commented that the first bite of food always tastes the best. And it’s so true! That first bite of chocolate cake is soooo delicious. All the other bites are good, but it’s that first one that is so special. I keep that in mind. It helps me be mindful that I can really enjoy a food by taking one fantastic bite of it. I do that all the time with my husband – he always lets me have a bite. Even though I love big portions, savoring that first bite has helped me so much to control how much I eat.
Good luck!
For discussion
For those of you who are generally opposed to the prospect of a Donald Trump presidency: How do you feel about buying Ivanka Trump products? I like a lot of her products, but the brand is closely tied to her identity – and she’s on the record as supporting her father’s campaign. It’s hard for me to feel good about buying her shoes. What do you all think?
Anon
Her shoes rock my world. I’ve been buying and wearing her pointy-toe flats for the past 5-6 years. I will continue to buy and wear them regardless of who her father is and whether she supports him (for the record – I think he is a buffoon and I’m a democrat dreaming of a Kirsten Gillebrand 2020 ticket).
Anon
+1 …I love my black wedge flats regardless, they’ve been my favorite purchase this year even though I do think of Trump for a second when I put them on. They’ve been instantly comfortable and wearing well too.
Anonymous
Doesn’t bother me at all. I don’t shop ethically generally.
KateMiddletown
I had some qualms about this too, but her Twitter feed also has a lot of pro-women in the workplace tips and advice so I guess it balances it out for me? In my imagination she is responsible for a lot of the back-tracking he’s done on women’s issues, faces, etc. Ugh, though.
Katie
Honestly, I think that’s wishful thinking. She still backs him as a politician. Her “support” of women tends to run to platitudes while still supporting her father, who runs on an anti-women platform. That negates any cute messages she might post online for her image, no? Her father’s brand of nasty sexism and racism aren’t suddenly backtracked each time (but then trotted out time and again) because of Ivanka; that’s his handlers reigning things in, using off-the-wall rhetoric to attract his crazies and then backing down the next day to stay juuuust this side of acceptable for a broader audience. Buying her stuff is up to you, but no WAY are Pinterest quotes in any way compensation for her father’s blundering, nasty mess of a campaign.
KateMiddletown
While I agree with the sentiments, if I boycotted a brand every time the human behind it did something I disagreed with, the list of approved brands would be very short.
Lyssa
I mentioned this the other day in a different (yet still Trump related) context, but I’ll repeat it because I find it interesting. The one person I know who supports Trump is a young woman I went to law school with, typically liberal (also likes Sanders). She posted about it on facebook and said that she thought that any woman issues with him are overridden by the fact that he raised such a smart and powerful daughter.
(I’m not really expressing an opinion here, just that I found the statement really interesting. I’ve been a big fan of Ivanka Trump since back when she first started doing The Apprentice, though.)
Esquared
I think you can want something powerful for the women in your life/yourself & use that power to shut down all the other women trying to achieve the same thing– for reference see most of the tea party women & talking heads on fox.
OP
I think your friend’s analysis is shallow.
It’s kind of like dating. You want the person across the dinner table not only to be nice to you, but to be nice to the waiter and the busboy and the homeless person on the street.
I think that you should evaluate candidates not by how they treat the women in their own lives, but women in general. It’s easy to be generous, supportive, kind, and rallying of your own daughter’s business endeavors. But the real test is this: are you similarly supportive of the business endeavors of women you don’t know? It’s easy to support working mothers when they are the parents of your grandchildren. But what about supporting working mothers who are strangers to you?
Candidates often try to make nice with women by showcasing their own moms, daughters, or wives. That’s wonderful they should be supportive and loving towards their family members! But it doesn’t tell you anything about whether their policies are good for women.
Brit
A person who is nice to you, but not nice to the waiter is not a nice person.
nonon
this is kind of a funny reason because I read an article recently that interviewed all of his kids. They all basically said that they turned out okay because their mothers raised them since he was never around. I wish I could remember where the article was published.
Little Red
I’ve always wondered why his kids have turned out to be normal, productive people. I always attributed it to excellent nannies but glad to hear the mothers were part of it too. I’m rather surprised that he has managed to marry three such women though.
Anonymous
um … he didn’t raise that smart and powerful daughter. if you think he was involved in her upbringing, I think you are sadly mistaken.
Anonymous
Yeah this was my thought. Ivanka seems to have turned out well, but I doubt he was ever around when she was young.
Care
I’m not a Trump fan, but I can’t be mad at anyone supporting their parent. If she had said some of the things he has, I wouldn’t buy her shoes. Honestly, I would have less respect for someone who didn’t support their parent in a campaign like this to avoid business fallout (though I feel required to mention that I wouldn’t feel that way if she refused to support him for personal or political differences). Hopefully she is a good influence on him (even if I’d prefer that he just go away) – I’ve always liked to think of her as an impressive business woman.
Anonymous
I think of this creepy quote: “Yeah, she’s really something, and what a beauty, that one. If I weren’t happily married and, ya know, her father …”
Her stuff is ok, a little sleeved out by her public support of her father but it’s not a dealbreaker yet.
Anonforthis
It’s dealbreaker for me. Unless she distances herself from his politics, I will not support her brand.
Anonforthis
To underscore, it’s really *their* brand. From a 9/1/2013 NYT Q&A with Ivanka:
HOW DO YOU RELATE YOUR FASHION BRAND TO YOUR OTHER ACTIVITIES AND THE TRUMP BRAND?
I spend my day opening hotels in key cities around the world and selling ultraluxury condominiums. I don’t want to do anything that dilutes or cheapens that effort. The nice thing about the things I’m involved in is that they’re all complementary. We’re a family company. We’re a family brand. For me, at the ribbon-cutting of a hotel that I’ve been working on in Beijing for five years, wearing Ivanka Trump — that’s an image you can’t fake create. I made a specific choice not to call my collection Ivanka. There’s so much value in the Trump name. And there’s such a deep connection to luxury and success. So when we think about the hot markets around the world, in Brazil and China, that’s what resonates with those buyers.
My goal is that product can be an entry point to our brand, a young woman who maybe buys a membership with her husband 10 years later at our golf course, or is staying at our hotels. There are so many points of connection, and fashion can be one of those first points. I’m very focused on social media and e-commerce. I think there’s so much interesting stuff that I can’t do within the context of a free-standing store. I mean, I could have booking widgets to our hotels. There’s just so much cross.
KateMiddletown
Thanks for finding this.
anon
Funny – I have hated him for years. Never watched Apprentice. Don’t like to hear him talk on issues. Think he’s a buffoon. I have transferred that dislike to his daughter’s brand and would never buy hers (or stay at their hotels if I had the money). And I’m a Republican but definitely a liberal one – pro-choice, pro-gay marriage, anti-Huckabee etc. Can’t stand that he’s doing well in the polls.
Anonymous
This has become more and more my political stance. Is there anyone you would chose to vote for in the Republican primary?
Question
What’s a reasonable amount of time to wait for the assistant at my Dr’s office to get back to me because she has to check something with my Dr first? (Not an emergency situation whatsoever). The office is very well-run like an oiled machine. Obviously at least a day but do I need to wait like a full week before calling again?
BeenthatGuy
If it’s a non-emergency, I’d give it 48-72 hours before you call back. If they are a well oiled machine, I bet you hear from the assistant before you make that call. Good luck.
Rachel
Yeah, I can’t buy these as much as I love them, because of her dad . . .
Anonymous
what color tights can you wear with navy suits?
SuziStockbroker
Gray tights and gray shoes (preferably seude).
SuziStockbroker
*suede
KateMiddletown
Suzi what grey do you wear? I haven’t found a nice opaque non-black that doesn’t look too juvenile (on me.)