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Coffee Break: Weejun Loafers

Coffee Break

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Wow – talk about old school. G.H. Bass Weejuns are back, baby! They're bestsellers at Bloomingdale's but almost entirely sold out, so I went hunting. They're ALSO almost sold out at Anthropologie, Free People, and a few other sites.

The Bass website, however, has a ton of sizes and styles — including things that are a little bit off the beaten path, like these pretty emerald shoes. (I think they'd be great with neutrals like navy or black, a nice complimentary color with other greens or green prints (like Blackwatch Plaid) — or even a great contrasting color with a pink or purple pant.

The shoes are $85-$165, available in sizes 5-11 (with a FEW options in wide sizes). The pictured shoes are $135 and they have sizes 5-8.5 in stock.

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  1. Anonymous

    So I’m sure I’m not the only one who looked this up this morning, but Plan B has a 4-year shelf life. Just FYI.

      • pugsnbourbon

        And you don’t have to be pregnant to get a supply of pills. You can have them on hand in case you or someone else needs them.

        • Ellen

          Do I need a Doctor’s prescription for these pills, or are the OTC? I do not anticipate having s-x any time soon b/c I want a relationship, not just having some doosh making me pull my panties down for him. That is all that I see these days. Guys not interested in marrying me but more then willing to come to my apartment, eat my food and then tell me we can have s-x before they must go home (to their mothers, no doubt). For the most part, they are sober versions of my ex, who was pretty sloppy when it came to s-x. I wonder what I would have done if I ever got pregnant from him? Ugh! But now, I have to vet all new schlubs and am not anxius to do this again at my age. DOUBEL FOOEY!

      • Anonymous

        Yes, this is an important thing to know. It’s not malicious – it’s just the number of hormones changes as your weight increases.

      • Cornellian

        Yes, tell your friends this. AND CHECK THE WEIGHT FOR YOUR BIRTH CONTROL.
        It’s not a fatal flaw, you can adjust the dose (and as a petite woman I don’t think I would want a dose calibrated for someone twice my weight), but no one tells people this!

        • Anonymous

          Maybe this is part of why I have such horrible side effects from BC. I am small. Why aren’t there different dosages?

          • Cornellian

            for IUDs there now are! Check out the Skyla, that’s what i had. I’m just small-ish, though, like ~115 not pregnant. It’s marketed for teenaged girls but worked fine for me.

          • Anom

            Maybe, but maybe not. I’m approx 100 lbs. Never had a problem with BCP side effects in almost 20 years of taking them.

  2. Anon

    I am irrationally upset with my husband today because he isn’t as upset about the Supreme Court opinion as I am. He he voted for Hillary, helped me campaign for her in 2016, etc. He obviously thinks the situation is terrible. But it just doesn’t hit him the same way; instead of rage/disbelief he has this kind of sadness, and a “what did everyone expect” view on the situation (which I admit is pragmatic), whereas I am devastated and have been crying on and off all morning. I realize a lot of this is grief and it’s not fair to take this out on other people, but part of me is just angry at him for being male and never having had to worry about someone taking away his bodily autonomy. He texted me about picking up salads for dinner and when he texted me to confirm my choice of salad dressing I almost bit his head off in a text message (did not do that though). I WFH and he’s in the office today; I need to pull myself together before he gets home because this situation is not his fault and it will not help anything for me to lose it at him. Suggestions welcome.

    • Anon

      I don’t think a dude having to undergo some discomfort because of this ruling is a bad thing.

      • Anon

        Right? Also he’s your spouse. You don’t need to ‘pull yourself together’ to be in his presence.

        • Anon

          I canceled our lunch break gardening session because this has put me thoroughly out of the mood. I am sorry to lose out on that fun time, but I don’t feel like I need to manage DH’s feelings here.

    • anon

      My husband asked me this morning “do you just need to rant today, with minimal responses from me” and I’ve never felt more seen. We are all dealing with this in our own way.

      • Anon

        My male bff/coworker wisely said something like this to me today and once my overwhelming rage isn’t trying to shred everything in my path at the injustice of this world, I will thank him.

    • Anonymous

      I can’t imagine spending the day weeping. What good will that do. Go for a walk!

      • ShutIt

        Thanks for showing up as the reliably callous and insensitive poster we can always count on to chime in on any discussion. Great job today. Feel proud of yourself; I assume that’s why you do this

      • Anon

        OP: here is my instinctive emotional reaction to a terrifying political action that will restrict my bodily autonomy.
        YOU: don’t do that with your body, do this instead.

        An episode of Black Mirror written by Stalin could not have conceived of a worse reply than what you just did here. Go back and relearn how to be a human.

        • Anonymous

          Lol taking a walk to calm down when you’re spending a whole day crying is absolutely Stalin self care

          • ShutIt

            Ohhh look at you Anonymous, in here serving what you think are intelligent and pithy responses! Wow, so clever. Although, TBH, these would hit so much better if you could actually type like you were in possession of something above a sixth-grade literacy level! What a shame.

          • Anon

            Do you go home and brag to your cats about what a badass you were on the internet today?

    • anon for this

      My husband also had a “what did you expect” reaction, though he’s still mad that RBG didn’t retire when Obama was in office and could have replaced her.

      I liken it to grief, though, when someone dies after a long illness. You can expect it and still be shaken. I had a good cry last night which is really out of character for me, but the sadness absolutely overwhelmed me.

      • Of Counsel

        Honestly “we knew this was coming” has been more or less my reaction. Literally the first thing I said when RBG died (after F*CK) was “well, there goes Roe v. Wade”.

        But the analogy to grief is a good one. I am sad. I am not shocked.

    • Nora

      Some of my male coworkers are trying to dissect this in a more political/game theory way and the female coworkers gave them a warning look or word when they were being too callous, and in their defense, they backed off. I’m very upset by it but definitely not crying. Not “what did everyone expect” but also what is crying going to do.

        • anon

          Seriously! Wtf? The irony of criticizing how a woman chooses to handle her emotions about her rights being striped away…

        • Curious

          I read this one as just parsing her own reaction. I didn’t cry either. I feel downtrodden and that makes me numb out. I am glad there are people alive enough to the injustice to cry.

          • Seventh Sister

            Me too – I feel like the pandemic made me unable to cry/emotionally dead inside. But after an entire childhood of getting yelled at for crying, I’m not yelling at anyone who can still cry.

        • pugsnbourbon

          Yeah damn I ducked into an empty office this morning when I got overwhelmed. I regularly donate to abortion funds. I can do stuff AND also have human emotions.

        • Anon

          This! I’m not a crier generally (I tend toward angry when upset), but hey, crying can be healthy! And she can do what she damn well wants!

      • Anonymous

        As a woman who had a very visceral initial response, I think it is incredibly important to discuss and understand the political machinations that are making the dehumanization of women possible. We didn’t take the political strategy that led to this seriously enough.

      • Ramble

        This is what I posted on the Mom’s page and this is why I cried today. I don’t show emotions outwardly on a normal day – I’ve never cried at work, but I did today the more I read about the decision, it’s implications and inevitably reliving my own experience and trauma. The post:

        TW, MC, Roe, Abortion

        I had to have an emergency, unmedicated, manual abortion in November after a failed IVF transfer around 8 weeks. Baby was not viable and I was medically at risk. I’ve had an undue amount of personal tragedy in my life to be honest, and to date this goes down as the most traumatic I’ve ever experienced. It also came after 2 years of IVF.

        With today’s news, I find myself caught somewhere between wanting to turn off the news altogether, ignore all of it, and being so angry that I can’t even seem to function properly. To think this procedure I had – horrendous as it was – would not be available to someone in my exact shoes is beyond comprehension. I was reading on another s !te about different types of abortions, nuances of week X vs week y, and found myself kind of reliving it all, basically in low key tears at my desk. But I’m guilty feeling like this knowing I’m undoubtedly a privilaged white lady with means who lives in a deep blue state and will probably be a-ok.

        I don’t really know what my point is. Maybe give everyone a little extra grace as this new plays out? No one in my circle really knows what happened to me on Nov 1. They just vaguely know I had an IVF transfer and miscarried and that I had a really hard procedure but I’m fine now. This is striking me in ways I never anticipated, and I’m sure there are others like me out there.

      • Anonymous

        What surprises me most about this is that you’re discussing abortion at work

        • Velma

          I discussed it FOR work today. I’m in higher ed communications, and the leak was the sole topic of a regular media relations meeting that normally covers 3+ stories.

          • Anon

            I’m in higher ed comms too and am so confused how this would come up in a media relations meeting.

    • KS IT Chick

      Pregnancy is a visceral reality for women. For men, the impact is more abstract until the baby arrives. The threat of having to carry a non viable pregnancy to term, risking death and/or long term health problems to do so, affects women in a way that most men never internalize.

      For those for whom the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy are theoretical at best, they can afford to play thought games. Those of us who risk our lives and livelihoods don’t have that luxury.

      • Anonymous

        It’s not just the consequences of an unwanted pregnancy. It’s the risks of a wanted pregnancy as well.

        • Anon

          Yeah, as an affluent person who could travel for an abortion (internationally and for an extended period of time, if need be), I’m not at all worried about how I would terminate an unwanted pregnancy. I am extremely worried about what would happen if I had a wanted pregnancy that was endangering my life and doctors couldn’t act quickly enough to save me because they were worried about violating anti-abortion laws.

    • Anon

      It’s ok to cry and I think it’s ok to show your husband your anguish. Probably not ok to take it out on him, but that’s a very human thing to do.
      Be gentle with yourself. A walk, workout or nap could help here if you have the time.i haven’t had the time and may not to today but it’s on the list.
      This article may help: https://jessica.substack.com/p/surviving-the-end-of-roe?s=r

      • Anonymous

        So Other Guy would have stopped this? Seriously, this is the dumbest takeaway I’ve heard yet.

      • Anon

        Since this quote is utterly without context, I’ll supply some.

        “Life begins at conception, that’s the Church’s judgment. I accept it in my personal life,” [Biden] said. “But I refuse to impose it on equally devout Christians and Muslims and Jews, and I just refuse to impose that on others, unlike my friend here, the congressman [Paul Ryan].”

        As a Jewish person I appreciate and respect his religious beliefs and the fact that he’s not forcing his religious beliefs on me. I would never push my religious beliefs (which prioritize the mother’s life and consider the fetus to be part of the mother’s body until birth) on a Catholic person who doesn’t want an abortion, and am grateful Joe Biden keeps his religious views in his personal life and doesn’t want to impose his faith’s beliefs on others.

    • An.On.

      Oh, I was ranting this morning and definitely got a sense from my husband he thought I was overreacting, and sure, I will probably never have to worry about safe access to abortion, myself, PERSONALLY, but I just wanted him to be outraged too. Maybe that would have made it worse though, since I feel both incandescent and impotent which is an awful combination.

      I am going to try to (a) cherish my husband for all the ways he supports me, (b) remember that he is firmly on my side regardless of how poorly he may express it, and (c) not lash out because it’s definitely not his fault, and it’s better to have at least one of us who is not wallowing in hellish misery right now. This will be my mantra.

    • Anonymous

      Do you abortion enthusiasts understand that your (limited) credibility has been demolished by forced vaccinations? COVID vaccine mandates on everyone, including pregnant women, which didn’t even measurably reduce COVID spread or prevent it were fine but nowww you all want to cry about the government telling you what to do? Impossible to reconcile.

      • Anon

        Literally no human in the US was forced to get a Covid vaccine. This is a terrible analogy.

        • Anonymous

          Anon at 4:17, you’re wrong. People were coerced to keep their jobs, fired if they didn’t get the shot and have been ostracized from society for being unvaxxed. You must not live in Cali or NYC.

          • Anon

            I didn’t get vaccinated, but I have not been ostracized either. I just don’t trumpet my status for that particular vaccine. I’ve continued to work, gone to the store and even (gasp!) gone to the movies. How I’ve done it is not material. However, I’ve missed events where the COV-19 vaccine was mandatory, citing other reasons. No one’s business.

          • Anon

            for many many many years vaccines have been required to do certain things. kids need them to enroll in most schools, for some places of employment, etc.

          • Anon

            If you can’t understand the difference between losing privileges for your choice of not getting a vaccine, and being forced to gestate and birth a child against your will, you need to go back to grade school and re-learn logic.

            The Covid equivalent to outlawing all abortions would be forcing people to get vaccinated or face criminal penalties. I believe some countries may have done that, but the US definitely did not.

          • Anon

            LOL being told you can’t go to the movies because you don’t want to get a vaccine is not the same as being unable to obtain necessary and in some cases life-saving medical care because the government believes the embryo inside you has more rights than you. Get a grip.

          • Jolene

            And yet, nowhere in this country was it ILLEGAL not to get the vaccine. See the difference? Idiot.

          • Anon

            I’ve traveled to places with vaccine “mandates.” If you make a choice (emphasis on CHOICE!) not to get the vaccine, you lose some privileges. No one is forcing you to get vaccinated. You’d also be turned away from most restaurants for showing up topless. Is the government taking away your bodily autonomy by “forcing” you to wear a shirt??

          • Anonymous

            You’ll have an argument when the US sends people to jail for refusing the Covid vaccine. Hasn’t happened and will never happen.

        • Anon

          Imagine a world in which it is 100% legal to get an abortion but if you do, you can lose your job.

          Sounds like you’re prevented from getting an abortion, right? While no one would be throwing you into a cell while you gestate, you’re still not given a choice. Same thing with vaccine mandates.

          It’s actually really important to understand how carrots and sticks in laws work.

          • Anonymous

            But you did have a choice and in fact lots of people chose to quit their jobs over vaccine mandates. Choice! What pregnant people no longer have. Pregnant women aren’t being threatened with a lost job (lol that already happens, it’s called pregnancy discrimination). They’re being told they can’t get an abortion and facing jail time if they get one illegally.

            If the penalty for having an abortion was job loss, you’d have a point. But it’s not! It’s actually really important to understand the difference between getting fired and going to jail.

          • Jolene

            I mean, in a sense you’re prevented, yes. But not prevented in the same way you are if it’s illegal and criminalized. Obviously.

            I’m also not allowed to bring a gun to my office, which prevents me from freely carrying a gun there unless I want to be fired. Is there any difference between that and being prevented from owning a gun at all? I can’t tell any difference, for I am Stupid!

      • ShutIt

        Okay Anonymous, dig deep because I know you have it in you: now we just need a follow-up post mentioning Hunter Biden’s laptop and we’ll have the conservative trifecta! Vaccines, abortions and the infamous laptop. Little disappointed you didn’t manage to work that talking point in up-front, but hey – I understand that for conservatives, parroting talking points is what you do in lieu of developing an actual personality, or ideas of your own. ‘Cause that’s hard. I’ll give you some grace and hope that you can come up with something. I believe in you!

        • Anon

          The 75 million people who vote differently than you cannot be painted with a broad brush like that. If you believe what you’re saying, do the emotional work of examining your own need to regurgitate talking points and ignore nuanced thinking.

      • Anonymous

        You are attacking “credibility” using a fundamentally false narrative. Vaccine use hasn’t been mandated by law and it has helped in prevention of disease occurrence (thus spread) and severity (saving lives–supposedly you care about that, yes?).

        You’ll do more to support anti-abortion if you’re aren’t just making things up.

      • anonshmanon

        You can’t go to jail for not getting a vaccine. Not even a little bit.

          • Anon

            There are criminal penalties for getting or performing an abortion in states where it’s outlawed. There are no criminal penalties for declining the Covid vaccine or any other vaccine. Done. You’re annoying.

          • Anon

            Being told you can’t go into a restaurant isn’t the same thing as being forced to gestate for 9 months and give birth against your will? Too bad so sad you lost some privileges because you wouldn’t get vaccinated. Are you in jail? Were you forced to spend most of a year pregnant? If not it’s not the same.

          • Senior Attorney

            Not to mention there are no public health benefits to forcing a woman to carry a pregnancy to term against her will.

          • Anon

            You’re really coming through like you’re someone we should take seriously, LOL. Keep trying, I guess.

    • Ellen

      You can be nice to him when he comes home. I am sure he will understand that you feel more strongly about the issue then he does. Men do not have to carry children and I know through my sister and others what a tough route that is. I am frustrated b/c I doubt I will ever concieve a child b/c I wasted to much time waiting for my ex to grow up. It never happened and now my e’ggs are not as fertile as they used to be. Rosa has 4 kids, so I am sure I could have had a few myself. But I focused on my career and time went by. I am campaigning against the Supreme Court decision and will support any bill that preserves our right to choose, including having an abortion when necessary. That is a fundamental right. Any man who says otherwise should be banned from our bedrooms permanently. FOOEY on men who are such neanderthals.

  3. anon

    Do any of you have a side hustle that you’d be willing to talk about? I have a small business that I’m thinking about starting. I believe there’s at least a small local market for it. To be honest, it would be more of a passion project than something to supplement my income. It is in the creative realm and completely unrelated to my actual day job, which is part of the appeal. I already do this for myself and feel like there’s a way that I could do this for others and have fun doing so.

    However. What I do not understand is how people find the time to do a side hustle. This would be a seasonal project. Is the answer taking massive amounts of vacation time? This is related to actual gardening in the dirt, so being able to do this side hustle in the daylight (or dusk) is key, haha.

    The more I think about logistics, the more I talk myself out of it. DH says I shouldn’t let logistics get in the way, but it’s a real consideration.

    • Anonymous

      My friend started a hobby flower farm last year. She’d get off work at 5 and head to the garden every day and then Saturday sell at the farmers market. She has vowed to never do it again

    • Anon

      I was a travel blogger and “microinfluencer” (less than 5k followers on Instagram) for a couple years. I earned essentially zero cash income, but got quite a bit of free and subsidized travel out of it. Travel and planning travel (even for others) is one of my biggest passions, but it got a lot less fun when I made it a job. I think that’s a pretty common experience. It was also extremely time-consuming. I have a very chill 9-5 job that I rarely need to actually work at for anywhere near 40 hours, but even so the travel blogging and influencing took up a lot of time on nights and weekends. When I had a baby I just didn’t have that kind of free time anymore and gave it up, although I still have some connections in that world and am considering getting back into it on a limited basis once my kids are older. I did find the creative outlet really fulfilling. I think the right balance for me would be doing the blogging to have the creative outlet but not accepting any discounted or sponsored travel so I’m not accountable to anyone and not doing the social media stuff (which I hated and always made me feel bad about myself when I didn’t get the expected number of “likes” or whatever), so that’s what I’m trying to do now.

      I think it’s worth a shot! Worst case, you can always quit, right? I’m getting into (actual) gardening this year too. It’s fun and a great way to get outdoors.

    • HFB

      If it’s flower farming, I have done a lot of research for this myself. It’s my go-to if I ever decide to quit being a lawyer or win the lottery. If you aren’t really in it for the money it might be fun/fine. But based on my research and observation I get the impression the ppl who really make money on it make it by being social media influencers, publishing books, and teaching seminars. Erin Bezakein aka Floret is one of the well known people who does this. And it is a full time job for her.

      If it IS flower farming that you are thinking of and you want to chat/brainstorm, post an email acct and I’ll reach out to you! Like I said this is something I’ve thought about a lot for myself and would love to chat and compare notes with someone else who has the urge. If nothing else we can have a friendly debate in which flowers are prettiest. :-)

      • HFB

        PS: I do have practical thoughts on how to make the timing work without devoting every spare minute to it, but it mainly boils down to getting lucky with the weather.

    • Monday

      I’d love to say “don’t let logistics get in the way,” but so much of life is logistics! They’re not “in the way,” they’re a major part of accomplishing anything (unless you have a large personal staff to handle everything for you).

      I have a hobby that I sometimes do for money, but it’s at specific scheduled events or appointments with no overhead and almost no prep. I don’t think I could do anything more than this while working full-time. I used to be a fitness instructor, teaching up to 4-6 times per week, but that was at a time when my main job was low-stress and mostly WFH.

      In neither of these cases was I relying on income from the side gig. That would have been additionally stressful, including its “logistics” (such as the tax hit on 1099 income).

      • Anon

        + A million to your first paragraph.

        I would never try to monetize a hobby, personally, because I think that would take all of the fun out of it for me.

        • Anon

          I took a crafting class recently and I really loved it when the instructor got up and said, “I like to tell everyone that this can be a fun, relaxing hobby that allows you to be creative and it does not have to become a ‘side hustle.’ You don’t have to worry about how to monetize it, now or ever.” I feel like we’ve lost that somehow – that it’s okay to just have a hobby; you don’t have to make money at it.

    • Anon

      My side hustle only works because my FT job is mostly asynchronous and independent, and my side hustle can be done any time of day. What you’re proposing would be way too much stress for me.

    • Anon

      Not my side hustle, but I had a legal assistant that had a wedding cake business on the side. She took off every Friday in the spring and summer. Maybe worked 10 hours Monday through Thursday? It was something she negotiated with the firm.

    • Bonnie Kate

      My side hustle is teaching yoga – I’m currently in the process of opening a yoga studio (super low cost rent in a business incubator keeps it an easy side hustle – yay small towns that just want empty buildings filled :)).

      It definitely is a passion project – something that gives me energy rather than expecting money. I tried to do it full time one time for about 5 months and it started to take a lot of the love out of it – I no longer believe in making what you love your primary source of income. I like my job where I make good money to live, I love teaching yoga, and my life is better when I do both for those reasons alone.

      Regarding time – when you begin, can you just begin with your surplus? You say you already do this for yourself – so this year plant 1.5 times what you normally do, and see how that goes? It’s hard to know if it would work without knowing what it is exactly, but starting really micro-small is probably the easiest entry.

      Also, I manage the time to have a side hustle by not having kids. Not trying to be snarky at all – I just look at my friends with kids and know I have much more time than they do. My job is 40-50 hours a week, so plenty of time on week nights and weekends.

  4. Anon

    OP from this mornings post on palliative care

    thank you for the responses and even questions to other posters.

    I believe letting your loved one guide you. here’s why the Thing is so urgently needed by all of us:

    you think that you will be able to be present to make these decisions and sometimes you might be but sometimes you are not.

    it is a world of worry on top of grief to make these decisions and setup care for someone. if i didn’t know what my loved one wants, I’d be doubly upset although I cannot imagine being more hurt than right now.

    • Anon

      I posted this morning about experiences with both home hospice and inpatient hospice for my parents. In addition to ensuring that you have all of the necessary legal forms, I recommend the publication “Five Wishes” available from https://agingwithdignity.org/ for a lovely framework for discussions about what an individual’s personal preference s are with respect to end of life care and decisions.

    • Anonymous

      I just went back and read the thread. I have a lot of experience with both palliative care and hospice care due to a sick spouse. A few points to add:
      Palliative care and hospice are NOT the same thing, even when they are provided by the same doctors or the same facility. You mentioned above but we were talking about palliative care, but the prior thread was only about hospice.Many people shy away from palliative care, which can be enormously helpful and chronic illness, because they think it’s the same as hospice and it’s not. It can also provide a bridge to hospice which can be helpful if people aren’t ready for hospice.

      I also wanted to echo people who said that most people wait far too long for hospice. There’s actually data that shows it is life extending for a lot of people if they sign up early enough but very few people do.

      Finally the people who said it usually takes place at home or right. They’re very few facilities left inpatient, or they are inpatient as part of a hospital, but the pandemic has really done a number on this area of healthcare too unfortunately. There have been many cuts and layoffs with the very large urban hospital hospice practice in my area.

      • Anon

        OP from morning here.

        anon at 445 pm thank you! you are right but my couldn’t think of the word hospice.

        i really appreciate your thoughts as well as the poster who shared the link and book.

        burner email for the person who offered h.rette13@gmail.com

        if anyone wants a compilation deel free to email me but i promise replies may be many months (i hope longer) to follow

        • AnonMD

          Hi OP, I’m the palliative care doctor from yesterday. I emailed you last night at the burner email you posted — should be an email with the subject “Corporette hello” from my personal gmail account. Please post again here if you didn’t get my email. I’ll keep an eye on this thread throughout the day.

          And I want to echo what another poster wrote above about the differences between palliative care and hospice. Early palliative care improves quality of life, and several studies suggest that it can extend life for people with certain diagnoses. If you think it’s too early, it’s probably not! Access to high-quality palliative care is a different matter, though. Five Wishes (also cited above) is a helpful resource for describing your healthcare wishes. I’d also recommend The Conversation Project to guide this process, especially with family members.

  5. Interview tips

    I’m looking for a new in-house role after only 2 years. I am underpaid and the company does not have enough structure for me (it’s a F500, but it feels like a startup). What’s the politically correct way to communicate this when interviewing?

    • AnonQ

      Talk about what excited you about the open position, not what you dislike. Eg, I enjoy and excel at X, which is a minor piece of current role but major piece of new role.

      • Jolene

        For sure. After 2 years it’s not even notable that you’d be ready to move on. Presumably the role you’re applying for is a step up in title or responsibility – why you’re interested in the role versus your current role would be self-evident. Talk about why you’re enthusiastic about the mission and culture of the new company instead.

  6. Anon

    We finally have COVID in our house (I expected it in January but it is here). As predicted, kids were a vector with a breakthrough infection. For those of you who have been in this boat, did it run through your house or was it just random who it hit and when? I spent the day cancelling the next 10 days of our lives and yet I feel on pause for the rest of the month. Surely we will be able to make our early June travel plans? [Glad I got trip insurance, although I have not read all of the fine print.] Right now it’s just 1 of the 4 of us, all vaxxed and boosted if eligible.

    • Anon

      You should be fine in early June. Omicron has a short incubation period, so my guess is you’ll all have it within a week and be done with isolation by mid-May.

      • Cat

        if you’re going international and need to test negative, you could have the exhausting nightmare scenario where rather than all 4 of you getting it at once and therefore your family is all good to test negative in 4 weeks…. you all catch it sequentially and so one person is still actively contagious in a month.

        • Anon

          That would be a super long incubation period though. It’s normally 2-3 days with omicron.

          • anon

            That scenario is playing out everywhere around me – siblings and good friends. It’s consistently taking some families of four around me 2-3 weeks for everyone to test positive. Totally anecdata, but I can point to at least 5 families in my locus that had this very recent experience. Unvaxxed kids are missing around 4-5 weeks of school, with the first bit of quarantine for contact with a positive mom/dad/older sibling and the second but their own quarantine when they test positive.

          • Anon

            My anecdata is the opposite. Everyone in the family has gotten it within 10 days.

          • Anon

            But even if it takes 3 weeks that isn’t going to impact June travel? If the travel is June 1 they just need the last person to test positive no later May 26. That’s almost a month from now.

      • Anon

        I know you think you’re making some kind of anti abortion point, but the fact that once you have a kid you’re responsible for it forever is actually a reason why women should have choice.

        • anonymous

          S.A. (or any others), in your view, what is the difference between a small child and a fetus that justifies the violent, painful, and intentional killing of the fetus?

          • Anon

            The difference is a child is A HUMAN BEING that can live outside the mother. A fetus before the point of viability can’t live outside the human body its growing in.

            Fetuses do not feel pain before the third trimester, and abortion in the third trimester is not legal in the US even under Roe. The vast majority of abortions are performed before 20 weeks. Please talk to an actual OB about this. They almost uniformly support women’s reproductive rights.

            Please explain to us why abortions shouldn’t be allowed in cases of miscarriage and ectopic pregnancies or where the fetus has a fatal condition and is certain to live a brief and terrible life if it’s born alive. And if you believe in these exceptions, explain what your plan is to make your party understand the necessity of those exceptions because currently a lot of states are just planning blanket bans on abortion.

          • Anon

            One of them is a small child and the other is a fetus. Are you terminally stupid??

          • Senior Attorney

            I reject your premise. Abortion is a “the violent, painful, and intentional killing.” And a fetus is not a child.

            Give it a rest. If you don’t like abortions, don’t have one.

          • Anon

            ” violent, painful, and intentional killing”
            LOL. Sorry you have been so brainwashed that you can’t distinguish fantasy from reality or reasonably evaluate facts.

          • anonymous

            The responses so far have just said something akin to a “child is not a fetus” or vice versa. Those are just words. Can anyone explain any essential difference between a child and a fetus that justifies killing one and not the other?

          • Anon

            A fetus before the point of viability can’t eat or drink or breathe air and won’t survive without its mother’s blood supply. How many children do you know that can’t breathe and need to be attached to their mother’s placenta by a cord?

          • Aunt Jamesina, Abortion Enthusiast

            …you want people to explain this without using words? Are charades okay? Perhaps a puppet show?

          • PolyD

            What’s the difference between a “baby” dying because a woman has an abortion or a child in kidney failure dying because they can’t get a kidney? Why not mandate that everyone who is capable must donate a kidney? Most of us can live perfectly fine with one. Why should a born child die because you selfishly want to go through life with an extra kidney? Why should a living human die because we don’t have enough of their blood type? Why not mandate that all people must donate blood so that others might live?

            No one ever answers this question. I mentioned earlier, a friend of mine donated a kidney and that procedure was much easier on her than her pregnancy was.

          • Anon

            You can’t even be made to donate an organ after death unless you’ve given express consent before you died. Corposes literally have more rights than living women in the US now.

          • Anon

            I’m also curious about how the right reconciles the organ donation thing. If my human child would die a horrible, painful death without a kidney transplant, but would easily survive with a transplant from me and I’m a perfect match, I am under no legal obligation to give her a kidney. I can just say “Nope!” and watch her die. (Of course, I wouldn’t, but I have the legal right to.) Why do I have the legal right to kill my actual living, breathing, walking, talking human child, but can’t terminate a fetus that’s inside me, can’t breathe, eat or talk, depends on my body for survival and essentially functions as one of my body parts? It’s bananacrackers.

      • Anonymous Canadian

        This is a horrifying comment. It feels to me like this site is becoming more and more difficult to read. The nasty comments seem to have become particularly dreadful in the last few months. I hope that the moderators find a way to address the situation.

        • Anonymous Canadian

          And interestingly enough, my comment (posted at 4:14) is awaiting moderation, although the one which prompted it was posted.

          • Cat

            FWIW, posts that use the word m-d are automatically sent to m-d. Also s-te. And anything with c-ll-r, tr-ns or e-t-t-e while I’m at it.

          • Senior Attorney

            Heh, I’m all “caller?” And then I remembered our resident shirt enthusiast…

          • Anon

            The only one crying here is you, toots. And man is it both sad and hilarious, all at the same time.

    • No Face

      Friends of mine has only 2/6 in the house actually get COVID. The rest stayed symptomless and negative. It’s possible!

      • Diana Barry

        +1, 2 of my kids got it but the other 3 of us did not. We did make them stay in their rooms though!

          • BeenThatGuy

            Right? She is a real monster for protecting the rest of her family.

            FYI, this is literally what every family on the planet has been doing when COVID came knocking at their door.

          • Anonymous

            Not cruel–just common sense with a disease that is far different than your typical cold or flu. Given how many individuals with even mild cases are experiencing issues with blood clotting and nerve damage a year later and we don’t know what longer term will mean, I’d be wanting to give my other kids and the rest of the family the best chance at avoiding it for as long as possible. As long as your kids have entertainment and someone looking after them, having them rest or play in their rooms for a few days isn’t cruel in any way. What’s worse is playing roulette with everyone else’s health and possibly having your child go through life with the burden of a sibling or parent with a chronic condition when they didn’t have to.

    • Celia

      My husband and four year old got Covid 1 weeks ago. We figured that me and the 1.5 year old had been exposed so took no isolation steps in our small house and just all quarantined together. I never tested positive nor did the toddler.

  7. Anonymous

    So say you are looking to buy a house outside of DC and are/were looking in Virginia only. Would you now look in DC or Maryland instead? I know people aren’t going to sell their homes and move, and if you’re in N. Va. it’s not that big of a deal for you to get to DC or a blue state for anything you need; lots of people in N. Va. are wealthy enough that it’s NBD to go anywhere but even for poorer people, DC/Va/MD are like a tri-state area. But if you don’t already own a home, would this cause you to not buy in Va? For those who aren’t aware – Dems barely have a majority in one house; Reps control the other house; Rep governor.

    • Anonymous

      Do you have kids that you want in public school? There is currently an all-out assault being waged on public schools by the state government in VA.

    • Anon

      so i’m from MD and would probably not look in VA anyway :-) …but if you were already looking in VA, go there and let your vote mean something. if i was looking to pick up and move to someplace like TX or similar, it might have an impact.

    • Anon

      The people’s republic of Arlington is not going to change. It’s funny how the rest of VA sees us and then again how the rest of our area sees us.

      • More Sleep Would Be Nice

        I lived in Arlington for 7 years and “People’s Republic” is so apt. (And I am a pretty blue voter myself – but damn the echo chamber got hard for me after a while!)

    • Anon

      No. MD and VA are purple states – their rural areas are red and their urban areas are blue and their governors change with the political mood. I can’t speak for MD, but I know VA’s deep red SW corner has been losing population (and thus power) for decades, while blue NoVA has been gaining. Choose whichever you’re naturally drawn to (and rarely have I met people who change between the two – #teamva here ;) )

    • Anonymous

      I live in DC, I love DC, but DC is not a state. VA could theoretically enshrine abortion rights into law. For now, Congress could ban abortion in DC.

    • Anon

      No, absolutely not. VA is unlikely to ban anything other than 3rd trimester abortions (which are already illegal in quite a few states and those bans have been permitted under Roe). A GOP governor does not = an abortion ban. I’m in MA and Governor Baker (a Republican) has forcefully said abortion will remain legal in MA. As has Sununu in NH – another Republican. Youngkin being personally pro-life also does not equal an abortion ban without a large majority in the state legislature.

      • Jolene

        Not sure why you say they need a large majority. A bare majority would suffice and is very close to happening.

        • Anon

          Okay, a majority of Republicans who are willing to outlaw abortion, which was my point – you’d need a large GOP majority to get to a majority of Republicans who are willing to outlaw it. VA is a purple state – politicians tend to do what’s popular.

      • Anonymous

        BTW a New England republican and a southern state republican aren’t the same, nor are their constituents.

        • Anon

          This is true but I don’t think outlawing abortion outright would be popular in Virginia and politicians don’t normally do things that are wildly unpopular.

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