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I really like this. Good pick.
I agree, great pick, Kat! Normally, I do not care much about stuff like this on my wrist, I like this one b/c I think I would look a lot like Gil Gadot wearing these on both wrists (though she is not a blond like me). Gil is very cute has a great body and I think dated Leonardo DiCaprio?. For those of you in the HIVE that do not know or follow her like me, she played Wonderwoman in the movie! Well worth watching! YAY!!!
Have you flown across the country to attend a baby shower? A good friend of mine is having her first early next year. I love her and want to celebrate with her, but she lives a 6 hour flight away. Just curious what people have done. I don’t think she has any expectation that I would make it, on the other hand it would be fun to go.
Great if you can and want to see your friend and can spend time with her then. It would definitely be above and beyond, though – I typically assume mostly local people and/or close family will attend showers. I picked a day for my baby shower when a few non-local friends were in town with family following a holiday, but were able to come to the shower on their way out of town.
I would also suggest talking to friend to ask if this would be a good time to visit or if it would make more sense to play a just-you weekend another time, since she may have family in town that limits her availability.
Can you combine the trip with something else so you aren’t going just for the one couple-hour afternoon event? I live east coast and have flown to west coast for graduations, bridal showers, and other similar one-day events. I try to combine it with seeing family and objectively I feel like supporting friends and seeing family is the right thing to do, but in the end I always actually question whether it was worth the time, money, and effort. 6 hour flights are a lot for a weekend where you aren’t even getting one on one time with your friend.
i have not. i have flown to attend a bridal shower, but it was also really an excuse to see my friend who also lived in a different state than where the bridal shower was being hosted and i got to spend all weekend with my friend because i was the only out of town guest and i stayed with her and her family. somewhat selfishly another reason i did this was because it was my first time attending a bridal shower and my own bridal shower was taking place a few months later and i kind of wanted to have some idea of what to expect and i was going to be missing my friend’s bachelorette. go if you want to but depending on what your friend is like/the festivities planned, manage your expectations. do you expect to be able to spend all weekend with your friend? if you do, could it be better to visit a different weekend or plan a weekend for once the baby is born, or both? all depends on your time/resources.
For just the shower? No. However, if it was a long weekend type of thing where I would get to spend more time with my friend, I would consider it, yes. I wouldn’t fly 6 hours for a two-day weekend or a day.
No, I haven’t and I wouldn’t. If you want to go spend a weekend with your friend, go. If it’s the weekend of the shower, sure, go to the shower, too. If you LOVE showers, sure, fly there just for the shower.
But I guess I’m of a generation where the idea of this kind of travel simply to attend a shower just didn’t exist. They were parties, not Events. A friend who couldn’t be there might send a gift.
But again, if you want to go visit your friend for a weekend, there’s no reason not to go. (Just make sure that it’s a good weekend for you to visit and the shower isn’t adding all kinds of stuff to her schedule that means she can’t really see you).
I haven’t, but if you can combine it with other things as the previous posters mentioned, it makes sense. I typically don’t do long trips for life events (other than weddings) but always send a nice gift and note and people seem fine with it.
I mean, I love my friends, but baby showers kind of suck. Why don’t you visit when your friend is ready to have a visitor? Then you can actually spend time with the baby.
I would not expect anyone to get on a plane for my baby shower (which will probably be in the next month or two).
Send a gift, if you would like, and plan some time to visit her without the chaos of the baby shower. It will be much more worthwhile, and so much changes once her baby arrives that she’ll appreciate the time with you now.
+1. Send a gift, or come another time to just spend time with friend before baby comes. It’s hard to focus on a friend at a shower.
I love to take trips and can usually swing domestic air travel and a day off of work. I never take a big or expensive vacation for myself, so these life events where I can see family or friends really make me happy.
Flying is a bonus — much better than a 6 hour drive where you can neither drink nor people watch. Stay somewhere fun (which may be with friends) and have a great time if you do go.
FWIW I drove 8 hours for my own baby shower at 7.5 months pregnant. Lots of pit stops! But it let me see a lot of dear college friends and my in-laws before going dark for a while with the baby.
The only person I would fly to attend their baby shower is my sister. But I also figure I would be spending the whole weekend with her, so it would be lots of family time with a few hours at the baby shower. Absent that or for anyone else, it would not be worth it for me.
I’ve not done for baby shower, but have for surprise graduation party and similar level events. It’s an amazing way to show support. But I don’t think it is in any way expected for anyone to fly to a baby shower.
I have driven 8 hours for a wedding shower and 2 baby showers for the same friend (and I would do it again if she had another baby). However! I don’t just go to the shower when I do these trips–I have other very good friends in the same city, so I plan a whole long weekend of friend time. I don’t think I would do it literally just to attend the shower, but I like making a weekend of it and getting to spend time with friends to celebrate a happy event. As a note, we are close enough that I also drove up to see the babies within a month of their being born.
I didn’t, even for my BFF. It was a month before she delivered, two trips in two months wasn’t in the budget (financially and with PTO) and I wanted to meet the baby when he was brand new.
While I don’t think you are obligated to, I would also note that I have never regretted the long travel I’ve done for close friends. Weddings, bachelorettes, and baby showers that required significant travel sometimes make me groan when I first get the invite but I try to go if I can afford it/it works with my schedule, and I’ve ALWAYS felt it was worth it. Also, I’m increasingly finding with my friends that these are our few chances to see each other – we don’t have long girls trips as frequently nor do we live close enough for weekends together, so at least with my group of friends, opting out of these is really opting out of the friendship in some pretty big ways. If we had more touch points outside of life events I would probably feel differently though.
No, and wouldn’t unless it was a close family member. I would have considered it last fall for my only female cousin, but her mother decided to plan it for Thanksgiving weekend. I likely would have gone had it been almost any other weekend of the year. And of course, I would have been including time to visit with a lot of my other family while I was home. I’m also pregnant and would absolutely not expect anyone to fly in to attend my shower.
A six hour FLIGHT? Good lord, no. I mean, if you want to go, by all means, go for it. But don’t in any way feel obligated.
No not even for my bff. I flew for her oldest’s 1st birthday but that was it. I’ve visited them multiple times since but not for baby shower/birthday events.
If I’m getting on a flight to see you then I want to actually spend time with you. Maybe that weekend would be perfect because she’ll have friends and family in town who can take the baby so you can grab lunch or something… but it’s more likely that she’ll be busy and a bit frazzled then. Personally, I prefer to have a girls’ spa weekend a couple of months before the due date and then come visit the baby sometime over the year after.
On saturday I’m headed to an event where I’ll be photographed quite a bit. What are your favorite de-puffing tricks for this week? I’d like to drink extra water and get plenty of sleep, but what else should I keep in mind? I’d especially like to reduce any puffiness around my jaw and face.
Don’t eat high sodium foods.
+1. Don’t eat out, don’t eat processed foods.
Try some face masks! Eye masks with caffeine will be especially good for this!
The Ordinary has a nice caffeine serum that you can get from Sephora.
A few high-intensity workouts, lots of water, low sodium foods, lots of healthy food.
I don’t about the workouts – YMMV may vary with that. A little bit can be helpful, but too much may have the opposite effect. I end up retaining a lot of water if I do too much as my muscles repair themselves. I’d focus more on the low sodium and lots of water this week.
No, you need more than “a little bit.” Get your heartrate up and your skin will look better for it. Just don’t use the elliptical for 2 hours or run a marathon.
I agree with this – lots of running depuffs me. I’d focus more on cardio than strength maybe. Except if you’re going to be showing arm or leg, I might do one good lifting session within 24 hours of the event.
And this might be obvious, but no alcohol.
I’ve never tried it but apparently you can use Preparation H to depuff undereyes!
I just want to say as someone who was an exceptionally strong and exceptionally tall girl, that I am 100% here for Gwendolyn Christie’s dress last night at the Emmys.
Also: I am happy that someone can knock it out of the park and not be nekkid / need lots of fashion tape to avoid a malfunction (as happens to me in any wrap dress). So nice to have options that leave you free to move, eat, hug, and move about at will without being concerned that you will pop out of your dress / rupture your Spanx.
I was super here for that dress. I was not a fan of her hair, but got a huge kick out of the dress.
My favorite look was one that did not appear very comfortable, but I loved Rachel Brosnahan’s (Marvelous Mrs. Maisel) hair, makeup, and dress.
I liked her flame dress hair better but otherwise perfection!
She was just regal.
Love her. I felt bad that they styled her the way they did on Game of Thrones (though I know it was plot necessary), because she is smoking.
I LOVED it! She was stunning
Loved the dress, admired that she was willing to wear it in what was over 90ﾟ heat. It had to be sweltering on that carpet.
Cleaning Marble and Oak Hardwood
Can you share how you clean these surfaces/floors? There is so much conflicting stuff out there. Currently vaccuuming/sweeping and then just using dish soap diluted in water, but this is inconvenient, doesn’t really work well on floors, and I would like to come up with something else.
For our oak hardwoods, I’ve had good luck with the Bona floor cleaners and polishes.
Great question thanks! I hear people like Bona for wood floors, but for me it just seems to smear dirt around and looks hazy. I have been using a Shark on the tough areas (dog drool).
we had our floors refinished and they told us to never ever ever use a shark on our wood floors- it steams the finish right off.
I use Method Hardwood Floor cleaner and hot water for my wood floors. It smells good and works well. Marble, I got nothin… that stuff’s a PITA any way you look at it. I tend to think it’s considered a “luxury” finish not because of its looks or relative scarcity but because you practically need to hire help in order to maintain marble.
I vacuum and use Mrs Myers all-purpose concentrate (diluted per instructions) on our wood floors. I also rinse the mop before dipping it in soap after each section of floor. Our floors are sealed with polyurethane; I think some of the conflicting advice is because finishes vary, but in this day and age I think poly (as opposed to just wax) is pretty common.
I’ve always heard that you don’t want anything sopping wet on hardwood. We vacuum, then use a Swiffer with washable microfiber pads, and a spray bottle with a roughly 1:10 ratio of Simple Green to water.
This might be a better question for AAM but I want to see what the group here says since there are a lot of lawyers here. I work for a small PI firm. I have an assistant but the firm also has a part time paralegal with a medical background to assist with the more complicated medical cases. I thought I had a pretty simple system going since the paralegal is only here once/week or so. I expect my assistant to be in charge of requesting and summarizing medical records and if a case is particularly complex/confusing she may assign it to the paralegal. I have found out that my assistant has been assigning all of her medical record work to the paralegal. I have now clarified again that the paralegal is extremely part time and she should only be passing along the ones that are very difficult for her to do with no medical background.
Given that I’m often at court or depositions when the part time paralegal is here, I will sometimes tell my assistant things I would like her to have the paralegal do. I thought it was straightforward like “is this bill related to the accident or not?” Yet what I’m getting back from the paralegal is totally different – like here is a summary of all of these non-related medical records.
It seems that having my assistant handle assigning work to the paralegal is not working out. However, I need feedback from her on what assignments she finds medically difficult to know what to give the paralegal. That’s why it just made more sense to have her do it. I can’t tell if this is an issue where I need to get on my assistant’s case more or if I need to do a better job managing both of their case loads.
In an ideal world I want to say here is what needs to be done on my cases. Assistant, this is your responsibility. You may get assistance from paralegal if you choose but you are ultimately responsible for making sure this is done. If she can’t get it done in the time frame I need it in, you need to do it yourself. Instead my work isn’t getting done and they are pointing the finger at each other.
Is it unreasonable for me to expect my assistant to manage her workload like that? In the personal injury world there is a lot that is supposed to be done without attorney input – like requesting and summarizing medical records. It seems they may prefer that I just assign it to one or the other of them but since my assistant is supposed to be doing a lot of this without my input, it seems counter intuitive for me to step in and say oh, don’t handle the Jones case, I’m having paralegal do that one. Is it unreasonable to expect them to work together to share the workload in a way that makes sense?
I don’t have experience in small firm, so take this with a grain of salt/that in mind. But, IME and IMO, it is unreasonable to ask them to work together to share the workload. You job is a manager is to assign the work to a person.
I would immediate stop giving assistant permission to assign work to the paralegal or using her to pass along questions to the paralegal. I would tell your assistant that it is her job to do the work that you assign her, and that if she doesn’t have the necessarily medical background she should come back to you and let you know that. You can then assign those cases to the paralegal.
If you have a question for the paralegal, email that question to the paralegal. From personal experience, it can be really hard to convey a question when you don’t have the context for it. Further, you don’t currently know if the issue is that your assistant isn’t asking the paralegal the right question or if the paralegal is just answering a question that she was not asked. This will help you figure that out.
If you want the assistant to do the work, she should do the work and then come back to you if there is any question/delay so that you can re-assess where she is struggling and re-assign if necessary. Can you get your assistant more training or feedback on her summaries if she needs to build those skills? Why aren’t you communicating directly with the paralegal? You can copy the assistant on the email if she needs to pull files for the paralegal or provide some assistance, but directions should be coming from you, not your assistant.
I’m not in PI, but at the firms I’ve worked with, assistants don’t assign work to paralegals or lawyers. At the end of the day, it’s your law license and your supervisory responsibility, so if something goes wrong, then it’s on you (or the partner if you are an associate).
I think your expectations are unreasonable. She’s an assistant, she is not a legal or medical professional. Why are you expecting her to be able to determine what is a complex medical case and what isn’t? It is absolutely your job to tell her “these are non-medical / these are medical but only require you to request medical records, you do these; these are medical, paralegal does these – your main role with respect to paralegal is to make sure to get the summaries from her list of cases/files to me by X date”. You can’t farm out work like that to an untrained assistant then be angry she can’t do what she doesn’t know how to do. Yes, there is an expectation that the lawyer doesn’t review and summarize the cases, but as the effective case manager, it is absolutely your job to make sure it gets done.
I’m not in PI but some good friends are. It really depends on your office culture. In some PI firms, everyone – attorneys, staff, mail room people – are all equal team members who don’t really have managerial authority over each other (except for the owners of the firm). Otoh, some PI firms are more hierarchical, so attorneys manage staff. What you’re expecting would be fine for the first type of firm, but not reasonable at all for a more hierarchical firm.
Then again, it doesn’t really matter if your expectations are reasonable. It’s not working. So I think you kind of have to just assign the cases to one or the other.
What about having the assistant do an initial index with a basic description of the docs (eg Bates001-12, 12/01/2017 Intake from Hospital X re excessive coughing) and then you can go through the index and flag which docs you need paralegal to review and which docs assistant can review and summarize?
You need to be the one distributing work. You cannot expect your assistant to manage a paralegal. If I were the paralegal, I would be pi$$ed if an assistant (with no paralegal degree or medical background) started to manage me. You also need to establish some firmer lines. Maybe all of this needs to be the assistant’s responsibility, and if she gets confused about something, then she should ask you before it goes to the paralegal. Then, you are kind of the gateway to what gets to the paralegal.
I have been at two different firms with this type of setup. At the first firm, we had a very part-time paralegal who created medical chronologies for us. She did not do anything else. In addition, we often still reviewed the records ourselves because she didn’t necessarily know what was important. As a junior associate, I summarized everything else myself.
At my current firm, I generally will send medical records to the nurse paralegal if they are not from my client. I summarize everything else myself.
Meant as a response to the last post!
I agree with this, paralegal would not be happy that someone less qualified is managing her and that her actual boss is MIA. You need to man-ager up and assign them tasks and get to know their capabilities well so you understand what they can and cannot handle. You also need to review their work and answer any questions that came up. After you’ve done this for a few months you will have a better sense and can delegate over email. Managing takes up a lot of time, absolutely. But it’s part of your role.
I used to work for investment bank 10 years ago, and since then I moved into tech, where dress code is much more relaxed. Next week I am having a job interview with an investment bank again for a VP level job. I have an appropriate black suit, but don’t have a tote. Should I buy one, or just come with a small black purse? Also, is it ok to wear Apple Watch? I have Zenith watch from old times, so I could use them.
Don’t worry about a black tote. A black purse is fine or any bland tote (brown, dark colors).
You can definitely wear an Apple watch. Most investment banks are moving more casual
Thanks! That’s helpful! What are they asking on interviews this days? 10Y ago the fact that I didn’t have an MBA and no intentions of getting one was really a big obstacle for my promotions, that’s why I moved into tech. Is it still important now? Recruiter told me that they are looking for diverse experience and my tech and international sales experiences are appealing for them.
Thanks to everyone who weighed in on my question this morning about whether or not to be the “family of the month” for the neighborhood magazine cover. I decided not to do it, and when I let the editor know, he was pretty aggressive and pushy and tried to twist my arm into doing it, which affirmed my decision not to.
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Yay for an update (I love when those happen) and double yay for affirming your decision so there are no regrets! :)
Ugh on the bracelet. Costume jewelry brings an entire look down to it’s level.