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  1. Reposting from this morning’s thread:

    I am finally back in the gym after a full year’s hiatus (and SO proud of myself!). The hiatus happened because of a depressive episode that had me basically doing nothing but sitting on the couch and eating carbs for a year. I’m now on medicine for depression/anxiety and feeling close to being back to myself. Unfortunately, I have gained some weight from the year off, and am really motivated to get back to my former body. The issue is that I am having is that eating is SO crucial to losing weight and I am addicted to eating in the evenings. I say addicted because I do this when I’m not even hungry – it literally feels like a compulsion and it happens every night. I think the cause of this is that, because the combination of meds I am on gives me horrible insomnia and restless leg syndrome as side effects, I usually smoke some cannabis (indica) after dinner so that I can sleep (I’m Canadian and live in Canada where this is legal). I think that the “munchies” I get from the cannabis are preventing me from stopping this evening eating habit, because I am great at eating clean until I have smoked, and after it’s just brownies, ice cream, cheesy bread, you name it! So, my dilemma is how to stop this evening eating habit but still be able to sleep at night. FWIW, I have tried numerous times to go to sleep without smoking and it never works. I don’t want to take sleeping pills because I am already on a stimulant for ADHD and an SSRI for depression/anxiety, and it makes me nervous to add anything else to that cocktail. Sometimes melatonin works, but you’re only supposed to take that 3 days in a row max. Any ideas?

    1. One, talk to your doctor. And, two, try a substitutionary habit like chewing gum or drinking herbal tea. I successfully replaced my evening wine habit by saying eagerly to myself several times a day that tonight I’ll be drinking my favorite herbal tea.

    2. Maybe you can try a different strain that is less munchies-inducing. I know some people who have had better success with edibles. Switching strains/products seems like the least restrictive thing to try.

    3. Don’t keep ice cream, brownies, etc. in the house? Only keep munchy foods that won’t throw you too far off track – popcorn, fruit juice popsicles, the really sweet baby carrots, fruit. etc.

    4. I too binge eat in the evenings, and it seems to be part of the anxiety disorder. When I’m not happy, it is a compulsion and it’s not stoppable. It’s an avoidance activity. Can you try more anxiety-reducing activities – journaling, etc. – for that?

      For what it’s worth, this is my most difficult symptom to beat. I’ve had to go to acceptance instead.

    5. It’s the pot sweetie. Just because it’s legal doesn’t mean you need to be doing drugs.

      1. She is using the cannabis medicinally to sleep. It’s an herbal medicine. Loosen the grip on those pearls “sweetie”.

      2. Can you not? Yes, I’ll be the tone police here and tell you to not be a condescending jerk to a person with depression.

      3. Medicinally? Give me a break — she’s using it the way people occasionally use Tylenol PM except she’s gotten herself addicted. Just because it’s legal doesn’t mean drugs are a good idea – they do mess you up. Don’t believe me — see above for OPs post.

        1. There’s nothing at all in here that indicates that she’s addicted. This is a person who has insomnia due to a prescription medication and has found a nonprescription treatment that helps her sleep. She’s asking about how to deal with a side-effect of that nonprescription treatment. Most sleep medications have them, from sleepwalking (ambien) to heavy grogginess (melatonin) to morning nausea (trazodone). Nothing in her post indicates that she’s in dire straits or “messed up”; she’s just trying to cope with a side effect.

        2. Oh lord. If the munchies are a drug “messing you up…” I just can’t even with this level of hysteria. The worst thing pot ever did to me was inspire me eat three hot dogs in succession. After I’d eaten a funnel cake. (I mean basically rock bottom, I was ttly one step away from homelessness, bankruptcy, and general destitution.)

          All OP needs is a different solution to her insomnia that works with her other meds.

      5. Oh well, look who doesn’t need drugs to be a judgemental Jessica in this chat. Loosen up.

    6. Definitely ask your dr. Your other meds could be causing your insomnia; trazadone is often prescribed to help people on SSRIs sleep, and it is super safe and not habit-forming.

      1. I tried trazodone and got splitting headaches the next morning (I’m not normally prone to headaches at all – getting one is unusual for me) and violently awful dreams as a result. Unfortunately it can have some weird side effects. I’m glad it works well for others.

    7. Zoloft user here. Talk to your doctor about Trazadone. We were BFFs for a while – it’s an anti-depressant that helps you sleep. Also check out Zzzquil – it’s just the sleeping ingredient from Nyquil without the cold meds (I take one pill on a weeknight even though the adult dose it recommends is 2 so that I can function the next day).

      Ditto on not keeping bad foods in the house and trying herbal tea.

    8. Why do you have brownies and ice cream and cheesy bread around? That’d be my first step!

      1. OP here – I don’t! UberEats is great for busy work weeks but unfortunately is an enabler when I have a craving and the solution is literally at my fingertip and I don’t have to get off the couch to get it.

        3. You have to agree to be part of your own solution and part of that is doing things like uninstalling Uber Eats. I say that as a person who is currently in a weight-loss journey myself. If you keep junk around and enable yourself by having temptation literally at your fingertips, things aren’t going to change. Just like I had to accept that even keeping things like Honey Nut Cheerios in the cabinet was throwing me off. Some of us have to get more severe with ourselves to see any progress.
          I am also going to point out that the amount of money you’re spending on your late-night munchies binges is probably pretty shocking if you add it all up. Try sitting down and adding up all your Uber Eats expenses from the last month – that data may be enough to help you stop the behavior.

    9. Agree with prior advice, but also can you smoke right before bed? Like, plant your butt in bed, smoke, read/scroll/watch/whatever you do, and pass out. Make it the very last thing you do before you’re completely done for the day.

    10. Meal prep your meals, invest in “Dessert Teas” (chocolate chai, tazo lemon loaf, ginger snap, etc) and do not keep any extra food in the house. If you get the munchies and would like to binge, it will force you to get out of the house and find the junk food. This inconvenience should help you recognize the behavior and avoid it in the future.

      1. Also, could you switch to a CBD oil for sleep? I use NuLeaf drops and have not experienced any desire to snack.

        1. I’m OP – I’ve thought a lot about trying CBD, but don’t know anyone who uses it for sleep issues to get a real review from. Does it make you tired/fall asleep more easily? Is there a noticeable reduction in pain (the RLS can at times be quite painful)?

          1. This is total anecdata, but a close friend introduced an older relative with multiple chronic health issues to CBD oil and said relative said the night he tried it was the first night he slept all the way through in seven years.

          2. I am also in Canada and like CBD oil. Pure CBD oil isn’t strictly legal but the OCS was selling a combo THC/CBD oil. It helps me sleep and doesn’t have any of the side effects you get from CBD.

            I have tried a couple different brands and I really like Calyx Wellness. It’s more expensive than some other options but also was really good at treating my anxiety/insomnia.

          3. I’ve been taking CBD in the form of gummies for the past several months. It doesn’t necessarily make me sleepy right away, but I do feel relaxed and it helps me have a good, uninterrupted night of sleep. I used to have pain associated with plantar fascitis that is now gone. You may need to try some dosages to find out which one works best for you.

          4. Yeah, I use CBD occasionally. When I get stressed out I have trouble falling/staying asleep. I turn into a complete wreck if I go more than a night or two without 8 hours, so it can get messy if I have stress + lack of sleep compounding each other. I’ll slap on some transdermal CBD
            cream and it takes the edge off the anxiety enough that I can fall asleep (or fall back asleep).

    11. I’ll push back on the comments saying not to keep “bad” food in the house – food isn’t good or bad and you’re not good or bad for eating it. However, when you’re in a more compulsive phase, it can be helpful to temporarily remove those foods and then reintroduce them later. Brownies and cheesy bread can absolutely be part of a healthy diet, but the way you’re eating them right now doesn’t seem to be serving you well. I don’t recommend drastic steps like throwing everything away (which can cue the urge to binge-eat next time you’re around those foods), but perhaps smoking last thing before bed or brushing your teeth really well after having a nice meal can help interrupt the compulsion process.

      1. Nobody said these foods were “bad” – they all said what you did: Don’t keep them in the house if you don’t want to eat them.

        1. Anon at 2:15 said “bad” and others have posted “I agree with what’s been said so far.” It’s also objectively true that the lion’s share of the diet industry relies on women perceiving certain foods as bad (whatever food that diet plan will profit from you not eating). I just don’t think the OP should replace one disordered eating pattern with another as a solution to her issue.

          1. She’s getting high and pigging our and upset about the obvious consequences.

          2. So if I’m liable to eat 3 twix bars when I’m high it’s disordered eating not to keep it in the house? Really?

      2. Literally no one said these foods were bad. She’s getting high daily and excessively eating foods that are high calorie and low nutrient.

    12. You aren’t addicted to eating you’re addicted to pot. Talk to your doctor about other options.

    13. I also smoke most nights and the only way I can curb myself from eating is to smoke right before I get in bed. (I have no medical reason to use cannabis, I just like it; your judgement doesn’t affect me). If edibles are available, try them. Take about 45 mins before you want to sleep.

      1. I’m not trying to be judgy or snarky, but if you smoke and then immediately go to sleep what’s the point? How are you enjoying the high if you’re asleep?

        1. Because it helps you sleep. That’s the point.

          I do the same thing. I use marijuana (edibles in my case) to help sleep and I have to go to bed when I start to feel high, or I will let myself graze and eat a bunch.

          1. Oh ok, that makes sense, I was just confused because she said she wasn’t using it medicinally. To me, if something helps you sleep it’s medicinal.

        2. I totally get it, actually – I don’t sleep well, so taking a product that helps me sleep well and experiencing that feeling of sleepiness and then easily falling asleep is really enjoyable.

        3. I feel like doing a related post on this now because I’m so surprised at some of these responses – has no one on this board ever smoked weed? It helps you sleep that’s like…a main facet of its effect and the whole point of OP’s use of it and the (great) suggestions that she smoke later to curb the munchies effect.

          1. She said “I have no medical reason to use cannabis, I just like it” – that was what confused me, because it sounded like she wasn’t using it to help her sleep. I know it helps you sleep.

          2. Yes, sorry – I wrote that before I saw your comment above re why you were confused.

    14. I think if you get an airpopper and pop popcorn (NO SALT OR BUTTER) and drink only Water (H-2-0), you will NOT wind up with a big tuchus like you sure will if you eat sweets at night. Trust me, men do NOT want to date, let alone mate and marry someone with a tuchus like you will have if you keep eating all of those sweets. You need to exercise every day, and then watch what you eat to find and keep a man. Otherwise you will be like Octomom, with 8 kids, unmarried, and now a porn star. FOOEY on that! I think men want to tell people they were busy huffeing and puffing with a woman who once had 8 kids in her! FOOEY on that! I can’t imagine why men want that, but whatever.

    15. I’m kind of you, but without the smoking. I get munchies bad in the evening. One night (it’s been a while) I had a bowl of cereal, 3 corn tortillas with melted cheese, potato chips and some ice cream…all in about 3 hours. I’ve started working out at night (running). It’s really helped me because after I run, I’m not hungry at all. I have a small chocolate milk which I hear is good b/c it has the right mix of fat/protein/carbs and it’s also yummy. I rinse off the sweat and then get my clothes ready for the next day and go to bed. I’m also doing intermittent fasting and it’s starting to work – I’ve lost 12 lbs. I have to echo those who have said don’t keep the food in the house that you know you’ll binge on. It works!! I LOVE Ruffles sour cream/onion chips, LOVE THEM! And I could eat the entire bag in one sitting. I haven’t purchased them in months and I’m slowly losing the craving. Good luck!!

    16. My understanding is that weed is a lot stronger than it used to be. So the old jokes about eating a bag of Fritos could result in . . . 3 bags of Fritos. But ordering a lot of Uber Eats (of anything, much less routinely and late at night) would have to result in a size creep in sort order, no? Vanity keeps me away from weed.

    17. Late to the party, but what has helped me is not cutting these out entirely, but finding healthier alternatives. So for ice cream, I always keep frozen bananas on hand to make “nicecream” (blend frozen bananas, splash of milk, pb, vanilla, pinch of salt, maybe cacao/cocoa is my usual). I top it with nuts, coconut, and chocolate chips and it’s a great fix without feeling like you’re missing out! These days, you can find an alternative to anything! If you don’t want to spend money on the costlier alternative pre-made snacks, find a few recipes you can make over the weekend to have on hand!

    18. Maybe try a distance walking routine or a run walk routine. You might be motivated by simply signing up for a 5k. I fell into distance running when a friend asked me to join her in a 5k Race for the Cure and so I started with a Couch to 5k app on my phone. I had never run in my life. That first 5k was hard and I wasn’t able to run the whole way but I stuck with it and told myself I would try again, I finished that second 5k but certainly never a 10k as I found myself signing up for a 10k. Now I’m running longer distances. It’s meditative, theraputic and there are books and articles out about running as an antidepressive and I find it works for me to some degree. Also, I never have to watch what I eat which is a real bonus. After about 6-9 months of running I felt stronger than I’ve ever been and amazed at what my body was capable of.

  2. My BF and I are talking about moving in together. We each have accounts for various streaming services, Prime, etc. He doesn’t see the point in having two of everything once we move in together. His parents and two siblings use his accounts, so he wants to keep his and cancel mine. I really don’t want to share accounts with his family. I don’t need his mom seeing everything I buy on Amazon. He understands and said if I prefer to keep my accounts that’s fine, but he’s going to cancel his, which means his family will lose all these services (they can’t afford them). I don’t want to be the bad guy to his family. I think we should keep both sets of accounts, or he/we can gift the accounts to his family, but he doesn’t want to pay for accounts he’s not using. Help?

    1. My brother lets me use his amazon account, but i have my own log in….can you look into it? I think you can have several users for one account. Then you can share the account with your BF, but still have your privacy.

      1. We have one Prime membership, but separate log-ins for me and my spouse. I can’t see his orders, history, etc.

      2. Yeah, I was confused by this. I share my husband’s Prime but I have my own account and can’t ever see anything he buys? And I don’t think he can see my orders because I bought his last birthday present on Amazon and he was genuinely surprised when he got it.

      3. I didn’t know this! BF just lets everyone use it under one log in which I… do not want to do. I’ll look into this, thanks.

      4. You do not want the mother in law to be to be peering into your personal life and the movies you watch. When I was dating Sheketovits, I sent a gift to his mom via Amazon, and to this day, they think of me as Marjorie Sheketovits! All because I used Amazon to send HER a gift! You would think that Jeff Bezos’s people would be smart enough to figure out that a donor of a gift to another person at another address should NOT result in that person becoming the done! FOOEY! Even I could figure that out!

        I don’t even know what became of Sheketovits’s mother, or the gift I gave her via Amazon, years ago. It was a CD of some musical group from Russia I think. FOOEY! She wanted me to get back with him when all I could think of was how lucky I was that he wasn’t making me do stuff anymore that I didn’t want to do. YAY!

    2. It’s all I can do not to be a BF basher on this. He’s been giving this to his family all along~ continue the gift. Really.

    3. I’d tell him that you weren’t planning on letting him use your Prime account, that you were planning to keep it just for your use. If HE wants to have Prime, he needs to have his own. You weren’t planning on having him share your account. Are you also combining finances with this move?

      I feel like prime is a different animal from other streaming services, since it’s more than just which log-in you use on the TV, so it doesn’t have all the same logic about not duplicating services.

      1. This. I’ve been married for three years and we still have separate prime accounts.

        1. Isn’t that literally throwing money down the drain? Even if you have enough for that not to matter…

          1. Nope. I have a separate account from my husband because we are separate people who like privacy. That’s worth money to me.

          2. If you live in the same household you can have linked but entirely private accounts without paying any extra money. If you each pay for a Prime account, you are literally paying for nothing.

          3. It’s what $120-150 per year? Who cares? As for socialism — I don’t think you get to decide what I do with my money — if I want to pay for 10 prime memberships, that’s my choice.

        3. Yeah, I understand OP not wanting her BF’s mother to view her Amazon purchase history, but having two Prime accounts for a married couple in the same household is insane. Or even not in the same house – DH and I shared a Prime account even when we were long distance. Good job helping Jeff Bezos increase his net worth even more, I guess.

          1. DH and I have separate Amazon accounts. He has Prime and has put it on the TVs. My prime has a lot of gift addresses programmed in and would just be a pain to switch. When I need something to be shipped fast or to his side, I just put it in his cart and buy it that way. A gift for my side is probably coming from my account. Not a big deal.

          2. The 10 minutes it would take for you to switch over the gift addresses is worth $120/year?

          3. This thread is a really good argument for socialism. TIL rich people don’t care about flushing money down the toilet. I think if I ever get to the point where I pay $120 per year because I can’t take a few minutes to link two accounts, I will need to seriously reevaluate my life. And I say that as someone who’s firmly upper middle classes and has a lot more than I need.

          4. Anon at 3:34, people can do with their money what they will. The fact that you don’t like it doesn’t mean that you get to force them to make different choices at the point of a gun.

          5. I get that I can’t force anyone to do anything. I’m just saying…choosing to spend $120/year for nothing is A Choice. And I say that as someone who considers myself incredibly privileged.

          6. Yes Anon 3:45 – “people can do with their money what they will. The fact that you don’t like it doesn’t mean that you get to force them to make different choices at the point of a gun.” EXACTLY.

            We don’t want other people deciding what we do with our bodies – I am unconvinced it should be different for my wallet.

          7. No, you said it’s an argument for socialism, so you either think that the government should stop people from making those choices or that people should be stripped of their money and be unable to make those choices.

            People spend $120 a year on “nothing” all the time – they don’t terminate gym memberships they don’t use, keep magazine subscriptions they throw away, pay late fees on things they could have paid on time, have interest on loans they could consolidate or refinance, pay for housekeepers for work they could do themselves… ad nauseum. They fail to cash checks, let gift cards languish in drawers for lack of proper organization….

          2. You sure have been taking the heat this week, SA. You’d think your long term contributions would have but you a modicum of goodwill around here…

    4. This is sort of a non-answer, but can you just punt this issue down the road until you actually move in together? I think this is the sort of thing that seems like you have you figure it out *now* and it’s getting blown out of proportion. Once you’ve actually moved in and had to make a million other little decisions like this, it may seem less fraught. But for what it’s worth, I would just share streaming services (netflix, hulu, whatever) with them (we share with my parents and I honestly never notice what they’re watching and vice versa) and keep your separate amazon accounts.

    5. Gifts are paying for things you’re not using. Even if it is a gift of Amazon Prime.

      If his parents / sibs can’t afford things, can they bunch orders on Amazon for the free shipping? Does everyone need things in 2 days? If for the viewing, I think they get what they can afford (maybe chipping in). But your BF isn’t in their house hold if you are setting up your own household together. I’d read the TOS for what you’re agreeing to for your accounts and not sneak share outside of the rules.

      If they are truly needy for things, they could set up wishlists that he could then use to send them things.

      1. I can totally afford prime, but I don’t have it because I think my amazon spending would skyrocket and wipe out the savings. There’s a reason they offer prime, it’s not for your health.

    6. Tell him you don’t want anyone to share your prime if that’s what he’s going to be like.

    7. He’s out of line.

      It’s fine to share accounts with him; it’s a bit weird, but understandable if they are really stretched for money, for him to share accounts with his family. It’s fine to consolidate accounts when you move in together, but isn’t necessary.

      But asking that his girlfriend share an account with his mom, dad, and two siblings is… weird and a bit moochy. It’s completely wrong that he’s giving you the choice between sharing accounts with people in different households, who are adults, who are not your own family (you’re dating not married), or being the bad guy to his family.

      No. Two accounts are completely reasonable and appropriate. If it’s that big of an issue, he can gift his family an annual Amazon membership for Christmas.

    8. You can grant prime access to other people who use their own separate account. I linked my account to my parents’ and get free prime, but I don’t see their purchases and they don’t see mine. Have him grant your account his prime usage. Problem solved, right?

      1. Can you tell me how to do this? My parents have Prime and I don’t and I want to watch Marvelous Mrs Maisel but my parents (understandably) don’t want me to have access to their purchase history.

          1. This is the way to go, although I’m not sure how many “adults” you can have.

          4. I remember agreeing to sharing payment methods, but his didn’t show up on mine and mine didn’t show up on his.

        2. only the “main”/”primary” account holder has the Prime services like Prime Video, etc. So you’d need your parents log in for this purpose. BUT, you can have different email addresses/log ins for the prime shipping/prime now features.

          1. Oh ok. It’s limited to one other person. I think my parents are already sharing with each other (they like having separate passwords too) so it wouldn’t work for them to also share with me. Thanks though!

          3. Maybe it’s changed then. My mom is the official prime account holder. She just invited my siblings, father and me (via our separate accounts) to get the prime shipping benefit. The way we have it set up, I can’t access her account without her password/email, and I don’t have access to any “prime” features other than shipping and being able to have an “Amazon Prime Now” account. So perhaps we are grandfathered in or something.

            However, the moral of this story is that everyone in a family does not need to have one email address and see each other’s purchase in their Amazon account. Freedom!

        4. It only expands the prime shipping, unless this has changed. My parents are added on my prime account and they have no access to prime video. You can add people on the account page and it lists the limitations.

      2. Haha so this is actually what we have. No need to institute socialism right this minute — we are only paying for one Prime account.

    9. That’s so weird. If he doesn’t want to kick his family off then he can keep his accounts. He is the one making that decision and it’s definitely not a necessity that you guys share. He’s making it weird and he should get over himself.

    10. This is manipulative, OP. He’s being manipulative. “If you don’t do the thing I want, I’m going to do something that will inconvenience my family and make you into a bad guy.” It’s not a good look.

        1. Agree with both of you.

          Imagine planning a wedding with this guy. “If your family doesn’t pay the lion’s share, I’m going to tell my parents that we don’t have enough money to invite them.”

      2. Just to be clear, he doesn’t really cares one way or the other, he’s happy to join my accounts or have me join his. I’m the one concerned about optics. His family used to get free stuff, then he moves in with me and suddenly the free stuff stops. He’s just not seeing the issue. In his mind, they should be happy they ever got free stuff and not upset that the free stuff is ending. I mean he knows his family better than I do, maybe I should just trust his judgment on this one?

        1. I think we have a winner!! If you start taking on responsibility for relationship with his family now, before you even move in together, where will it end? Back away slowly…

          1. Yup! I did allllllll that stuff for my ex husband and ended up feeling like a terrible person when his family had expectations that I didn’t know about or couldn’t meet. It was awful, and I’ll never do that again.

        2. Yes to trusting his judgment. My BF moved in, and we both kept all our accounts. My philosophy is that he’s free to do whatever he wants with his, but I want mine, so I’m going to keep them. I think generally letting your partner be the one to deal with the relationships with their family is the best way to go. You can’t be the person who’s in charge of his family’s reactions and feelings. That path leads to frustration and a ton of emotional labor.

    11. So…his response indicates that he said he will chose to cancel his accounts, knowing full well the ramification that his family will not longer be receiving the gift of Prime due to his actions, but yet he is making YOU feel like the bad guy?
      Nope.
      He needs to make his own decisions, own the consequences of said decisions, and quit trying to make this your fault.
      I am not a Prime fan and understand that keeping two seperate acccounts can be a massive waste of money, but you are not obligated to take the mantle of gifting Prime to his family, or even him. Nor are you the bad guy for the decisions he makes with regards to his account.

      1. Yeah, this goes beyond just the Prime membership (I honestly have no strong opinions about how couples or families split that up, but I seem to be in the minority on that). It’s really about how your boyfriend is making this decision, communicating with you, and communicating with his family. He shouldn’t be making unilateral decisions and he shouldn’t be blackmailing you by saying if you don’t go along with him he’ll tell his family it’s all your fault. That whole situation just seems super sketchy to me.

        1. Men do that. They make us feel bad when we do not do what they want us to do. FOOEY on them!

      2. To note – he’s not telling his family it’s my fault. I just think it’s pretty obvious why he’s canceling – I have my own accounts that I’m not sharing with them.

    12. So I find the comments here super weird (since four of you thought it was weird for me to share crave with someone instead of just pay for it).

      Basically, it’s not her problem if he cancels the prime that the family use; I wouldn’t want my boyfriend’s family if I had one knowing for example what I read on my kindle or what shows I’m watching or when I am awake watching TV. It’s just super weird. I wouldn’t even want my husband and kid and parents knowing that stuff.

      1. I’m one who thought you should just get your own Crave.

        I think what people are focusing on as wasteful spending is when *two people who share a home* each have a separate Prime account… when Prime itself has settings that allow you to share a single membership while still maintaining purchasing privacy.

        In this case, though, because of the BF family complication, I suggest either maintaining the status quo OR dropping BF’s family from a newly-shared Prime account and giving them a membership for Christmas.

        1. This is not a thing in my country. I’m looking and it doesn’t seem to exist.

          TBH I have Amazon Prime personal and Amazon Business for my Professional Corp (me plus people working for me). So that’s two paid Amazon accounts for basically one human.. count me as extra Amazon wasteful I guess and cheap for Crave

      3. There were four replies to your comment. I and one other person didn’t say it was weird, we just said don’t share a password with your ex-BF if it makes your husband uncomfortable. Assuming your husband is a reasonable person, I believe his feelings are worth $10/month. That has nothing to do with whether it’s normal or weird to share accounts with family.

    14. I’ve learned from this thread that I’m the only person in the world with my in-laws on our account ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

      1. my husband and i set up a prime account with a shared email (we have two – one for shopping throwaway and one for “joint” stuff we want the other to be apprised about, it used to be wedding-related stuff and now it’s house contractor stuff, but I can also imagine it’d be simpler with one email contact for kid/school stuff). my sister logs in with our account info and has her own CC on file. and we have CCs on file for my parents but they usually just ask us to order things for them (my parents don’t log into our amazon acct). we have a netflix account and the users are us, my parents, his parents, his sister, and my sister. the google home mini and echo dot in my parents’ house are registered to our prime and google play accounts. you’re not completely alone? haha

  3. Hey, remember the discussion yesterday about the decline the quality of fabrics used to make clothes?

    I ordered a J Crew Lady Day coat and received it yesterday. I was very disappointed to see that the fabric content is now 75% wool, 25% polyester (or nylon, not sure which). Yes, it has a Thinsulate lining, but that + not much wool doesn’t make for a very warm coat. Plus, I find that wool blends with that much non-wool really tend to pill easily. Back it goes – a $400 coat (although I got it on sale for $240) should not be only 75% wool.

    I own two older Lady Day coats, they are probably ~12 and ~7 years old. The oldest one was, I believe, 96% wool, and the other one was 94% wool. I’m really disappointed and now I know why everyone (including me) has switched to puffer coats for the winter – it’s much easier to get a reasonably priced (like at or under $200 if you shop on Black Friday), relatively nice-looking, 100% down-filled coat than it is to find a reasonably priced, 90+% wool coat.

    I guess the geese murdered all the sheep and took over their fields.

    1. the lady day coats have been going downhill for years. I used to love these coats but sadly they are not worth it anymore. which is too bad, because i always love the colors that Jcrew selects, but quality is just so far away from acceptable now. The fit is also different, with pockets on the side that puff out.

    2. Wasn’t this the exact item and timing that was described yesterday? Along with question about supply and demand for wool vs. down? There were a good number of replies…

      I don’t buy wool blends. They’re itchy at best, not as warm, and prone to lint, static, pilling and sagging way more than 100% wool. Vote with your wallet and avoid.

          1. but it is literally the same item, same percentages of wool, same purchase history, and same ultimate question about whether lower supplies of wool drove the change. And the OP mentions the exact thread! Weird to try to restart the conversation the next day, as if it’s a new question, when the thread got plenty of traction…

          2. Who cares? Why are you picking at her? What do you think, it’s some devious attempt to get us to … read unnecessarily about Lady Day coats? Thanks for hopping on the case, Nancy Drew!

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