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Senior Attorney
Hey, Southern ladies! Lovely Husband and I are planning to spend a few days in Charleston SC and Savannah GA early next summer. We will have about 5 days to split between the two cities. Any recommendations about places to stay and eat, and things to do? We will be flying in and out of Atlanta and driving the rest of the way.
Anonymous
Maybe go to Asheville instead?
May is a great time to visit, but much later than that, you’ll be looking at staying in the A/C.
Charleston: Grille 225
Ellen
If you go to Savannah, go to the Pink House and Paula Deen’s. Rosa went there on her honey moon and gained 5 pounds! But it was OK b/c Ed had already MARRIED her! She was VERY skinny at her wedding but got chunky and pregnent soon after ward, thanks to Ed. You will NOT reget goeng there. I will go there when I get married and will eat and eat and NOT worry b/c I will be MARRIED! YAY!!!!
cbackson
THINGS:
-It is a long drive from Atlanta to both of those places (5+ hours to Charleston and it is a VERY BORING DRIVE with no fun stops, a bit more to Savannah). Flights are quick, although not the cheapest. Delta flies to Savannah a couple of times a day. The cities are about 2.5 hours apart once you get out to the coast.
-I stayed at the Mansion on Forsyth in Savannah last year and loved it. Their on-site restaurant is *excellent.*
-My family spends part of the summer in the Charleston area every year. Some of our favorite stuff: ghost tours (cheesy fun), kayak tours around the harbor; islands, etc. (awesome if you’re outdoors people, and there are lots of vendors); minor league baseball games (go Riverdogs!); Middleton Place (historic plantation site with amazing and historically significant gardens – it’s really interesting and beautiful and the interpretation is nuanced and accurate. also a great on-site restaurant); hanging out in Folly Beach; Fort Sumter; the restaurant in the marina on the north end of Isle of Palms. MAKE RESERVATIONS FOR DINNER. Stuff fills up in the summer.
-If you’re not wedded to Charleston, you could go to Savannah and drive south through the Golden Isles. There are lots of options (Sea Island is very fancy; St. Simons is more residential; Jekyll is more family), and it’s very beautiful. Cumberland Island is amazing, but that would be hard in your timeframe (and your lodging options are either camping or the very-expensive Greyfield Inn).
Gail the Goldfish
If you do end up in the Golden Isles, I recommend at least taking a day trip to Cumberland. It’s an easy day trip from any of the other Golden Isles. If you decide to go this route, let me know–I have lots of Golden Isles recommendations.
cbackson
Argh. I typed a long comment that the site ate. The most important feature of said comment was this: it’s a long drive from ATL to the coast – 5 hours to Charleston (and the drive is sucky), and a bit longer to Savannah. If you only have 5 days total, I’d fly from ATL to Savannah or Charleston.
Midtown ATL Attorney
It’s actually about a 4 hour drive from Atlanta to Savannah, and about 6 hours from Atlanta to Charleston (with about 2 1/2 hours between Charleston and Savannah) but yes, the drive is super sucky!
CHS
For Charleston:
Husk – bar is amazing, can go upstairs and get burgers, and of course the main restaurant can’t be beat
Cru Cafe – go for lunch.
McCrady’s – the original Brock restaurant, still outstanding, and the most gorgeous space
Gin Joint – drinks
Hominy Grill – breakfast or lunch. Charleston Nasty Biscuit, buttermilk pie, everything else
The Ordinary – seafood
A few things to do: downtown carriage ride; ghost tour of Old Jail (especially entertaining after a few cocktails); sunrise, sunset or midnight stroll of the Battery and surrounding neighborhood; poke your head into the Huguenot Church; take a Charleston Cooks! class; stroll around any of the various neighborhoods. If you have a car Middleton Place is gorgeous (stop at Glass Onion for po boys), Wadmalaw Island for Charleston Tea Plantation and the Angel Oak, Bowen’s Island to watch dolphins and eat oysters, Folly for beach time, and on and on and on.
For drive between Charleston and Savannah stop and check out the Old Sheldon Church ruins.
Not That Mary
It’s about 3.5 hours from Hartsfield airport to Savannah by I-75 and I-16. One of the oldest synagogues in the U.S. is in Savannah, Congregation Mickve Israel. I would take one of the historical or ghost tours, but I’m tacky like that. Elizabeth on 37th is a great place to eat. Drive about 45 more minutes, go to the beach at Tybee Island and eat at The Crab Shack.Have a great time!
Anon
When in Charleston, there are some fantastic restaurants! McCrady’s is my absolute favorite. AMAZING food. FIG is also good, as is Slightly North of Broad (SNOB).
Julia
The Olde Pink House in Savannah is very . . . Savannah, and I love it because of that.
sweetknee
Senior attorney, I am from South Carolina and would be happy to give you pointers or meet up with you in Charleston. Fulton Street Inn in downtown Charleston is nice, as is Charleston Place Hotel ( used to be called the Omni). There are several bed and breakfasts there that are lovely too. Some of the hotels have nice rooftop bars. Anytime after the end of June though is pretty unbearably hot.
In terms of places to visit, if you want to do a plantation type thing, Middleton Place is nice, and it is just outside of Charleston. It is fun to do one of the carriage tours downtown, though you have to take the driver’s version of history with a grain of salt. Military history buffs will like Fort Sumter and the Yorktown Aircraft carrier that is nearby at Patriots Point. King Street shopping has lots of quaint boutiques.
There is a restaurant called Toast on Meeting Street that does a great brunch with bacon infused vodka Bloody Marys. Another good restaurant is SNOB (Slightly North of Broad– an inside joke) as well as High Cotton and one called Fig.
Just send me an e mail at ksullivan37 at the google mail if you want more information.
Senior Attorney
Awesome! Thanks so much! Will do!
LHW
Hi! I grew up in Savannah and got married there recently.
I love the Bohemian on River Street the interior is very beautiful and they have a great roof top bar! I highly recommend The Pink House for dinner, upscale southern cuisine. They have a cozy basement bar that opens at 5pm. Great for a cocktail or dinner. I do not recommend Paula Deans restaurant. If you’re looking for traditional southern food, go to Mrs. Wilkes Boarding house. It’s family style, cash only and the line to get in is around the block. It’s really amazing and a great experience. Savannah has an open container policy so you can walk around downtown with cocktails which is fun if you’re a drinker.
The difference between Savannah and Charleston? Savannah has more history and is smaller. Charleston has more money and better shopping and food scene. Looking for the beach? Skip Savannah and go to Hilton Head or Charleston.
LHW
The drive from Atlanta to Savannah/Charleston is pretty boring and seems longer than it is. Looking to travel around Atlanta? Check out Chatanooga.
And in May, pack your spray :)
Calico
Savannah is one of my favorites! Check out the Kehoe Inn, Local 11ten for food, the Juliette Gordon Low house, and the Bonaventure Cemetery. The ghost walks are fun and a great way to see the historic squares.
Calico
Oh! And how can I forget Tybee Island. Go for some casual seafood on the water.
LHW
Good call on Bonaventure, it’s beautiful.
Amanda
Charleston is only about 3.5 hours from Charlotte, NC, so that’s another option. My sister and I did this trip, I flew down to CLT to meet up with her, and we drove to Charleston for Labor Day. We really loved these restaurants: 167 Raw, Poogan’s Porch, and brunch at Toast. Also, loved Gin Joint – Rooftop at Vendue was totally overrated, imo. We did a ghost tour through Ghosts of the South, which was great! We originally had booked Old Charleston Walking Tours, but it was cancelled because of the tropical storm. We did the beach one day – Sullivan’s Island. And we got a massage at Salt Spa & Yoga – the woman there was fantastic!
Anonymous
Le Farfalle in Charleston, if you like Italian
Savannah
Skip Savannah, focus just on Charleston. Savannah has such a serious crime problem right now, even in the downtown ‘safe’ tourist areas. (Am a Savannah resident – we don’t even go downtown to eat right now. Not making national news but truly out of control.) I wouldn’t drive to Charleston from ATL, you’re better off flying.
Senior Attorney
Wow. Really? I had no idea! Thanks for the heads-up.
Autumn
I’m savannah, I would check out the SCAD shop where the art students sell their work, don’t remember the exact nand, but I loved it. Lots of wide ranging art: clothing, murals, jewelery, decor
Engines
….flannel? Really?
AIMS
What’s wrong with flannel? A guy I work with has a gray flannel suit and it looks super sharp. I might actually get this!
Engines
Huh. I’ll admit ignorance here. I think of flannel as exclusively plaid shirts and Christmas pajamas.
AIMS
Flannel suits are a thing. Very classic. Strictly speaking I don’t think this qualifies exactly b/c it’s not all wool, but in general it’s a very classic winter weight fabric. The look was so ubiquitous that it’s referenced in the novel (and movie) The Man in the Gray Flannel Suit. Mad Men is sort of a riff on that. But not like a flannel shirt at all. Although I am sure someone in Brooklyn is pairing the two as we speak…
And unfortunately for me I won’t be buying it bc I need a petite jacket and this doesn’t come in petite. Oh well…
Mpls
Flannel (suiting flannel, not lumberjack shirt flannel) is a really common fabric choice for winter-weight suits.
anon-oh-no
This. My husband just bought a lovely flannel suit from j crew. He normally wears Boss suits, so I was pleasantly surprised by how nice it looks.
Bonnie
I really like this suit. There’s also a grey version.
TO Lawyer
oo I love the sound of that…
I’ve been looking for a new suit.
Anon
You’re probably thinking of flannel like lumberjack shirts or pajamas. That’s usually cotton or cotton blend flannel, loosely woven and somewhat drapery.
Wool flannel is a classic suiting fabric. It’s tightly woven and would have the same drape as a gabardine or light twill, which as typical all-season suiting fabrics. Wool flannel suiting has a slightly fuzzy feel vs gabardine or twill, will not be shiny and is definitely worn in cooler weather. You may already have wool flannel in your work wardrobe. Most of us do.
Anony
I really like this. I have a suit this color that is a summer weight wool (also from Banana), and it is my very favorite suit.
Better shoes?
I’ve realized lately that a lot of my knee and back pain is due to wearing crappy shoes. If I’m on my feet for more than 30 minutes, I’m in pain for days afterward. Any suggestions? Should I focus on finding good inserts? Or upgrading my shoes to ones that have more cushioning? Something has to change. Thanks!
Godzilla
Get orthotics. Also, when you get shoes, get taps installed prior to wearing the shoes so that the taps bear the brunt of the damage as opposed to your shoe. And honestly, some shoes should never be purchased (like ballet flats) and some are just too old for repair.
lawsuited
+1 I got a pair of low profile orthotics that I can wear in all my closed, flat shoes (including ballet flats) and I have had no foot or back pain since. I didn’t get another pair specifically for heels, but find that wearing heels for a few hours infrequently is fine seeing as my feet are well-supported the rest of the time.
Bonnie
+1 for inserts. Also try wearing shoes that are not completely flat.
Anon
Wear lower heels. It’s really the only way. I’m sure people will jump in and say they could run a marathon in heels. But heels are not natural for the foot or body and over time they take their toll.
When my knees really hurt I try to wear rigid soles for a couple of days – rigid soles are like clogs or “rocker” soles. Dansko is the most well known, -and they do make dress shoes , but other companies like Jambu make them as well.
lawsuited
Yes, I assumed OP was getting pain from wearing flat shoes, but certainly if you are getting pain from wearing heels then your first line of defence should be switching to lower heels or flat shoes most of the time.
Great OTK Boot?
Hi all! Anyone have a recommendation for a cute over the knee boot that works for slim legs? I have a problem with OTKs slipping down! Would prefer boots that are not leather/patent leather. TIA!
Simsi
I just picked up the Corso Como ones from Nordstrom. They fit well over my relatively small calves, and cover my knee. Highly recommended. Also true to size. It’s the ‘Laura’ boot, like $150 on sale recently.
Anokha
Try searching Extra Petite’s blog — she has a few featured in recent posts!
Post-BigLaw
A lot of us are at BigLaw b/c of our loans and while we figure out what next to do. For those of you who have paid off your loans, what did you do next, career-wise?
I see BigLaw as a good place to be from, but it’s not a good place to be at. I am missing out on my family and my life (I pay for the Y and a public golf/tennis membership, both of which I’d like to start using). I’d like to meet people for dinner or just not be perpetually working or sleep deprived.
Anonymous
I went to small law and found it was just as bad, albeit for different reasons. Then i went in-house and now I’m very happy.
anon
In-house seems to be the promised land, but what they don’t tell you is that EVERYONE is vying for the in-house jobs… said as someone still planning my exit long after I thought I would be out of a big firm…
If your skills translate to a government job and you can handle the paycut, my friends who have gone into federal government tend to stay there.
In-House in Houston
I might be a little bit out of the ordinary, but I went from govt to in-house and just love it. I’m making more money than I ever dreamed I’d make and on top of that, I get a bonus every year. I get to travel and I really don’t work that hard all the time. I specialized in the govt in an area that is easily transferable to the corporate world. But you have to network because it is very competitive. You can offer to do a CLE for the corporate section of your local bar association. It’s a great way to meet in-house attorneys and you establish yourself as an expert in the field. Offer to give them free advice (on occasion) and then if/when a position opens up, you already have a connection.
Anonymous
I pursued what I wanted to do when I went to law school. Government, criminal prosecution.
Katy
I left BigLaw (litigation) to do regulatory work (including litigation) at an SRO. I also looked at/applied for in-house and government jobs. My paycut was more than it would have been at many in-house jobs, not as much as it would have been in the government.
Legally Brunette
Appellate litigation at a federal agency. Love, love, love my job, and I pinch myself that I get to do this every day. Of course it’s a pay cut but if your loans are paid off, totally worth it.
Anon
I spent two years in big law and then jumped (not entirely on purpose – it’s amazing where you end up) to Directors & Officers insurance. Lots of jobs for lawyers either with the large brokers or insurance carriers. I work with interesting, smart people (my clients are all CFO/GCs of public companies) and really enjoy the work. Insurance is basically a lot of contract review and negotiation. (Yay for never having to use WestLaw ever again – I hated legal research). And yes, significant pay cut but my lifestyle is significantly better and my husband six years later still comments on how much happier I seem.
Avery
So interesting. I never would have thought of D&O insurance as a next step, but it makes sense! Thanks for sharing.
mkb221
I’m more senior but looking to make a similar move — would you be willing to chat?
Anon or Out
(Posting under a different handle than my usual, so as not to totally out myself.)
I started in Big Law, lived cheaply and paid off my loans. I was so eager to do something completely different that I took a teaching fellowship in a foreign country. It was at a prestigious school, and I thought, when I accepted it, that it might open the doors to academia back in the US. But while I was there, speaking with the US based academics, I realized academia wasn’t for me.
After a year I went back to the states, scrounged some to-get-by doc review jobs, networked my butt off to get a litigation job at a very small firm (~2 years, tons of great experience, pretty bad work environment, pretty bad pay), then at a slightly bigger firm (~1 year, less bad work environment, worse pay), and then finally moved in house, where I am very happy.
Things that helped me get this in-house position: networking my butt off (never saying no to meeting someone even if it seems like it will be horrendously awkward); spinning my international experience hard (I work at an international not-for-profit); demonstrating my adaptability and quick thinking skills (even though I was a litigator, I was always available to help clients work out issues before they became litigation matters); and being the kind of person people wanted to work with every day.
Not gonna lie, there were ROUGH patches in there (esp. the doc review scrounging period) but I would do most of it over again, especially knowing where it led.
Anonymous BigLaw Associate
I stayed in BigLaw, but moved to a reduced hour schedule once I paid off my loans. I like my job alright (or hate it less than others?), but wanted a little more time in the day for family and other interests.
Triangle Pose
In-house at F50, would never go back to a firm. Sophisticated practice, smart senior people as business clients, I get to be part of an overall business strategy and I get paid more than at my big law first and second year salaries with guaranteed bonuses and equity comp. Way more perks and I actually have time to attend all those events where firms want to wine and dine me. I never cancel plans and have time to myself and can unplug in the evening and weekends.
Anony
Such a random request. My sweet three year old wants to be just like his dad, so we got him a lawnmower for Christmas. We would really like to get him some play earbuds too, because my husband always listens to podcasts while mowing, which my son has noted. How would you make that happen? I would really like for them to fit in his ears, which I don’t think the usual ones would. The ones we are trying to mimic are the white Apple standard earbuds. Any ideas?
Bonnie
https://www.amazon.com/UiiSii-F108-Earphone-Microphone-Control/dp/B018JLDG20/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1479328318&sr=8-2&keywords=toddler+earbuds
Engines
Funny story here about lawn mowers as Christmas presents (a real one in this case).
When we were in middle school, my brother desperately wanted to be allowed to do my parents’ yard work. They had been paying a landscaper for weekly mowing and trimming, and my brother wanted the job. I’ll admit we grew up with a lot of privilege, so he did not quite see it as a chore as most kids would– he just saw it as an opportunity to make a higher allowance.
After much begging, they bought him a lawnmower for Christmas. He cried tears of joy when he saw it. My cousins still laugh to this day about how he was so excited to get a lawnmower for Christmas and be allowed to do yard work.
NYC Area Recommendations
Can anyone provide recommendations for furniture or reupholstery services in the NY metro area?
Also, any car repair shops in that area that you’ve been to or particularly like?
Trying to be an adult and get my life together! Thanks in advance!
Kelsey
My daughter has a couple of prominent moles on her face that are dark. I had them as a child as well, and my mom had a doctor remove them. It was painless and nobody will notice the tiny divots on my face unless I point them out to people. It didn’t bother me to have them removed and I think (though I’m not sure) that removing them early was a good thing so they did not grow. Obviously, I’m going to see a dermatologist about my daughter, but I thought I’d ask the hive if they have any experience with this and whether I should consider waiting for a few years or doing it sooner, etc. I don’t want to give her the impression that I think that moles are flaws, and she doesn’t know that they can be removed. Any advice?
Anon
I was 16 when my mom told me I should have my facial moles removed. It had never occurred to me they were a “flaw” and it made me self-conscious about something I had never cared about before.
Has she actually complained about them? If she’s not uncomfortable, Iw ouldn’t put your insecurities on her
Anon
Are you talking about flat or raised moles? I have dark flat moles on my face that people complement all the time. My mom always raised me to look at them as “beauty marks” and indeed the way they are placed on my face is very attractive. Unless there is a health reason to remove them (increased skin cancer risk?) or they’re very large/bothersome I wouldn’t remove them. I know someone who had a mole removed and, unlike you, is left with a scar that is much more noticeable and distinctly unnatural looking than what was there before. That’s always a risk because every procedure and healing process will be slightly different for each person.
Anon
*compliment, ugh. I work in a job that requires me to write in two languages and sometimes by 4pm I don’t feel like I speak either one particularly well!
Anon
Also want to add that my understanding is that moles do not grow (at least mine have not changed size or shape at all my whole life) unless there is an underlying issue. Best to confirm with a dermatologist but I don’t think you have to worry about them taking over your daughter’s face or anything.
anon
Haha, yes, I have what I always called a “beauty mark” (because that’s what I thought they were called) on my face, also in an attractive location a la Cindy Crawford or Blake Lively.
I also have two tiny pockmarks from chicken pox (as does my sister, my parents were not concerned about us having lifelong scars on our faces apparently) that no one ever notices either. But as someone said above people scar in different ways. A friend of mine had a mole removed for vanity purposes and it turned out her skin scarred in a bulbous way, making it look like a big cyst or wart or something. It looked like this for years and was a constant source of embarrassment until she finally had it fixed again by a plastic surgeon so beware.
Anon
Agree – I’ve got a sizable scar on my back from a mole removal. This mole was large, hairy and raised, and was getting bigger, so it did need to come off. But I think the main reason it scarred so badly was that it was removed by a GP (I was in the service at the time, no referral for that sort of thing) so just make sure you get it done by a qualified person.
CMT
Wait, what were your parents supposed to do about the chicken pox?
Blonde Lawyer
I have a big raised mole under my bra strap. Around the time I started needing a bra my dad said something like “if that mole ever bothers you, let me know and we can have it removed.” While he likely was concerned more with my physical comfort than attractiveness, I really like that approach. You aren’t passing judgment or suggesting that there is anything wrong with it. It is unlikely her moles would ever become physically uncomfortable but if she started disliking them for any reason, she could let you know.
Meg March
I have a ton of moles, all over my body (primarily face, neck and chest). I have both flat and raised moles. I have gotten many removed (probably 1-2/year). Derms usually only want to remove ones on the face/neck/chest that look “problematic” (in terms of skin cancer), simply because the skin is so thin in these areas that it’s more likely to scar (either keloid or otherwise), which looks worse than just leaving the mole.
Moles can grow, but it’s typically a bad sign. I know if I have one that grows from the previous year, the derm always wants to remove that one.
TBH, I just wouldn’t do anything about the moles, except make sure she sees a dermatologist regularly, but even that’s more health related than cosmetic.
Jeffiner
I have a couple on my face. When I was a kid, adults always called them “beauty marks” as well and complimented me on them. But other kids teased me about them. I had no idea they could be removed.
Honestly, if I had had them removed, the kids would have found something else to tease me about.
I don’t particularly like the moles, but I have no plans to remove them. When I look at a good picture of myself, or if I think I look good on a particular day in the mirror, I don’t notice them, they are just part of my face. When its a bad picture, the moles seem to stand out more for me.
I am glad my toddler daughter did not inherit them. I might consider having them removed if she had. She has noticed mine, and pokes them.
APL
I have a fairly large raised mole on my face (about 1 cm in diameter) that I never once thought about until high school when a photographer asked if I wanted it retouched off. I don’t feel particularly positively or negatively about it but it’s part of my face and a distinguishing feature that I wouldn’t want removed. My mother has body image & appearance issues and once the photographer said that, they came out full force and she has pleaded with me ever since to get it removed since she “can’t stop staring at it” and is convinced it’s getting bigger (it’s not). Obviously this doesn’t make me feel great, so I’d address it early if you think you will have concerns later when she’s more sensitive about her appearance. I would warn about potential scarring – I’ve had 4 other moles removed for skin cancer concerns, one on my face that left a miniscule scar and a larger one on my upper back that scarred and swelled so badly I needed further surgery because it was painful.
Kdrama
My sister had a large one that was affecting her vision/ish right by her eye that made a difference to her once it was removed, and it did not scar.
I had 3 small ones removed from my face at 25 because they’re $10/each to be lasered off in Seoul and my aunt thought it was a good idea and I did not care either way. Thankfully did not scar except for a small divit on the one on my chin, which wasn’t awful but sometime got mistaken for a dot of soysauce on my face (before it was removed).
Another Anon
I have fairly prominent mole on my cheek that my parents always called a beauty mark. The mole itself never really bothered me, but around the time I hit puberty it started sprouting a few stray hairs. Unfortunately, I found this out when a boy I had a crush on told me how looking at my face made him sick. Mortifying. Now in my 30s, I just look for hairs to pluck before I put on my makeup in the morning and it’s no big deal. The mole is just part of my face and I otherwise don’t notice it. But honestly if I could go back in time and avoided that little self esteem builder I probably would.
Anon
Please don’t have anyone other than a plastic surgeon remove moles from your face. I had a dermatologist do one and it scarred horribl. The one a surgeon did looks really good.
ANon
I used to sort of dislike the raised mole I have on my face. Then one day I was watching some behind the scenes filming with Kim Cattrall (maybe it was Sex and the City). She was penciling in her mole to make it darker and she said something like, “You should always highlight anything you have that makes you unique.” It entirely changed my perspective on my most “unique” characteristics.
Frozen Peach
I had a large mole on my neck as a kid that I had removed. I remember the procedure (I think I was around 5?) being simple and easy. When moles are particularly large or prominent, some dems want to remove them to avoid any potential for them to change– at least that was the explanation in the mid-1980s. My memory includes no shame at all. It was entirely framed as something that a lot of people do to avoid problems later. The doctor could see I was nervous, and said, don’t worry, it will just be a little pinch, no worse than this (removes mole). I was expecting the “example” pain and was delighted to learn that it was over with almost no sensation. I’m glad it was removed, I had enough other things to be self-conscious about in middle school.
anon
I’m fashion challenged. Help please! I’m planning on wearing a cobalt blue lace overlay sheath dress to my husband’s Christmas party. It’s at a hotel ballroom and attire is listed as cocktail. Does this work? Shoes and jewelry suggestions welcome!!!
Aunt Jamesina
Sounds lovely and festive! Lace says “holiday cocktail party” to me.
Aunt Jamesina
And for shoes and jewelry, something like black patent pumps and a shiny piece or two of jewelry should do the trick.
anon
Do silver shoes and jewelry work?
Anonymous
Yes!
Anonymous
what if they’re sandals? is that weird?