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This is perfection in a dress. Can I borrow $326 and unlimited access to free dry cleaning?
JJ
Agreed. If this were in my size, I would snap it up. The perfect work dress.
Sydney Bristow
My dream wardrobe (that includes me fitting nicely into “regular” sizes) consists mainly of Hugo Boss and Reiss. This dress is gorgeous!
century ride
yessss. I’m also a huge fan of Austin Reed.
NYC tech
A note for people who may be borderline, in my experience Boss runs very large. I wear a full 2 sizes smaller in Boss compared to say, Ann Taylor sizing (and with a fairly curvy figure). I know it won’t help everyone, and it’s a shame Boss and other designers don’t have a larger range of sizes. But wanted to put it out there.
Sydney Bristow
This is excellent to know. Thank you!
Alice
That’s interesting…I tend to wear larger sizes in Boss, though my figure is not that curvy. Typically a 2 in Anna Taylor/BR/J. Crew, 6 in Boss. Although I only have dresses.
NYC tech
I’m on the higher end of the size spectrum, so that’s probably the difference. I wouldn’t be surprised if Boss, like many labels, runs small for smaller sizes, and large for larger sizes. Also, the only Boss I own is a suit (jacket, pants, and skirt – though lord knows I wish I could get some more!). So I guess that could contribute. In any case, that’s interesting to know – thanks for chiming in!
Latte Tuesday
Agreed. I’m usually a 0 in places like Anne Taylor, BR, J Crew. Boss I recently bought a suit and took a 4 in skirt and pants and a 6 (with some tailoring) in the blazer
Bonnie
Beautiful I agree about Boss dresses running large.
An
I wear an 8 in Boss, 6-8 in Ann Taylor and 10 in other brands.
I handwash my Boss dresses without any issues.
Ellen
YAY! I love TPS Tuesday!!!!! I also have to agree with the OP’s, b/c I love sleeve’s on sheathe dresses and I LOVE Nordstrom’s! Kat and I must be related b/c we have the same taste’s!!! YAY!!!
I walked in today and am sweatey. FOOEY! But my tuchus size is goeing down. YAY!!!
The new intern is here and Frank IMMEDATELEY took her under HIS wing. That is supposed to be my job, but he senses that he can get a coupel of cheep thrills in w/her. FOOEY on Frank! She is young and impesionabel, so he can taint her if he is NOT carful, and that will make the manageing partner mad. I haveto take her to court later, so she can see her great uncle, the Judge. I do NOT want the judge to find out that Frank is a leech w/her either. DOUBEL FOOEY! I am busy today, so I wish the ENTIRE HIVE a great day.
anon-oh-no
I bought a dress very similar to this (its Elie Tahari) last year and loved it so much, I bought it in navy too. I get tons of wear out of it.
Senior Attorney
Yes, that is pretty much the perfect dress. I just wish it came in another color. I feel like all-black is too harsh on me in my old age…
Asideralis
Morning all! I just started running again after recovering from my broken toe.
I have a question about how to network. I know that there are a tonne of articles (and I’ve read them all) but how to you decide which groups and events to attend? I’m trying to decide whether IEEE or SWE is better for me in the DC area, and I would like to keep a lively network whilst maintaining my current positions, but if something better comes along, I’d be happy to take it in a heartbeat.
Should I try networking amongst non-engineering types, too?
On another note, do you ladies have personal websites? What sort of things do you think should be on there?
Anonymous
For networking I think it’s really about the quality of the events. I spent a couple years trying all sorts of groups before zeroing in on ones that consistently have things I actually want to go to.
I see no reason to have a personal website unless you are running a personal business, like freelancing or consulting. If you’re employed by a business I can’t think of anything professionally I would want to know about you that can’t be on linkedin.
Meg Murry
I would network among non-engineering types as well, you never know when you’ll meet someone in HR or accounting at a company you might want to work at that could clue you in to openings or make introductions for you. Is there an alumni association in your area you could try to network with as well (college alumni group, or group like sorority alumni etc)? But I would prioritize industry-specific networking and only do general networking if you otherwise enjoy the events/members of the group.
Is there a DC specific group for your specialty of your profession as well? In my area, the best networking (job wise) that I’ve found is the [MyMetroCity] Society of [My very specific sub-industry], and they also offer really good training classes for on-the-job training, so my employer is willing to pay the membership fee.
Can you see what groups your colleagues/contemporaries are part of on LinkedIn to see what is popular? I am part of the LinkedIn groups as well as the actual membership networking groups – some are better as LinkedIn groups, some are better as IRL networking.
Meg Murry
Ugh. It’s been super crazy humid for the past few days, and whatever it was that was keeping my shoes from stinking has given up the ghost. I think they were advertised as having some kind of antimicrobial properties to keep them from smelling, and it was working up until today, but either it has worn out, or the fact that its so humid means they aren’t drying thoroughly.
My feet and shoes are currently slathered in Purell in the hopes of killing whatever it is that is stinking, and I’m not going to wear them tomorrow and hope they dry out. Any one have any stories or techniques for recovering stinky shoes, or do I just need to give up on this pair? I’m debating leaving them at work in my office where there is at least A/C and humidity controls running all night to dry them out more (no A/C at my house, super crazy humid indoors), but I don’t want to come in to my office smelling like feet in the morning.
Anonymous
Vinegar soak for your feet and vodka spray for the shoes? Shoes in a nice sunny spot – sunshine is supposed to be a good disinfectant (UV rays, I presume).
Sus
Stick them in a ziplock and leave them in the freezer overnight.
meme
You could try Steri-Shoe. It uses UV light to kill the organisms that cause odors (and infections). It has good reviews on Amazon for odor eradication. I have it and use it to ward off athlete’s foot (which I’m prone to). I can’t speak to odor issues, but it works for my issues. It’s a little spendy (I paid $100), but probably cheaper than regularly replacing shoes.
Wildkitten
I was reaching the point where my shoe spray from DSW didn’t work so I sprayed my shoes with vinegar and then packed them with baking soda and it worked surprisingly well.
AIMS
Are you wearing them two days in a row? I’d say that letting them air out fully between wears is step one to preventing this.
PolyD
This. And stuff them with newspaper to help them dry overnight. Even if you can put them in the freezer, I’d consider stuffing with newspaper to help absorb moisture.
I once destank some shoes by stuffing them with newspaper for a few hours.
Must be Tuesday
Yes, wearing the same pair of shoes 2 days in a row if they haven’t fully dried from the day before will help make them stinky.
Stinky feet...
You need anti-fungal, not anti-bacterial stuff.
Try to keep your feet very clean and dry, and use anti-fungal powder or cream (over the counter) if they smell.
Try to avoid artificial fabric soles in your shoes. Leather is much better.
Air out shoes very well between wearings.
I haven’t tried the freezer technique, but that could work.
I’ve been tempted to by the UV treatment but stayed away because of the price. It’s worth consideration.
Spray with anti-fungal or add powder regularly to your shoes.
And in my case…. start taking sprinolactone for hormonal acne, and I’ve never had stinky feet again! It decreases the amount that I sweat. And stinky fungus LOVES sweat!
KT
I wipe mine with a cotton ball dipped in tea tree oil, then let them air for at least 24 hours, and no smell!
S in Chicago
My podiatrist recommended giving my orthotics regular wipe downs with rubbing alcohol to avoid stink without ruining. Might be worth a try?
Opppp
I’m five months postpartum (second baby) and feeling depressed about the way I look. I don’t want to buy new clothes because I still want to get back to my old size. Should I just give up and buy some things? If so, what? I have a tummy, and my b**bs are huge, which just makes me look large all over in certain things. Uggghhh.
Anonymous
Of course you should buy new things! Does anyone lose weight by making themselves feel like crap? You should buy clothes that fit- those of us who always have boobs and tummies manage it by trying not to hate ourselves and trying things on
Pear
They aren’t mutually exclusive — dress the body you have right now and be happy! And stuff may be in flux for a while (I’m still getting stuff taken in at the tailors and my baby is about to turn 5 –eek), so don’t ditch the old things just yet. A capsule wardrobe of a few key pieces that are fantastic would probably be a great mood booster (and think of how cute you would look with the babies wearing them). Your body has done a lot of great things lately — doesn’t it deserve to be well dressed?
JJ
You can’t hate yourself thinner. You just had a baby! Your body may be different for a few more months, or it may be different for the rest of your life (I’m looking at you, bigger feet). Why in the world would you make yourself feel terrible by wearing ill-fitting clothes or drastically limiting what you can wear? Buy yourself some pencil skirts that fit – you can always have those taken in if necessary.
Sydney Bristow
I’ve never had a baby but my weight definitely fluctuates. Pencil skirts are the first things that I buy in various sizes or have altered. They are the easiest to get through fluctuations.
Baconpancakes
The reality that my feet will get even bigger than their current size 10-10.5 after pregnancy makes me weep.
Maddie Ross
They may not. Mine didn’t. They were swollen during pregnancy, but after the swelling went down (thank you night sweats) all my shoes fit totally normally.
JEB
Mine went back down too – I was really worried about this!
anonymama
Mine went back down, but unfortunately some of the shoes that I wore regularly while pregnant got stretched out, and then were too big…
layered bob
I am hoping for it! My feet are currently just-barely-10.5, which makes 10s too small and 11s too big. Hoping that after pregnancy I will be a solid 11 – more shoes are actually made in 11 than in 10.5.
… but I’m 31 weeks and my feet haven’t grown any yet… still waiting.
Anonattorney
Mine started swelling/growing at about week 34.
JJ
I was a 10.5 before pregnancy and now I’m a solid 11. The nice(?) part was getting to completely start over in my work-shoe wardrobe.
anon
Just commented below. I’m glad I’m not the only large-footed lady here :)
NYC tech
Maybe not – I’ve had multiple pregnancies and no changes in shoe size (even while pregnant). I also never had any swelling in my ankles. It affects everyone so differently.
SuziStockbroker
Ditto. Three babies, no change in shoe size during, or after pregnancy.
anon
Mine grew. But on the plus side, I am finding a much wider variety of shoes in size 11 than I used to find in 10.5!
also a mom
mine didn’t! I was a 10.5-11 goign into pregnancy and this was my worst fear. Feet swelled a little toward the end but went down. I gave birth in the fall adn was back in my normal sneakers in a week.
anon
That feels soooo early to draw any body conclusions, but I understand that it nevertheless sucks. I’ve had three, and while I do eventually get back to where I started (more or less) it takes a long time. I mean: it takes 10 months to make a baby, and it’s bananas to think you’ll snap right back after that. Plus if you’re BFing, that keeps you in an altered state for as long as you do it, or at least that’s what I found. So be kind to yourself–try to think of this as a process that you’re not even halfway through. H*ll, I wore demi panel maternity jeans for months after this last kid with no shame.
As for concrete fashion stuff: I’d get a few things that you like that can shrink with you. I’m really loving these drapey drawstring trouser that are at a lot of places; they are pretty concealing/forgiving and good for hot weather. Ditto for the looser dresses and the full skirts that are all over. I always found a shirtdress with a wide belt is a great outfit; I have one with a fuller skirt and it’s been a great outfit as I moved down many sizes post partum. Also: get a good haircut, a manicure-pedicure, and whatever else helps you feel more put together.
One to two kids was a tough adjustment and I felt like the year after my second was born was just a fog–I honestly couldn’t tell you a single thing that I did. It does get better, but it took us a lot longer to get into a good pattern (maybe 15-18 months?). Hang in there.
Baconpancakes
Take the opportunity to go through your clothes and get rid of anything you feel like you SHOULD keep but don’t actually want to. Then pack everything away, freshly washed/dry cleaned, in a vacuum-sealed bag, and go for a cute capsule wardrobe that makes you feel fabulous. No one ever said, “Well, I look fantastic today, and feel great about myself, so I’m going to eat until I get fatter and don’t fit in these clothes,” but lots of people definitely say, “I look and feel terrible, so who cares, might as well just give up trying.”
You just have to learn to dress the body you have now. I totally get the feeling that vast tracts of land make you look huge all over. You need to get yourself at least two really really supportive bras that fit you right now. They might look a bit scary and huge at first, but once you put your clothes on top, you’ll look 100000% times better.
anyanony
Love two” vast tracks of land” phrase. I was well-endowed before pregnancy and am overweight now but the outcome of that phrase dictates a lot of my wardrobe planning.
5 months PP as well
I am in the same boat as you. My son is 5.5 months. I feel horrible too and I breastfeed so am always hungry. I could not reduce the amount of food that I was eating because of that. But, I finally did some research and joined weight watchers because it takes nursing into account. I feel better already. And you should definitely buy at least some new clothes. I did right before I came back to work and that has helped somewhat. But I still feel like a fat blob so I know how you feel.
KT
Buy some new things–it’s a bad cycle otherwise.
Maybe stick to lower budget items when you’re at this larger size–Old Navy, Target, etc. But buys ome things that really fit and flatter, and you’ll feel a million times better
LilyS
On clothes shopping while not happy with your body:
I have body image issues and I find that the quickest way to feeling completely horrible about my body is to have pressure to get what I want on a specific trip. So instead of ‘shopping trips’ on a Saturday, say, I’ll do mail order shopping and then I can try things on when I’m in a good mood (usually first thing in the morning before I’ve used up any willpower). Or I’ll head into the city centre for something else and pop into a clothes shop on the way just in case they’ve got what I want. Then if I don’t find anything it’s not a failed trip, and I don’t feel any pressure to find something that looks good.
also a mom
buy new things! also, it took me NINE MONTHS to return to my post partum size. The weight came off, eventually.
Baby envy
I feel awful about this but I’m starting to feel really envious of my pregnant friends. My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 6 months, which I realize is not a long time in the scheme of things, but I’m starting to feel anxious and a little left out — somehow in the span of a year I went from having no pregnant friends to having only pregnant friends. I think I’m doing a pretty good job of hiding any disappointment in front of my friends and being really happy for them in person (because I am happy for them!), but in private I feel sad about it. I also wonder whether the stress of my big law job is playing a role given the amount of hours I’ve been working and the lack of sleep. Any advice for dealing with the irrational feeling that I am the only one in the world not pregnant?
Anonymous
Yoga, meditation, reading, tea, sex, running. Whatever ordinarily helps you deal with stress.
Anon
FWIW, I don’t think your feelings are irrational. You are sad. You’re doing well not letting your friends know how you’re feeling but it’s ok to feel how you’re feeling. I’ve felt the same with my friends getting engaged/married.
Make sure to take care of yourself and do things for you, not just for TTC you.
TBK
You might want to reconsider hiding your feelings from your friends. Sure, there’s going overboard (and you don’t want your friends to feel like they can’t talk about their babies in front of you) but real friends will want to know how you’re feeling. If you’re hiding it, you’re putting up walls that will ultimately reduce your closeness (and your friends might not know why — they’ll just know you two don’t feel as close anymore). People get that you can be 100% happy for them and really excited to meet the baby, see photos, etc., but that you’re also feeling anxious and a little sad.
Sydney Bristow
I agree with this and have an analogous situation. I’m getting married this summer and have a friend who is seriously contemplating divorce. She was afraid to talk to me about it, but I absolutely want to be there for her through it all.
AIMS
I think you have to let yourself have your feelings and not treat them as irrational. When you want something that you don’t have at the moment, that hurts. And it hurts more when someone else in your life has it and it seems like everyone else does, too, and strangers everywhere have bellies, and you’re still wanting it and it all just feels magnified. But remind yourself that you don’t know what it took for them. People are so private about pregnancy. I’ve had friends who seemingly got pregnant overnight, but really they were trying for years, or had multiple miscarriages, or who knows… And it has only been 6 months and these things take time and in the meantime try to enjoy the process. Drink wine, go to dinner, have some fantastic sushi, take weekend getaways when work allows and try enjoy your relationship as much as you can. I know it’s easier said than done, but try as much as you can to not stress out about it. I always found it helpful to set benchmarks. If I were you, I’d say, you know what, its summer, I’m going to enjoy it, I’m going to give myself a full year of trying before I start to worry about this again, and make an appointment to see your doctor for that time and then do your best to actually not worry.
anon
It’s irrational in that your friends being pregnant does not at all affect your ability to conceive or not (not a zero-sum game). But it’s not irrational to be sad when you hear others talking about their pregnancies or plans. It’s hard to hear complaints about body changes and pregnancy discomfort (all very real things that sound legit miserable) when you are worried that your body will never get there.
Be kind to yourself. Give yourself permission to excuse yourself from excessive discussions of pregnancy/babies, etc. and skip baby showers if you want. I have found that the best person to be brutally honest with about this is my SO. I don’t want to bring preg friends down, and I don’t necessarily want to open myself up to their advice (except in very select circumstances), and then I feel bad complaining to friends who are not coupled (but would like to be) because I am very fortunate to be in the relationship that I am in. Anyways. Hugs.
Diana Barry
I think you could talk to your friends about it. It may be that they tried for a long time before being successful!
I would also go to your doctor right away rather than waiting. The year of trying thing is so arbitrary and makes people wait to go in when they really shouldn’t. If you think your doctor would give you a hard time, say you’ve been trying for a year already.
anon for this
Same boat, except that I have been diagnosed with fertility issues and am in treatment. I finally told some of my friends but they feel bad about not knowing how to support me, not having gone through the process. I wish I hadn’t told them. I am having difficulty relating to anyone because my life is 100% work plus fertility clinics. I just gave up on my friendships for now and am focusing on what I need to make it through the day.
The only good thing about all of this is that it’s brought my husband and I closer together. My advice is to please travel now because you won’t be able to schedule vacations when you start treatment.
Baby envy
Thank you so much for all the thoughtful replies. I’ve read all of them multiple times and they’ve really helped. Truly appreciate all of your wise words.
anon 2
Hi–I hear exactly what you’re going through. We have also been trying for six months, during which time a large number of my friends have become pregnant. Recently, one very close friend became accidentally pregnant, which was very hard to hear–although I am being very supportive for her, it’s hard knowing that she wasn’t even trying and became pregnant, while my husband and I have been trying for months. (Obviously, I understand that there is no point in comparing and as someone already said, pregnancy is not zero-sum). So far, I have been coping by being very open with my SO and by trying as much as possible to focus on all the good parts about not having children–like opening a special bottle of wine each month when I pass the two-week wait, and planning trips that would be difficult to take with kids.
Sending good thoughts your way.
Baby envy
Thanks so much–you too!
Maizie
I hear you about the feeling sad and envious and commend you for facing it within six months rather than suffering for much longer!
You might want to check with your doctor, not because 6 months of trying without getting pregnant means that there’s an enormous, difficult-to-fix problem, but because there might be a small, simple-to-resolve problem. Not a doctor myself so the only example I can offer is uterine polyps (in my case, removed via laparoscopic surgery and I was pregnant 3 months later).
You might also want to find an online or in-physical-space community of sister travelers. Even if everyone is not at the exact same point in the experience of not-getting-pregnant it can be comforting to give and receive support. Resolve is one such organization; nonprofits in your community may also offer workshops.
Good wishes to you. It’s hard when you’re trying your best without getting the results you hope for.
Maizie
Oops–that was supposed to be a direct response!
sole society?
Has anyone purchased shoes from Sole Society? The ads keep popping up on my browser and after seeing some of the shoes, I’m thinking I will bite. But, as to quality, does anyone have any insight?
Baconpancakes
Personally, I’ve only had one pair of shoes from them, bought when they were a “members-only” website, and they fell apart within days, but I know a lot of other people have been pretty happy with their shoes. Mostly I was put off by how rudely their customer service handled my complaint.
Sydney Bristow
I think Nordstrom carries some of the styles. You’d get the great customer service and return ability through them.
Maddie Ross
I have two pairs of boots. The quality is kind of mediocre. They were both pretty trendy pairs, so I’m ok with them only lasting a season or two. They seem pretty akin to Nine West to me. Definitely read the reviews as to sizing – it’s not super consistent, but the reviews definitely helped me.
PolyD
I have a pair of mid-heel pumps from them and I like them. I haven’t worn them very much yet, but they are comfortable and don’t seem that flimsy.
But yeah, Nordstrom carries some of their styles, that’s probably a safer bet.
Scarlett
I have a few pairs & have found the quality varies greatly. I have an “old” pair of leather sandals from when they started that I love; their more recent items seem to have gone down in quality. It’s hit and miss.
APP123
I have two pairs – one pair of sandals and one pair of flats. I bought both from the site directly before they were available at Nordstrom, and I would definitely recommend going the Nordstrom route. Although the site says that it has “free returns,” they actually charge you a “restocking fee” of about $8 if you want your money back, but you don’t get charged the fee if you get store credit instead. I was stubborn and refused to be charged the fee, so I ended up in this long buying/returning cycle before I found a pair I was ultimately happy with. Annoying.
House question
I’m new to suburban home ownership and realized my gutters are disgusting. Is it normal to ask my regular landscaping company (who typically just mows the small yard) to handle cleaning them?
Anonymous
Usually there’s a local gutter guy. Ask a neighbor.
CountC
I probably wouldn’t. You want someone that regularly does gutter cleaning. I wouldn’t trust the landscapers not to pull one off (and then not know how to fix it properly). I know a lot of people do it themselves, but I suppose I am just a nervous nancy when it comes to that sort of thing. I don’t really want to run the risk of damage being done and then having to call someone else in to come and fix it, you know? YMMV based on your risk adversity threshold!!
Carrie...
Yearly cleaning by the local gutter guy is standard. Some motivated home owners do it themselves. But I’d hire out on this one…. I’m a little scared of heights, I have learned!
Moonstone
Do you mean just scooping out the junk that collects in there? My house is just one story and I do it myself, with a pal to hold the ladder. Wear gloves.
Killer Kitten Heels
I’d ask the landscaper for a recommendation for a gutter-cleaner, maybe, but wouldn’t expect them to be the ones to handle it for you. Alternatively, ask a neighbor for a rec.
Gail the Goldfish
Any suggestions for a basic, non-shaping full slip? Gap’s were perfect, but I don’t see them on their website anymore :-( I should have bought multiples when I had the chance.
slips
i have some from calvin klein that I purchased at Macy’s that are wonderful.
Seattle Freeze
Ditto – I think I have the same CK slip, and Macy’s still carries it: http://www1.macys.com/shop/product/calvin-klein-icon-full-slip-f3661?ID=1540091&CategoryID=225
lsw
The review on that slip cracks me up.
lucy stone
It was so cute! I’m picturing it being written by somebody in their 70s.
Seattle Freeze
Oh, lord, I hadn’t seen the review – I’m picturing Ellen’s Nana writing that!
LilyS
Marks and Spencer. Always. (I just looked online and as well as to Europe, they now do free shipping to the US and Canada too! I will never have to go without my favourite tights no matter where I move in the world, hooray)
Gail the Goldfish
Thanks!
Jury duty
Anyone get selected for jury duty while pumping? Will it affect my chances of being selected? Just thinking what a pain that would be.
Anonymous
Most jurisdictions excuse nursing mothers.
Diana Barry
If you get called up to a courtroom, tell the judge about it. “I am a nursing mother and would need a break from the trial every 2.5 hours to pump”. Bring a doctor’s note to document. They should let you out right away, if you make it that far. (I note that in my state, you are often not called up to the courtroom at all)
Anon
My manager told her experience when a person in the team was selected for jury duty. Judge asked every one who had arrived if they have any difficulty performing the duty. My manager raised her hand and said she cannot because she was breastfeeding and she needs to pump. Judge said he will allow her to take a break every two – three hours to accommodate that.
DisenchatedinDC
This is a totally fair concession. It sounds like they were willing to make it work for her!
Pear
Agreed — this is the normal concession I have had while nursing. I’ve also seen Type I diabetics accommodated (with a refrigerator for insulin) for jury duty.
In DC, everyone I know has been on a felony jury at least once. In anywhere else, people ahave rarely even had to show up (just listen for a recording saying if you are exclused or not every night for the next day).
Catslastname
I just did a trial where the court reporter and one of the jurors were both nursing mothers. We took breaks for them to pump and there was no problem at all.
Senior Attorney
In my jurisdiction you would be able to get your jury duty re-scheduled without even having to show up. Call the jury office and see what they can do for you.
ANP
I was called up (not selected for a jury, though I was at the court house for a full day) and they were great about my having to pump. I got an awesome huge room to myself and everything! Judge was also very clear about his intent to be super-accommodating. You can try to delay if you’re worried about it but I wouldn’t be.
Bonnie
In my city, you’re not going to get excused automatically but they will provide a private room where you can pump and take breaks as needed. We never sit for trial more than 2 hours without a break. You can also reschedule your service.
Anon
Hey I just noticed the comments-name-in-the-box is fixed! Woo hoo!
Question: what are your favorite summer dinner ideas? Drawing a blank beyond salads.
Anonymous
Chicken pasta salad
anon
I can comment and my name sticks but you can’t subscribe to comments anymore. Or at least I don’t get that option. Weird.
Duchess
I am getting KitchenAid autoplay ads that are constantly pulling me back up the page to where they’re located. It’s on the top right, under the Explore Corporette and above Search Corporette. There’s a pause button that doesn’t do anything.
Anonymous
I work in an open office. My boss and mañana get are nowhere near me and I don’t even know the people around me. Some senior managers are talking really loudly about vacation plans and it’s extremely distracting. Would it be rude to get up and move?