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We are loving this multi-strand necklace from Neiman Marcus — and for once we actually like it in all of the colors it comes in: black, silvertone, bronze, and golden. We think it would be a great way to make everything from a simple crewneck to a button-down more interesting, and would particularly look great with a boatneck (such as this morning's TPS). The necklace is $250 at Neiman Marcus. Multi-Strand Bead Necklace (L-2)Sales of note for 9.19.24
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals through September, and cardmembers earn 3x the points (ends 9/22)
- Ann Taylor – Extra 30% off sale
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- Boden – 15% off new styles
- Eloquii – Extra 50% off sale
- J.Crew – 50% off select styles — and 9/19 only, 50% off the cashmere wrap
- J.Crew Factory – Up to 60% off everything + 50% off sale with code
- Lo & Sons – Warehouse sale, up to 70% off
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- Neiman Marcus – Friends & Family 25% off
- Rag & Bone – Friends & Family 25% off sitewide
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Anniversary event, 25% off your entire purchase — Free shipping, no minimum, 9/19 only
- Target – Car-seat trade-in event through 9/28 — bring in an old car seat to get a 20% discount on other baby/toddler stuff.
- Tuckernuck – Friends & Family Sale – get 20%-30% off orders (ends 9/19).
- White House Black Market – 40% off select styles
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fresh jd
Available for 1/10th the price virtually anywhere. I’ve seen a variation of this necklace everywhere from street vendors in US and abroad to Loehmann’s. There is no indication that this is made of any sort of precious or even semi-precious stone beads.
Ru
Yep, got something very similar from Charlotte Rousse, of all places. I fell in love and had to have it, for a grand total of $15.
Suze
I thought it was ‘common,’ too, and definitely not something I’d drop $250 on. Besides, it looks dated (not in a good way), and at that particular length, probably is very unflattering (think No Neck Monster type look….). Pass!
Shayna
Agree on both counts… I think you could find it for even less than $25 on Etsy, a street corner, or even Target’s jewelry counter.
fresh jd
Indeed, I have a coral necklace like this with slightly fewer strands that I got in Morocco for $15.
Mella
I have a similar necklace that I got at the Coldwater Creek outlet for maybe $12. The stones are layered in sort of an ombre effect ranging from ivory to chocolate brown to charcoal. I’m Asian and the necklace picks up my coloring, and I LOVE it peeking out of my black or brown jackets. It’s not as “fat” as the NM necklace though – mine is maybe only four or five strands.
nonA
Yours sounds beautiful!
legalicious07
Agreed! I want one! ::off to check the jewelry at Coldwater Creek online::
fresh jd
Fabulous website, never heard of it before. Is it like an overstock.com or something?
This is the only ombre necklace I found: http://www.coldwatercreek.com/product-detail/47477/53590/multi-strand-frosted-necklace.aspx
Mella, please link to the fabulous one you described!
Eponine
Coldwater Creek is a women’s clothing retailer, similar to Chico’s or Boden IMO. Mella said she got the necklace at an outlet, so it may not be available online.
naijamodel
TOTALLY second the Coldwater Creek Outlet suggestion! My necklace looks almost exactly like the one Kat pictured but it’s red beads. I bought it last year, sadly. However I won’t be sleeping on that store anymore, lol. I hate the clothes but I always stop in to check jewelry now.
ML
Coldwater creek has great jewelry! I’m liking Talbots’ now, too!
nonA
Seed beads are glass beads, and there is nothing unique in the design – as others have noted, there are a million versions out there for far, far, less. And “golden metal” is a fancy way of saying brass.
Even if it were appropriately priced, I think it would look too heavy. It’s just a bit much for my tastes.
brown eyes
Hurrah! Here we have the quintessential Corporette activity…just why I come back several times a day. Take a high end item, find its good points, and source down to reachable items. Torsade necklaces do indeed have their many incarnations, all ranges of number of strands (read: bulk), colors, same vs. different beads, and colors. Here, here to Kat for reminding us about torsades.
Kelly
Thanks brown eyes for putting a name to this type of necklace – torsade! I couldn’t put my finger on it! There are several great ones waiting to be had at a fraction of the cost. Take this one for example:
http://cgi.ebay.com/Mark-Zunino-36-Abundant-Bead-Torsade-Necklace-BLUE-/360298556064?pt=Designer_Jewelry&hash=item53e377aaa0
Love it! (However, not bidding on it, so feel free!)
annon
Threadjack—OK corporette’s I have a delima. I have a friend who has been unemployed for over two years. She is more than a casual acquaintance, but I don’t consider her one of my dearest friends either. When she first lost her job, I gave her tons of tips on how to look for employment outside of the usual searching through Monster and Hotjobs-you know, like attending networking meetings and joining linkedin, and she bascially admitted that she had not considered any of my suggestions.
This morning, I get an email from her—she is in a bad way and asked me to loan her $500.00. I have a personal rule never to “loan” what I can’t afford to never see again. While I have the money, $500.00 is a lot to just throw into the wind.
While I’m staring at the email from her, I get a phone call from (why didn’t I check caller ID?) and she pretty much put me on the spot. I just told her that I couldn’t give her that amount, but I did go through my linkedin connections list and identified some poeple that she had previous business relationships with who have moved on to higher positions at different companies (why she didn’t do this research is beyond me) and suggested that she try to re-build her relationships with them and see if they can’t help her get a foot in the door somewhere.
I know the job market is challenging right now, but I can’t help but feel that my friend has been a bit lax in her search. How do I reconcile my feelings of being annoyed with her ( which maybe I shouldn’t be) and my feelings of sympathy? Should I give her some money? Dang, I feel like such a heel.
MJ
No, you shouldn’t give her any money. You’re giving her good advice, and you might take her out to lunch or think whether there’s anyone you know to whom you could introduce her, but there’s no need to feel guilty about not lending her $500 (or, indeed, any amount).
Lyssa
Definitely agree with MJ. Lending “real” money (more than a lunch’s worth or something) is pretty much never a good idea, and if she’s been lax on the job hunt, she’d be lax on paying you back, too.
Personally, I don’t blame you for being a little annoyed. Barring a true emergency (life or death type), she really shouldn’t have put you in that position. She should know that it would be awkward. You can feel sorry for her and understand why she did it, but still be annoyed, I think. I don’t think you should be annoyed about having to look through the contacts, though. Sometimes, when you’ve been searching for that long, it just looks so hopeless that you don’t think of things that you should. So, yeah, any help you can give her is great in that sense, but lending money is a bad idea.
fresh jd
No money, honey! It’s strange that she doesn’t approach her family or dearest friends…why wouldn’t they be her go-to for a loan? And if she did ask them but they refused, well that’s reason enough to run for the hills. I think your advice is probably even more helpful than money. $500 can only get her so far…whereas a job is far more valuable at this point.
lawDJ
If she’s been unemployed for two years, I’m sure her family/close friends have been helping out. I’m definitely in the it’s ok not to give her money camp, but I would help her out in her job search as much as possible. She does sound overwhelmed/depressed and possibly without health insurance, has not been able to see anyone about it. It’s a catch-22 situation of course.
Anonymous
I recently declined to give money to a family member. I could afford it, but I can afford it because I am responsible with my money, and I felt like giving money to her was irresponsible. My mom made me feel like crap about it, and she gave the family member money (of course, my mom is also financially irresponsible and I have previously given my mom money, money I have because I don’t waste my money). Anyway, the point is, I know exactly how you feel and I’m sorry. I completely understand why you didn’t give money to her.
However, you should try to assume that she had the best intentions, and that it was embarrassing for her to have to ask you for money. You should inquire about her well being, to make sure that she’s not facing some sort of emergency situation. And when you offer job tips, try to do so in the least condescending way possible and don’t nag her. And if she does need the money for something specific – say, a medical bill or her rent – and you decide it’s worth helping her, perhaps you can get a money order made out to the recipient instead of just giving it to her, so you don’t have to worry that she’ll be irresponsible with it.
I also suspect she might be depressed or overwhelmed, which would explain why she’s not being diligent in her job search. Try to be a good friend and listen to her problems without offering solutions, and maybe take her out to lunch.
AIMS
I don’t think you should feel bad.
BUT, that said, there’s a lot of info missing here. Did she say why she needed the money? Was there a time frame/plan for paying you back? Is there some reason why she wouldn’t have been able to turn to her closer friends/family?
I once borrowed money from a friend to pay for an LSAT course. I couldn’t borrow money from family at the time, but I had a specific time line for when I would be receiving a check, which would enable me to pay my friend back. At the time, when most people I knew were in college, the friend I asked was the only person I could think of with a full time job and a healthy savings account. I felt very uncomfortable doing this & I paid my friend back immediately (2 weeks!); it doesn’t sound like your situation at all — but I am just throwing it out there that, depending on the circumstances, it may be a different story.
Kit
Don’t feel bad at all about not lending her the money. It’s odd that she would ask you in the first place if you aren’t that great of friends. It would only be appropriate for emergency circumstances, i.e. I need money for a plane ticket to get home to a loved one’s funeral, etc., where there is an ability to repay the debt in the near future, i.e. I get paid on Friday. The awkwardness you feel in saying no is likely related to the fact that it was inappropriate for her to ask you in the first place. You have no obligation to help.
Chicago K
I wouldn’t feel bad about not giving her the money – that’s what credit cards, home equity loans, pay day loans, lending club micro credit loans, family, closer friends, etc are for. You are not a bank and chances are she can come up with another source for 500 bucks.
I would go easier on her though. It may look like she’s slacking, but she probably doesn’t enjoy being out of work, because, well, who does? She’s probably scared, worried, depressed, angry and broke. I would be more sympathetic to her. Offer to treat her to lunch or a pedicure and be there for her to talk too.
I would keep doing what you are doing, and even offer to go with her to some networking events or invite her to a luncheon/social event the next time you have an invite. Send her an invite for LinkedN – I get a fair amount of recruiters contact me on there, maybe she would have good luck with it.
Offer other job tips, or to look over her resume or put her in touch with your recruiter (if you have one). Depending on her level of slacking, maybe try to talk some sense into her or talk to someone who is a closer friend and ask them to do so.
Just try not to lose sight of how hard and scary it is to be out of work…even if she is the slacking on her job search.
Kaye
I once lent a friend $40… and then $100.. and then $150… and then $800… you get the idea. It’s a slippery slope.
I never got the money back; but I’ve learned to live with that, she really
needed it. I consider it my charitable contributions for the next few years.
I’d say, loan her the money only if you can afford to lose it, and if you feel like she really needs it – as in, it’s an emergency situation.
Anon for this one
Lending money to friends and family can be a tricky thing. If you want to lend her money, is there anything she could do for you in return? My brother and sister-in-law recently went through a tough time. (She got laid off. My brother’s salary couldn’t cover the expenses.) Well, I was in need of a babysitter. So now I pay my SIL to watch my daughter. Win-Win for both of us. No guilt, no hurt feelings.
Emily
I like that response – we have a family friend who always offers to do handyman work when he needs emergency cash. We never have to struggle about “giving” him the money, because he has always earned it.
anon
I agree with everyone else here – no.
You sound like a nice person. If the situation was reversed, would she did it for you?
Ru
I’m really impressed that you stook to your initial gut reactions. I agree with everyone else, emergency situations are different, but ultimately, at the end of the day, you are the custodian of your wealth and you decide where it should go.
I know I’m nosier than I should be but I find it curious that she called you right after you got her email. Maybe she was in an emergency situation? Sigh, but then you run into the risk of prying and knowing more than you want to and then more guilt comes your way. I think the kind way you did it is best.
Amy
I don’t lend money to people. I just don’t. I’ve seen way too many instances where it destroyed relationships. I will help people find resources where they can get help, I’ll give them food or clothes or other material assistance, I’ll try however I can to assist them without lending them money, but I don’t lend money. Ever. I feel like that’s just not the relationship I want to have with people.
I think it was fine for you to say no to lending the money. $500 is not a million dollars, but it’s not chump change either. Times are hard, but there is assistance out there to be had. Even if she is able-bodied and without kids she might be able to get food stamp assistance or some kind of cash assistance as well. A lot of food banks are helping otherwise-ineligible people now. And there are bill forbearance programs at utilities she can enroll in. Also, to my way of thinking, people should not ask for personal loans until they are legitimately out of money – meaning if she still has an IRA/401K or other investments, she needs to cash them in. And also cancel cable and other extras to save money. I think it’s obvious from the responses that asking friends for loans can make people very uncomfortable; it should be a last-last resort.
I try to have a charitable outlook and give from the heart whenever it’s necessary. But I have seen friends lend money to friends for “emergencies” and then the friend shows up with a new fancy pair of shoes, or goes on vacation, without paying back the money. There are safety nets for people who are legitimately desititute and in need of help. Formerly upper-middle -class people who have fallen on hard times may not be familiar or comfortable with accessing social services and charitable organizations for help but they certainly can.
SuzyQ
I agree with the previous posters and I also feel a little peeved for you that you are helping her so much with her search but she has the nerve to ask you for money as well. I hope she is not generally a “taker” and that you are getting something out of this friendship as well. Sorry if that sounds so negative. The next time she asks you for something or reaches out to you, you could just ask her if she’s reached out to the people you suggested. Don’t let yourself help her so much that you become resentful and annoyed.
annon
Thanks ladies for the input and the suggestions. It has helped me put things into perspective, but I can tell that I will still have a mean sleep over this one tonight. I will just let my heart tell me what and how much I can give.
Lawgirl
Wow. If I’m on my feet financially, I’d give/lend her the money. I put that amount into the plate at church (not all at once, granted), buy random cookies from Girl Scouts, political campaigns, Haiti relief, and other sundry “causes” for strangers I don’t know, so why not help a person who’s in need whom I trust. (Underline the word TRUST). I’d write it off as an act of kindness and tell her there’s no more water in the well after that.
ERP
annon don’t give her any money! You shouldn’t feel guilty, either. I am irritated at her for even asking you… she needs to pull herself together.
Lyssa
I never know about big necklaces like that. I always feel like they would look silly and overwhelming on a tiny (read: flat-chested) girl like me. What do you think; should this look mainly be reserved for the bustier corporettes?
fresh jd
Absolutely not! I don’t think chest size is an issue at all. In fact, it might look a lot stranger “resting” atop an ample bosom.
Chicago K
I agree, I have a larger chest (34 D) and I don’t feel like long chains rest well on me. I tend to stick to shorter necklaces because of this.
Anon
I stick with shorter necklaces for the same reason. I’m a 34DD and long necklaces tend to get ‘caught’ on one breast and end up off to the side. Not the look I’m ever trying to go for.
AIMS
I don’t think so! Sometimes, as Fresh JD points out, it’s actually much better on a smoother surface — but as with all jewelry/necklines/etc., it’s best to try on different necklaces to decide. Sometimes the way a necklace is even a few mm. lower/higher/thinner/wider makes a difference & results in flattery or just a chunky hanging blob. I have necklaces that are gorgeous that I never wear b/c they just don’t lie right, and others that I don’t even paricularly love that just look amazing on, somehow.
PS: Love this necklace, wouldn’t pay $250 for it. Agree that it could be found for much less — though not sure how much less as some of the $12-25 versions I’ve seen very much look like $12-25 versions!
Anonymous
I’ve seen Kim Raver from Lipstick Jungle rock some lovely ones on the show and she’s small chested, so no……….
Lola
I have a colleague that sounds like has a similar chest to yours. She wears tons of chunky necklaces, and I think they look great. Big, smooth stones are kind of her trademark. (Honestly, I think there’s more room there, so they even look better than on women with more ample anatomy.)
ML
I think you have to have pretty striking features to pull off a necklace like that.
AIMS
Total aside — at the top of my page is an ad urging NYers to join Roger from Mad Men in voting for Kathleen Rice in today AG primaries.
If I wasn’t going to vote for Rice before, I certainly am not going to do it on Roger’s endorsement. This following reports that Adam West (a.k.a. TV’s Batman) was making robocalls for another AG candidate (Coffey: let’s join up together to fight crime . . . )
Oh lord. How uninformed must these people think we all are to think these are the types of endorsements that will sway voters!
Sorry — rant over. Just sad for the state of our democracy sometimes.
Sarah
I’d love to hear more from the “this sucks, I can get same thing at x retailer for $x. crowd” Do you do the value based pricing in your head over other products too? e.g. bakery cookies are overpriced since Chips Ahoy are made from the same/similar (hopefully less processed!) ingredients and x times cheaper? Or does it depend on how important cookies to you?
In the case of this necklace, isn’t it fashion? You’re not buying a clasp, chain, and a bunch of black beads, you’re buying a brand, a vision, a feeling. It’s how it makes you feel etc. and it will prob only make their demographic feel the need to own it. $250 is more than I spend on necklaces, but my brain doesn’t go it’s not worth it because I can buy it at Forever21, or it uses seed beads, but just that it’s not for me.
Thoughts? I’m not trying to stir the pot up, just genuinely curious. Thanks.
Also, is there a such thing as ‘logical’ marks ups for fashion, it’s not cost to produce + a x. It’s arbitrary, isn’t it?
JSB
So I’m totally one of those people that see something like this necklace and go “hmmm, I can get that cheaper somewhere else”. Reasons – 1. I’m always looking for a bargin and enjoy the “hunt” and 2. I consider this a fashion piece and never spend a lot on fashion pieces. For me I value things based on how much I realistically will use/wear something or it’s long term usability. For instance, I’m very willing to pay a good amount for purses, my KitchenAid mixer, real jewelry (we’re talking diamonds, gems, gold), classic coats…all things that will be used for years. Trendy items like this, pencil jeans, trendy shoes, etc aren’t worth a lot to me because I’ll only wear them a few times and would rather invest in longer term items.
MOR
I shop exactly the same way. Fashion-wise, I’m perfectly willing to put out the money for good jewelry, bags, shoes, clothing that is classic/sensible/durable – things that will last for a long time with proper care. When buying things that won’t last long, that I won’t like for very long, or have no logical worth in terms of materials, I love to shop for bargains.
Ms B
Amen, sister. It all comes down to perspective. I view bakery cookies as overpriced, but that’s because I can make an entire batch of tastier cookies for the price of two bakery cookies. In other words, if I can get equal or better quality for the same price or less, that is what I am going to do.
Some fashion items are worth the money. I love my made to order Burberry trench and the cost really was beside the point. However, I had shopped the competition (and even the Burberry ready to wear pieces) and I knew that nothing else would fit or feel like a customized Burberry. The same goes for my first Coach bag (back in the pre-logo fabric days), my first Hermes scarf, and my Mikimoto pearls. All of them were well worth the money.
However, a necklace like this one is something that may or may not stay in style, so spending $250 on it seems excessive to me, especially when I can get something similar with real pearls and sterling for about a third of the price here: http://www.ross-simons.com/products/471191.html.
Besides, I remember when bead torsades were in the last time around. I had a couple of them then — and I am not missing them now.
Ru
These are gorgeous. I want one now.
Shayna
Agree — this is well put!
K
I agree completely. If I’m going to drop over $200 on a toursade necklace, I’m going to go for this one, which to me looks like it’ll be more versatile and last me a lot longer. (Saving up for it now!)
http://www.bluenile.com/silver-bead-necklace_15118
v
Well, I think the cookie analogy isn’t a bad one. I don’t make that comparison with chips ahoy vs. fresh bakery cookies because the chips ahoy are so manifestly inferior. But if I buy a bakery cookie that tastes like chips ahoy, I’m going to be annoyed. Similarly, when you have a lovely necklace with a unique design or made of precious materials, I wouldn’t compare that to something you buy at Claire’s. But if it is made of garden variety materials and has a garden variety design, then the price starts looking unreasonable. I mean, if the lower priced version isn’t actually inferior in some way, why pay more?
Kaye
Very well put.
Sharon
This isn’t a “brand, a vision” though. This is a common necklace. There isn’t enough style or beauty to this one to make me think “oh, this is worth paying above and beyond.” it’s really rather plain, IMO.
ND
I like it. Reminds me of the twister beads that were big in the mid-1980’s.
Fashion Emergency
Threadjack:
My husband let me know yesterday that “a few old friends” had invited us out to dinner on Friday. I got a babysitter and then casually asked him who it was. It turns out this is basically a high school reunion of his close friends from high school who he hasn’t “seen” (although they talk on Facebook all the time) for 20 years! I’ve never met any of them and I obviously want to look good and make a good impression, as these are people my husband cares about. I want to look sexy but not “hot” (read: inappropriate) but also be comfortable. The restaurant we’re meeting at is super-casual. I need some help picking an outfit – I am not sure what to do. Here are the options I’m thinking about:
– Jeans and an off-the-shoulder black top with a belt and probably tall sandals
– Cute dress and a jean jacket
– Casual pencil skirt, tank top and cardigan
– Black pants, sparkly tank and jean jacket
Any opinions? Any ideas? I think I have too many clothes as I am in total paralysis of choice right now! Thanks for any help offered!
Anonymous
Whether dress or separates, the aesthetic imperative here is torso & face. Working on the theory that you show skin and/or emphasize/show-off above or below, but not both, ‘save’ your spotlight for the top by wearing simple bottom– makes you look more classy as well as less fussy than a whole all-over to-do. I say not too much bust but lovely, feminine (guys like femme-y not fashion-y, & this is about your husband and his crowd; another night can be girl/mode-centric; know your audience) neckline with clavicle– your shoulder-barer sounds great if it’s subtle, almost accidental-looking– and hair loosely up, dangly, girly earrings (again with the audience). Soft, soft make-up, limit your drinks but Do drink, have Fun! They’ll love you, the looks are just prep & short-hand for getting to know your cool self.
Anonymous
Yep– sitting at a table or bar means top is most important.
Anonymous
Jean jacket over a cute dress would waste the cuteness here since top show, not legs.
lawDJ
I vote for the first outfit with the off the shoulder top, I also like the black pants and sparkly (if not TOO sparkly) tank but hate it with jean jacket. I don’t know what jean jacket you’re talking about of course, but almost all jean jackets = frump to me so not cool, yours could very well be the exception though.
Fashion Emergency
I have one that is very shaped and is dark, dark denim – so not at all like an 80s washed jean jacket. I don’t show my arms because I have eczema on my upper arms that from what others have told me is hardly noticeable, but I feel insecure about it and I don’t want to feel insecure at all, in any way during this event :)
Been there, done that...
If there ever was an occassion to have to look good, this is it. I would wear jeans and hot shoes. I agree with the others that face and torso are the most important though. I’m not sure about the off the shoulder black top. I’d have to see it (or something similar) to make an a more informed decision. Would the sparkly tank top go with the jeans? Of course it would mean you can’t wear the jean jacket with the jeans. (I know it’s a trend, but I’m not sold on it.)
Fashion Emergency
The top is deep v-neck that I can either wear off the shoulder or on the shoulder, but then the V is so deep it goes under my cleavage, which is not the look I want to go for.
The sparkly top looks great with jeans – I’ve worn it that way before – but as I said above, I don’t show my arms, and the sparkly top is sleeveless. Could I wear a shrunken cardi over it? Would that look OK?
I realized I am worried about appearing overdressed compared to other people…is that something I should worry less about?
Kaye
If you’re worried about being overdressed, go with the first outfit – the most versatile. Even if others show up less dressed up – you’re just wearing jeans and a sweater :)
Been there, done that...
Yes, you run the risk of being overdressed, but I would rather be overdressed than underdressed. A shrunken cardi over sparkly top could definitely work. I also think the off-the-shoulder top would work well too.
When I went to my 20th HS reunion last year, which was at a local country club with dinner and DJ, I was totally surprised at how many people were underdressed, and how many people hadn’t really changed their fashion sense (or hair style) since high school.
AIMS
Not that it’s better to be underdressed, but if you’re going somewhere super casual and you think other people will be there wearing seriouslu un-dressy clothes and you show up in super high heels and sparkles, you will look silly. Wear something versatile so you can blend regardless. You’re better off spending the time on getting your hair & make up perfect (maybe splurge on a blow out & professional application) and keep your outfit simple (although heels can never hurt!). You don’t need rhinestones to make you look sexy — that can be done in a simple tee shirt if everything else is done right.
Fashion Emergency
Thanks for the help everyone…Anonymous at 8:16, you had great advice and made me feel better about the whole thing :) I am probably going to go the black top/jeans route because I have some great jewelry my husband has given me that I can wear with it. Normally I would have panicked and gone shopping but with the all the advice I got here, I realized I have plenty in my closet that I can use and there’s no need for desperation shopping :) Thanks so much for responding to my quandary! Corporetters are the best! :)
Chicago K
First outfit definately sounds best. When I read casual I think you are going to be at a sports bar/Chilli’s/Chain type place. I think the outfit sounds casual enough but sexy.
I show up many places overdressed, and I get comments all the time regarding why. Sometimes I don’t care (I came from work! I like to wear my pearl studs to a baseball game!) but sometimes I think I have no idea how to be casual…
Jill
Hijack here. What’s the word on Thomas Pink suiting for women? Am in the process of gradually updating my suiting (one upgrade per season). My last such purchase was Brooks Brothers navy pinstripe, if that gives you an idea of my range. Based on the website, the Thomas Pink pieces look like the right price and style for me, but I don’t have any experience with the brand. Thought?
Kaye
My very chic friend swears by their button-down shirts. Not sure about the suiting.
FinanceGal
Love Thomas Pink! Based on your recent BB purchase it sounds like Pink is a good target brand for you. Their button down shirts are particularly well-reviewed by fellow Corporettes, and suit pieces are of good quality and usually classic design. It would be well worth your checking out in person.
L from Oz
I’ve posted about Thomas Pink before to say that I love their shirts. I’ve tried on suiting and liked it too (particularly jackets), but haven’t had the money to buy. However, judging by comments I’ve seen on here, and the fit I’ve noticed in other Pink garments (particularly dresses), I’d be a little wary if you’re tall and thin. I like Thomas Pink in part because it fits short and busty me with relatively few alterations, so I can see why that would be a problem for other body types. I’d certainly order a size down if that’s you, and I would try to check it out in person, as their shipping is viciously expensive.
another anon
Second the below. I am tall and can only wear their 3/4 length shirts (and I have a short torso). I also find that they cut their shoulders VERY narrow. If you are petite, or fine-boned, or built with tiny arms, their suit jackets should fit you. I always need talls, and was a former swimmer, and find that their suiting does not fit me. Their shirts are truly lovely, superior cotton. They feel great on.
Other great thing about Pink–they have “European”-style sales. That is to say, huge markdowns in late June/July and January. So it’s not a store that I try to pay full price at, because very rarely do I think “I can’t wait.” for a certain piece from there.
L from Oz
Very true about the shoulder cut, because that’s me exactly – petite (though busty), narrow-shouldered and really short arms! So if something fits me, I’d imagine it’s really tricky for anyone taller and broader.
Agree on the sales. I’ve bought one thing full price (a black woollen dress that matched an image I’d had in my head for years), and everything else at a pretty sizeable discount. They seem to stock most sizes in the sales pretty reliably, unless you’re right at the bottom or top end.
AIMS
Oh my god — I never even thought about their suiting, but you just described my body. Thank you! I am going there STAT.
Veronica
Interesting! Their shirts fit me fine in the shoulders, and I’m extremely broad shouldered, tall, and busty (cannot wear Theory jackets – at all). Perhaps their sizing actually scales up in meaningful ways rather than just the same cut with another half inch all around. Now that’s difficult to find.
L from Oz
Could be – when I’ve tried something on that’s the wrong size it’s literally falling off me, which rarely happens, so maybe the difference between their sizes in pronounced.
(Should add – am not in any way affiliated with Thomas Pink, but lived for years in a city with a very good Pink womanswear shop, and was delighted to find shirts that fit again after years avoidng them!)
Jill
Thanks all! Very helpful. I am not sure where my body type falls among the various dEscriptions; Am tall and a but not super- thin. Might have to find a place to try on in person.
Liz
It also looks a bit heavy for the office, no?
Parisienne
I have a couple of these kinds of necklaces – one very expensive, one very cheap, and they are beautiful, sparkly and face-flattering. But….I find they go well with very few necklines. Each one I wear with only one outfit – and seldom.
Sara
Have one in white, vintage shop, $12. Wore it tonight in Geneva on a business dinner with a blue/white print top and black cardigan- does help tie many outfits together especially in summer, I wear it a lot. Wouldn’t pay $250 though.
Anon
to the thread above on lending money… while it’s fully reasonable not to lend it to her- try to preserve your opinion of her by understanding how truly difficult it is to be unemployed. It happened to me despite being hardworking, ‘following the rules,’ etc. and it was the most unnerving thing that ever happened to me. That year I became a different person. I simply couldn’t be a cheery person at networking events because I was so stressed about money and where I went wrong to be unmarketable (though much was market conditions not me). Anyway- being under that stress does awful things to people and she surely doesn’t mean to harm or insult you- just in a bad place. She will come through eventually and hopefully get back to normal.
EmmaCay
Those necklaces are stunning! I love lots of bling, the more the merrier. I found a wonderful white gold piece at http://www.ABCthings4u.com great price too. :)