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Sioux Falls TJ
Sorry for the immediate TJ, but I need to find a divorce / family law lawyer in Sioux Falls, SD, STAT. Thanks for any recommendations. Now, back to the fashions :)
layered bob
ooh I’m no help, but I used to live in the Sioux Falls area and may be moving back in the next few years – makes me happy that there are c 0 r p 0 r 3 t t 3 types there!
d
I practice in Sioux Falls SD, but not in family law. Try Janklow Law Firm. 605-332-0101. They do some family law. It’s a small firm, but they’re good.
Sioux Falls TJ
Thanks! They look really good at what they do (so if this isn’t up their alley, maybe they would have a sense of who else is out there).
Divaliscious11
Piggy backing on this – just talked ta friend and s/he needs a divorce lawyer in Bergen County, NJ – any recommendations?
@Monday
I saw your post from yesterdayabout being misanthropic brides. I missing having an anti-bride buddy too! I’m not on here much anymore, but if you’re on Tumblr, look me up. I’m jennydictatrix and there’s all kinds of misanthropic wedding action going on, including having to RENT A CAR and drive to $!^*&#@$ LANCASTER, PA in search of a stupid dress.
–The Artist Formerly Known as DCJenny
Flamingo
DC Jenny – I was also wondering what happened to you. Good luck with the dress shopping (hopefully it will be over soon!)
NOLA
Hey jenny – I know I’m not Monday, but LANCASTER!! Donecker’s? Only been there once but having lived in that neighborhood, I can’t imagine.
I’ve been meaning to be in touch. Would love to help out however I can with your bachelor e t t e party. Let me know if there’s anything you need. Email me at nolar e t t e at gmail dot com.
anonforthis
I think Doneckers closed…not sure. But there is Cocoa Couture in Hershey which is an independent bridal shop (not too far from Lancaster)
NOLA
Oh Cocoa Couture is hilarious! I haven’t seen it. I bought my senior recital dress at a place in Palmyra that I think is still there.
Ella
I am loving all of this central PA talk!
anonforthis
I THINK The Cinderella Shop in Palmyra is closed, sadly. Cocoa Couture has Ok selection (I would say good for bridal gowns and bridal party, iffy for MOB and other fancy dresses). They carry limited sizes, and they can be a bit pushy with selling things and having them tailored instead of ordering them in the correct size. They also try to push you into things that won’t work just to make a sale so you need to be a bit strong-willed there.
NOLA
BTW, I don’t think jenny was looking for a place. I was just guessing where she was going. Too bad about the Cinderella Shop. I used to drive by there regularly. My parents moved to that area when I was in college. I was a ride operator at a certain amusement park for 4 summers!
anonforthis
I was a ride operator too! For 2 summers…WEIRD.
NOLA
Not completely surprising given that it’s one of the few places in that area for college students to work. And rides were the best of the possible jobs IMO. Back when I did it, it wasn’t all automated. We did a lot manually, including the announcements. I was known as the girl with the s3xy microphone voice… LOL.
OpposingCounsel
Ride operator for 2 summers here too!!! Magic water, anyone?
Giraffe with curls
I worked at a certain amusement park in Allentown for a couple of summers, and I can still do the “Thanks and enjoy your day” spiel with the special “twirl” in the first syllable of the second-to-last word. Yay for PA amusement parks!
CountC
I just left Central PA about 7 months ago! Too funny.
anon
I just left Central PA about 7 months ago! Too funny.
Monday
YES!! Thanks for responding. I hope you come back too!
We should start a huge multimedia franchise called The Bride Who Just Never Really Got Into It or something! FOOEY!
Ao
Apologies for the immediate TJ – I am desperately in need of a Valentine’s day gift idea for my SO. We have been together for 7 years, so I’ve already gotten him most of the standard gifts (wallet, watch, etc.). Yesterday he surprised me with a phenomenal gift that was completely unexpected, and I’d like to do the same for him. Experience-themed gift ideas are also welcome, but I’m having a hard time thinking of a good one for him. He is in the tax industry and works a lot, so I would enjoy the chance to do something new with him. Any suggestions from the hive? Thank you in advance!
momentsofabsurdity
Ziplining? Trapeze lessons? Hot air balloon ride? Renting a super fancy sports car for the day? River rafting trip?
petitesq
Along this line – skydiving! So much fun!
roses
Weekend at a romantic B&B? Maybe near some wineries or breweries or hiking trails (depending on what you’re into)?
darjeeling
depending on where you are, get a driver for the day to take you wine tasting? Cole Haan Lunar Grand shoes were also a hit with my SO recently.
New York recs
Sorry to threadjack right away, but I must….
If you were 30 and spending a Saturday in NYC with 3 college friends and their spouses/significant others, what would you do? I’m looking for recommendations for restaurants, things to do, etc. Also, everyone is trying to keep it as budget friendly as possible.
darjeeling
The Brooklyn Brewery is the best place to spend a Saturday afternoon- beer is delicious and cheap, fun crowd, and you can bring or order in your own food.
KC
I picked up their Winter Ale over the weekend and it was delicious! Big fan.
anon
What time of the year will you be there?
New York recs
Within the next few weeks. I’m assuming there is still snow on the ground, no?
darjeeling
it’s mostly melted now b/c of the warmer weather and rain yesterday, but it could always snow again
a.k.
If the weather cooperates, you can take a walk south on the High Line, pop into Chelsea Market to look around. Then finish at Bill’s Burgers on 9th for good food and boozy milkshakes. We did that a year ago and even though it was chilly, it was a great way to spend an afternoon.
Anonymous
You should go to Rosvelte’s island on the tram then walk like Myrna and me did. Great exersize and GREAT for your tuchuses especially if your drinkeing BEER. Yay!
Myrna gave me the number of some carpenters she knew and they want to have a look at the pool house but they want ME to go out there. FOOEY! I have to ask the Manageing partner if he wants me to do that b/c I have alot of cases to Handel and this is goeing to blow a full day. Mabye I can get my dad to go with me? Yay!
New York recs
Ok – can I just comment about how excited I am that Ellen responded to my post!?!?! Even more excited because it was a goof – obviously written as Ellen, but under the name Anonymous! Paging Ellen Watch!
Anon
A fun activity to do on the High Line- say bizarre things to the others in your group that others will overhear because the HL is now a crowded tourist trap. If you have walked on the HL and heard someone say to the person next to her, “I need to buy a new cattle prod,” that was probably me.
NYNY
Do you have any specific plans while you’re here? If it’s an artsy crowd, you can hit galleries in West Chelsea before day drinking at the Half King. Or go window shopping in Soho before day drinking at the Room.
What are your group’s interests/proclivities? If day drinking isn’t one of them, it seems that I don’t have suggestions…
darjeeling
immediate shoe-related threadjack. I saw a woman last night wearing the perfect boots and I am hoping someone can help me ID them since I was too shy to just ask her. Black smooth leather, riding boot style, slim and straight – no bunching at all – with long zippers on the outside and a subtle row of zipper teeth along the seam between the leather and the sole. Any ideas? Not surprisingly, googling ” riding boot zipper accent” was unsuccessful.
darjeeling
I see everyone else was waiting for this post to go up for their threadjacks also. :)
Herbie
You might try submitting this to TCFKAG’s tumblr.
goldribbons
Were they La Canadienne?
darjeeling
I’m not sure; they look similar to the classic riding boot style La Canadiennes I see on Zappos but without the zipper detail, and the shaft on the dream boots looked a little shorter
Monte
Cole Haan Hollis boot?
darjeeling
I think that’s it! Thank you!!
Mighty Mouse
On sale for less than 200 at Nordstrom’s, I think. Gorgeous, btw.
JessC
I need some recipe ideas/help. I’m volunteering on a project with a group that I’m a part of where we’ll be going to schools and other kid-centric organizations to teach under-privileged kids about healthy eating. I need to come up with a healthy/nutritous recipe (didn’t specify if it should be for a meal or snack) that has 5 ingredients or less and can be made without a stove or oven. Any ideas? I’m thinking something involving canned beans (as they’re cheap, already cooked, and filling) but am kind of at a loss.
Thanks!!
momentsofabsurdity
Fro yo pops? I used to love making those when I was little – basically pour some non-fat yogurt (as a kid, I liked the flavored kinds) into a removable container like a paper cup, put in a Popsicle stick and put it in the freezer.
Merabella
You don’t even need to pour it into something if you buy small containers – yay for less cleaning!
CW
I used to love those when I was a kid! You could probably make your own flavors if you buy plain yogurt and add jams. If I remember correctly, I think you need to put plastic wrap over the cups to hold the popsicle stick up.
Anonymous
Caprese Salad- so easy, and the healthy tomatoes are hidden by delicious cheese, and you can make cool cut outs using cookie cutters so it’s more kid friendly. Who doesn’t love star shaped tomatoes/cheese stacks with a smidgen of salt, olive oil and basil.
Miss Behaved
You could even stack them on toothpicks
Lalo
Similarly I love watermelon feta kabobs (ok, toothpicks). If you stick a little piece of mint between some of the squares they are even better.
ANP
How old are the kids you’ll be dealing with? As the mom of a toddler, I can speak firsthand to the popularity of banana and peanut-butter caterpillars with raisin eyes and antennae. However, if you’re presenting to anyone older than 6 this may not be so popular :)
Merabella
I love the old standby of ants on a log – pb, raisins & celery!
Also making dip out of greek yogurt to go with veggies.
Miss Behaved
Cooking Light has a recipe for pretzels dipped in peanut butter and chocolate. It’s relatively healthy and very tasty: http://www.myrecipes.com/recipe/peanut-butter-chocolate-pretzels-50400000117859/
Anon
If it can just be snacks–apples cored and cut into round slices with peanut butter in the middle, like a sandwhich, ants on a log (celery, peanut butter and raisins), hot dogs (they make some healthier versions now) and cheese cubes on a stick, homemade “lunchables”–deli meat, cheese, crackers and a fruit.
As for using canned beans–my kids like “burrito bowls” where we top black beans with cheese, guacamole, salsa, lettuce and tomato (and grilled chicken, maybe get pre-grilled chicken or just skip it.) My kids also like frito pie–top frito chips with pinto beans, canned chili (we don’t use canned, but for this you could), cheese, lettuce and tomato. Though that is not the healthiest….
n.
Yeah, I was going to suggest taco bowls — shredded lettuce with black beans, cheese, salsa, and crushed taco chips.
Anon
Whole wheat tortillas, pizza-flavored hummus, turkey pepperoni, shredded cheese.
Serve them flat and cut into triangles like a pizza or roll them up.
OpposingCounsel
Pizza-flavored hummus…that’s a thing?
Parfait
We really are living in a golden age.
Meg Murry
Tomato salsa? Black bean and corn salsa? Hummus? Ranch dressing from yogurt, chives, parsley & garlic? Any dip with pita or veggies?
Depending on where you are going, you might want to avoid “fancy” ingredients, as many underprivledged neighborhoods are food deserts, with little access to fresh fruits and veggies, let alone turkey hotdogs or low sodium anything, etc. You may want to go scope out a grocery store near the school with a couple of the recipes to see if any of the ingredients are available there – the lesson is more likely to have a lasting effect, IMHO, if students can repeat the recipe from their local grocery store.
Divaliscious11
Scoping out the nearby grocery store is fantastic. Also, if caloric intake is limited, you can likely skip the low fat, and still be healthy. An issue when the schools were on strike last fall was that some kids only had one meal at home – so you may not need to focus on calories so much as nutrient content….
Some snack ideas – cottage cheese and apple sauce (flavored is good as well); cottage cheese and chopped tomatoes with salt/pepper
Meal options – kidney beans, water, smoked turkey parts (usually only $2-3 a pack) rice veggie — slow cook beans in water with smoked turkey (if no crock pot, in big pot on very low, serve over rice w/ veggie on side
Snarkster
Is this for Junior League by any chance? You could google kids in the kitchen for some ideas from other Leagues
Mouse
Cantelope + cottage cheese
Tuna + celery + salt & Pepper + mayo
Momof2
You could try cheese and bean quesadillas with carrot sticks on the side to dip (in sour cream if it’s my daughter). With regard to all the peanut butter ideas–yummy and easy, yes. Just make sure whoever you are cooking for doesn’t have a no treenut/peanut rule or worse, food allergic kids. Both of my kids’ schools are nut free now.
Brooklyn, Esq.
Salad of black beans, tomatoes, corn, tossed with lime and olive oil?
Divaliscious11
Whatever you come with, make sure its accessible menu items. I saw someone recommend Caprese, which while yum and delicious, may not be accessible location/and or price wise……
d
http://www.peanutbutterboy.com/peanut-butter-sushi/
peanut butter “sushi?”
Anonymous
Not a fan of this top. As a non-update from yesterday, I am still completely over exposed zippers, and the hem looks a little unfinished or unpolished.
lawstudent
This may out me, but yesterday I chaired a panel discussion where one of the (older, male) participants mentioned that “women have certain decisions to make, and have certain natural responsibilities at home, which they naturally must consider in their career choices.”
I made eye contact with an incredibly accomplished female lawyer on the panel (one of a few!) who smiled and rolled her eyes at him. Good to know that I wasn’t the only one who found that super offensive. I’m just sick of that message, really. Just wanted to share.
Mpls
Did anyone ask for a follow up on those “natural responsibilities at home”? Because I might have enjoyed making him spell that one out.
Herbie
Barf.
goldribbons
Similarly, in the last few weeks, when my Employment Law professor was discussing women in the workforce, casually mentioned how much children suffer when parenting is “outsourced,” i.e., when children are cared for by nannies or daycare.
eek
um, whatever.
LackingLuster
This irks me whenever I hear it. For thousands of years, people have been taking care of other people’s children– whether it’s the grandmother so the mother can gather berries and nuts for the familt, or a nanny so that mom and dad can work 80-hour a week jobs and grandma lives across the country and still works full-time herself. It’s just part of any economy. Kids for the most part are fine. If they aren’t, I doubt it’s due to daycare.
LackingLuster
“Family.” One-handed typing because I’m pumping. Because my kid goes to daycare.
goldribbons
This makes me so happy. Thanks for both your comments. :)
Need to Improve
Get the hands-free pumping bra, sister. That thing is amazing.
Divaliscious11
Not to mention the wet nurses, so that the mothers could sit on the porch and rock, or play bridge with their friends etc…..
Divaliscious11
Did you probe? I would have asked how does it compare with the suffering caused by the outsourcing of fathering?
Ellen
Fooey! Doesn’t he know that we are professional’s? I want a BABY also but I would NOT mind if my husband took care of her b/c I am a high powered lawyer who WILL be a partner, a JUDGE or a law school PROFESSER so I will be the BREAD WINER! Yay!
Cinnamon Heart
What are all the single ladies doing for Valentines Day?
I have no plans, though I suspect I will end up having a date with Merle (aka merlot), my tub and a book, while trying to not feel like a huge dork because all my friends have serious relationships, and therefore big plans for this special day.
joy
Don’t worry. My 4th wedding anniversary is this year and my husband and I don’t do Valentine’s Day. It isn’t a ‘special’ day for us…we have birthdays and anniversaries for that!
anti-joy
Snark warning – I’m not sure that asking what single ladies are doing on Valentine’s warrants a response on how many fantastic special days you and your husband have after 4 years together. Congrats on that but, i mean, REALLY.
Duchess
Three of my friends and I are going to a Mumford and Sons concert. I think we’re basically just pretending the day isn’t what it is. I can only imagine the lovey-dovey couples that will be there, though, on dates…
momentsofabsurdity
Argh moderation.
I’m planning on hash-tagging all my social media posts that day with the tag dyingalone.
Just kidding! I’ll probably also be having a date with wine, some chick flicks and maybe baking. On a similar note – I belong to a women’s only gym and this week, they’re allowing men in. Today my spin class is called a “sweetheart ride” and is coed.
…Yeah. When I signed up, the girl at the front desk said, “And did you also want to sign up anyone special???” I guess I’m my own sweetheart at the ride tonight.
shortiek
+1
“sweetheart ride”? urgh!
Anon
You will win +1,000,000 points if you bring a lady garden party tool to class and place it on the seat of the spin bike next to you.
Veronica
+1,000,000,000
Do it!
just Karen
yup….just laughed out loud at this. Thank you!
Veronica
So because it’s the week of Valentine’s Day, women need to spend all their time with their partners, even when they’re getting grimy working out? Why???
momentsofabsurdity
I agree. But I’m a bitter single person, so what do I know?
De
Going to the gym. Maybe afterwords I’ll give myself a pedicure and watch a very non-lovey-dovey movie.
Merabella
I love this idea.
AMB
Going to have a nice dinner with some of single girlfriends! Should be nice!
JessC
I’m planning on staying home, cooking myself a nice dinner, and curling up in front of the TV with the kitty. My dad actually offered to take me out to dinner for Valentine’s Day (he’s widowed and not seeing anyone), which was rather sweet considering my BF and I broke up last week. I declined the offer (didn’t want to deal with the mayhem/crowds) but we’re going out Saturday night.
Anonymous
Love that. Cherish your dad for being so great. You are lucky lucky lucky. And the fact that he is so great bodes very well for your chances of ending up with a great partner.
JessC
Thanks – he’s pretty awesome and I love him to pieces. I’d consider myself pretty darn lucky if I found myself a guy as great as him.
Ru
Visiting the neurologist instead of the orthopedist. Woohoo.
goldribbons
*hive five* for taking care of yourself. No snark.
Herbie
Drinks with other ladyfrayns! I’ve been seeing a Very Cute Gentleman Caller, who inquired about my availability on V-Day, but I’m going out with my ladies instead.
LR
I have a SO but he has to work, so I’m thinking maybe a pedicure after work and either a book or TV. It’s not a special holiday for me no matter what.
AnnonFoo
Can’t wait for the whole V-day overload to get over asap. I am planning to go for a cardio kickboxing class. I will pretend to beat the sh*t out of my ex-bf of 3.5 years who broke up 2 months ago.
Come home, take a warm bath, order loads of sushi (he never liked it) and open a bottle of sake. Then finish last 2 episodes of house of cards on netflix. I love the dark, vicious manipulation in the show, just what I need for the v-day evening, stay far away from any lovey-dovey stuff.
De
Totes taking your idea and picking up sushi after the gym. Sounds like we’ve got very similar plans!
Susie
I saw a sign at my gym for a kickbox class where they are encouraging people to bring in a photo of an ex to tape onto the punching bags!
I’m married, we don’t do anything for Valentines Day but Thursday is our regular date night when we get takeout and watch Suits on USA.
Anonymous NYer
I love that that’s your date night. Sounds pretty perfect, hassle-free, and makes it easier to keep due to aforementioned lack of hassle.
Woods-comma-Elle
Studying for the bar – rock’n’roll. It isn’t that noticeable here, though, and I usually forget that it’s V Day anyway, it’s just a Thursday!
TO Lawyer
Have an SO but he’s in another city and totally doesn’t care about V-day (as in I will be really surprised if he even acknowledges it to me and says anything about it) so I’m planning on some take-out and copious amounts of wine… I hate Vday, regardless of whether or not I’m coupled. I feel like it just sets up unrealistic expectations. Even though I know my SO’s view on the day, I still feel like I may be disappointed if he doesn’t acknowledge it at all.
JessiJames
Newly single (as in this weekend) and this is gonna be my first V-Day in six years alone… planning on working out, and then playing video games and drinking wine. Might call up one of my coworkers who’s also having guy problems and we’ll go out for munchies.
Seriously, Valentine’s Day sucks if you’re single. Stupid idea for a holiday. -.-
goldribbons
Post your city and someone here would likely grab a drink with you!
zora
Word.
k-padi
My first pro-tennis match. Thanks to V-day, our clients didn’t take all the tickets to the SAP Open on Friday night. A friend and I scored great seats!
zora
I wanted to do a Galintines Day evening, but all of my single friends already had plans, what is up with THAT?! ;oP Lame is what it is… I also wanted to go by the big San Francisco event for One Billion Rising at SF City Hall (calling attention to global violence against women), but not sure if I feel like going by myself. I usually successfully ignore V-day but for some reason this year it’s bugging me.
P.S. If anyone in the Bay Area wants to have a Galintines drink, let me know! ;o)
Turtle Wexler
Not single, but I’ll be spending the evening alone anyway because my DH has to work. I’ll be heading to yoga class, then home to catch up with JB Fletcher over knitting and a glass of wine or a cup of hot cocoa, depending on my mood. Might do some vacuuming or laundry if I’m feeling extra-energetic. Basically, it’s the same plan as any other Thursday, and I’m fine with that.
Cb
Any advice on turning conversations a bit more positive? Stopped by the department and wandered into a massive whinge fest. Maybe it is the weather getting people down but the energy was just so low and everyone was making mountains out of molehills. I didn’t want to be Pollyanna (and appreciate that my funding makes me a bit luckier than most) but we are incredibly lucky to be doing work we care about, in an amazing city, with awesome friends.
a.k.
Channeling downthread, why not tell people that you gave up complaining for lent?
ANP
I find it most productive to just walk away and refuse to participate.
PharmaGirl
Oh peplum, please go away!
Research, Not Law
Seriously. I was over it as soon as it came out.
joy
I never got the peplum trend (and for the longest time I thought ‘peplum’ was a fabric and not a style…!). As a pear-shaped woman, I can’t imagine wanting to put MORE emphasis on my hips. Goodness.
momentsofabsurdity
Weirdly enough, I have read some style advice that peplum can actually disguise the appearance of hips (by being like oh hey, it’s probably that big ruffle of fabric that’s wide, not her hips!) YMMV.
Kontraktor
Yeah I sort of find this too. I have a really ill-defined/thick waist and I find peplum sort of balances me out and makes me look a little more evenly proportioned.
Nonny
I am hippy and LURVE peplums. They look fabulous on me. But maybe it’s something to do with my particular body type (more of a high hip than a pear).
Susie
Yes, +1000!
ANP
Just wanted to check in and thank everyone who responded to my question posted in yesterday’s TPS about getting to bed earlier. Sounds like the answer is “Try to accomplish less,” which is hard for this Type A! I appreciated all of your responses, though.
Anon
ANP – if you figure out the ‘doing less – sleeping more” thing you’ll be ahead of me. Every day i say that…
Cb
Is anyone giving anything up for Lent? I’m thinking ALL sweets, candy, cake, and baked goods.
SunnyD
Me too. Sweets go away again! I love sweets so much and they’re the hardest fast for me. So that’s what I should do for my fast. I’m seeing a fro yo dinner tonight.
Anon in DC
Ooo that’s drastic. The timing is rough this year, with Ash Weds before Val Day. I think I’m giving up chocolate and sugar in my tea, and adding in workouts (3 per week; I’ve been slacking off with maybe 2 per week). And, you know, some kind if personal reflection. Are you doing any non-food-related Lent resolutions?
KC
One of my childhood Sunday school teachers made an excellent point that Lent doesn’t always have to be about giving up something, so I always try to do more acts of personal charity in addition to the typical fasting.
Hollis Doyle
I thought about doing all sweets too but decided to just go with chocolate. That gives me a little leeway to eat some sweets but just not the massive amounts of chocolate I’ve been consuming lately for some reason. I also decided that in the 40 days of Lent, I’m going to try to have at least 12 LGPs (approx. 2x per week) with my hubby as we’ve been in sort of a rut lately.
lawsuited
DH and I made a pact in December to have a LGP every day. It strangely took the pressure of us by removing the decision-making element (will we tonight? won’t we?) and did wonders for us since.
eeyore
I wanted to do this and DH was so grouchy at the idea. Too much pressure, he said. Sigh.
Merabella
You could resolve to always try to say yes when the other person asks and not set a number on it, this might alleviate the pressure to do it every night.
eeyore
Thanks, Merabella. This sounds helpful. Maybe that will work better.
Parfait
I do what Merabella does. The stereotype of “women need to feel close to have LGPs, men need to have LGPs to feel close” is a stereotype, yes, but I find it holds true in my particular relationship.
Merabella
Parfait, I agree with that sentiment a bit too.
Eeyore, I think this will also help your husband feel OK about initiating because he will be less likely to be rejected and vice-verse.
Kontraktor
We’re giving up meat (not fish). We’re also reading daily devotionals. In years past, I have prayed a rosary every day. We also considered giving up television, but I think giving up meat will involve a lot more effort and thoughtful planning (which seems to be the point of the giving something up). Also, in the Catholicism of yesteryear (and in some Eastern Rites currently), it was/is a given to give up all meat for Lent, so we also feel we are being true to roots/there is that connection for us as well.
Eleanor
I’m doing giving up meat and fish. I’m still trying to figure out what extra thing to do, though – some kind of daily devotional is a good idea. I’ve done evening prayer from the liturgy of the hours in past years, and that worked well.
Lady Harriet
Last year I said night prayer every night before I went to bed and it was really good. The only hitch was that I don’t have a breviary, so I had to use my computer, which was more distracting at bedtime.
Kontraktor
We like a series called the Living Gospel. They also do daily devotionals for Advent which we have also used. They tend to include some Bible readings, as well as a short reflection about the sorts of ideas/contemplations the verses should maybe get you thinking about. We find them a good way to keep scripture relevant to our lives.
cbackson
If you are into the BVM, there is a really great book called something like “Through Lent with Mary” that I’ve used in the past.
Eleanor
Wow, I just checked back, and thanks for the suggestions! I’ll look into these.
ANP
My husband is doing the same as you, Cb. I’m giving up all fast food and I’m going to try a once a week electronics “fast” — no TV, iPad or PC one day a week. Baby steps, people.
Anon in DC
Love the weekly electronic fast! Brilliant! I’m going to add it to my Lent list.
De
I like the idea of adding something rather than giving up something. In my last year of law school I think I told myself for Lent I’d start reading cases more thoroughly, so as to get back into the habit. This year I think I might start getting up earlier every morning, so that I can get back into a healthier habit of not hitting snooze forever.
mascot
Another vote for the sweet train. I have being eating junk sweets and have lost my taste for quality ones that actually satisfy me. I gave up television a few years back and it was a positive experience. It made me realize how much time I was wasting watching tv just because it was there and then being bummed that I had wasted an evening with nothing to show for it.
NOLA
Yikes! I usually give up chocolate but then I realized I bought a giant bag of chocolate products at Target yesterday – thankfully, not all for me. But my friend’s grandsons asked me to bake them more M&M cookies and I thought about taking more for a meeting on Friday where we have lunch catered but no dessert. For me, giving up pastries or even alcohol wouldn’t do much. I like the idea of reading a daily devotional. Anyway, maybe I’ll just give up chocolate after Friday…
Anon
Coffee.
De
Brave soul.
JessC
+1
eek
yeah, this makes me cry into my fondue. Good luck!
SunnyD
I would die.
Anne Shirley
Fasting isn’t a part of my (Protestant) tradition, but I always try and make it to church more often in Lent. Usually I’m a once a monther. Project: find a church I like in NYC is on again.
Anyone attend a mainline Protestant church in Manhattan that a) has more than 20 people at services, b) uses mostly traditional music, and c) has a congregation that includes single people in their 20s and 30s? Sometimes I feel like I’m hunting unicorns.
Diana Barry
Trinity Wall St? My friend sings in their choir – they have great music. :)
joy
I go to Trinity Wall Street and I LOVE IT. The music is as traditional as it gets. The choir is phenomenal.
anon
I have an uncle and aunt that are members of First Pres in Greenwich Village and when I’ve been, it’s seemed traditional and it seems like there are a good mix of ages.
Diana Barry
I used to sing there – music is not as great as Trinity Wall St, just so’s you know. ;)
layered bob
check out Redeemer Presbyterian
cbackson
The 5 PM Sunday mass at Grace Church (Episcopal) should fit the bill. Or the 11 AM at St. Luke in the Fields (also Episcopal), although it is kid-heavy. St. Luke in the Fields is semi-Anglo Catholic, though, so if you’ve not comfortable with LOTS of liturgy, it might be a bit much.
Midwest Transplant
Love this question. Although prefer Methodist (for better hymns)
Anne Shirley
Also Methodist, and agree our hymns rock, but the Meyhodist church in the village is all about praise and worship music, and the Upper West Side one is sooooooooooo family oriented.
anon
Don’t let Mrs. Rachel Lynde see this!
anon
If you’re up for a trip to Brooklyn, I love love love Park Slope United Methodist Church. Single friends have been members at Fifth Avenue Presbyterian and had good experiences.
petitesq
Was just thinking about this. If you do give up sweets, it’s very helpful to have a lot of fresh fruits and especially berries around. Also create guidelines for yourself as to what is or is not a “sweet” (sticking point for me: strawberry jam). My fiance is giving up all alcohol, and I think this year I’m going to resolve TO do something (work out regularly) rather than give something up.
mascot
That’s a good point. I would like to do a better job of enjoying fruit as a dessert.
Anonymous
I see where you’re going with this, and yes, it will help those not ready to quit cold-turkey, but I must say that it was a complete and total absence of anything sweet in my world that once and for all killed my sweet tooth. Not at all against fruit, of course.
January
I’m considering giving up Coke. Don’t know if I can do it, though. I may also try to do the daily examen (basically an examination of conscience wherein you review your day – it’s a Jesuit practice, though I don’t think you necessarily *have* to be particularly religious to do it).
cbackson
I practice examination of conscience and find it incredibly helpful, FWIW. Although occasionally quite painful!
Lady Harriet
Oh, I really like the examen too! I started doing it after I went to a 1-day Ignatian retreat this fall. I’ve been slacking on it lately, so I should get back to it. I especially like that it asks you to think of the things you’ve done well and are grateful for, as well as what you’ve done wrong.
Lady Harriet
I’m giving up all recreational use of the internet (so no visiting this site until Easter, sadly!) I’ve done this every year for the last 5 or 6 years and it really helps me to refocus my life and stop wasting so much time. I’m also going to get to bed by midnight every night (I’m a terrible night owl) and pray the rosary every day. The internet shouldn’t be too much of a problem for me since I’m used to doing it for Lent (I wish I could be so detached the rest of the year!) Going to bed on time will be hard, but I more or less managed it last year. I think saying the rosary will be hard, since I have so much trouble focusing that it takes me a looooong time.
Kontraktor
Have you considered using an app/ book/prayer guide for help? I have one book that has Bible verses to read for each piece, and another I have has some explanation about each portion of the mystery, which can be good and grounding and make it all seem less monotonous.
Lady Harriet
That’s a good idea! Someone actually gave me one like that recently, and I had forgotten about it. It makes me happy to see how many other Catholic ladies are here. :)
Research, Not Law
I’m giving up recreational internet as well. Today’s my last day here until Easter! Ugh. This is the second year I’ve done it and it is so hard. I’m really struggling with it, but I suppose that’s the point.
My husband gives up alcohol every year. He has non-dieting reasons for it – but he always loses 10 lbs and then I’m jealous! (I’ve done it with him and not lost anything – which probably just means I don’t drink too much to begin with ;) )
Anon
Catholicism. I was raised Catholic but find myself getting further away from the church especially now that we’re going through IVF and found out that the church is opposed to it.
goldribbons
Hugs. I’m going through a similar leaving-my-faith and it’s so disheartening sometimes.
Blonde Lawyer
I made a list of what I liked and disliked about being catholic and then researched other religions to find one that fit me better. I am quite pleased with our local episcopal church though I certainly don’t get there as often as I would like.
k-padi
As a lapsed Catholic, this is one of the hardest things I’ve ever done. Hugs and sympathy.
SA
Me too. I’m raising my children Catholic but my heart isn’t in it right now. My husband doesn’t do any questioning of the Church so isn’t supportive of investigating other religions, but he also isn’t an active participant so I’m a little frusterated.
Former Catholic
Not to start debate but as a lesbian, the church left me.
That said, I really like the idea of lent and the sense of trying to live more consciously. Ash Wednesday services were the hardest part for me to leave. I usually still try to give something up every year and increase my volunteer commitments.
k-padi
The Church left a lot of people. There was hope with Vatican II but they’ve (Bishops, Cardinals) scraped that idea. The Pope wants “the Universal Church” to be a “more pure” Church and he’s getting it. Caveat Emptor.
Former Catholic
It’s going to be interesting to watch what direction the church chooses to take with the selection of the next pope.
Also if you want to actually feel good again about the church, check out this Terry Gross interview with the head of the Leadership Conference of Women Religious. I try to remind myself that while this is not a particularly great moment for the church (and it openly discriminates against me) religions are around for the centuries. The church managed to survive the crusades and become the church of the catholic worker movement. To bastardize an MLK quote I am hoping that the arc Catholic church is long, but will bends toward justice.
http://www.npr.org/2012/07/17/156858223/an-american-nun-responds-to-vatican-condemnation
Anon in DC
This is such a struggle for me. I want to reconcile with the church. I want to feel good about raising my children in it, but I really do struggle to feel hopeful about it. I am trying to find a way. Anyway, thanks for the NPR link. I also love the way Sister Simone Campbell (a lady lawyer, btw) articulates Catholicism. She gave a great response to the Vatican’s call to “reform” American convents (no link handy–sorry!) and gave a good speech at the Democratic National Convention last year.
Catholic maybe coming home
I’m late for this post but I am at the other end of the spectrum: Left the catholic church 35 years ago as an 18 yo vowing never to return after being forced by my parents for 10 years, being “required” to be confirmed even though I had major doutbs. (This will totally out me to my friends/siblings if they’re reading.) Married outside the church, didn’t raise my now college-aged kids as anything, haven’t been to church except weddings and funerals in that time. Joined a Unitarian-Universalist church – diametric opposite – but don’t really feel at home either. Object to the catholic church on sexism, abortion, gay rights, contraceptives, papal infallability – everything. Sure, abortion is awful but unwanted kids, bringing a kid into the world who isn’t loved or wanted is worse, as are dead or maimed young women.
Fast-forward to this year and I feel the need to be part of a community, to give back to my town as I did when my kids were little and I was PTA president. Then this fall I attended a catholic funeral of my wonderful boss and wondered about life’s meaning. It reawakened my desire to be part of a church and I want one that I can ride my bike to or walk to. I’ve considered Episcopal but the congregation in my area is disfunctional. So tomorrow I’m going to Ash Wednesday mass. I’m not wholly sure if I’ll really return but I’m going to give it a shot. I’m going to focus on the local church and ignore the pope, bishops and doctrine and focus on God.
Anonymous
There is a church near my office which has services at noon on Thursdays, so my lenten plan is to try and go every week. I did this 2 years ago and think it was better spiritually for me than giving up soda.
Calibrachoa
I am thinking of giving up ready-made sandwiches. I rely on them WAY too much.
cbackson
I give up all sweets every year, which is particularly painful given that I’m studying for the bar :(
Woods-comma-Elle
Ooh me too, well the bar, not the sweets, couldn’t do it. Which one?
cbackson
GA. Sigh. I should have stuck to my guns, but my new firm was not very warm to the idea of me just waiting out the year until I was eligible for a waiver. How about you? You’re in the UK, right? So probably New York? Or am I making that up?
Woods-comma-Elle
Ugh, boo hiss, good luck to you! California – I am in the UK, but I don’t qualify for NY so CA it is and then NY eventually… so three days instead of two! Gah!
Anon
Hey Woods-comma-Elle, I was in the UK and am now in California, and I just wanted to offer you some encouragement this close to the bar: Everyone I know (at least 10 people, including myself) who studied and trained in the UK and then took the CA bar passed the CA bar. So you’ll be fine. Don’t look at the statistics for foreign bar takers, just listen to my statistics of a 100% pass rate among UK graduates :)
Anon
Some years for Lent I give up using a pillow at night. Kind of crazy, but I used the extra few minutes it took to fall asleep to pray. And I adjusted to it much quicker than I expected to.
Susie
I’m thinking of wheat this year. In the past I’ve done sugar, meat, alcohol, soda, chocolate, and processed foods.
Giraffe with curls
I’m giving up Facebook. I waste too much time on it, and I’d like to see if I can connect with people the old-fashioned way – you know, email. :)
Research, Not Law
LOL
The Slapdash Sewist
For Lent I am doing 15 minutes of housekeeping every weekday. I did this my birthday month a couple years ago and my place looked AWESOME. So good that it almost didn’t feel like mine (I’m messy). But even though it literally takes only 15 mins Mon-Fri to keep it in phenomenal shape–I live alone–I didn’t keep up with it. I had a brunch on Sunday and my place looks great right now. I’d like to keep it that way.
L
Does anyone know how often the Lo & sons bags go on sale? I have decided to bite the bullet, but I’ll kick myself if I buy it and in a month there’s a 30% off coupon
Different anon
From their facebook page:
“We’re offering 20% OFF all products online until the end of Valentine’s Day (Feb 14th). Just use the code GIFTOFLOVE2013 at checkout. “
AMB
ooh – this is relevant to my interests as well! Thanks! Am in the Great White North (where they don’t ship boo) but a friend is going down to visit her parents in FL next week and said I could send it to her and she would ship it up.
L
My hero. I signed up for emails and didn’t think to check FB. WAHOO!
Different anon
Happy to help! :)
CravingMusic
I got mine for 30% off just before Christmas.
SAlit-a-gator
“Dinner with our spouses” Interview Threadjack:
I know the answer is usually “wear a suit” but I’m struggling with this one. The first interview was over lunch with two partners (I wore a suit), the second interview was at the firm and I met all of the partners and associates (I wore a suit), now a couple of weeks later, two of the partners would like to meet me over dinner with our respective spouses. I’ve never been to a “dinner with spouse” interview, and I’m slightly terrified. Dinner is during the working week at 7pm, so I’m guessing the partners are coming from the office. Should I wear a suit? Should my husband wear a suit? For reference, we’re in the great state of Texas and this is a midsize litigation boutique. Thanks for your help hive!
Kontraktor
Do you have any dressier or colorful separates? I have a couple of silk dupioni jackets/skirts from Talbots, for example. I also have some brocade-print pencil skirts that seem a bit more ‘evening.’ Do you have anything like that? Colors would also work well (ex., a colorful jacket with a gray skirt and maybe a printed silk blouse). I think separates would work well here.
I think your husband could maybe wear slacks, tie, and sweater? So, still dressy but maybe not quite as stuffy as a suit, especially if he doesn’t wear them for his job (my husband doesn’t really wear suits often, so he doesn’t have one that is nicely fitting and so I feel he looks much better in slacks/sweater/tie combo). If he does wear them for his job, might as well just have him keep it on since the partners will likely be coming from work too and wearing them.
MB
I would wear a suit — likely a dress and a jacket, but maybe spice it up with a pretty colored scarf and/or some sassier shoes than you’d normally wear to an interview. Same with jewelry.
Not on topic, but that is some major vetting for getting a job. I can’t imagine having dinner with someone’s spouse and then turning them down for a job. (Not that you’d get turned down, but the point is that that type of dinner sounds nice after you’ve gotten a job offer as kind of a welcome to the firm type thing). Also, if I were the spouse, I’d be so nervous about screwing something up for my husband! What pressure!!!
Divaliscious11
I’d wear a dress, but this is weird… I am trying to imagine why one would have a dinner with spouses interview?
Well, wait, I actually understand it in the context of my husband’s field (lots of family interaction), but I don’t understand it in law….
mascot
Our firm does them with candidates from out of town. We are a mid-size firm in a smaller city and candidates/spouses may have questions about living here. Also, you will probably see at least some of these people socially, so it’s nice to get to know them.
Divaliscious11
But what if the person’s spouse is a jerk? That has no bearing on their performance as a lawyer/employee. And they could be totally in love with and happy with their jerk. It seems they could pass on a great candidate because of the person who will do none of the work. Like I said, I can see this in some professions, but not law. I get the relo issues if the person gets an offer, and certainly firm/company resources should be made available to the spouse, but again after the offer is extended…..
JJ
I’m in Texas and I know of some mid-size firms here that always do a “dinner with spouses” interview. Don’t forget that it’s a way to see if the people that you might potentially work for are normal and not incredibly weird. (I know of some people who turned down job offers after dinners like this because there were too many red flags from the potential new bosses).
I’d wear a more casual suit or a non-matching jacket/skirt/dress/pants combo.
Blonde Lawyer
I know one person in my professional life that likes to get to know a candidates spouse because he thinks choice of spouse reflects on the candidates overall judgment. I think he is forgetting that someone could be on the verge of divorcing a jerk spouse but unlikely to announce that to a potential employer and instead just drag along the jerk spouse. Also, most people, even jerks, are on their best behavior in these situations so he really isn’t likely to get a feel for the spouse/family dynamic anyway – not that it is any of his business to begin with!
anon o
What do you do if you don’t have a spouse?
Blonde Lawyer
Then I don’t think he would try to meet the spouse. He hired plenty of single people so I don’t think it was his only criteria for evaluating people. He was just very adamant that “you can tell a lot about someone by who they pick for a spouse.”
TBK
My thoughts exactly. I’d be completely put out if someone had suggested this back before I was married. And what if you’re dating but sort of starting to discuss the marriage thing, but aren’t really there yet but really think you will be soon? So complicated! And what if you’re gay? (I guess better to get that out in the open now so you don’t work for bigots? But really.) I’d be so incredibly weirded out by that. It is so incredibly intrusive!
phillygirlruns
i second what everyone else has said regarding attire, and that this seems odd and stressful.
Denna
I need some help from you creative ladies out there. I am going out with a bunch of single girl friends for Valentine’s Day and I want to get them each a gift. But I don’t want to do the typical flowers, chocolate, etc. Anyone have any cute ideas?
Anon
Price range?
Denna
Probably around $20
Denna
Ugh. I cannot speak today. To clarify, $20 a person would be the max. I’m all for something more inexpensive too, though.
Merabella
Nail polish/mani/pedi sets?
I would enjoy a Red Box Gift Card, or books, but that could be read wrong…
Ru
Ooooh nail decals/nail stickers in hilarious Valentine’s day cards. That would be really cute and not so expensive.
petitesq
Chocolate vodka :).
Parfait
+1
Bonnie
A book that each would like. You could also put together cheap chill at home bags with e.g. a bottle of wine, bubble bath and a trashy magazine.
Mouse
I like the nailpolish idea… and to take it further, maybe a lipstick in an universal color that they wouldn’t otherwise get for themselves or some other splurgy-girly item? e.g. I love this new lipbalm/hand creme, so I got one for all of us!
just Karen
I recently discovered Samuel Smith’s Organic Chocolate Stout – it comes in the big bottles you buy individually at the liquor store. It is seriously amazing. If that’s not their thing, the bubble bath or nail polish ideas sound nice… but I also really liked getting little things of chocolate from friends on V-day when I was single – it’s the only time of year I would possibly receive a box of chocolates – don’t let that be dependent on whether or not I have a date! Another idea would be to give each of them a funny chick flick and then have one big long movie marathon (I’m thinking Bridesmaids, Mean Girls, etc…) – that would actually go great with the beer and/or popcorn etc…
L2fly
This past Christmas a co-worker had a package of Opi nailpolish samplers that she had everyone pick a color out of… I thought this was a very sweet idea, and very cool, as it let all of us be a little more daring by picking colors we wouldn’t normally choose.
AMB
I have yet to find a peplum that works on this curvy girl.
Was sad yesterday as my awesome female director announced that she is taking a new job March 4th, and my division is going to be combined with another and we’re even moving. I’m pretty sure I’ll be saying good bye to my nice big cube with a window :(. Am trying to focus on the positives, as this is a new opportunity, while I will be doing the same job I may have some occasions to spread more into the new division but its hard. Any advice on navigating changes with grace?
goldribbons
Remember that your job isn’t forever. No matter how the day might go, it’s a bit like a new relationship – there will be ups and downs, and it’s alright if ultimately it’s not right for you (for whatever reason).
Bonnie
I’m curvy and like peplums. The trick for me is to add a belt for waist definition. I like that this shirt already has that built in.
eek
Hourglass here and I do what Bonnie does.
lawsuited
Sleep TJ – I recently started at a new firm where I have carriage of 120+ files. I have a dedicated staff of 3 and there are good tickler systems in place, but neither is perfect and mistakes are made. During the day, I juggle meetings, court appearances, questions from my staff, and my desk work. At night, I lay awake and worry that I didn’t do enough during the day or I/my staff/the computer system has missed something.
I’ve always been someone who needs 6-7 hours sleep to function happily, and now I’m averaging 3-4 on week nights. I’m exhausted!
Any advice? I’m nervous of sleeping medication, but will consider it if nothing else works.
Blonde Lawyer
I recently started having my assistant give me a list of upcoming deadlines for two months out and to give it to me monthly so I have at least an extra one month warning for each deadline. Every time I start to fret I look that over and try to think if there is something I am missing. Also, I usually realize I have more time on something than I thought. I can usually glance that over and put my racing thoughts to rest. Would something similar help? The biggest gain was that even though I have a ton of cases, I really only have two pages of deadlines within the next two months. It makes everything seem much more manageable and helps with the triage. It is also less overwhelming than looking at the calendar tickler system.
lawsuited
I got the first such list yesterday. There are some fires to put out, but it definitely helps with the triage so I focus my energies into specific file worries rather than general anxiety which is so unproductive! You model a good attitude towards it, and I’m glad to hear you also have tons of cases!
Blonde Lawyer
I’ve also posted this before but just in case you missed it – I also keep a paper calendar where I just write in places I have to be or in office meetings as well as super crazy drop dead deadline (like statute of limitation) not discovery deadlines or the other litigation minutia that clogs up your work calendar. Yes, it is important to know those things but what will really get you in trouble is not showing up to court. Those are in my paper calendar and I check that several times/week. They are also in my work calendar so I get the practice management software and outlook reminders but I like opening my paper calendar and seeing WHERE I need to be that given week.
Meg Murry
Are you worried in general “what if I missed something?” or is it specific worries ‘Did I remember to tell Assistant1 that the deadline for Case ABC is moved up?” (not a lawyer, insert appropriate specific worry here). If its specific worries, keep a notepad next to the bed. Every time you have a specific worry, write it down. Or a specific thing you need to remember, even if its not work related (“I have to send my mother a card for mother’s day, what day is that this year?” for instance). Then you can check all the things in the notebook the next morning, and not have to hold them in your brain all night.
Batgirl
Some tricks I’ve used in the past: 1) throw a towel over your alarm clock or have it facing away from you–don’t check the time when you’re having trouble sleeping b/c it just creates more anxiety, 2) don’t use your bedroom for anything other than sleep and you-know-what, 3) try to focus on your breathing and recognize that your body will give up fighting sleep sooner or later if you can relax, 4) get a white noise machine (something to focus on), and 5) keep a pad of paper by your bed and list out everything that you’re anxious about right before bed (only if you’re thinking about it already)–sometimes just getting it out on paper helps get it off my mind.
layered bob
just a heads’ up for Chicago r 3 t t 3 s – there is a Groupon today for Core Power Yoga – a place that was mentioned in previous yoga discussions. I can’t get it because I am a regular customer there :-) but it might be great for someone else.
anon2
Same offer available in the Twin Cities as well – $59 for an unlimited month. Plus they give you a free intro week so it’s really 5 weeks. Love CorePower!
AFT
I attended a company-sponsored training last week on oral presentation skills. One of the sessions focused on how to craft an attention-grabbing opening. One of the (few) examples given used the term “rape” other than to refer to a sexual assault. The presenter said he had received email complaints in the past that the example was sexist, and explained that it wasn’t actually sexist because the example was from a presentation delivered by a woman. We will have the opportunity to provide anonymous feedback. I have never worked with any of the presenters before, but I may work with them in the future.
I know others here have addressed this before (thanks, SFBA!). I think an email to the presenters would carry more weight, but I also don’t want to burn bridges with people I’ve only just met; should I just submit my comments anonymously? Should I address the “sexist” comment too, or would that just take away from the main message, which is “Please don’t teach new professionals that it is appropriate to trivialize sexual assault”? Thanks!
goldribbons
I would remind the presenter (anonymously) that one in three women have been victims of sexual assault and using the word “rape” shouldn’t be done so lightly. If I had been in the audience, I probably would have vomited on the spot and/or left the room. I might say something to my boss or someone up the chain about how extraordinarily offensive that suggestion was.
AFT
You raise a really good point and I wonder if I should include that too – the use of the term “rape” distracted from the presentation. The presenter had to take time to explain it away – in a manner that was also offensive – and he knew that example would offend some people. I was so filled with rage that I couldn’t tell you what the rest of the presentation was about. I also have a tendency to tear up when I get super angry, so I was fighting back tears for like 30 mins. I just can’t fathom why they would continue to use that example.
BrendaPatimkin
I don’t know if that example is sexist, but it is inappropriate at best. I mean, I’m Jewish, but I wouldn’t suggest people get attention for a speech by discussing Shoah.
IMHO, its totally okay to politely say that you, and others, found it offensive.
Blonde Lawyer
I’d also remind them that women can be sexist too.
Snarkster
Men can also be raped. It’s not sexist, but it’s inappropriate and not something that should be part of a business presentation that isn’t about a rape crisis center or similar.
k-padi
This. It sounds like their point is to use “real” words instead of “politically correct” terms. I would rather this “rule” be to use words that are specific and concise (like I coach my mentees to do in all their persuasive writing) and to use as few words as possible to convey their point. These presenters are hacks and I would cc HR or the department that organized the presentation on my email to the presenters.
SFBayA
Wow, thanks for the shout out, AFT. Blushing. But grrr to the presenter. “A woman said it” is as good an excuse as “I’m not racist. I have a black friend!” Someone in that room, male or female, is a sexual assault survivor or is close to someone who is. How freaking ignorant to throw that term around.
Marilla
Advice for pushing through work and getting things done when you’re distracted by family issues? My dad fractured his hip yesterday and is in surgery today. I know the surgery is common, routine, etc, and I’m mostly intellectually not worried about the surgery at all, more worried about the emotional toll this will take, the recovery difficulties etc. And just freaked out in general, because although I rationally know that my dad is an old dad (mid-70s – I’m 26 so my dad has always been older than other dads), it’s very scary to actually see that happening. I live in a different city, so not much I can do but worry and call frequently. My manager is super understanding and I went home at 4 yesterday to cry, but I really need to get back on track and focus. I’ve already done all those small administrative undemanding tasks yesterday, so any tips for focusing on big projects and actually getting thinking/writing done under the circumstances? I’m thinking of popping in headphones to block out at least external distractions. Thanks — and sorry about the novel..
eeyore
I read Calvin & Hobbes to help hold back the tears and get me back on track. You can read it for free online. I would keep it open for the whole day in your situation, so that any time any worry pops up, you can head over and read a comic or two until you feel better. Your dad will be great and he sounds lucky to have such a caring daughter.
rosie
Put on some music–whatever you feel like listening to, whether it’s something comforting, something loud, something distracting, etc. Take breaks to look at random internet funnies (have you seen Buzzfeed’s 13 steps to get through a rough day)? Get yourself a special snack or beverage (I find hot chocolate and hot chai comforting).
Also, just in case it helps you to hear about an internet stranger’s experience, I want to add that my grandma broke her hip when she was a bit older than your dad. She did amazingly well through the surgery, rehab, nursing home, and now is back home, and she basically made a full recovery (and plus she has underlying mobility issues). I hope your dad has a similar good path and recovery, and hugs to you. Be kind to yourself.
Paging NOLA!
Best karaoke songs for sops?
NOLA
LOL. Good thing it’s Mardi Gras and I’m just home doing laundry and cleaning.
My favorite is Tonight (from West Side Story). Maybe Girls Just Wanna Have Fun? Killing Me Softly. Hard to think about it because I have a pretty decent low range. My one bar song used to be Almost Over You (Sheena Easton).
Paging NOLA!
Thanks. Do you have any ideas for more current stuff? All I’m coming up with is Florence and the Machine.
NOLA
Hmmm… maybe Adele? I mean, she has a big voice but goes a bit high sometimes. Anything Mariah Carey. Faith Hill. Seems like more guys have high voices these days. The girls are all singing chest voice.
NOLA
Along the guy lines – Adam Levine.
Paging NOLA!
Good one! I will have to study up. Can I sing “Moves Like Jagger” if I sing both parts? LOL.
Godzilla
I HATE to suggest Taylor Swift, Justin Beiber and Selena Gomez.
Somebody, take away my C card.
Paging NOLA!
LOL. I haaaaaaaaaaaaaaate Taylor Swift, but the other 2 are okay!
CravingMusic
I am working at a law firm for the first time this summer. i need to start collecting quality staple wardrobe pieces now. What would be your must-haves as a summer associate? Pieces that can do double duty for study abroad in France would be appreciated. My study abroad program requires professional dress. I have read Kat’s staple wardrobe posts, but would like your opinions as well.
goldribbons
black skirts, black silk blouses, black heels.
JK
Cream silk blouse. Nude heels or wedges [ie the apricot mist jcrew martina wedges]. JCrew Tippi (or the factory jcrew equivalent) in a multitude of colors (good under suits, with jeans, with skirts, etc., can be spiced up with necklaces, scarves).
lawsuited
Black pencil skirt/cigar e t t e pants with colourful silk shells and black/grey/white blazer (others may not agree with the white blazer, but I thought it was awesome). Black/nude wedges will go with everything, and perhaps be comfortable for travel abroad.
Mouse
Ditto the black pencil skirt/blazer suggestions. Would go further to add that if you get them as part of a suit (in good suit material) as well as the matching dress/pants you have 3 potential suits right there and a ton of professional attire options.
CravingMusic
Two of my professors keep using the term “mentally retarded.” Am I wrong for finding this offensive? Am I being too sensitive/politically correct?
MB
You are not wrong. Its not the phrase that’s used anymore. Although it can be tough since it seems like the correct term changes often. I think it was developmentally delayed for a while and lately I’ve heard intellectually disabled. Its definitely NOT mentally retarded, though.
BrendaPatimkin
“Intellectually disabled”? In grad school, we would use that to describe to anyone who did not read Derrida in French r understand the gaps in Heidegger’s Being in Time.
MB
Also, I’m very sensitive to this. Nothing turns me off faster than a person casually calling someone or something “retarded.” Not that that’s what your professors are doing, but college professors should take care to use the correct term.
anon
Are they using it to insult people who are not mentally retarded? If so, that’s offensive. If they’re talking about people who are actually mentally retarded, that’s not offensive.
Alanna of Trebond
Agree–if you are actually mentally retarded, that is the proper term. It (like the word “gay”) should not be used as an insult.
Anon
My sister is a special education teacher and is very sensitive about this word and its usage. She says that the politically correct language now is “people first” so you would say “a girl with down’s syndrome” (or whatever, rather than a down’s syndrom girl). I think that if your professor is actually talking about someone with mental retardation it is ok to say that, though not the most politically correct, up to date term. If your professor is making fun or using that as an insult, then not ok.
k-padi
It’s able-ist to use “mentally retarded” as an insult or criticism. I’m not even sure it’s still an official diagnosis. Professionals usually refer to a specific diagnosis like “cognitively disabled” or “mentally disabled”.
It’s a reflection of your professors’ ignorance. I wouldn’t fight this battle except to note it in an anonymous evaluation.
Research, Not Law
If they are using it correctly, then yes. People rightly have a knee-jerk reaction to the use of “retarded” to mean bad, stupid, etc. But there is a clinical definition of “mentally retarded.”
But if they are just nagging people about not doing well on papers, etc, then it’s absolutely offensive.
MB
From Wikipedia (not a great source, but explains the usage — and easily found by the poster’s professor.
“The terms used for this condition are subject to a process called the euphemism treadmill. This means that whatever term is chosen for this condition, it eventually becomes perceived as an insult. The terms mental retardation and mentally retarded were invented in the middle of the 20th century to replace the previous set of terms, which were deemed to have become offensive. By the end of the 20th century, these terms themselves have come to be widely seen as disparaging and politically incorrect and in need of replacement.[2] The term intellectual disability or intellectually challenged is now preferred by most advocates in most English-speaking countries. “
Research, Not Law
Sent to moderation. Trying again:
If they are using it correctly, then yes. People rightly have a knee-jerk reaction to the use of “r-word” to mean bad, stupid, etc. But there is a clinical definition of “mentally r…d.”
But if they are just nagging people about not doing well on papers, etc, then it’s absolutely offensive.
Marge
Are they using it to refer to people who are diagnosed with intellectual disabilities along those lines? If so, I wouldn’t be offended. PC terms are always being made obsolete / offensive / insensitive by newer, more PC terms. (For example, I am a person of color, but it doesn’t bother me if someone uses the phrase “black” to describe my race. And if it’s an old person, even “colored” isn’t so bad, although I cringe a little (although then I remember that “colored” isn’t so different from “person of color”). Or how STDs now have to be called STIs because “disease” has too negative a connotation.)
If they are using it to refer to people whose ideas or actions they think are stupid, then yes, you are right to find it offensive.
Emjay
“Mental retardation” is a medicolegal term that indicates 1) an IQ of less than 70, and 2) developmental delay which will not be expected to resolve/”catch up.” Physicians (I) use it as a term to obtain services for people; it’s absolutely not meant to be pejorative or demeaning in that context.
STI
Actually STDs are now called STIs because you can have an infection without having a disease. The name change was to more accurately reflect the pathophysiology, not because of connotations of the words.
Ella
I had trouble with this in law school because I agree that intellectually or cognitively disabled people is the non-ableist term, but some of the Supreme Court cases use “mentally retarded” which has then become the legal standard.
Blonde Lawyer
I echo the others but will add that in my limited work in this area the term I am currently hearing is “MR” so as to not use “mentally retarded” and I think it is usually said in the “people first” way where MR would stand for mental retardation instead of mentally retarded.
ie: “My friend is meeting with her son’s teacher this weekend. Her son has MR and he is getting picked on in class.”
Not – “My friend is meeting with her son’s teacher this weekend. He is mentally retarded and getting picked on.
Unabbreviated it would be “her son has mental retardation and is getting picked on in class.”
Blonde Lawyer
I’m in moderation. Trying again:
I echo the others but will add that in my limited work in this area the term I am currently hearing is “MR” so as to not use “mentally ret@rded” and I think it is usually said in the “people first” way where MR would stand for mental ret@rdation instead of mentally ret@rded.
ie: “My friend is meeting with her son’s teacher this weekend. Her son has MR and he is getting picked on in class.”
Not – “My friend is meeting with her son’s teacher this weekend. He is mentally ret@rded and getting picked on.
Unabbreviated it would be “her son has mental ret@rdation and is getting picked on in class.”
Calibrachoa
So turns out I have an interview with recruiting company tomorrow that came somewhat out of the blue. Level of panic: Sky high. I foresee spending a lot of time tonight reading up and panicking about what I should wear…
C.
URGH. Boyfriend career anxiety threadjack:
(BF works in the restaurant industry.)
In the fall, BF had a really exciting meeting/interview with a local superstar restauranteur about a new place that she was planning to open this spring. The two of them seemed to really hit it off, and he’s been getting signals all along that she wants him in a management position at the new place. No formal offer yet, and she’s sometimes been hard to stay in constant contact with, but their conversations have always left him really energized and excited about building up this new place and really jazzed that the boss lady shared so many of his ideals about food and hospitality and whatnot. She also seemed really invested in him as an individual and an employee, telling him that she wanted him to lay out two- and five-year plans for his career progress.
Yesterday, BF had a conversation with someone who works at one of the boss lady’s other restaurants, and this person told him that boss lady had been making the same promises of the *same* management position to another current employee. This is apparently boss lady’s MO: string along several invested and super-qualified candidates, tell them each that they’ve got the gig, and make extravagant promises that then don’t materialize.
How to proceed? I don’t think any good can come from confronting boss lady, and the whole story is weird enough to make me sure that there’s more to the tale. Still, if you thought that you had been hand-picked and found out that possibly you weren’t the only one, how would you maneuver?
Godzilla
Tell BF to C-up and not to put all of his eggs in one basket. If he’s really looking for a change, he should be courting other boss ladies and boss dudes.
Anon
Sounds super shady to me. I would get out and move on.
anon
This may be deja vu but did you post this question before? Like a few months ago?
Also the story is not that weird. You don’t have a job unless you have an offer in hand. Until he does, he is a candidate for the job, nothing more.
Anon
I also had deja vu with this question.
cc
Me too! But not from like a couple days ago, (I know sometimes people double post to get more eyes if they are late in the day) I feel like this exact question was asked almost a year ago.
Anon
Deju vu + google fu = October 4, 2012. Chevron Sweater post.
Diana Barry
Thanks – I also had deja vu. Agreed with everyone above that no offer = no job. I would yes her up, but realize it won’t lead to anything.
C.
Impressive memories! Yeah, same hard-to-pin-down boss lady, but obviously now she’s been way more specific–apparently telling several people they were hired for the same position. Sigh. Maybe the better post would be: Who has success stories on successfully transitioning out of the restaurant industry into civilian life where people are (mostly) more sensible?
cc
You specifically said there has been no formal offer though. So she has not been telling people they were hired for the same position. He should keep expressing his interest but be looking for other positions. If he gets another offer, he can go to her and say look I have another offer. I am still really excited about the possibility with you, but I need to know if it is a solid offer (that should include start date, salary, etc)
Horrified
Warning – about bugs.
Ladies, last night I went to change my sheets before I went to bed. On the underside of the fitted sheet, there were two little worm things – one near the head of the bed and the other near the foot. Maybe the length of my fingernail, one was brown and one was yellowish, on its way to brown. I threw them in the toilet and took my sheets to be washed on hot. I looked at my mattress and around my bed but I didn’t see anything else. Slept on the couch because I wasn’t sure what to do. I live in NYC so I’m always terrified of bedbugs. I’m thankful it’s not bedbugs, but I have no idea what this is. I haven’t googled yet because I’d rather not look at pictures of bugs.
Anyone had this before? Any tips?
goldribbons
That’s pretty gross!! I would talk to your super/landlord about it, schedule an exterminator, get one of those plastic covers for your mattress (I’d keep it on for a month or six to kill anything that might still be inside your mattress), get a cleaning lady to deep clean your bedroom, buy new sheets, and probably sleep on your couch for another night or two. That might be an overreaction though.
L
I googled (I have a strong stomach). I think they are black carpet beetle larvae based on your description. But then again, you could just call an exterminator.
Blonde Lawyer
I’ve had them show up in my dirty laundry basket. I freaked out thinking they were maggots or something. My father told me they were carpet beetles and totally normal in new england. I still felt super gross so I know your pain. I didn’t do anything special besides wash my clothes. They never proliferated.
Blonde Lawyer
that would be carpet beetle larvae not the full grown beetle.
Ella
I recently had carpet beetles in NYC. I washed EVERYTHING in hot water, threw out what couldn’t be washed, and hired an exterminator and a cleaning service. I haven’t seen any evidence since then, but it doesn’t necessarily mean they’re gone. I recommend treating the problem because the way I found out that I had carpet beetles was that my most expensive suit skirt had holes in it. They eat wool and other materials.
Happy Anon
Any at-home remedies for a nasty cystic zit that popped up by my nose? (Three days before I’m. Meeting my boyfriend’s mom.)
eek
Based on recommendations from this site, I’ve tried out Mario Badescu line of products with very good overnight results. You may find the Buffering Lotion helpful.
petitesq
I have not tried this advice, but have heard that breaking open an Advil liquigel thingy and applying the stuff inside to the zit will zap redness.
I am a banana.
Tea tree oil.
ChristineIsPink
Just emailed Kat and then noticed she posted a peplum top today, but if you’d like a similar option at a lower price point, I thought I’d suggest the following:
http://www.target.com/p/mossimo-women-s-sleeveless-peplum-top-assorted-colors/-/A-14342865#prodSlot=medium_1_12&term=mossimo+peplum
I bought the linked shirt yesterday at Target and I love it. I was there to check out any leftovers from the Prabal Gurung collaboration but these peplum tops caught my eye. They also have more patterns in store than online. I bought the black one and the animal print on this dress (http://www.target.com/p/mossimo-women-s-half-back-zipper-fit-and-flare-dress-assorted-colors/-/A-14361410). I think the longer peplum is more flattering on women (not girls) and the material is a nice-weight knit and is partially lined (the neckline and armholes are lined).
Jessica Glitter
Anyone have a good King Cake recipe?
Anon8
I think the blog Brown Eyed Baker posted a recipe for King Cake about a year ago.
NOLA
There are a bunch in the left side frame here: http://www.nola.com/mardigras/king-cakes/
The Slapdash Sewist
This is cream-cheese filled, which is not entirely traditional but super-delish (if I do say so myself). I got the recipe from a former boss, who was a many-generation Louisianian, albeit in north Louisiana. I’ve been making it for–eep!–16 years now. Never fails to please. The one I brought to work today was gone in under 15 minutes, I think.
King Cake
Stir over low heat until melted:
1 C. Sour Cream (low fat is ok)
1/2 C. Sugar
1/2 C. (one stick) butter
Let cool.
Combine:
2 packages (4 1/2 teaspoons) yeast
1/2 C. Warm water
Let sit until yeast blooms
Stir in:
Sour cream mixture
2 eggs
4 C all purpose flour
Mix with a wooden spoon or spatula until the dough starts to come together in a ball, cover tightly, and refrigerate overnight for 12-24 hours.
Prepare filling by mixing:
2 8 oz packages cream cheese (can use 1/3 less fat Neufchatel)
3/4 C Sugar
2 tsp Vanilla
I generally divide the dough into 1/3 and 2/3 and bring the 2/3 size to work, but you can make 1 huge one (my issue is transportation). Roll into rectangles, spread filling down the middle, fold long edges over, sealing with water. Place on a greased baking sheet or a silpat in the form of a wreath, sealing the two ends together with water.
Cover and let rise until doubled, about 1 hour. If the air is dry, I mist with water occasionally during the rising so the dough doesn’t dry out and prevent the rise.
Bake at 350 for 20-25 minutes (large King Cake) or 18-20 minutes (small King Cake), until dark golden on top. Upon removal from oven brush with a glaze of powdered sugar and milk. Let cool completely. Directly before serving, brush with another layer of glaze and sprinkle with colored sugars (I mix two drops of food coloring into 3 tablespoons of sugar for each color). The sugar melts into the glaze so if you let it sit after sprinkling the sugar it’s not as pretty. Insert baby before serving.
Anon For This
I’m a regular poster but anon for this because it may out me. I’m a junior associate at a small firm that has recently been going through some financial trouble. I’m also not 100% happy here even though the work is really interesting so will likely be considering moving before the end of the year. I just signed up for a course/certification in an area that interests me and is related to my job to a certain degree.
Any advice on whether I should or how I should ask my firm to pay for it? I’m going to do it regardless but it would be really nice not to have to spend the cash myself…
Snarkster
Why not ask? Just put together a business case about how this course can help your work at the firm, provide value to clients etc.
goldribbons
I think the downside to asking would be that your firm would know you have a distraction and it could make it painfully obvious that you’re going to look for a new job soon(ish).
Snarkster
I don’t see how it would do that if she presents a good business case tying it to her current position.
anon
Say you’re looking for training related to your career and that the course seems interesting. I wouldn’t tell them upfront that you plan to take it regardless of whether they pay for it or not.
JessiJames
TJ – recommendations for break-up songs?
My boyfriend of almost six years broke up with me over the weekend. We’re trying to keep things amicable as possible (since we still have to live in the same apt for the moment, price of living being what it is) but I’m still pretty angry. My iTunes currently contains a lot of cheerful, take-my-mind-off-it tunes for my commute, but not much grr-I’m-angry-screw-you-you-jerk stuff. Any ideas for some good, pissed-off, I-don’t-need-no-man tunes? (And yes, I already have Adele’s 21 and Alanis Morrisette’s Jagged Little Pill. Still want some more. :P)
Snarkster
Oooh, sorry. How about Kelly Clarkson’s Stronger or Christina Aguilera’s Fighter? Or stuff by Pink?
Anonymous
Since You’ve Been Gone by Kelly Clarkson too.
Research, Not Law
+1
Veronica
“No Man” by Von Iva is really good.
Calibrachoa
Darn, if you were looking for boo-hoo tunes I would’ve had a ton of recommendations – last time me and my guy broke up, I spent a solid week with the cure’s Pictures of You on repeat -but on the boys smell throw rocks at them front I got very little… P!nk’s U+UR hand is pretty good :D
anon
“Goodbye to You” by the Veronicas, “F*ck Was I” by Jenny Owen Youngs, “Stronger” by Kelly Clarkson, and “Ray Charles” by Chiddy Bang even though it’s not really a breakup song per se
anon
and 99 Problems by Jay-Z
Anon
Taylor Swift – We Are Never Ever Getting Back Together
Gotye – Someone That I Used To Know
Kelly Clarkson – Since You’ve Been Gone
Gloria Gaynor – I Will Survive
Anon
Also Beyonce – Irreplaceable and Single Ladies
Mouse
I thought the latest Taylor Swift song was all about this too!
AJ
Isn’t EVERY Taylor Swift song about this? Disclaimer: I have plenty of Taylor on my iPhone
momentsofabsurdity
I’m so sorry! This isn’t a pump-you-up breakup song but if you are feeling down, it can be super comforting.
http://www.ourstage.com/media_items/LRPWJNNMYCBG-it-will-pass
Leigh
P!nk’s Funhouse album
Leigh
Oh yes and Hope it gives you H*ll by the All American Rejects
cc
Best thing I never had – Beyonce. Absolutely the best break up song ever
No longer waiting for a proposal
+1! Also if you can stand country music at all, Sara Evans “a little bit stronger” really helped me get through some tough times.
lola
I Will Survive, Survivor by Destiny’s Child, 99 Times by Kate Vogele; Keep Your Head Up bu Andy Grammer, Somebody that I Used to Know by Gotye, Whatever by Hot Chelle Rae, Payphone by Maroon 5, Blow Me (one last kiss) by Pink.
When you’re ready for forget about him you’re just an awesome woman songs, let me know :)
Fiona
For when you can’t stop crying:
The Killers, Everything Will Be All Right
Belle & Sebastien, Get Me Away From Here (I’m Dying)
Elton John, Sad Songs Say So Much
Magnetic Fields, Love Is Like A Bottle Of Gin
U2, Stuck In A Moment
Randy Newman, When I’m Gone
Tegan and Sara, Where Does the Good Go
James Blunt, You’re Beautiful
For when you’re mad:
Beyonce, Irreplaceable
Carrie Underwood, Undo It
Lady GaGa, Poker Face
Cee Lo Green, F— You
Ani Difranco, Untouchable Face
Taylor Swift, We Are Never Getting Back Together
Nonny
I love “Before He Cheats” by Carrie Underwood. I’m not even a country music fan. But that one is awesome, regardless of the fact that it speaks to a particular fact scenario.
TO Lawyer
I like girl-power music for situations like this – Lady Gaga/Shania Twain etc. I would blast it around my apartment and obnoxiously sing along but not sure if that’s a solution since you still live together…
Anonymous
I’m currently cranking “Wrong Song” from the Nashville show cast on Rhapsody.
De
Garbage. Love it. Might put it on my ipod right now while I do some typey-typey at work.
Tori
For me, angry music = music of middle school, which for me includes Oasis, Alanis Morisette, Green Day, Eve 6, Everclear, Nirvana, Bush, Third Eye Blind, Violent Femmes, etc. I go back to the oldies when I am mad-sad.
anon
Middle school! You’re making me feel old. :-)
Susie
Kerosene by Miranda Lambert. Currently I’m also loving Train’s Say Goodbye. And for a dose of humor: Pray for You by Jaron and the Long Road to Love.
CountC
And Baggage Claim by Miranda. Both great songs to sing along to.
Susie
Also, Good Girl by Carrie Underwood and Turn on the Radio by Reba. (I don’t listen to country exclusively, but they kind of own the done-me-wrong market!)
mascot
Ani DiFranco- Untouchable Face, Independence Day
Keith Urban- You’ll Think of Me
Blink 182- I Miss You, Here’s Your Letter
Dixie Chicks- Not Ready to Make Nice
Brooklyn, Esq.
The Raconteurs, “Many Shades of Black”
SFBayA
All great suggestions. I’ll add Anastasia’s One Day In Your Life and Why’d You Lie to Me when you’re feeling angry, and Madonna’s Take a Bow when you’re feeling sad.
ouch
Jay Z : Onto the Next One, 99 Problems
Kelly Clarkson: Since U Been Gone
Destiny’s Child: Survivor
Opposites Attract
Rihanna – Breaking Dishes
Oedipa Maas
So What (Pink)
Sleep to Dream (Fiona Apple)
You Got Lucky (Tom Petty)
Thorn in My Side (Eurythmics)
Wild (Poe)
Scars (Papa Roach)
My personal favorite breakup song is Consider Me Gone by Reba. It’s more of a forget about him song than an angry song though.
government shutdown
Can someone please tell me when the government forlough would happen? Googling brings up a million articles but none with the actual date. I’m very nervouse about being paid and need to know when it would happen
L
Funding expires March 27th.
government shutdown
So I would get paid up until then?
government shutdown
Sorry for the many questions, but any idea if feds will get the paycheck on the 29th? Or probably not.
It depends
It really depends on your agency. Mine has enough to pay salaries for three more months if sequestration is implemented as planned and we’ve been told there will be no changes during that period.
government shutdown
But Treasury won’t be able to cut the checks. My agency can pay it just won’t have the mechanism to pay because of treasury I think.
gov anon
If feds work the way my state does, the checks are probably processed a few days before they actually get to the employees. So if pay date is 29th, checks may be processed earlier in the week. Direct deposit is probably processed and deposited a day before payday.