Our daily workwear reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.
Boss rarely leads me astray when it comes to work looks, and this blouse is a knockout. The fabric drapes beautifully, the pattern is interesting without being overpowering, and the cut is flattering. What more could we ask for?
Kat’s post about wearing leather to the office last week has had me on the lookout for “office-appropriate” leather, so it was particularly exciting that they had styled it with this gorgeous blue skirt.
The blouse is $348 at Boss and comes in sizes 0–14.
A more affordable option is this floral georgette blouse from Ralph Lauren; it’s available in XXS–XXL and 1X–3X, on sale for $94.99 and $99.99, respectively.
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Anon
Gorgeous blouse, and I like the pattern on the RL alternate even more.
Reposting my low-stakes question from the weekend thread: Does anyone have a reusable or refillable foaming hand soap dispenser that they like and that works reliably? Definitely want a foaming one.
I like Method foaming hand soap and would love to make my own refill if I could replicate the scents. However, the dispensers never last beyond a refill, maybe two if I am really lucky, before they stop working. I usually end up buying a store brand foaming hand soap just for the dispenser because it lasts for several months. Ideally I would love a dispenser that isn’t meant to be single use and that actually works reliably for a long time. I saw the Grove rec from the weekend thread but the reviews make it sound like just a glass version of the Method dispenser, where it dies after a few uses. Maybe that’s the nature of these dispensers?
MagicUnicorn
Haha, not sure why I went anon for this. I don’t believe soap is that controversial!
No Face
Hey, you never know what will set people off!
Anon8
I had one from Target that lasted years. Looks like they don’t sell it anymore but it was just a basic dispenser from the bathroom section of the store. It wasn’t amazing but it did the job. I think the trick is that every so often when it stops working as well (maybe every 6-8 months?) you have to clean it really well. The soap has gunked up the foaming mechanism and that’s what stops it from working. Eventually I switched to bar soap but that dispenser was still working ok.
Agurk
Branch Basics has a great foaming dispenser but you kind of have to go all in on their system.
Anon
I like the RL one but cannot stand sleeves that length. The wind up bunched up too much under jackets and I just hate wrestling with clothes.
anon
I believe the Simple Human brand has one. I bought one for my FIL years ago.
NYCer
We use and like Truly Free aloe hand soap. We have had the dispensers for quite a while without issue.
Anon
You say you only want foaming, but have you tried Aesop’s liquid soap? It smells so good it makes me want to wash my hands all the time.
anonamama
We upgraded ours to SimpleHuman because I hate all the waste of plastic dispensers. There’s a battery powered one you can find on clearance; and a newer model I’ve seen at BB&B. Not sure if there’s a difference for foaming vs regular, but this one has worked well.
ALT
Grove has a foaming soap dispenser that’s glass and they have refills! I’ve been extremely pleased with all of the Grove products I’ve gotten.
Anonymous
Muji bottles lasts for years and years.
Anon
Careful making your own refill if you haven’t thought about preservatives. (Watering down regular liquid soap for foaming dispensers can be a recipe for growing bacteria if the preservative ratio is off.)
I do love SimpleHuman, but is part of the magic of the dispenser the formula of their soap??
anonshmanon
I don’t think this is true. Soap kills bacteria. Why would they multiply in a medium where they have no food?
Anon
Soap doesn’t kill bacteria unless it specifically says antibacterial. Soap loosens the bonds of things sticking to, in this case, your hands, so that the bacteria flow away with the water. Antibacterial agents are disruptive to the earth and should be used sparingly. The best thing to do is to use soap and wash thoroughly.
Anon
https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/strange-but-true-antibacterial-products-may-do-more-harm-than-good/
Anon
Maybe if everything were sterile, nothing would multiply? But if soap didn’t need preservatives, then it wouldn’t come with them. The concentration isn’t always adequate when it’s watered down, unless it was formulated to be.
anon
I like Blueland’s dispenser and refills.
Nom
I have some iDesign branded ones (from the river site) that I really like. They have markings on the bottle for how much regular liquid soap and water to add to get the perfect foaming soap ratio. Mine are plastic, bc glass would not last in my house, but I’ve had some of these ones for years and they still work just fine. Periodically I clean them up, including soaking the heads in hot water (not boiling), and the mechanism still works great.
Also, I have made my own foaming soap mix for years and have never had an issue with bacterial growth. (And I have a degree in microbiology, so I pay attention to this stuff and would notice.) If your tap water is safe to drink then it’s gonna be safe for your soap mix. If you want to be extra cautious then you can use previously boiled water when making the mix; if you have an electric kettle this is super easy. I think it’s more important to periodically clean up the bottles, just like anything else in the bathroom. I use a mild bleach solution for cleaning on a regular basis, and it works just fine on durable reusable plastic like these bottles.
Nom
This is the version I purchased most recently: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00FBP2XT0
Traveling
One night special stay at the Ritz Carlton Boston tonight! Any tips from people who have been there? Are there things we might not know is “on the menu” that we should request as guests? Are there any complementary services we should enjoy while there that we might not know about (e.g. free shoe shine, for example, which we discovered they offer). Sometimes you have to be in the know at these places!
Anon
I have stayed at the one in New Orleans but not Boston. If they have a pool, you should get complimentary use of the facilities and maybe the spa facilities too (sauna etc). Have fun!!
Cat
Have not been to Boston, but if you have access to a club floor, the “free” (lol) food and drinks are really good!
Anonymous
I stayed at the Ritz in Boston once and it was really not special—just like any other hotel. I was pretty disappointed.
Anon
The Queen of Spain wears Boss a lot and always looks amazing.
Anon
Wow, this blouse is gorgeous.
BeenThatGuy
Agreed. The whole outfit is something I aspire to have in my closet.
Anonymous
I HAVE this outfit, but the skirt and the color accents in the silk blouse are black. And, sit down and get your smelling salts ready, it is from TALBOTS. The skirt is lined. It is so awesome. Skirt is circa 2000. Blouse is circa 2010.
Anne-on
This – I wore SO many silk/poly blouses and pencil skirts in the early aughts but I still think they’re a classic!
The brightly colored ‘the skirt’ pencil skirts look a bit dated to me (I had one in mustard, one in brick red, and one in hot pink!) but I hung on to the black, grey, plum, and forest green ones. I find them very versatile! Mine are a combo of the JCrew lined wool no.2 skirts and brooks brothers. The lining helps them lay better/not spin around on me.
Anon
Yes. I’m drooling over the shoes.
AIMS
I’ve been enjoying the picks a lot more lately. Thanks, Elizabeth!
Senior Attorney
Agree. I am drooling over the whole outfit.
Anon
I have a fibroid / menopause / perimenopause fashion question. My stomach is now the biggest part of me (formerly a pear; still flat-chested). I’ve sized up in pants, so that’s fixed. But for shirts, I need something more triangular so that it’s not too too big (easy to do) up top but doesn’t strain over my stomach / hips area. I often have to tuck things in b/c they looks as if they are straining to fit over both me and pants. To further complicate it, I’m short, so a lot of women’s shirts have shaping that is all wrong (my waist is higher then they plan for, and where they think a waist should nip in, my body is blossoming out). I’m looking more for blouses / shells. I wear more cropped jackets, so those tend to end on me in way that still works with this aspect of my shape.
Anon
Forgot the question: what brands / items should I be looking at? Even though a lot of brands are now size-inclusive, they still feature models who do not have this shape challenge at any size.
Anne-on
The Fold is now having a sale on their sale. I have also gained weight in my midsection as I aged/pandemic weight gain. They have some tops I swear by for work that suck everything in and/or hide things – yes, they are pricey but I buy 1-2 a year and I swear they are my most complimented pieces. The Belleville top (the criss cross pattern hits right at the tummy and the folding is so flattering) – I have 2. I’d also say the lemington, kensal, or keystone tops are all examples of styles that have visual interest at the top, skim over the midsection, and then have a slight peplum or folding that is very forgiving.
Anon
What about tops with a higher nipped in waist that then flare out or have a peplum? Or shirtdresses with a higher waist might work well.
Anon
Whatever you choose, getting the piece altered, if needed, so it fits impeccably in the shoulders really helps the overall look. I wear Zuri dresses pretty often, always get compliments and that’s why they fit so well.
Anon
OP here. I tried Zuri (so triangular) and wanted to love, but it was just too much volume for a short person. So lovely though and I love the idea. It may be worth a tailor trip through.
Anon
I think they have length options now, too!
Anonymous
A common tailoring fix I do is to have side vents put into the bottom side seams. This opens up space for ease over my hips and makes stuff more wearable.
Panda Bear
+1 – This alteration makes a huge difference for me. My body is like yours, OP. Not sure how short you are – I am 5’2″, short-waisted and narrow shouldered, so the other thing that makes a difference are shopping the petite sizes. Annoyingly that means fewer choices, but the overall fit – not just the length, but the proportionality of where the neckline, bust and waist fall – is so much better. Even if you are not as short as me, try some petite options and see if that helps. I tend to shop Boden, Hobbs (they have petites!), and the usual mall suspects that have petites (J.Crew/BR/Ann Taylor etc). Often, it means ordering a few things online to get the fit and/or have the option for the petite size.
Flats Only
If you’re finding that the “waist” in shaped shirts is too low and thus hitting you not at your natural waist, try petites (I’m assuming you’re not 5’10” or something) – the waist will be higher. I’m petite and this is the reason I buy the petite version of tops if one is available.
Anonymous
Have you tried blouses in petite sizing lately? I know some people think, “but I’m not small” or similar, but petite is about proportions, not size. And one of the proportions that is different is often waist placement.
I am not petite in overall height, but I have a very high waist, and for blazers and tops a petite size hits my natural waist while a regular will nip in at the wrong place.
Anon
The opposite is true for me. I am short, 5’2”, but cannot wear petites because the waist is too high and the rise is too short. This means that every garment needs alterations for length, inseam and/or sleeve length, alas.
No Face
Karen Kane tops are great for tummies. I wear untucked though.
anon
I have found Loft blouses to be very forgiving in the stomach area.
Anon
Same.
A.
I need fashion advice. At the end of April, I started working out regularly at a Burn Boot Camp near me (HIIT + strength workouts). My body has changed dramatically since that time and I’m really proud of the progress I’ve made/how strong I feel (OK, and how I look…I have baby muscles!). I haven’t lost much/any weight but I’m shaped differently.
If you’ve been in this situation, at what point do I buy new clothes? I’m not talking about a whole wardrobe overhaul, but I definitely have pants that are too big — but do I buy now or wait? This is complicated by the fact that fashion is flummoxing me right now; I feel like it’s all ruffles and nap dress knockoffs and crop tops…I’m a 41-year-old mom of three who works in a business casual (no jeans except for Fridays) environment and am completely stumped. Your thoughts on timing of when to shop and where to buy items are welcome!
BeenThatGuy
I shopped when things were so loose that I started to look sloppy. That said, if I was a size 14 pants, I’d buy a size 12 with some stretch. I’d pair the tighter than wanted pants with a flowy top and wear those size 12’s until I was a size 10. I did find dresses were easiest to wear for my changing body, especially wrap dresses. If the dress was tight, I’d throw a camisole under it so the dress could accommodate some spread. When the dress started to get loose, I threw on a belt to cinch the waist and pinned the bust together. Shift dresses are also good for weight fluctuations.
Generally, these clothes were bought at TJMaxx or at a large retailer on significant mark down.
Anon
No advice but congrats on your baby muscles!!!
CHL
Congratulations! I went through kind of the same thing with orange theory and then recently going back to work after a couple years of a different routine. I bought a couple pairs of the Kate pants from jcrew and a pair of the jcrew easy pants on Poshmark (dress material and front , elastic back). They’re forgiving enough to be flexible and weren’t a big investment.
Anon
Buy two or three pairs of nondescript pants now, and alternate those with the best fitting of the clothes you have now.
Anonymous
I bought new when the old stuff looked like it belonged to someone else. If you think you are going to continue dropping in size, buy less but still get some clothes that fit. For me it was both the size and the cut of clothes that needed a rethink. I suddenly had a waist and a flat belly and the tent-like square tops I had been wearing actually looked worse over a more sculpted torso.
Pep
I’d get two pairs of pants that fit, in neutral colors that work with the majority of your tops. If you’re wearing pants in black, navy, or grey it won’t be readily apparent that you’re repeating often.
Anon
I would do 1-2 pairs of pants with stretch now (I like ponte) and add in a new pair or two as they get looser. You will feel and look better.
Congrats on your work!
No Face
We are the same, down to the baby muscles!
I am continuously donating and replacing clothes, rather than waiting to buy a whole new set. The pants I bought during my pandemic weight gain are all too big, so they were donated. I bought two pairs of pants. I bought three silk shells from Quince after donating work tops. My casual clothes are mostly dresses because they look good as body changes. I stick to thrift stores and brands like Quince to reduce the cost.
The only exception is excercise clothes and underwear. I had to buy a whole new set because too big clothes in those categories create functional issues.
anon
Go you! I think this is the route I need to go. I’m fine with my size, but my body composition could be better. And I need something guided because weight lifting is never something I’m going to do consistently at home. I’ve tried and failed, lol.
A.
I am a total shill for this place — truly, I consider myself allergic to working out. I’ve never liked it although I’ve come to value it as I’ve gotten older…but I *love* this gym. It’s 45 minutes of someone else telling me what to do; no brainpower required. Bonus is that l I’ve stopped caring almost entirely about my weight (caveat that I was not significantly overweight to begin with, just flabby) now that I’ve seen such a positive change in how I look and feel — I can chase my kids around, lift heavy things, and I have a ton more energy.
Jules
What is the vibe like? I am 60-ish and a good 20-25 pounds oveweight, and since I really fell off the workout wagon during the pandemic I have lost a lot of stamina. Would I be mortified to participate?
A.
I am not you, but I was in terrible shape when I walked in the door. The concept is all about you getting better — the workouts are brutally hard for everyone. Literally no one is watching you; everyone is busting their butts to make sure they’re keeping up. And there aren’t any mirrors, which I love bc then I’m not distracted by looking at myself struggling! That said, you can take as many breaks as you need. I’ve brought friends who haven’t worked out in years and the environment is so motivating all of them have joined. Burn actually started as a women’s-only gym bc the owners wanted a space where women of all shapes/sizes/abilities feel comfortable. There are people at my location for whom this is their social circle; I’m friendly with folks at the gym but it’s not my hangout group. The whole thing is very “take what you need, leave the rest.”
There’s usually a free weeklong trial available. I’d call or stop by, and try going a few times with different trainers — I definitely respond better to some peoples’ styles than others. Good luck!
Jules
Thanks so much! I hadn’t heard of it before; I checked and there’s one in my area (although not close to either work or home, so it would be tricky to make it work on a regular basis). But I am not at all self-motivated, and the idea of someone just tellling me what to do sounds helpful.
Anonymous
If you like your clothes, you could try having the waists taken in as an interim step, then buy new clothes once you’ve lost another size.
Anonymous
I need some help with – people management? Time management?
I’m early 30s. Single, no kids. Lucky to have friends all over the country. (I’m in a flyover state near family). It is easier for me to visit friends instead of them come to me – if they have kids they don’t have to take extra time off or travel with kids, my job is flexible so I can take long weekends. Pre-pandemic, I was driving or flying to visit someone, or hosting someone, nearly every other weekend. Now that Covid has changed somewhat, my friends are inviting me back. I am realizing that I really need more time alone in my own home. Multiple weekends in a row of no plans has been life changing for me. I feel rude turning down invites, and sad because I want to see my loved ones more often. Zoom just isn’t the same. But I know now I need time on my own. Any suggestions for balancing many rich friendships and time? I hate that this is even a “problem.”
Vicky Austin
It’s really not a problem! Don’t feel rude. Just say you need a break between travel weekends when turning down invites. Offer the next weekend you feel you can. Book yourself out as far as you want with the necessary amount of cushion/alone time in between.
Another thing that occurs to me – when taking a long weekend, can you set aside a day or so thereof for your own time? Come home a bit early and hibernate, or leave your friends’ early and just bum around their city by yourself before going to the airport? Throw money at the flights so they’re more pleasant and rejuvenating for you rather than being a drain?
Anonymous
Cultivate a local life and friendships. Far away friends just can’t be frequent friends for me.
Anon
Hmm, I think it’s a muscle you have to exercise again and it’s going to eventually make you sad that you stopped seeing people and lost those in person connections. I get the lure of relaxing at home but my life is so much richer with other people in it. I’d look for ways to feel better all week, like go to bed an hour earlier every day so you’re rested for your weekends.
anon
I disagree with this. If OP is traveling to make all of these visits happen, it’s not sustainable. I’ve been in OP shoes and when the laundry is piled up, the gym membership is only used twice a week, and you’re fighting off the second cold that month, there is nothing you can do in the 4 nights a week you have at home that will move the dial. Sleeping more just means the to-do list fills up even faster. There is also the very real possibility that flying all over is a contributing factor in OP being single. It’s impossible to date if you are never around. That’s a very high price to pay, even for time with family and friends.
OP, I wouldn’t make a big deal about it when declining invitations. “That weekend doesn’t work for me” is a complete answer, and most people won’t press you for details. Try to stack your visits so that you are seeing more than one group of people when you do travel out of town; I usually aim for 3 distinct families or friend groups in a single visit for peak efficiency. The other trick some people use is to combine visits home with a work trip, if that something that is available to you.
anon
I really disagree with this. Weekend trips are fun, but I can’t deny that when I pull one of, I spend the rest of the next week feeling behind on life and off-kilter. It is okay to prioritize life maintenance. Particularly when you’re not 25 anymore.
Anon
Being an introvert is not a problem! Also, as you get away from your 20s, you don’t have the energy for the crazy schedules of work and fun all the time. Just add rest weekends into your schedule.
Anon
Yeah, I think you’ll see this naturally slow down as people couple up, have kids, and lose some energy for travel. I definitely encourage you to stay in touch and see people when you can, but I think it’s fairly unusual for people to have the time and energy for this as they move into their mid thirties and beyond; local stuff just takes priority for most people.
Cat
Having travel or hosting plans every 3 weeks rather than every other week shouldn’t be a material change in your social calendar while giving you two weekends in between to fully recharge your own at-home life.
Every other week is a lot! That means you just have one weekend in between, i.e., you’re regrouping from the prior weekend’s travel, planning the next weekend’s travel, AND taking care of all your life maintenance… all at once?! Exhausting long term!
Carrots
I realized this as well when activities started back up – I lost my muscle for doing EVERYTHING and having a packed calendar, but I’m also realizing I don’t have the appetite for it as well anymore. Like Vicky said, don’t feel guilty about turning down the first weekend someone offers; find one that works for you that gives you some buffer time at home for yourself. I would say, you don’t even need to give a reason for why that weekend won’t work – “sorry, that weekend doesn’t work for my schedule, how about three weekends from now instead?” is a perfectly reasonable response.
Can you also find other ways to connect with friends that aren’t Zoom? For a while, a friend who lives in my town and I would exchange silly notes, written like Jane Austen characters and would record silly audios of us reading them like a movie voiceover. We were still talking and interacting in other ways, but it was just a little fun thing.
Anonymous
Tell your friends you need to pace the visits due to the very real impact on climate change of taking so many flights. Genuinely curious whether you’ve considered this impact. Nearly weekly flights has a huge impact.
Anon
+1. That was the first thing I thought when I read this post. You can still see people, but consider longer, less frequent trips that hit multiple people rather than every weekend.
Anon
Good grief.
Anonymous
Just because you don’t care doesn’t make it not true.
Anon
Exactly my internal response.
Cat
I hope this isn’t the approach you take when trying to advise people IRL…
OP Anonymous
IRL I generally keep my mouth shut on this issue. But I certainly have to wonder how people can be so unaware of the result of their actions. Although I may sound like a curmudgeon in this instance, I also have a lot of friends and family scattered around the country as a result of attending college and grad school in different geographic area from where I was raised and where I live currently. I still try to limit flights to big occasions (such as weddings or holiday visits) or mini friend reunions- or as a poster suggests above taking longer trips to combine friend visits and get more quality time in per visit. Phone calls and video chats help bridge the gaps between visits. I understand it’s uncomfortable to look critically at the consequences of our actions but I honestly think if you’re taking 25-50 flights a year, you need to reassess. At a minimum, buy carbon offsets
Anon
It uses less carbon for the OP to fly (takes up one seat) than for families to fly to her (use multiple seats).
anonshmanon
It’s certainly something others have said in explaining why they will not come visit me. IRL. It’s not as out-of-this-world as you might think.
Anonymous
Where do you live? Where do your friends live? I could say “I can’t afford to go to Tokyo and can’t get that much time off of work,” because they are true. Saying the equivalent of “I chose the planet over you” seems cruel.
Anonymous
I do think this is a pretty good way to get fewer invitations.
RestingBeachFace
If somebody told me this was the reason they were not coming to visit me, I’d
1: know they were lying, and
2: figure they were dropping the friendship and would do them the favor and delete them from my Christmas card list and never invite them to see me again.
Really. Tell them the truth. That is what friends do. Tell them that weekend doesn’t work for you because you’re burned out at work and your house is falling down around you and you need to catch up on things at home. Real friends understand that. Don’t pull the climate change crap. That plane is going to fly whether you’re on it or not.
Anon
Oh supply and demand isn’t a thing?
Cat
IDK if this all the same Anon, but it is possible to both (1) care, and (2) approach the topic in a way that isn’t so extremely off-putting… save a server some electricity somewhere and chill, please.
NYCer
+1. Just be honest. The climate change response from a friend would be extremely off putting.
OP Anonymous
My tone was unnecessarily flippant and I take Cat’s point that it was unproductive. I stand by the message that the OP should critically examine the impact of her choices
Anon 2.0
Please climb down off of your high horse. I am afraid you’re going to fall and injure yourself.
Anon
I say let that high horse buck her off. Maybe it’ll knock that stick out of her @$$.
roxie
she’s childfree so she has done her part already :)
Anonymous
My suggestion would be to figure out how many times a month you need to be home versus away or hosting, and then plan accordingly. Do you need two weekends at home for every two with people? Or 2 weekends alone for every 3 with people? Just schedule your “at home, alone” weekends on your calendar the same way you would schedule your weekends traveling or hosting. Find the rhythm that works for you and put it on your calendar.
There’s nothing rude about telling someone something doesn’t work on your schedule. You could SAY it rudely, I suppose, but it’s not a rude action in and of itself. You just say, “Oh, that weekend doesn’t work for me. Can we look at something a month or two out? What about the weekend of the 8th…”
No Face
Same! Flyover state, deep friendships all over the country. Just visit less often! My visits are still wonderful and meaningful, but I definitely can’t travel every weekend or even every month.
Doodles
I think you should focus on cultivating more local friendships so you feel less guilt about wanting to stay in town for a weekend. As you move into your 30s, constant weekend travel is not sustainable.
Nesprin
Schedule every other weekend (or 3 weekends/4 ) a month for yourself.
Couple Anon
Favorite weeknight dinner right now? Need some inspo, feels like I’m always making the same thing.
pugsnbourbon
It’s pasta salad season! Great way to use up the zucchini the neighbors keep dumping on your door.
Anon
People eat pasta salad alone…as like the whole dinner?
Anon
As a vegetarian, I do this often.
Anan
I do! I add salami or cubed ham, or white beans or chick peas.
pugsnbourbon
Yup! Load it up with ham or shredded chicken or smoked sausage, cheese, herbs. Whole grain pasta is extra filling.
anon a mouse
My stomach is currently in a fight with pasta (sadly) so we’ve been riffing on couscous salads. Shredded rotisserie chicken, cucumber, cherry tomatoes, a little mint from the garden with goat cheese and a light dressing of lemon and olive oil. I add artichoke hearts to mine but I’m the only one in my house who likes them.
Anon
I hate to tell you this but couscous is pasta.
anon a mouse
Ha, fair, but I use gluten free which tastes better to me than GF pasta. Also because it’s small I put more “stuff” in it than I would in a regular pasta salad.
Anon
Do you use the zucchini raw or sauté it for your pasta salad?
roxie
on sunday i did a GF pasta combined with sauteed zucchini and eggplant plus olives, fresh basil and tomatoes and a bit of hard parm grated. I made an easy balsamic dressing. Also added chickpeas. Easy, delicious, fresh.
Anonymous
I just made this pasta salad that calls for both raw corn and zucchini. I was skeptical but it was so good! https://www.budgetbytes.com/summer-sweet-corn-salad/
pugsnbourbon
I do a light saute on the zucchini.
Vicky Austin
I love the America’s Test Kitchen Simple Recipes cookbook right now. It has 15-20 minute recipes for things like pho, Greek chicken, lemon chicken with potatoes and artichokes, skillet chicken tikka, fajitas, baked cod with potatoes, panzanella, broccoli pad thai, orange chicken, and lots more. Also baked potatoes in under half an hour. Yes, really.
I’ve also been hearing so many good things about Ali Slagle’s I Dream of Dinner.
Vicky Austin
Actually, since easy baked potatoes should really be a human right, here’s the recipe. All you need is 4 medium russets, plus the fixings of your choice.
Scrub and dry the potatoes
Heat the oven to 450
Prick the potatoes with a fork all over
Microwave until slightly soft, 6-12 minutes, turning occasionally
Cook directly on the oven rack for 20 minutes or until a skewer glides through. Open, pile on the fixings and eat.
Couple Anon
You’re my hero.
Vicky Austin
Always happy to spread more potato-related joy!
Anon
Are there people that don’t know how to bake a potato?!
Bananonymous
I mean, I know how to bake a potato, but the way I was taught as a kid takes an hour and a half. The microwave technique changed my life, and I’m happy to pass it on.
Vicky Austin
Doh, that was me. Well, now you all know about my weird banana thing! (I posted down thread.)
Anon
I made the cabbage pancakes (okonomiyaki) from Budget Bytes yesterday because I had a bag of shredded cabbage on its last legs and some green onions to use up. They were fast and easy to make and pretty tasty. My other cabbage standby is with noodles and peanut sauce (and sometimes other veggies or tofu, depending on what I have around).
Anonymous
Sauteed onions, zucchini, squash, corn, and tomatoes with some chicken on the side or underneath.
anonshmanon
Big portobello fried up on a burger bun with condiments and stuff. Cole slaw on the side.
Cat
Huge salad – kale, spinach, almonds, whatever fruit needs to be eaten, plus a big helping of rotisserie chicken. Dressing varies but right now the Bolthouse Farms blue cheese is in heavy rotation.
MagicUnicorn
Homemade pizza crust topped with gochujang, kimchi, and a smidge of mozzarella. Cover with fresh microgreens after it comes out of the oven.
roxie
salsa chicken: slow cooker with some chicken breast and a jar of salsa dumped in, 8 hours on low or 4 on high. Add tortillas, maybe a side sautéed veggie, and whatever taco toppings of your choosing.
HUGE hit with kids and adults.
Anan
Some current easy meals:
-Tacos with easy cabbage slaw (chop cabbage, add lime juice, salt, pinch of sugar), avocados and salsa. For the main filling, whatever is available- black beans, chicken, fish…
– InstantPot beans with toast.
– Sesame noodles with carrots, cucumbers, corn, tofu
Anonymous
love fish taco bowls! i use the recipe from kalyn’s kitchen — can meal prep for 3-4 nights
big themed bagged salad (e.g. dill pickle ranch salad, everything but the bagel salad, etc) + rotisserie chicken
homemade nachos – add refried beans, salsa chicken, cheese, jalapeños.
grilled turkey burgers
Anon
I make some form of jambalaya and I’m not too precious about it.
Chop up an onion, mince some garlic, dice a green pepper if you have one. Maybe a hot pepper like a jalapeño if you like heat. If you want some meat in your jambalaya sauté that first (I like sliced sausage) then add the veggies you just chopped. Add some fresh tomatoes or a bit of tomato paste, or you can add tomato bouillon to the broth in following steps. Add one to one and a half cups long grain white rice and stir around to coat the grains, then add double the volume of rice in liquid, I like to use 1/2 cup dry white wine and 1+1/2 cups chicken broth. Stir that in. Throw some veggies in, stir, then bring to a simmer and cook on low with the lid on for 20 minutes. If you want to add shrimp, throw them in for however many minutes they need to cook, depending on whether they’re frozen or not, at the end. Finish with a squeeze of lime and some herbs if you have them – mint is nice, as is dill. Taste for salt and heat – you might like to add some ground cayenne pepper.
Veggies I like to throw in – fresh corn cut off the cob, zucchini or green beans cut up small, 1/2 cup of frozen peas (add these closer to the end), sometimes I use some chopped celery in the initial sauté. Sometimes I just use frozen veg altogether – I like the mixture with the baby limas, but do what works for you.
Bonnie Kate
I am obsessed with homemade chicken fried rice right now. Like have made it three times in the last two weeks. Leftovers are very awesome too, pan fried in butter to heat up again. I’ve been making the version off of Gimme Some Oven and adding cut up pieces of chicken or pieces of rotisserie chicken.
We’re also really into bacon chicken tender sourdough melts right now. Chicken tenders in the air fryer, then put them with pepper jack cheese, and homemade bacon bits* on sourdough from the local bakery. Cook like a grilled cheese until the cheese is melted. That plus a cucumber salad.
I’ve been making lots of variations with cucumber salads since my cucumber plants are giving me cucumbers out of my ears. This is very specific, but my favorite version of a cucumbers salad right no is cubing them, sprinkle balsamic vinegar all over, then mixing in some salt and vinegar shelled pistachios.
* I make homemade bacon bits ever few weeks by making bacon, letting it cool, cutting it up into small pieces and then putting it in a mason jar in the freezer. Delicious bacon bits and pieces available all the time.
Go for it
Shrimp cocktail ~ rinse and done
With Golds cocktail sauce!
Plus a salad- made or bagged
Dr. The Original ...
I was asked to re-post during the week, so here it is…
I work in DEI doing consulting and training work, as well as doing keynotes. I cover schools, higher education, and businesses. This covers everything from on-boarding to lunch and learns to ERGs to board member trainings to writing or improving policies and procedures of organizations, etc. I also work with community organizations such as rotaries and community centers and with religious orgs who are open to growing. With the changes in the laws in different states, my work is limited to fewer states than ever which means I need to expand in the states where my work is still legal. That includes international work. I can work remotely or in person.
Although my self-efficacy is fine since I’ve earned my career, my self-esteem isn’t great. I am struggling to expand my network as well as struggling to get more people to pass my resume around to their networks. If anyone has advice on how to do this better or if anyone is kind enough to take my resume and, if they like it, pass it on to their network, I’d really appreciate it. My burner email for those willing to consider my resume is: IAmAnEpicWarrior at g.
Even posting this was hard for me but I am trying to keep growing both personally and professionally so THANK YOU for even reading and considering it!
(As a side note, having been in this community for well over a decade, thank you to those whose advice here has helped me grow and flourish in so many ways. It made me brave enough to post this here and try. Maybe no one will email or respond but I try because I work to emulate the successes and bravery of so many here.)
Anon
What sort of flavor are your DEI trainings? We have some that are so excellent and some that are just . . . finger-wagging or really wide of the mark of challenges our org has faced. We need to hire and keep the best employees, so we need to make sure we are welcoming and continue to be where they choose to stay and focusing on where we can improve. IDK how to spot good providers that will keep everyone on the “yes, be the employer of choice” bandwagon.
anon
I meant to respond to your earlier post but was too late – thanks for reposting!
I think there is a mindset issue at work here. There doesn’t seem to be any shortage of DEI work where I am, admittedly in a liberal state. In fact, the local town governments and school districts keep losing out on job candidates that they are interviewing due to prior engagements and other more competitive offers. The job candidates in this space literally don’t have enough bandwidth to take all the opportunities that come their way. I get that on a national level the news is discouraging, to say the least. But I would try and shift from a scarcity mindset to an abundance mindset because there are markets where the need is so strong that we’ve exhausted our local pool of talent.
The other important detail being, obviously, that it’s a local market. The school districts in particular strongly prefer to hire people who live in the region and are committed to the community they are in. Perhaps that is something to consider, that the organizations doing this work are not just evaluating your past work but also how you demonstrate your ties to the community? In which case I’m not sure that going broad, geographically, is going to help you get new work.
Anonymous
What is DEI?
Anon
I’m genuinely curious where you are located and what industry you are in where you have managed to not encounter this acronym!
Diversity, equity, inclusion
Anonymous
I am not the poster above but I have never heard it used on a law firm. And while we did have one training on this, it was terrible and run by an old guard minority whose message was basically -don’t offend people but cream rises to the top.
Anon
I’ve only encounter this acronym in the past 12-15 months since starting a new job. Not everyone is exposed to these things so stop acting like she’s an alien for it!
Anon
Oh FFS I was genuinely curious bc at work and in my personal life, I can’t escape it. Not everyone is an a hole.
Bonnie Kate
I had to google it. Environmental speciality contractor in midwest, at a smaller firm.
Anon
Political staffer and government – never heard of it.
Senior Attorney
Alas I am not really in a position to send work your way (at this exact moment, anyway), but just coming in to say that you are, indeed, an epic warrior!!
Anon
Are you active on linked in? Also, what about sending your resume to friends and asking if they can think of anyone in their circle that they can send it to? I would maybe think about whether there are any groups that you can get involved with to network with etc. Good luck!
Senior Attorney
Yeah, I think you hold a professional clinical license and I was going to suggest getting involved in the appropriate professional organization. I have friends who are LMFTs and give mandatory continuing education seminars to other LMFTs through the professional association and do quite well. I feel like what you do would be a natural fit for that kind of thing.
JMills
Is Texas ok? I’m with a uni.
Anonymous
We dread DEI and any sort of “trainings” like that because often they are wretched things to endure and don’t actually train you to do anything. And they tend to divide people into camps by outward signs like skin color (often just black and non-black, because that is the most obvious and yet often puts our multiracial staff in a bind) and overlook things like disabilities, first-gen status, immigrant status, language barriers, etc. We have a large Hispanic population that is often not even a part of conversations, like they don’t exist or their problems are not important. If you could advertise in a way that would say “I’m not like that” and “This is DEI for all,” that would separate you from your competition in a good way and I’d want to hear what you have to say.
Anonymous
+1 We have a real issue getting DEI trainers who do anything other than divide people into groups, and make the bad group apologize. My field has a lot of ESL staff and we actually had to walk a DEI trainer out when she went on this monologue about how the struggles of ESL aren’t even comparable to WOC. It shouldnt be such a struggle to find competent individuals, but it is, we would offer so much repeat business if we could just find a good person!
Coach Laura
I suggest joining women in consulting and/or entrepreneurial organizations, either national or local to where you are. (Assuming you identify as a woman.) It may take some ramp up time but my independent business/consulting friends found this to be a good way to go. Become a member, go to a meeting (covid of course makes this harder), write for their blog, offer to give DEI talks, network. Some groups are specific to certain locations (Women in Consulting in San Jose womeninconsulting.org; Consulting Women in DC – consultingwomen.com), some are for women business owners. Women Business Owners is a group in Seattle where I am (sponsored by my bank) was well regarded by a friend: There should be similar groups all over. Womenbusinessowners.org NAWBO.org The Woman Behind the Business WBBtalk.com might be useful if you’re Black. My state has a women’s business incubator and I’m sure there are others – businessimpactnw.org
Womeningovernance.org looks like an organization focused on DEI that might be useful, though it’s in Canada.
You might want to join speakers groups – consultexpertise.com, thespeakersgroup.com, centerforexecutivecoaching.com and speakerhub.com are ideas of places to consider. The more you speak and promote, the more people you meet who can help you find business and network.
I’m on FMLA leave now so not able to send your resume to a whole lot of people but I’ll send you an email and we can connect.
Bonnie Kate
Similar to this, join associations and offer to serve on the planning committees for their events. There are three dominant industry associations in my region, and I really expanded my regional stature when I actively joined planning committees for all three. I definitely got asked to speak more and had opportunities come my way (along with a few industry awards) due to this type of committee work, and I have better relationships with colleagues across companies. I have since scaled it back to one committee that I genuinely enjoy since my role shifted, but I think the five years I was heavily involved “everywhere” in our industry really paid dividends to building a solid reputation.
S
Could you expand to government? DC government, for example, requires all employees to attend quarterly trainings so certainly has a lot of business for computer-based training video but I know many agencies hire for live trainings too. Also lots of government has preference for women-owned businesses so if you can register as one you may be able to use that in your favor.
SFEditor
Vitamin C serums- has anyone actual results and if so, what did you use and what type of skin do you have? I’ve used a 10% one with absolutely no change whatsoever. There’s so much hype out there – hoping to find solid experience backing up a product. Thank you!
Anon
It’s just hope in a jar, they don’t do anything.
Anon
I’ve tried the Skinceuticals and didn’t see much improvement despite the high price tag! I actually like BeautyStat. One of the issues with Vit C is that it’s not very stable and the efficacy decreases over time. I think Skinceuticals is only good for 3-6 months after you open it because of the dropper bottle. BeautyStat is a pump and I think it works better although you really have to be consistent and apply twice a day over 4-12 weeks to see results. If that doesn’t work for you, then I don’t think any Vit C product will really work.
BeenThatGuy
Counterpoint, Skinceuticals is the one thing I swear by in my skincare routine. I use it every morning without fail so it never goes stale. With any skincare routine, it does take several weeks, if not months, to see real improvements. At 46, I get compliments on my skin daily and that never happened before I used it.
Monte
Same — use it daily, it never goes stale, and it is the one skin product (other than sunscreen and moisturizer) I think it actually worth the time or expense. For me, the big help is in maintaining an even complexion as someone prone to hyperpigmentation.
Anon
Skip the random hype and shoot your derm a message about Vit C recs. They’ll only recommend what they think actually works.
Anon
I have tried several vitamin C serums and never noticed any difference. Plus some of them smell really bad.
Anon
Saw no difference with a Lumene one a year ago. Seeing a difference currently with a Cerave one I started using about a month ago. My skin just looks a little brighter and glow-ier. I am so unsophisticated about skincare that I couldn’t tell you what type of skin I have.
PolyD
I use Sunday Riley alternating with Ole Henrisken, whichever one I can find on sale. The Ordinary makes a much cheaper version that is probably just as good. I personally feel that using vitamin C serums helped even out my skin some.
EJF
I’ve been using Ole Henrickson’s Truth Serum. I feel like it has made my skin a little brighter (but, I also started using Retina-A and taking Collagen powder supplements at the same time, so it could be a combination of all 3).
Shanananan
I think it depends on your skin and what you are expecting out of it. I use a green envee one, have rosacea, and for me I find that it helps a lot with texture and redness. Its not a miracle worker, but I can tell when I run out and stop using it that my skin feels more textured and I can tell. This version, and prior the mad hippie version, have been in my regimen for about 6 years now. If you already have generally smooth skin, I don’t think you are going to notice a big difference. That said, prevention isn’t usually visible, and my dermatologist tells me every time I see her how supple and healthy my skin is. As someone who only sees the bad parts, it is nice to know that years of skin care is making some difference even if its not visually flawless skin at 40.
Anonymous
I like Paula’s Choice and use a generous amount. I follow goalstogetglowing on Instagram who is a researcher and she recommends this. I didn’t think it did anything for me but once I upped the amounts I noticed a subtle glow and evenness to my skin. Plus I live in Texas and the UV rays are fierce here so I want to help with protecting my skin in addition to sun screen.
anon
I used Vitamin C and hyaluronic acid serums because my dermatologist said those were the products with the best research backing them. She recommended using Vitamin C in the morning before my sunscreen as there’s evidence that the combination of the two helps prevent UV damage (so Vit C + sunscreen is better than sunscreen alone). I use La Roche-Posay, and I do think that my skin looks more even since starting the Vit C.
Anon
+1 on combining vitamin c with sunscreen usage.
If you’re not using some form of sunscreen daily, you’re wasting your time on skincare. Sorry, but it’s true.
Anon
Not the same, but I’ve used Lancome’s Genefique serum for years, and whenever I used to think it wasn’t doing anything and would cut it out of my skincare routine, I noticed my skin turn dull and lackluster. I’ve been using it for 10+ years now and now keep it stockpiled and never let myself run out. So it’s not Vitamin C, but definitely brightening and improving.
Celia
Yes! Same here. Genifique is magical.
Anon 2.0
Has anyone dealt with plantar fasciitis? I haven’t been to the doctor yet but will make an appointment soon if I can’t get this cleared up. After having intense heel pain and, ahem, using Dr. Google I think this is what I am dealing with. Do the braces sold online work well? I am not wearing heels and wear my Birkenstocks around the house instead of walking barefoot but it isn’t helping. I am only dealing with this in one foot thankfully.
Anon
Instead of the birks, try wearing a shoe with a bit of a heel… think cowboy boots or something similar front to back. If it’s PF that’ll take some of the stress off the offending area.
anon a mouse
I have it intermittently. You’re on the right path to never walk barefoot. I find that stretching makes a huge difference. The specific things I do are:
– stretching my heel (flexing toes back and forth) for several minutes before I ever get out of bed in the morning (I have not yet gotten the strassburg sock to sleep in, my case is still fairly moderate)
– doing heel dips several times throughout the day on stairs (put front of foot on stair and dip heel as low as possible)
– I have a device called ProStretch calf stretcher that mimics the heel dips, but is more intense – I do this almost every night before bed
Good luck!
Anonymous
Yes, I have had it. What worked for me was a combination of the following: orthotic flip flops or slippers when walking around the house (Gecko Man slippers, flip flops were from the river site, I don’t remember the brand); sneakers or Birkenstocks outside the house. I also used one of those sock-like braces daily while in pain, and while running for several months afterward. If you happen to be a runner or similar, definitely take time off from running until you’re confident you’ve healed. That was the most frustrating part for me.
London (formerly NY) CPA
Yes. I had it a few years ago. Orthotics are the only thing that really helps me. I did a shot at the doctor, but it didn’t do much. You need to try several different orthotics. I found one that got me pain free for several years but unfortunately the pain has come back recently for no clear reason so thinking I’ll have to do another round of orthotic trial and error soon… :(
As far as the brace, no I don’t think it helped me at all. I recently got a roller thing with spikes all over it, and that has helped somewhat, but unfortunately not curative.
Marie
A home remedy you can try in the meantime to get potential relief that is very easy: put a water bottle in the freezer and once it is frozen, put it on the floor and role it back and forth under your arch and your heel, adjusting the pressure to your comfort. Hope this helps!
Anonymous
Agreed. Orthotics, rolling (water bottle or tennis ball), stretching. If a combo of PF and tendinitis, try pressure point massage around your knee. I wore orthopedic flip flops in the shower so I was never bare foot on hard surfaces. Stretches are as mentioned already—flexing toes, calf stretches, heel drops. My dr gave me a stretchy band to use for the flexing.
Flats Only
Do the stretching your doc will recommend and it will clear up eventually. In the mean time, I found that Aleve worked for the pain, but the timing of when it would take effect was a little unpredictable. My doc “prescribed” me a lot more Aleve than the bottle says. Also, if you have a situation where you simply have to wear “real shoes”, try something with a low block heel – it takes your weight off your heel which will be more comfortable than completely flat shoes. I too swear by birkenstocks, but they don’t help Plantar Fasciitis.
Anon
Oh f I hate PF with a passion.
1) while you’re waiting to get in, wear soles that don’t flex. I like Dansko clogs for this. I’m a daily Birkenstock wearer and they’re good for preventing PF but they don’t help once you’re flaring.
2) buy some of the PF socks from Amazon. There’s a night time sleep sock that keeps your foot at a 90 degree angle – uncomfortable but you’ll get used to it – and there’s a toeless, heel-less tube of support sock material that you wear in the arch of your foot all day long. These will help a lot until you can get into the podiatrist.
3) the podiatrist is likely to give you a steroid shot on the side of your foot near the heel. These work but take a few days so you’ll need the supportive stuff anyway.
Good luck!!
KS IT Chick
I dealt with PF for 25 years before having surgery.
If you catch it early, the frozen bottle roll and the stretches will help. The stretch that helped me the most was standing on a step with my heels off the edge and slowly letting them drop to stretch out the calf muscles. I still do that today, seven years after the surgery.
Something that the podiatrist who finally did the surgery was “barefoot is bad”. The modern environment isn’t conducive to good foot positioning when barefoot. He was emphatic that I should only be barefoot on lush grass or in a pool. Otherwise, I needed to wear shoes with some arch support and that kept my feet in the correct position.
I have perfectly formed cup hooks off the bones in my heels. They look impressive on x-ray, but they can hurt like the dickens if I walk to far in the wrong shoes.
Allison
I have a PF tip that my slightly kooky osteopath gave me, and it seems weird, but it 100% worked. You need to walk barefoot on your rocks. Not sharp rocks, especially, but irregularly shaped ones. It’s essentially the same as rolling with a tennis ball I guess but more “whole foot”. He told me to go to a river and pick out a bunch of rocks, glue them to a small square of carpet, and spend 5 mins a day treading on that. I can’t tell you why it works but it did for me. I’m long cured but occasionally I get a slight twinge now and that immediately fixes it. Can’t hurt to try!
Nonny
only thing that helped after 2 yrs intense foot pain: get one inch diameter wood dowel at lumberyard and have it cut in one foot lengths. put round dowel under your toes and press down as hard as you can on the dowel with your foot while rolling your foot over the dowel all the way to the back of your heel. it hurts but within 3 days it was better and gone forever after 7 days, completely healed. wood dowel only cost $4.00. good luck!!
Nonny
adding: at back of heel then do the same all the way to your toes, do several times a day if you can, still amaxed all these years later it never came back.
Anon
Just a heads up from the Etsy conversation from yesterday. That item (the square ring) is sold by multiple shops, so it’s probably not an indie seller.
Allie
Etsy’s quality control is terrible. I love etsy but it’s really annoying that I have to investigate and then roll the dice on products. I don’t mind buying mass marketed products but not at an etsy mark-up. I’ll just go to the big retailer at that point.
Monday
Yes–I’m sorry to say that I’ve pretty much given up on Etsy. I have some handmade items I got on there years ago that I love and are still going strong, but now searching on there just feels like another Am@zon. If there’s anything unique still available, it takes me too long to find it.
Sellers do sometimes have good vintage stuff for sale, which is harder to misrepresent.
Bananonymous
Hi hive, I have an odd question. Since I was about 15, whenever I eat a banana (particularly a less ripe banana, or particularly after a long stint since the last banana), I start to feel just a little bit sick to my stomach. And then, the really weird part, is that I start to feel like I’m hallucinating, but all the hallucinations are like dreams I’ve previously had. After a few minutes it always passes and I feel sort of rejuvenated. I’ve never been able to figure out what this is. A nurse cousin suggested a latex allergy if avocado also bothers me, but it doesn’t. It’s only ever been bananas.
Anyone have any ideas? Regular old banana allergy? Potassium deficiency? Alien abduction?
roxie
this is wild and i am highly invested in learning more
Bananonymous
I desperately wish I could tell you more, but that’s pretty much it – it’s usually recalling dreams I’ve had about the place I’m actually in, even if I don’t remember the dreams before I eat the banana.
Anon
I have nothing to add but best screen name ever. 🥇
Shananana
Cannot speak to the hallucinating part, but the one way I am guaranteed to feel sick when working out is if I have a banana on an empty stomach for my pre workout snack.
Anon
Not banana-related, but I get a weird deja vu hallucination feeling like you describe whenever I see fire extinguishers. This has happened for well over three decades for me. I have no history of fire-related trauma, and it does not happen with fire hydrants, engines, or any other fire-related equipment. Just extinguishers.
I also dislike the taste and texture of bananas, FWIW.
Anon
You were an extinguisher in a past life.
Anon
Deja vu is an interesting brain science thing. We have short term and long term memory. When we pull a past memory from long term memory, it appropriately feels like it is from a while ago, because it is, and not a second ago.
Short term memory is where we would generally initially store what we just looked at, but there’s an occasional misfire where a current memory gets filed in long term memory, and it makes something happening now feel like it happened before.
Anonymous
Allergic reaction is the likely cause – anaphylaxis can affect the central nervous system which presents as anxiety or impeding doom in some people but would explain the hallucinations.
My kid is dairy allergic and it’s hard educating people that anaphylaxis is not always breathing difficulties. Sometimes it’s a spacey, dizzy kid whose blood pressure is bottoming out very quickly. Cardiac issues are almost more dangerous because other people don’t notice the symptoms until it is too late.
Bananonymous
Thank you, I did not know that about how anaphylaxis presents! I’ll mention it to my doctor.
Anon
Oh wow, I get this from wheat. I always assumed it was a gluten intolerance or maybe undiagnosed Celiac (Celiac runs in my family). But now I’m curious if it’s possible it’s allergy related (I have other mast cell/histamine issues, but never discussed both issues with the same doc).
anon
This sounds like an allergic reaction to me–I would not eat bananas any longer.
Allergies present in weird ways. Clearly it’s not quite agreeing with you.
Annie Nominous
A friend of mine has a reaction to bananas. After consultation with an allergist, they discovered many fruits and vegetables that her body does not digest well (bananas were the worst offender). She has had to limit her fruit/vegie intake and amp up the protein. Doc said that the push for more fruits and veg in peoples’ diets has revealed more people with this response.
ifiknew
Cross posting here from the moms site. I have a 3 year old boy who I’d really like to have two lamps for on his nighstands. They need to be a good size because his room and nighstands are significant. However, they need to be not breakable (other than the bulb). He’s already broken one lamp.. colors are navy, white, gold. Thank you!!
Senior Attorney
This one looks pretty indestructible: https://www.crateandbarrel.com/pixi-adjustable-ochre-metal-table-lamp/s610744
This one is a little bigger: https://www.crateandbarrel.com/joy-indigo-table-lamp-by-leanne-ford/s634323
Senior Attorney
Specific links in mod but look at “kids table lamps” at Crate & Barrell.
Anon
I managed to find my son a rocket shaped lamp made from wood when he was that age. I think you’ll have luck searching for wooden lamps. I would probably add kids or childrens to the search since they’re more likely to come in the colors you describe.
Ps my son is 19 and still has his rocket lamp. :)
Anon
Not what you’re looking for but I just tried that search myself and look how cute this is:
https://www.amazon.com/Jubapoz-Bedside-Nightstand-Creative-Decorations/dp/B092CVG77T
Anon
Here’s something more serious
https://www.wayfair.com/lighting/pdp/corrigan-studio-bennington-2125-blue-table-lamp-w000644845.html
Anon
If you have a Christmas Tree Shops near you, that’s where I got my boys’ lamps.
Celia
If you’re open to wood / bamboo, we have this in our living room precisely because my toddler boys broke our last glass one. It has fallen on the hardwood floor more than once and was completely undamaged, and we often get compliments about it: https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/boeja-table-lamp-with-led-bulb-bamboo-handmade-70416294/
PolyD
I asked a few weeks ago about foundation alternatives. I tried the Neutrogena hyaluronic acid thingy, and I quite like it. It doesn’t feel as heavy or greasy as the BB cream I was using (at least, I don’t feel like I need to scrub with something rough after I wear it) and it smooths things out just enough for my purposes. So thanks for the suggestions! I might try some of the other ones, too.
Anon
Just wanted to share in case it’s helpful to anyone (hope this doesn’t seem pedantic). I have been having rage issues and extreme bouts of anxiety/jealousy/insecurity in my friendships and relationship a few times a month. For the most part, I’ve managed to keep it just internal, but it’s definitely bled out. I realized there were two big triggers: caffeine and PMSing. I cut out coffee altogether and have already noticed a huge improvement. I’ve started taking magnesium and calcium daily for the PMS and it also seems like it’s lessened my symptoms.
Sometimes excess cortisol in your system can have really crazy effects, and so it’s always worth checking to see if there might be something activating it for you!! This is just if anyone else is experiencing something similar, where habits or deficiencies may be hijacking their nervous system.
Anon
Interesting. I used to have PMDD and deficiencies were a huge part of it. Magnesium, but also zinc, and my psychiatrist had me try methylfolate. It made a huge difference, though if I stop supplementing, the symptoms do come back.
Anonymous
How much would you expect to pay a dog walker in suburban Va – think Alexandria but not Old Town, more the area closer to Franconia. Do rates vary based on type of dog? DH and I are wanting to get a relatively big dog but with both of us out of the house now in the office, we’d need a dog walker at least once or twice per day.
anon
Bigger dogs can usually hold it longer, so unless your commute is really far, you should be able to do 1x a day. I’m in SF, but no dog walker will show up for less than $20, and usually it’s 35 or 40. It really adds up. IME, pricing is not based on dog size (but they sometimes separate dogs into groups).
I used to live in Boston and dog walking was way cheaper there–$15 a walk for an hour.
Anonymous
Check Rover.com. You can sort by dog walkers (as opposed to dog boarding). It gave me a pretty good sense of price for my area.
Alexandria Anon
I’m closer to Landmark, but I pay $20 per midday walk and that seems to be the usual rate for the dog walking companies in the area.