Thursday’s TPS Report: Capri-print pintuck top

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1. GORGEOUS!!!

2. Love this! I agree that the print and pleating would be beautiful under a suit.

3. Wow. I really like this. The print is lovely and the cut looks like it would be very flattering and versatile. May need to add this one to my wishlist.

4. The pleating, the high neck and the waist detail would combine together on the busty to make you look like one solid boob between your waist and your neck.

   1. I was just thinking I might be able to pick this up to use as a transition maternity piece due to the loose pleats/waist detail/etc. which would hide the not-quite-a-bump tummy I’m sporting. Soooo…probably not the best bet for some body types.

      1. If your beginning of a bump is anything like mine, waist detailing is the last thing you want. The *very* first thing that happened was that my waist disappeared – fitted tops and dresses (90% of my wardrobe!) were immediately out. Even before I began to show, I had to buy a bunch of loose, straight-cut tops and tunics.

         1. Ditto. Waist detailing is the kiss of death.

            I got several new blouses that are described as “relaxed,” “loose”, or “tunic”. Plus busy prints and a size larger than normal.

   2. I wish the top didn’t have the waist detail – that would probably spell disaster for my not-pregnant-just-big belly. Too bad, because I love the print. It reminds me of how my favorite scarves go with so many colors.

   3. Agreed. It is gorgeous, but not for me. I have a large bust and look terrible in crewnecks.

   4. I’m wearing a shirt with similar pleating and a high neck (no waist detail, but it’s tucked into a high-waisted skirt) and it does not have that effect at all. YMMV, of course.

5. Not normally a fan of abstract, brushy kind of prints, but the colours and the cut save it for me. I really like it.

6. Oh, this is lovely! It would be lovely with The Skirt in teal.

   1. Sorry for the overuse of “lovely” – apparently I need another cup of coffee.

      1. I just bought THE SKIRT in teal the other day. Thanks to you, I may have to go buy this shirt, too. Lovely suggestion, thanks!

7. I wish the designer had kept the pleating to above-waist only. The below-the-waist pleating is reminding me of those little protective flaps worn by gladiators, and now I can’t un-see it. Beautiful print though!

   1. Darn it Oneanon, now that’s all I can see too! Maybe for the USC grads in our midst? :)

      1. Ha! I was thinking that, if I bought it, I’d call it my Russell Crowe Shirt.

8. This top is perfect for all the stated reasons. its nipped in at the waist, si it can be worn untucked or tucked, its got a bunch of colors so it goes with a lot, and they are also colors that would look good on most people. And I think you can play up the different colors w/ different fabrics and be able to wear this all year long. I just might need to get this one. (again, why I need to stop coming to this blog. every. single. day. i feel like i must have one of the items.)

9. very pretty. not sure about the white pencil skirt in winter suggestion. although it would look great with white jeans in spring/summer.

   1. Ahem. That was supposed to say “summer”. I got overexcited about the cool front coming through this weekend and mis-typed…..sorry!

      1. ah! makes much more sense … thanks. and i’m excited about this weekend’s cool autumn weather forecast, too!

10. Very nice! I would wait until it went on sale though.

    1. Yeah, $89 is more than I would probably spend on a blouse, but it is really attractive and could easily mix with a herringbone or houndstooth print as well as solids.

    2. Talbots seems to put stuff on sale frequently. I really like this a lot and I’ve had good luck recently with the quality of Talbots items.

       1. I agree, its gorgeous, but $89 for polyester seems like a lot to me. Waiting for a sale!

11. I like this. I like the brown feather print in this even more. But would have to see in person as, in my experience, Talbots polyester has a tendency to be cheap feeling/looking (in contrast, I bought a polyester dress from H&M randomly & it feels like silk, goes in the washer, and does not seem to wrinkle no matter what I do to it…. I guess you never know. Best $24 I’ve spent in a while).

    1. I love the feather print, too (http://tinyurl (dot) com/3wxmsms). I’ve added both to shoppingnotes (dot) com. Given the comments here, I might try to go to the mall this weekend to check out the quality.

       1. Please share a review if you do. The Talbots nearest to my apartment closes ridiculously early (7) and I can never make it to the store on time.

          1. I hate that the Manhattan store closes so early! I just don’t understand how they expect working women (who I assume are their target customers) are supposed to make it in there.

             1. The store near me closes early too. I agree that this is bizarre. However, my local store is in an area of town with a large concentration of ladies who lunch, so maybe they make up a larger portion of the target audience?

             2. Mine is mostly frequented by older ladies who have flexible lifestyles and schedules.

             3. I went in Talbot’s on the upper west side (I think) one mid afternoon while unemployed and then I realized why they close at 7. It was crowded with little old ladies and middle-aged women who appeared to be of the ladies who lunch crowd. I think the working women must just shop online for talbot’s. I know I usually do.

    2. I am loving h & m lately. In the last month i’ve gotten black trousers, a grey pencil skirt, a pretty orange a-line skirt, a tunic and a button down all less than $25 each. And they all look and feel high quality. I think h & m’s quality and selection has improved this year, unlike every other store we complain about declining in quality.

       1. I agree. I’ve bought 2 blazers, a dress, and a vest, and several accessories from H&M this season, the first things I’ve purchased from H&M in like 5 years.

          1. Clearly I need to go to an H&M – sadly there isn’t one in my rinky dink town :(

             1. There isn’t one in my major city either. :(

       2. I keep hearing about people finding great stuff at H&M, but I get overwhelmed every time I go into one and end up walking out without trying anything on. How do you shop there? It just seems so disorganized and chaotic.

          1. I think H&M’s vary widely. I have a couple that I will go to and a couple that I refuse, both due to organization and quality of merchandise. I find it’s also less overwhelming if you focus on an item you need or on a section. E.g., sometimes I will come in and only look at accessories or only in the “career” section (I have gotten 2 cute work dresses there, though admitedly this section is more miss than hit). Or, I will come in and only look for tank tops. Then, if I find something unrelated, it’s a bonus, but I don’t get stressed looking for it. I think if you can go off hours, when it’s not too crowded and messy, it’s easier. But it’s like all those stores — Filene’s Basement, TJ Maxx, Century 21, etc., you have to have patience, time, and a ‘whatever will be, will be’ attitude. Otherwise, I agree — it’s totally frustrating.

             1. I find it easier if its an H&M with multiple levels. In multi-level stores the career clothes are generally one one floor and the more tween-type stuff is an another floor. I generally don’t even go to the tween store unless I’m after a tank top or t-shirt.

                In the career section stuff is kinda organized by color in a lot of stores or sometimes stores organize around the outfit on a maniquin(sp?). But like AIMS said stores seem to do it differently.

                If I have lots of time I take the multiple pass approach. First I walk around the store looking at tops only, then bottoms, and then dresses.

       3. I’m also overwhelmed by H&M stores. Whenever I try to shop there, I feel like drowning in nylon knits, the smell of plasticky shoes and teenage giggles. I’ve actually had luck with some of their garments, but it’s often too much of a hassle. Plus everything is horribly wrinkled and poorly folded (but I guess it’s a local issue).

          My biggest peeve, however, is their “vanity” mirrors in changing rooms. I find this ridiculous and don’t bother to try things there anymore since I’ll have to try them at home anyway.

12. Love it, but I’ve sworn off Talbots after my last 3 online purchases had to be returned in their entirety. The blouses in particular were horrendous quality. So sad because everything on their website is so appealing. I hope someone has seen this one in person & can tell me I’m wrong…

13. 1) advancedstyle.com … awesome blog about seriously stylish silver-haired women. i read about it in NYT and had to check it out – so fun. corporettes, worth a peek.

    2) why are J Crew Edie bag ads suddenly everywhere? is it that special??

    3) lovely shirt!!

    1. http://advancedstyle.blogspot.com/

       Great site. Added it to my reader.

14. I may have to check this one out. I’ve been looking for printed shirts but found most to be too long or loose to be left untucked. This one in petite may work.

15. I was just reading yesterday’s post about freezing foods and I noticed several people talking about doing once-a-month cooking. I was checking it out and it sounds interesting. I’ve been trying to save money lately by couponing and that’s been going well but I like the idea of having home-cooked meals on hand rather than just a bunch of frozen dinners. I was thinking I could do a one month lag, keeping a list of the ingredients I need to do a big cooking day for a month and buying the ingredients on sale (with coupons) and then do the big cooking day to save money. Does anyone have any input on doing the once-a-month cooking or the once-a-month mom menus? I’d love feedback from anyone who’s tried it – ease, taste, quality of recipes, etc. Thanks!

    1. I love this idea, too. I really enjoy cooking, so I probably wouldn’t want to make a whole month’s worth of food, so that I could still cook a few nights a week if the urge hit me. But enough meals for three nights a week would suit H & I perfectly. This weekend is a rare one with no planned events, so I am considering trying to cook lots of freeze-ables – but only if the deep freeze arrives on time as promised and we have room to store all that food. I would love some feedback and suggestions about the process, as well! Is the key to make dishes that call for many of the same ingredients in order to maximize purchases and minimize waste?

    2. The posts intrigued me as well. I’d love to hear more from people who have done this.

16. For me there’s too much going on with the combination of the print and the below-tummy pleat flap thingy.

17. Anyone else see the photo of Angela Merkel on the front page of the NYT this morning (at least, at nytimes.com)? On the table next to her is a Longchamps bag.

    1. Here’s the pic (love that bag):

       http://www.nytimes.com/imagepages/2011/09/30/business/30germany2.html

       1. She carries a lot of tension in her shoulders.

          1. http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2006/07/19/BUSH.TMP&ao=all

             1. Ha!

             2. That. Is. Priceless.

             3. Oh, Dubya.

    2. Love that the bag is on the table, not the floor.

18. Love it!

    Great print, with some colors. Nipped in at the waist to give some definition. High neckline and sleaves = work appropriate. Pleating gives it some detail and also takes away from being boring while at the same time not emphasizing things such as bra lines through silk shirts or the overly fitted tops I see soooo many women wearing these days.

19. Help! In need of gift ideas for my boyfriend’s daughter’s 13th birthday. She has all the latest gadgets, tends towards the sporty/casual in clothes (already have a few things from H&M for her).

    I’m thinking a charm bracelet (Blue Nile has an nice one) and a charm or two. Bonus of being a source for future gifts. BF thinks it would be a good idea.

    I’m just wondering if that’s totally lame for a 13 yr old now?

    1. Oh — this would be suggestions for a gift from him. He’s at a loss on what to get her.

       1. I am not 13, but I think that sounds awesome.

    2. Is she already in to jewelry? I got one when I was about that age and never wore it. I wasn’t (and still aren’t) used to wearing bracelets and I would always just fidget with dangly ones until I eventually took them off. If she’s used to wearing bracelets and would just work this one into her collection, I think it’s great. If she doesn’t, in my experience she won’t start liking bracelets.

       Since it sounds like she has plenty of stuff, maybe get her some sort of gift card, like for a pedicure (my 13 year old sister loves this) or movies with her friends.

    3. I like the charm bracelet idea (and have seen girls that age in Tiffany’s looking at the little charms). But… because I see the girls in Tiffany’s… it’s bringing back memories of my ex’s younger sister, who received some nice, classic jewelry for her bat mitzvah that was NOT from Tiffany’s and it might as well have been plastic cr*p from a cereal box for all the respect it got from her / her friends.

       Obviously we all know here that Blue Nile carries real, nice jewelry! And hopefully your BF’s daughter would not be a similar terror! But just something to be wary of when gifting that age, even for sensible kids – I remember that it was Very Important to me to have an Umbro shirt around that age, as nothing else would do :)

       1. Ha, I was thinking this but didn’t know how to say it. Very well put. If brand names are important to her and you don’t want to splurge on Tiffany’s, you might consider Coach’s Poppy line. I hear it’s the in thing with girls that age. My friend’s 17 year old sister loves it; Coach is about the only thing they bond over because of the age difference.

       2. So true.

          What about one of those hideous but incredibly popular with tweens and teens Coach purses? Those are the “correct” brand name. Those Tiffany’s heart/dogtag necklaces also seem to be continually popular with that age bracket. Then again, the tweens/teens I see are in urban areas, and I can easily imagine how both of the above items would be silly in a less brand-conscious/conspicuous consumption area.

          On the total other hand, how about getting a new teenager a gift that doesn’t contain any messages about how it’s important for girls to look pretty? Jewelry, makeup (which 13 year olds should not be wearing in my personal opinion), clothes, as much as she may like them, does send a message that girls are supposed to look pretty but not necessarily DO anything. Does she play any sports (a great baseball mitt or tennis racket)? Favorite authors (hardback edition of a book, plus some sort of “fun” gift like a mani/pedi)? Interested in music (tickets to a concert for her and her best friend)? Interested in animals (horseback riding lessons)? Consider giving her a gift or gifts that help emphasize that girls should do more than just look pretty.

          1. As for Coach/Tiffany – I may be a bit too old fashioned, but I think she’s still too young for that. I imagine they are popular in her area, even though it’s not exactly urban, and may be in a few years, but 13 seems just a few years too young.

             I hear you on the importance of not sending the message that appearance is the most important thing — and generally something that I try to keep in mind. (Which is REALLY hard when I am shopping for my wee niece and getting distracted by the adorably cute and sparkly things!). Usually I/we give her some geeky math card or dice games as well. The charm bracelet seemed a bit separate from that, as I see it as a sentimental sort of thing more than an adornment.

             1. How about a Pandora bracelet? It still has charms and also has the “brand.”

    4. If, as others have said, she’s not really into bracelets… magazines’ latest advertorial idea is for her to display the bracelet in her room, maybe pinned to a bulletin board or something. I actually thought that was a pretty clever tactic to use on people like me for whom a charm bracelet is a terrible idea.

       Re easy future gifts: I have a friend who’s getting a little tired of receiving pig-themed items. She said when she gets them from co-workers, it’s sweet; when she gets yet another pig charm or plushie from her husband or mom, she wonders “Do they not realize I’m into other things than pigs?”

       Is your boyfriend’s daughter into makeup? Maybe one of those $30ish all-in-one makeup kits by Too Faced or Tokidoki?

       (Yay for proofreading. Had typed “is your daughter’s boyfriend into makeup?”)

       1. (and if he is, more power to him :)
          Yay for proofreading, indeed.

    5. I had a charm bracelet at that age (well, still do, somewhere) and honestly never wore it. it was just too annoying to wear. I actually thought of charm bracelets as something my grandmother’s age group wore (probably because my grandmother wore one). On the one hand, it was kind of a neat gift because I have a bunch of charms related to places I’ve visited or major events in my life, so it’s a neat memory piece and fun to look at now, but I hardly ever wore it.

       I like SF Bay’s idea of something more “experience” than “thing.” When I was 12, all I wanted was horseback riding lessons, which I got and has turned into what will likely be a life-long hobby. Of course, then I just started asking my parents for a horse every birthday;-) Never did get one…

    6. I met my step-daughter when she was 11, and in those years I always bought her books. Wrinkle In Time. Phantom Tollbooth. Cathcer in the Rye a couple years later. I basically worked my way down the Newbury and Caldicott (sp?) award winners lists.

20. PSA Ellen Tracy is on Rue La La today, – a pretty good selection of work separates, coats and shoes.

21. Can’t agree with the hive on this one. I think this is one of the ugliest blouses I’ve ever seen: hideous print, bizarrely drab color combination, awful pleating likely to make most of us look fat or pregnant. Pass!

    I am curious about Talbots sizing, though, as I was looking at some other things on-line as a result of an earlier posting this week. Is a Talbots size 6 the same as an Ann Taylor or J. Crew size 6, or would I need an 8? (I’m 5’8″, 145 pounds, long-limbed.)

    Also, I bought “the skirt” from J. Crew as a result of the discussion about it last week. So fabulous! I got it in black and grey — don’t think I could pull off one of the bright colors — in a size 6, and it fits perfectly! Well-tailored, sturdy, high quality fabric. I think I’ll get a lot of use out of these skirts this winter. Thanks!!!

    1. i think you would need a 4. talbots is cut *very* generously.

       1. Hang on. I think that generosity has decreased in the last year or so.

          1. I am not curvy at all unfortunately, so i still find the cuts to be out of whack compared to jcrew, etc.

             i think this is one of those brands that work better if you’re curvier, maybe?

             1. Totally. I’m curvy (not fat, but actually curvy) and NOTHING in JCrew fits me. But talbots fits like a glove.

                And I think this top would be exceptionally flattering on anyone with a defined waist.

          2. I agree with mamabear. Don’t size down. Also, petites are cut an inch smaller in every measurement. I’ve had to size up a bit in those from a few years ago.

    2. maybe it’s the initials, but with you on this one KS. Doesn’t do it for me.

       And mambear, I think you are right – Talbots *used* to be pretty generous but I’ve found they have made some adjustments to sizing in the last couple years and I am no longer assured of putting on a 6 and assuiming it fits (sized very much like you, KS, only an inch taller)

    3. Can’t agree with the hive on this one. I think this is one of the ugliest blouses I’ve ever seen: hideous print, bizarrely drab color combination, awful pleating likely to make most of us look fat or pregnant. Pass!
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       So. Much. This.

       It looks like Stella-McCartney-For-New-York-City-Ballet vomited all over the lace & flower print shoes I had in the early 80s.

       1. ROTFL. I was searching for the right words to describe this blouse but you nailed it.

22. I could use some advice – bought the beautiful classiques entier dress Kat suggested at the Nordy’s anniversary sale – link to follow. Anyway, I haven’t worn it yet because I tend to wear tights and it’s all brown. I only have black tights and wonder about the work-appropriateness of other colored tights in my stodgy work environment. Also, what do you do for shoes? I have some great brown/creme/taupe color block ones, but is that too busy? And I think they’d stick out with dark brown tights… please help?

    1. http://bit.ly/ncckOz

    2. I’m going to draw ridicule again and suggest nude stockings. (Not nude tights, but nude stockings.) If you’ve got a conservative workplace and are having trouble matching legwear to the outfit, they’re always safe. FWIW, I am 29, have always worn them, and expect to continue indefinitely. This would also allow you to wear what sounds like a fabulous pair of shoes with the dress.

       1. I agree. Dark burgundy tights might work, though I think they’d be questionable for work apprporiateness in a non-very loose workplace, or maybe a perfectly matching brown (good luck finding it, though), but in general, this look sounds like it needs bare (or the appearance of bare) legs to work.

       2. No ridicule here. I’ve weighed in on the pantyhose debate before, and at least for my workplace I think they’re a must. If your work is formal enough that you shouldn’t have bare shoulders, then you shouldn’t have bare legs, imho.

    3. Nude hose?

    4. Yeah, I was trying to avoid nude hose, but you’re right. I do wear them, I just much prefer tights.

       Thanks for the input ladies!

    5. Brown and black is very in right now, as is colorblocking, so you could do black tights and shoes. You could also go monochromatic in matching brown tights with a fun color of shoes, but it might be hard to get just the right color to match the dress. I also like to wear different shades of the same color together, so three different browns with the dress, tights, and shoes, but you have to be careful with accessories to make it look deliberate (perhaps pick up the shade of the tights in a silk scarf or hair accessory). Or you could match brown tights to brown shoes and colorblock two different shades of brown.

       1. Ah, now that your link has posted and I see the dress, I see that my advice isn’t so good. I didn’t expect the dress to be patterned. So, colorblocking and monochrome are out. I think you could do a brown tight in the shade of the brown in the dress, and an eggplant shoe, or vice versa.

    6. I think dark brown tights with a pair of brown knee-high boots would look fabulous with that dress.

    7. How about navy or charcoal tights? I’d probably do brown tights with boots, too.

23. Hopefully I’m not too late for a brief threadjack! My friend is getting married next Saturday in a completely over the top black tie wedding. I was always under the impression that black tie still included cocktail length dresses, but my friend has been very adamant and not-so-subtle about the fact she wants us all to wear long gowns. (Yes, she’s being a bit of a bridezilla.)

    So here’s where you come in:
    Assuming I won’t end up putting aside her preferences and wearing a perfectly nice cocktail dress, where on earth can I find a youthful and not very expensive long gown???

    I’ve tried Nordstroms and BCBG. I’m also petite, and tend to look like I’m drowning in long gowns. And I don’t want to spend hundreds of dollars getting a dress hemmed. I also am pear-shaped, meaning most clingy styles don’t really work.

    What has worked for you in the past in finding black tie-appropriate dresses??? Please help!

    1. Try bluefly.com – I’ve gotten some long gowns there (though as a petite, its probably more difficult)

       1. Rent the runway offers some long dresses in shorter lengths, they list the length measurement so you should be able to tell while it works.

          Also your friend does sound a tad bridzeillaish but she is right, traditionally black tie = long dress.

    2. I’d suggest Lord and Taylor. I had to buy a cocktail dress this summer, but I am very hourglass verging on pear with heavy legs, so short dresses are not flattering on me. I was really underwhelmed by Macy’s and Nordstrom (the two chains closest to my apartment), so I drove out to the ‘burbs to hit up Bloomie’s and L&T. I found a TON of options at L&T, and the one I settled on (that I am totally and completely in love with) came to about $150 since it was on sale at the time.

    3. I sympathize. As a petite with large bust, small hips (opposite of pear shape, but still a triangle), the only long gown that’s ever looked good on me was my wedding gown. Wear a fancy cocktail dress, but maybe warn her in advance?

    4. Bloomingdales.
       Bonus: they’re having a friends & fam sale, Fallfriends11 @ checkout for 20% off, extra, now through Monday.

       Or, maybe try something like renttherunway dot com, so you’re not stuck with a long dress you’re never going to wear again.

       Oh, and rest assured — your friend is wrong. Cocktail is appropriate for black tie so long as it’s appropriately fancy (especially for a wedding. not exactly a state dinner despite what bridezilla may like)

    5. you can occasionally find gowns at Marshall’s or TJ Maxx. It’s totally hit or miss, but if you have one nearby, it might be worth stopping in.

    6. Also try Filene’s and Macy’s. Both tend to have gown in the clearance rack. Online, Nordstrom’s does have some nice selections on sale for under $100. I’ve never used renttherunway dot com but they organize their gowns by body shape so it may be a good place for ideas at least.

24. After reading a lot of rave reviews of La Canadienne boots from you corporette-ers, I am going to take the plunge and order the ‘Passion’ Boot. I find it ironic that I can’t find the boot in store in Canada and thus need to order it (and will do so from the US no less), but I digress. What has your experience been with sizing? TIA!

    1. I’m either a US 8.5 or US 9 in most shoes and both my pairs of La Canadienne boots are 8.5 so I think they may run a bit on the generous side. And you won’t regret buying them! I’ve got one pair I’ve worn through 6 Chicago winters and they’re still going strong.

       1. I’m a huge fan of La Canadienne boots, and the Passion boot has been my go-to everyday winter boot for 4 years and is still in great shape. I’m also between 8.5 and 9 generally. In the Passion, the 8.5 fit me perfectly, but I wanted to add an insole for extra walking comfort, so I kept the 9 instead. Yay for Zappos and free delivery/returns!

    2. Mine lasted for 6 years and then my calves got too muscular. I lived in them and miss them ever so. I’m between US 9 and 9.5, and I got them in 9 and they fit perfectly.

    3. I have those! And love them with the fervor of a thousand suns. My pair was TTS.

    4. I am Canadian too and have La Canadienne boots (and love the irony of wearing them) – black suede, zip up, don’t know what the model actually is. I got them at Feet First if that helps – don’t know if there is one near you – but it was a couple of years ago.

       I find them true to size and very comfortable. I have feet that are narrow at the heel and quite wide at the ball. I also have very muscular calves and they are one of the only pairs of boots I have ever been able to wear comfortably.

25. I’m sorry, but yuk. It doesn’t even look good on the model.

    1. Why do we do that, with ‘I’m sorry’s we don’t mean? Not just you, Anon… many of us do. Not attractive.

    2. Not a big apologizer myself, but I think it’s done to soften the blow. I don’t really mind when friends do it (when they disagree with me), FWIW.

26. New vent…

    We have some reports that are so giant that they can’t be automated. These are month-end reports. They take about 6 hours to run and need to be monitored, etc. I got assigned a new one so I asked that someone take one of the others I usually run.

    The contractor took it. This is the kid who quit at the beginning of this month. The boss worked some sort of deal with him where he now gets to work from home at least 2 days a week. Anyway, now the contractor says he can’t run it. So the boss has re-assigned it to me.

    This means that I’ll be spending my weekend trying to run 3 massive reports, one after the other. I thought I could do 2, even though I have a baby shower on Saturday, I’m hosting a brunch on Sunday and I have Monday off (you all know why). When I reminded my boss of my day off, he just said I’d have to get it done on Tuesday.

    So frustrating and unfair. Fingers crossed for Monday!

    1. We’re all cheering for you, B.

    2. Yikes. You can do it. Good luck on Monday!

    3. I’m sorry but I’ve read your posts for a few weeks now and I don’t feel sorry for you. You seem to be a glutton for punishment who refuses to set any boundaries with your boss and instead plays the martyr ALL THE TIME. Get political, get savvy and start saying no.

       Honestly you sound like you are 15 years old.

       And then you post for sympathy every day! Be a grown up and stop embarrassing yourself.

       1. Now there’s no need to be mean! Bunkster is in a dysfunctional work environment, and much like any dysfunctional relationship, it’s really difficult for everyone else to listen to. And like dysfunctional relationships, everyone who hasn’t “been there” can be holier than thou that they would never put themselves in that situation.

          Bunkster, I would hope that you will use your terrible boss as an opportunity to really start perfecting your soft skills of setting boundaries, learning how communicate with difficult people about your workload, and learning when and how to get issues resolved. Treat it as a sociology experiment if you have to. If I recall correctly, you’re in IT, and I can have a hunch that this is not the last horrifically bad manager without people skills you will run into throughout your career.

    4. Once you get a new job, I am so curious to know what your current job is. Sounds so mysterious.

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