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As we all start to put away our Birks and flip flops from our very casual summer, let's revisit an old casual favorite for fall: Converse.
I keep seeing images of Kamala Harris in her Chucks and smiling; she apparently has a large collection. It's a great bit of personality for the campaign trail. While I worried at one point that I was “too old” for them, it's been interesting to see how everyone is like “YEP GEN X,” which makes me feel right at home wearing them. (Apparently because she was born in 1964 there was a debate whether she was more of a Boomer or GenX person.) Years ago I switched from stark black to dark gray Chucks instead… but maybe it's time to go back to good old black Chucks.
If you haven't bought a pair in a while, now is a great time to revisit them — they alleged improved the comfort back in 2015. These knit slip-on versions also look really nice, and note that there's also an All Star 70s Ox version that has allegedly more cushioning and better materials (but requires a slight breaking in period). The pictured classics, All Star Core Ox, have a 5-star rating at Zappos with 5,600 reviews (!).
You can also get them at Nordstrom. Amazon/ShopBop have an incredibly extensive collection of what looks like special edition Chucks “for him,” — but they've always been a unisex style (women's size 8 = men's 10, approximately) so if you see one you like I'd get it.
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Sales of note for 9.30.24
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals through September
- Ann Taylor – Extra 30% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 50% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 15% off new styles
- Eloquii – Extra 50% off sale
- J.Crew – 50% off select styles
- J.Crew Factory – Up to 60% off everything + 50% off sale with code
- Lo & Sons – Warehouse sale, up to 70% off
- M.M.LaFleur – Save 25% sitewide
- Neiman Marcus – Friends & Family 25% off
- Rag & Bone – Friends & Family 25% off sitewide
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Fall Cyber Monday sale, 40% off sitewide and $5 shipping
- Target – Car-seat trade-in event through 9/28 — bring in an old car seat to get a 20% discount on other baby/toddler stuff.
- White House Black Market – 40% off select styles
Hunting for classic weekend sneakers (here's what they say about you!)? We'd include Converse, Vans, Superga, adidas, Keds, SeaVees, Tretorns, and New Balance in the list — how about you?
Sales of note for 9.30.24
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals through September
- Ann Taylor – Extra 30% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 50% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 15% off new styles
- Eloquii – Extra 50% off sale
- J.Crew – 50% off select styles
- J.Crew Factory – Up to 60% off everything + 50% off sale with code
- Lo & Sons – Warehouse sale, up to 70% off
- M.M.LaFleur – Save 25% sitewide
- Neiman Marcus – Friends & Family 25% off
- Rag & Bone – Friends & Family 25% off sitewide
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Fall Cyber Monday sale, 40% off sitewide and $5 shipping
- Target – Car-seat trade-in event through 9/28 — bring in an old car seat to get a 20% discount on other baby/toddler stuff.
- White House Black Market – 40% off select styles
And some of our latest threadjacks here at Corporette (reader questions and commentary) — see more here!
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Ellen
Kat, I love the Adidas Stan Smith tennis shoes! They are cute and if you don’t have big feet, they are really cute! I want to point out, since we spoke about smelly feet recently, that these are not 100% real cowhide leather, so if your feet sweat, which mine do, having non-leather tennis shoes are not the best. Dad does not like it when I take off my shoes in front of him b/c my feet do stink, but I try to have cotton socks on and do not wear plastic or patient leather shoes b/c that makes my feet stink worse. I also put foot powder on in the morning to absorb as much of the stink that I can. Happy weekend to the entire hive! YAY!!!
Window seat / cushion Qs
For those of you with window seats / cushions:
Am I right in my suspicion that if you get a window seat, you want it plainish and with something that neutrally fits in with a room? So a room with a lot of Chantilly Lace trim and beige walls, beige is probably fine for a window seat cushion? It might be boring, but you can add visual interest with throw / bolster / roundish cushions in other patterns / colors (which are probably cheaper than the window seat cushion and easier to swap out).
I tried searching Maria Killam on this to no avail. My guess is that she would recommend KISS here (probably avoiding white though).
Cat
I would choose a light neutral as a base because window seat = dark fabrics will fade.
Panda Bear
+1 I did a couple in dark blue, and they looked lovely, but have faded. Kind of wish I had gone with a beigy neutral. Not that it matters, though, because they are always covered in black cat hair, so I can’t win no matter what!
ANON
I bought a house that had a custom leopard print window cushion, which I never would have picked, but I adored it.
Senior Attorney
That sounds divine.
I am probably the outlier but I would do a contrasting color for the window seat cushion.
The original Scarlett
+1 or a fun pattern, but my style is more maximalist so things like KISS do not resonate with me
Seventh Sister
I follow a blog where the author has a very colorful window seat cushion, but her whole house is kind of like that so it fits. Her whole decorating style (BIG on the pattern-mixing) seems frenetic to me, but I’m about a decade older and prefer more traditional stuff in general. I think it would depend on whether it is hard to replace or recover the window seat cushion.
Anon
Starting my weekend early and bingeing Girlfriends on Netflix. You have to watch episode 16, friends; colleagues etc. Joan’s issues at the law firm in the 90s as a woman are so prescient. The guys talking over her, stealing her ideas and being told she doesn’t get the culture since she’s always down to business so gave me the shivers about how things have not changed much in our field.
Flats Only
I will hop in with another rec: Borgen, on Netflix. 3 seasons (30 hour long eps total) about a fictional first woman Prime Minister of Denmark. Feels like an extremely entertaining combination of The West Wing (Centrist politician and staff and political media, their work and love lives. Issues.) and The Crown (Hard working good girl trying to do the right thing). The lead actress is fabulously relatable, and the whole thing was just really absorbing. I watched in Danish with English subtitles, but there is apparently an English dub available.
Equestrian Attorney
Borgen is great! I recommend watching with the original soundtrack because Danish sounds really cool. I like the show’s emphasis on work/life balance and how it plays out for women and mothers (while being prime minister, ha).
Ribena
I love Borgen! Netflix have commissioned another season which is why they have the first three available.
Vicky Austin
Ooh, adding this to my list ASAP.
Seventh Sister
It’s a pretty formulaic crime procedural, but I’ve been enjoying Bordertown. It’s about this Finnish detective who moves from The Big City to a small city on the border between Finland and Russia. Everyone is sort of outdoorsy and attractive, the parents are doting and very very Scandanavian-tolerant about their teen’s boyfriend, and everyone’s house looks like an ad for Marimekko or Fancy Ikea or both.
Anonymous
My jurisdiction has resumed jury trials. The courtroom setup has been modified to allow social distancing. I think this is insanity, but at least they are taking some steps to keep people safe, I guess.
anon
It’s not insanity. We have resumed juries as well and there are numerous safeguards in place. I feel completely safe going to court. We can’t keep people jailed pre-trial indefinitely, and we can’t release everyone either.
Anonymous
But do you actually need the people to be all there in person? I had a jury notice pre-Covid and am extremely anxious about being forced to go in. Even just maneuvering that I used to take for granted in my city–the stairs in the parking garage, the elevators in the building, the group waiting room, the standing in lines to check in. My husband is severely immune compromised–I haven’t had a hair cut. I don’t use the bathroom if I visit outside at a friend or family member’s house. I avoid putting myself in groups if I can–so I don’t just browse stores anymore. I get in and out and do so at off hours as much as I can. I know this is life or death to my household. That also doesn’t seem fair.
Just because you feel completely safe going to court doesn’t mean everyone else does.
My family shouldn’t have to be put in the position of sacrifice either. Because, what, this is the way it’s always been done so therefore there is no way to do something via Zoom?
anon
Because the Constitution guarantees criminal defendants a right to a jury of their peers and to confront those who testify against them. No, Zoom is not a satisfactory way to ensure those rights are not infringed upon, for a myriad of reasons.
Anon
There is a laughable proposal in my jurisdiction (which, too, has safely resumed jury trials) to allow jury trials to occur via Zoom. It’s already challenging enough to ensure jurors are (a) paying attention and (b) following the instructions. A Zoom juror? I can only imagine what’s happening behind the camera screen. “Come here, honey, tell me what you think of this witness? Come here, kids, look, Dad’s on a jury!” No thanks.
Anonymous
I think my rights are infringed on if I’m summoned to wait in a crowded (100+ person) holding area all day in case they might want to select me … during a pandemic
Anonymous
Sorry–but I also should haven’t to risk the safety of my household to be on a jury solely because it’s always been done that way. I should have a right to safety as well. The two things shouldn’t have to be mutually exclusive.
AIMS
I mean no.1 (and please correct me if I’m wrong) I think all the jurisdictions that have resumed jury duty have been generous with letting people out who have any kid of health/family issue, etc.
no. 2, jury trials do have to resume at some point, esp. in criminal cases. You don’t have to be the juror to serve but don’t assume that everyone feels the way you do. When grand jury duty resumed in NYC everyone thought no one would show and so many jurors came!
What I think is absurd is the lack of distinction between what is truly essential. Some trials need to take place, some don’t. I’m seeing a push to resume everything now and that seems foolish; the court space would be better used to accommodate the cases that really are essential. But at some point people who can do will have to start venturing out again. There were 46 positive cases in Manhattan yesterday out of 1.6 million residents. Who knows what will happen as we get into cold and flu season but now probably is the time to do some jury trials while we can.
Anonymous
@AIMS was it optional (or clear that you could opt out) in NYC or were people summoned and threatened with fines/whatever the usual repercussions are for not showing up?
Anonymous
@AIMS I’m reading a lot of articles about how it is/was unnecessary for people to wait in long lines at the NJ DMV but they’re choosing to show up … silly drivers!! But I waited in line for 8 hrs last week for a renewal after being told I was required to go in person and that there are no other options available even for people with disabilities and once there was instructed that we were not allowed to leave. So positive press that blames drivers or gives credit to jurors as “really wanting to be there” sounds like BS.
Anon
I actually have heard some good proposals to make jury trials safer. A courthouse near me has proposed doing one trial at a time, utilizing all of the court rooms so that the jurors can be spread out and not in the same room. This results in the jurors watching the trial over a television broadcast but there are court officers in each of the courtrooms ensuring that the jurors are paying attention and not doing anything else.
The defendant and the witnesses are in the same courtroom.
They have changed how jury selection is done so there is not long lines. That part may have been over zoom from home actually. I’m not certain.
My jurisdiction is also going to be prioritizing criminal trials over civil. 2020 civil cases won’t be heard until 2022 probably as 2021 will be making up all of the 2020 jury trials.
Ellen
I agree. With mask’s and social distancing, we can easily go back into the courthouse. I think you can eliminate people who are just there to look (w/o a role) and that way you have less of a chance to let the Corona into the courtroom. I have called my judge 3x to convince him to stay on for a few more years, and have told the manageing partner that he should call too. The judge likes him (and me) and it would be terrible for all of us if we have to start all over with a new jurist in Manhattan. I told him how said I was about Ruth Bader Ginsburg, and he said that he had participated in a panel discussion with her about 35 years ago, when he was first put on the bench and she was a law professor. I hope he stays b/c with RBG gone and w/o him, we would really be going down the tubes.
Anon
Same here. My husband got called up and we’re nervous about it. I just hope he doesn’t have to appear. I’m high-risk and we have barely done anything around other people in months (groceries, one backcountry camping trip, hikes, that’s it). I don’t trust the measures the courthouse is taking (can we stop pretending that temperature scans are doing anything?) and I think it’s time to change the structure of calling 50-100 people, not all of whom will be needed. If you have to call that many, they need to not be in one massive room.
Anon
That’s the part that I think could be through Zoom. Pick the jury a few days before the trial so only those that are picked have to show up. Voir dire can be done over Zoom and in breakout Zooms with just the attorneys and the judge and defendant.
FFS
Isn’t that backwards? Shouldn’t it be Men’s 8 = Women’s 10?
Anon
Yes, men’s sizes are a continuation of kids’ sizes and women’s sizes are roughly +2. I wear a women’s 6/kids’ 4.
It’s a dumb system. We should just use the same sizing scale for everyone, or better yet base the sizes on actual units of measurement instead of vanity numbers.
Anon
This… doesn’t make sense?
Anon
Yes – I wear a women’s 8 and a 6 in chucks
Anon
Regarding the what is dated in terms of makeup looks discussion this morning, I recommend getting your makeup done at a makeup counter once in a while. They’ll keep you up to date and no, you do not have to buy everything they put on you, though buying a couple of things is a good thing to do unless you hate the look.
Switch around makeup counters every once in a while to keep it fresh.
This is of course all non-pandemic advice but hopefully we will be back to that world someday. In the meantime, only the eyes really count when masked, and I think lips + the improve my appearance option on zoom are all you need for video calls.
Anonymous
Eh, they’ll tell you that you need a new look every single season year after year, which just locks you in to a constant buying cycle without much reward.
Anon
Well the point was not looking dated, so maybe this isn’t the advice for you.
Anonymous
No-makeup … or bb cream, neutral lipgloss and mascara is never dated. Shrug.
Anonymous
It’s been 20 yrs since I lined the lower lid so I think I’m good
Anon
I would actually recommend checking out YouTube MUA for current makeup, those girls are a lot more up to date than a makeup counter.
Anon
Kamala is a Gen X er in every cultural way, I say as a fellow older Gen X er. Love her chucks looks. I appreciate a practical woman!
Has anyone tried wearing an orthotic in chucks? Or are they just too flat?
Anonymous
Back when I used to wear one it wouldn’t fit! The insert doesn’t come out.
Flats Only
I had a tiny slim c-shaped arch support that fit in (got it at comfort one shoes) but only because it was literally a 1/8 inch thick piece of plastic.
Anonymous
No, but I wear the slip on ones because I hate tying shoes. I just can’t seem to get it right, either they are too loose and come undone or too tight and hurt. Either way, I now lean into the laziness of not buying tie shoes except for my running shoes.
Anonyz
Chucks are intentionally thin so you can feel what’s under your feet, which is why they’re so popular with musicians who use effects pedals. If you need orthotics, they’re not really the brand for you–and I say that as someone with back problems who lives in Vionic.
NY CPA
Does anyone know of a website or store in the NY metro area where you can get blinds quickly? Most websites seem to have a lead time of 3-4 weeks. I just moved into a new apartment, and it has no blinds so I’m having trouble sleeping. I’m looking for white blinds (any type is fine) but the only catch is they need to have a cord, since the windows are very tall and I want to be able to open the blinds all the way up for maximum light during the daytime. All the Home Depot/Lowes options only seem to be cordless.
Anon
If your windows are standard sized width wise you can get some on amazon. I got some white faux-wood wide slat ones.
They will possibly be too long, which you can tinker around with by opening up the strings and removing superfluous slats, or do what I do and just leave them pooled at the bottom. I don’t think anyone really notices.
Anon
Hope it’s not too late for you to see this- when we moved into our house we got the paper cut to size blinds- super cheap and easy to use while we waited on blinds from selectblinds dot come. And for really tall windows, I’d probably get electric ones.
Should I contact HR?
I am in the middle of interview process to land a director level position at a competitor: this is my dream job and I am fully qualified to do it. So far I did 2 zoom interviews and completed 2 different psychometric tests. When I completed the last test on Wednesday, HR told me that they would receive the analysis report of this test on Friday and will contact me back on Friday. Today is Friday and nothing. Depending on the results I should move to the last and final round of interviews.
Should I contact HR for an update Monday? My husband do not think I should not.
I really want this job and think I should contact them to follow up. Thank you so much for your input… I have not done any interview in over 12 years so I am a bit rusty when it comes with interactions with HR.
Should I contact HR?
oops sorry about the typo: My husband do not think I should contact HR…
Cat
HR tells you all sorts of great timelines that have nothing to do with reality, IMHO. They don’t account for the hiring manager’s meeting schedule, other stakeholders’ input, something important coming up, someone missing an email, the person who assembles test results being on PTO, or anything else. Promising a same-day turnaround on advancing in the process within a few business hours of the results? Not likely :)
I’d give it until mid-week at least and then politely follow up with your contact.
eertmeert
Personally I would wait until Wednesday. Things never happen as quickly as hoped in organizations, so give them a chance to catch up before you ping them.
Anonymous
I’d wait at least a week if not more and then only contact them once. They may still be interviewing other people.
Should I contact HR?
Thank you all for your comments. HR indicated I was the last one to be interviewed and to complete the test. Apparently they are not waiting for anything else besides my test results. The company is moving fast: I submitted by application toward the end of August.
I do realize that same day turn around might be pushing it! Thank you all for your input – it is really appreciated. If I have not heard back from them by Wednesday I will contact them.
Thanks, it has pockets!
I would send a followup email on Monday if I haven’t heard anything by lunchtime, or wait until Tuesday morning. Processes often get delayed, and maybe whoever is handling this process had some totally unrelated thing come up today, you never know. Hiring can be chaotic sometimes.
Anon
How do you deal with people who won’t interact with you for religious reasons? I am a non-religious WASP engaged to a Jewish man. His family has been incredibly welcoming of me and so have all of his friends, except one of his closest childhood friends who is now very religious/orthodox. Friend invited SO over for the holidays, and he declined. When pressed, SO told his friend that he didn’t want to go for dinner in a place where I was not welcome and that last time he was at dinner with them, he felt really lonely being the only “single” one with all these couples while I sat alone at home (since I wasn’t invited). This ended up triggering a big discussion about religion and how he was erring in his ways by being with me, our connection could never be real, etc. I obviously understand where friend is coming from on an intellectual level, but I can’t help but feel bad that I am creating a rift between them and a little rejected at the same time, yet there is absolutely nothing I can do (short of converting, which is not on the table right now – and SO knows that and is fine with that). I have never met said friend so it’s not personal, but he won’t be in the same room with me and won’t attend our wedding. How do you navigate this sort of thing? Should I encourage SO to see him without me, or just accept that this is SO’s choice and he is living with the consequences of it? I think SO is hoping they will mellow and invite me into their home eventually.
Anon
I don’t care it it’s from his religion. He’s a bigot.
Anon
+1 *You* feel bad because your fiance’s BFF is a total jerk?
Anon
+1. This is utter insanity.
Ellen
I think everyone has someone in their personal circles who is a jerk. Do not fret; you are not marrying him; you are marrying his freind. You should forget about him b/c if he never comes around, it will NOT be a loss. If he does at some point repent, then that is another thing. Good luck as you marry the guy. I hope it works out for both of you.
Anon
I wouldn’t encourage SO to see him. This is not a good person. Religion is just a cover. Everybody else loves their God and manages to love you too.
Anon
It’s your SO’s choice and he is living with the consequences of it. You wouldn’t expect him to try to change his friend’s religious beliefs, so you also shouldn’t feel bad when those beliefs exclude you (and by extension your SO) and you definitely shouldn’t consider converting or changing your behavior to accommodate someone who is unwilling to do anything to accommodate your existence and relationship.
eertmeert
I would leave it up to SO and support him in his decision. It’s a bummer for you guys, but it’s what it is. The friend may mellow, or may not, but if I were in your place I would ask my SO what he wants. If he chooses to maintain the friendship I would also encourage him to see his friend, and take the opportunity to spend time with my friends without SO.
It’s too bad the friend was unkind to your SO about your relationship. That’s not fun to experience.
To be fair, you are not creating the rift between them. This cannot be the only thing SO’s friend is judging him for. Which is a human reaction – not demonizing the friend.
Lyssa
So, he literally won’t be in the same room with someone who is not Jewish? I’m completely baffled by that one. Anyway, he’s chosen his path, and it’s a narrow one that he will have to live with. I respect your SO for telling him that. I wouldn’t object entirely if he want to maintain some contact with the guy, but I don’t see any reason to encourage him to continue seeing him.
Anon
He will be in the same room with non-Jewish people in general, but he doesn’t want to see me, specifically, because he doesn’t condone our relationship.
Anon
My friend’s very orthodox dad sat shiva for him because he married a shiksa. Basically meaning my friend is dead to his own father. I get religious freedom but at some point it’s abuse.
Anon
Shiksa is kind of a slur, FYI. If a woman describes herself that way it’s fine, but it’s not something I would say about someone else.
Anon
I really, really hope you realize that this is not your fault. If any rift happens in this friendship, it is not because of you and it is not because of your fiance. The blame falls entirely on the friend.
Anon
I am deeply religious and have put social restrictions in place exactly once: someone who commits adultery, fairly out in the open (both prior to being married, with married people of the opposite sex, and now as a married person).
Continue to support your SO. The friendship will fade with time, unfortunately; you tend to not stay friends with people who do not like or accept your spouse.
LaurenB
Oh honey. Years ago, my grandmother didn’t attend my mother’s second wedding since she (Catholic) was marrying a Jew. She since realized the error of her ways, but still.
I am struck by this: “I can’t help but feel bad that I am creating a rift between them.” NO. YOU are not creating a rift. The friend is creating a rift. Stop that thinking immediately!
Anonymous
“Oh honey” … wow. Right back atcha.
Anon
Wtf? This is so uncalled for. I read LaurenB’s “Oh honey” as an exclamation of deep compassion to the OP who is clearly suffering, perhaps also an expression of the painful memories of watching her own parents suffer in a similar situation.
Are you the same person who piles on literally every.single.thing. that LaurenB posts? It’s getting tiresome to see.
Unlike you (or me) LaurenB posts with a permanent handle, and using that fact to latch onto her to smear or shut down anything she says here, is cruel and mean. Kat, is it time to do something about this? From the sides it’s beginning to look a lot like persecution.
Anonymous
Yes, please require LaurenB to treat others with respect.
Anon
Yeah I’m so sick of this poster who is literally obsessed with piling on LaurenB. It’s pathetic and tiresome.
Seventh Sister
Yes, the friend is the one creating the rift. When I got engaged years and years ago, there were a few relatives and friends who wanted to create drama over the whole thing. Over time, those relatives and friends have drifted away or we’ve both decided to limit the time we spend with those people.
anonchicago
This is so abnormal. My husband is a conservative Jew and I was raised Catholic including catholic school and the like. My family has definitely been weirder than his but everyone has been supportive. We had a Reform wedding which everyone loved.
He has a few friends that have been less than accepting of me being a shiksha, but no one has outright condoned the relationship. His friends and extended family span from culturally Jewish and atheist to reform to conservative to Orthodox, and literally no one has treated me how this friend has treated you. I think it says more about the friend’s issues than it says about your religion.
Anon
I think you mean “condemned”. Hopefully they’ve condoned the relationship!
Anon
Same, I’ve been together with my conservative Jewish husband for over 10 years and we have 2 kids- anyone who doesn’t support our marriage and (even more import works) our kids as being Jewish (they were converted, but that’s still not enough for some), isn’t welcome in our life. PERIOD. This guy still wouldn’t accept you, even if you converted.
Focus on the many folks it sounds like are rooting for you 2.
AnonATL
+1 from another formerly catholic (now atheist) and Jewish married couple.
It’s more important that the family support it, though not critical. Random judgey friends and other people can go fall in a ditch.
Anonymous
SO choose you. End of story. Friend is making choices. I wouldn’t do anything to fix a situation you didn’t break.
Anon
My dad’s entire family sat shiva for him when he married my non-Jewish mom. Shiva is what you do when someone dies, they considered my father dead to them just because he married a woman who wasn’t Jewish. I have never met my grandparents or aunt, uncle and cousins, they consider my nuclear family not part of their family. And my dad’s family isn’t even Orthodox or particularly religious (apparently they ate bacon!!). It’s more just that they wanted the Jewish bloodline to continue and the fact that the grandkids wouldn’t be Jewish (since it follows the mother) was apparently really upsetting to them. According to my dad, this was pretty common at the time (1970s). Ironically, I was raised with Jewish culture and ended up getting married to a Jewish guy by a rabbi. We are raising our kids Jewish and the Reform movement at least considers them Jewish (Reform rules say kids are Jewish if either parent is Jewish and you raise them Jewish). I wonder what my dad’s parents would have thought if they knew.
So while it sucks and I sympathize, I wouldn’t worry too much about this one friend and be glad your fiance’s family at least is welcoming.
Anonymous
What’s the brand of cake pops that everyone’s a fan of these days for gifting? Refresh my memory, thanks :)
Senior Attorney
My husband just got a call from a friend who was in a serious auto accident hundreds of miles from home while on a car trip. The car is totaled, Friend is in the hospital two hundred miles away from the accident site. Friend is concerned about getting his luggage back. Hubby is calling Friend’s adult son to consult (he thinks there’s a non-zero chance Friend was in the throes of delerium when he made the call), but if not what would you recommend re: retreiving the luggage from the car? I was thinking (a) call the local police and find out where the car is, (b) call that place and find out if the luggage survived the crash, and (c) hire somebody to retrieve it and ship it home (but how? where? Taskrabbit?).
Thoughts?
Anon
Shouldn’t you have friends all over the country? You call a friend who is relatively local and ask them to pick it up. (Before you do this, you should call the local police, find out where the car is impounded, and whether or not the luggage can be released. Many jurisdictions allow the tow lot to keep the luggage as collateral on the car.)
I would 100% pick up the luggage of a friend-of-a-friend (or a family member’s friend) who was in an auto accident and whose wrecked car is near my house.
Senior Attorney
Not quite sure why I “should” have friends all over the country, but that makes me think maybe the local Rotary club could help. We and the friend are all Rotarians so maybe that’s the best bet. Thanks.
Any other ideas anybody?
Anon
I think rotary is a great idea.
a lawyer
If you are a member of a bar group (like American Association for Justice), I would call a fellow member in that area and ask if they can help you out. I’ve done lots of favors for people I never met by virtue of being in the same organization. Rotary may be just as good a bet.
Anonymous
Yes, I have a friend in every city just for luggage pickups and airport rides.
Anonymous
What a bizarre response.
LaurenB
What a totally odd response. The US is a big country; I do not have friends in all 50 states. Who’s your Alaskan friend?
Anon
I live in Juneau, I’ll be your Alaskan friend :)
LaurenB
Awesome! Now go run some errands for me :-)
Anon
Ha ha! Love this!
Anonymous
Maybe a & b, ask b to ship it or advise you
Anonymous
Maybe they’ll hold it at b until you/he can figure it out. Might he need it where he is? For some clothes to travel home in or whatever?
Blueberries
A few years back, I heard of an app-based service that picks things up, wraps/boxes them, and ships them for you. If such a thing exists, that seems like a good call. Otherwise, a more general service sounds find, provided there’s nothing exceptionally valuable in the car. Maybe whomever is holding the car would do it for a fee?
Flats Only
If the police will tell you where the car is, call that tow lot and have them look for the luggage. Email them a UPS label and schedule a pickup. If the police won’t tell you perhaps they’ll tell his son. Also, his insurance company will know where the car is, and might be able to help with the luggage if it’s a customer focused one like USAA.
Senior Attorney
There you go. Gread ideas. Thanks.
Essential in Texas
Tell us where it is located and we can activate the network for you, SA!
Senior Attorney
Ha, thanks!
Update: Neither he nor his son have returned subsequent calls from Hubby so we are thinking it was a moment of delirium and things are being handled with us not in the loop.
Anon
If you don’t have a friend in every city (lol), maybe hire a task rabbit?
anon for this
Wow, this article:
https://www.glamour.com/story/it-took-divorce-to-make-my-marriage-equal
I feel like a lot of my friends are going through the same mental calculations right now. The pandemic has illuminated just how unequal so many partnerships are.
Anon
I’m feeling awkward these days because my husband is pulling more of the weight than I am, but I have to remind myself that for years, it was the other way around. He hasn’t complained and doesn’t appear to be seething with quiet resentment so I guess I shouldn’t worry about it, but division of labor issues are real and the mental energy required to figure them out is really, really taxing.
Anonymous
In this article, the author assumes that every marriage is like hers. ” It’s the story of every heterosexual couple in America. Statistically, women do more childcare and more housework, and it’s only getting worse in a pandemic, when all the safety nets we used to fill in the gaps are gone.”
No, it’s not the story of every heterosexual couple, it’s her story. Many people have different stories. I for one, hate to cook, have never cooked dinner for us, and never will. I microwaved a frozen burrito today, and my husband cleaned the scorched beans off the plate. That’s our story, and it works for us.
The author is using hyperbole for an “isn’t it awful story” to get clicks and sell her book.
Anon
Calm down, she’s not saying every straight married couple has to get divorced.
Anon
I know a lot of successful women who are dealing with these issues. Many don’t make as much money as their husbands given the income disparity we are all familiar with so their husbands jobs are getting prioritized. The men get the one desk/office at home and doesn’t have to deal with childcare. They are married to men who do pull their weight in housework and childcare, it might be 40/60 in the normal times but as a family they had to choose to prioritize the one job that bring is more money.
Anon
“Every couple in America” is hyperbole, but it’s in fact common for this kind of dynamic to exist. Great that you have an egalitarian relationship. I do to. But most, unfortunately, do not.
Anon
I didn’t get the vibe that she meant EVERY couple is doing this, but yeah, I think sometimes there’s a lot of hyberbole in that crowd. It reminds me of that other author we discussed quite a while ago, can’t remember the name, who had an Excel spreadsheet with like 1,000 unique line items she was responsible for in their household. She was pissed that her husband didn’t take the spreadsheet seriously (and he sounded like a deadbeat tbh). I still maintain that she was creating work and responsibilities that no one else would notice or care about. I don’t meant that people don’t care or notice what she does overall, but if you have a line-item for “dust attic baseboards,” then yeah, your spouse isn’t going to care if you do or don’t do that.
Anon
I kind of get where the spreadsheet lady was coming from. When I was dating a man child I started to resent every little, tiny thing I did because I knew he was hardly doing anything. Not saying it’s right to get angry about having to dust the attic baseboards, but I do understand the feeling.
Anonymous
Yeah, this sounds like a guy who “just doesn’t see” the laundry piling up, that dishes need to be done, that the floor needs mopped, that the child needs fed, that he’s tracked mud all over the carpet, etc. It’s pretty easy to rack up THOUSANDS of things he’s ignoring in order to offload them onto the women in his life.
Anon
Sometimes that is what it takes.
Anon
When I read articles like this it takes me straight back to the relationship I was in with a total man child. I remember so vividly the begging him to understand and the total indifference. I’m glad this author left.
anon
This woman’s husband is a piece of work. He got a “dream” job in a city where she didn’t have career opportunities or, apparently, local family. Yet that job paid little enough that they could barely afford a housekeeper, which he grudgingly allowed, and couldn’t afford a nanny. And he either worked long hours or, more likely, just didn’t want to do the housework himself? Umm, no, that’s not a sustainable set up unless one partner is really happy being a stay at home spouse.
Anonymous
Maybe this is common in the US (I know it is) but I suspect it’s far less so with the Corporette crowd. We should have the power, economic or otherwise, to have a different story and I’d we don’t, frankly, shame on us. Sounds like this woman did the right thing.
Anonymous
IDK, I think many women have experienced this, and certainly some of us learned some hard lessons and moved on from it … but the shame is not on us/the women. Women of all classes/most religions/etc have historically and culturally been taught to be subservient to men, haven’t they? Women make less than men, bear the brunt of childbearing, etc etc etc. Shame on you really, for acting as if it’s a choice that’s simple to opt out of if your an “overachiever.” If anything “overachievers” are shamed into staying so they don’t look like failures.
Monday
I disagree about this site. We have posts here very often from women who are doing far more than their share of home tasks, despite making as much or more money than their husbands.
I think the pressure is always strong to prioritize one’s role as wife and mother, no matter how high an earner you are. There’s also the (valid) fear that a truly egalitarian straight marriage is too hard to find to leave the non-egalitarian one you’re already in. This isn’t my story personally, but I think it’s a common one.
Anon
Congratulations, you’ve managed to turn yet another failing of men into something that is actually the woman’s fault. Thanks!
Anon
Does anybody here get migraines without the usual non-headache symptoms? I have chronic headaches and they feel like sinus headaches, but they happen without sinus infection and don’t go away with Sudafed. My next guess is migraines but I don’t get auras, nausea, sensitivity to light, etc. I’m so sick of this.
Anon
I’m having the same issue but I suspect TMJ and am planning to schedule an evaluation.
Anonymous
Maybe it’s an old-fashioned headache? What are your symptoms?
Anon
You don’t have to have the aura or other symptoms but there are some pretty common differences between migraine, cluster, and tension headaches. Basically if they’re on one side of your head they’re more likely migraines. But it’s worth googling because I found the explanation pretty clear.
I’m a migraineur, which is a lot less fun than that title seems, and I recently had to look this up for my daughter’s headaches, which yep, are migraines. She doesn’t usually have the aura either, but a couple of times has seen bright spots in her vision at onset.
Anonyz
There is new research that suggests that many people with chronic sinus headaches are in fact suffering from low-grade migraines. If you don’t have a fever, discharge, or foul breath (as with sinusitis), then it’s likely a migraine. Proper diagnosis from a neuro is probably your best bet, but I’d start a journal in the meantime to track symptoms and pinpoint triggers.
Anon
Migraine without aura is extremely common. I think most (?) migraines don’t have aura. I have had migraines for years and have never had auras or much sensitivity to light. Nausea sometimes, but only if I’m trying to push through the pain. If I control the pain with meds and/or lying down, I don’t get nauseous. I’ve only vomited once from a migraine and there were other factors (big meal and a car ride that made me a little motion sick). Do you notice any patterns to the triggers? Headaches right before your period are likely hormonal migraines.
Sloan Sabbith
I thought I was having sinus headaches. Nope. They’re migraines. They went away as soon as the doctors put me on a med (memantine), haven’t had one since. I would have 4-6 a month before that, sometimes more.
Anon
Yes I have chronic migraine and I do not have aura or nausea. I think my neurologist like 15 years ago first went through a checklist that was like if you have 4 of these 7 criteria (making these numbers up) it’s a migraine, and the criteria included if the pain is one sided, if it lasts over a certain number of hours if untreated, if there is sensitivity to light, etc.
Anon
Ugh, I could write a book on this, but the short answer is that you probably do have some form of migraine. Sinus headaches without a sinus infection aren’t really a thing. To have true migraine, you need to have two of light sensitivity, sound sensitivity, or nausea, but most researchers are recognizing that the majority of chronic headaches that aren’t easily treated with over the counter painkillers bear a lot of similarity to migraine and are often best treated like migraine, even if they aren’t technically diagnosed that way. You should see a neurologist or at least a PCP who takes you seriously and is willing to prescribe preventatives like topamax, antidepressants, or propranolol and maybe try triptans if you sound migrainy enough. A good PCP can be as good or better than a neurologist and might be better at thinking holistically, but definitely go to a neuro if they’re not helping, and a real headache specialist if you live somewhere where that’s possible, but the first step with be trialing those drugs no matter what you do. Also think about physical therapy if you have ergonomic or muscle issues.
Anon
There are other ways to give yourself a sinus headache besides a sinus infection. Crying and allergies can both inflame your sinuses and cause temporary sinus headaches. I suffer from migraines but have occasional sinus headaches as well. I know the difference, and my sinus headaches are not usually caused by an underlying sinus infection. In fact, I have a sinus headache right now from all the crying I did about RBG last night :(
Anon
Yeah, clearly really bad allergies or anything else that inflames your sinuses could also cause sinus headaches. But most headache researchers would probably say that your sinus headaches from crying or allergies are actually a sign of your migraine disease. You have a hypersensitive brain and inflamed sinuses are one of your headache triggers (a super common one, from the headache forums I read). Someone else could cry for days but never get a headache from it. Crying never gave me headaches, until I had chronic migraine, but now it’s guaranteed to make my headache really awful.
I push back on this not to deny your own experience, since everyone is different and it’s totally possible yours really are caused by a different mechanism, but because it’s super common for people to be told they just have sinus headaches and go years without getting treatment while dealing with really debilitating headaches. There are some people who truly do have sinus headaches, but my understanding from talking to my neurologists and reading a lot of research is that it’s fairly rare for people with really frequent headaches to not have some form of migraine and they should get the treatment they deserve.
Anon
That’s interesting! It’s totally possible the sinus headaches are related to the underlying migraine disease, but I do think sinus headaches are distinct from migraine headaches, at least for me. My migraines are way more severe, are throbbing/pulsing vs dull tension, are one side of the head vs all over, and are often accompanied by nausea and sensitivity to light. Sinus headaches are annoying, but not nearly as debilitating as migraines.
Anon
@Anon 11:43PM – I am different poster from above, who also has what I thought were migraines (one side, classic symptoms) AND sinus headaches (all sides, frequently allergy driven & typically mild/NSAID responsive). Then I discovered triptans do work on both, and combined with more recent research, I increasingly think of them all as migraines – just with different vascular areas/levels of irritation. Kind of the same way you can have a range of classic migraine symptoms episode to episode.
Anon
Thank you for this, and to everybody who replied above. I’ll be calling my PCP first thing on Monday.
Anon
Probably a bit late in the day, but I wanted to report back to thank all of you for your suggestions, and to let you know that Tillamook Strawberry ice creams remains the winner after much scientific testing.
Tillamook Peaches and Cream ice cream is not too bad either!
Anon
Ha! Love this :)
Mathy
But have you had the Malted Moo Shake? That’s the best. Or maybe Monster Cookie. Or Cherry. Or Mudslide. Or…
(I have a Tillamook problem…)
Anonymous
Mudslide!!!!!!!!!
Anonymous
I discovered Strauss Family Creamery ice cream this week!
Anonyz
I really respect your scientific method on this. Please remember that no experiment is valid unless it’s able to be replicated. You should confirm this repeatedly.
Kate
I’m a couple episodes into the home edit on netflix and LOVE it. Do any of you have a chair and footstool in your walk in closets? If yes, do you actually sit there? Or is it just a place where clothes get piled up or you sit to put shoes on? I love the look and have room in my closet, but on the other hand, I’m not convinced people actually use their closets for relaxing.
Senior Attorney
My “closet” is more of a dressing room and I do have a chair and footstool. I work very hard to keep them rom becoming clothing catchers, and I do sit in them from time to time (mostly to, uh, watch the TV mounted on the wall).
LaurenB
If you want a fantasy closet, check out Rachel Parcell’s blog.
Anon
I’m so sad about RBG. She hung in there as long as she could. RIP hero.
Anonymous
This is the worst news in an already devastating, horrible year. The female lawyers in my office are all crying. What a role model we have all lost. It’s hard to even think about.
Anon
Feeling rage. 1) That she didn’t retire before Obama left. WTW. 2) At every college educated white woman that didn’t bore for Hillary. Can’t even contain the rage.
Sadness over loss of her is somewhere but the rage will burn for a long time before I can feel anything else. And I have religious friends that could t vote Hillary. And they really aren’t friends anymore.
Anon
I’m not mad at her. She didn’t owe people retirement at any particular time. On the other hand, I could kill my lifelong Democrat BIL who sat out 2016 in Wisconsin because Hillary didn’t “inspire” him. I definitely think among left-leaning people, way more men than women stayed home.
Anon
F%^* YOUR BIL
Anon
She justifiably believed that a future president would be a decent man or woman. I don’t blame her for not retiring.
Anon
I don’t blame her at all. By the time Trump was on the scene, it was too late because she knew they wouldn’t let Obama appoint her replacement. No one could have foreseen Trump. His rise to power is completely unprecedented in US history, and probably never would have happened except for the fact that 13978252 million people were running for the Republican nomination so all the sane people were divided up among the other candidates.
Anon
She wanted to retire under the first female president of the United States and believed she would be able to. https://www.cnn.com/us/live-news/ruth-bader-ginsburg-death-live-updates/h_9f9a71f529b2c5e90e864c624eecbd15
It unfortunately didn’t play out that way, but I think after her incredible life of service she deserves a say in how her retirement happened. I also really doubt people would make the same criticism about a man. Scalia died on the bench under an opposing party president and you didn’t hear any Rs blaming him for not stepping back earlier.
Anon
Your first thought at the loss of this incredible woman is to be mad at her?
Anon
My best friend is doing that too and just got chewed out from me. She criticized me for being too harsh on republicans in power (“that’s unkind”) but now that RBG is dead, she’s full of rage she didn’t retire sooner.
Anon
I agree with you, anon at 7:57. No, she didn’t owe anyone a retirement but if she wanted to ensure a liberal replacement, she should have retired when Obama was president and Dems still had control of the Senate. I get that it was her wish to be replaced by a new president, but sadly she doesn’t get to control that.
Anon
Dems lost control of the Senate in 2014. At that time, she was 81 and in good health. 80 sounds old to an average person but many most/Supreme Court justices serve into their 80s. Scalia was 80 when he died and nobody pointed fingers at him.
This. Is. Not. Her. Fault.
Anonymous
The question isn’t how old he was when Scalia died. It was how old he was during Bush’s terms. Didn’t Kennedy just retire and for good reason? It is absolutely something to talk about even. if. you. write. with. the. almighty. Period! Also, MASSIVE difference between 70s or even 81 and 87. Especially when you’ve been battling serious, recurring cancer for decades. She had a lifetime appointment to do what she wanted to with, but she also knew what she was risking.
LaurenB
Nancy Pelosi is about 80, no? You guys at 30 think 80 is old, but I’m telling you that there are many late 70/early 80s people who are sharp and vital.
Anonymous
Yeah, but few have also survived 3 separate cancers.
KP
+1
Anonymous
I am devastated. And so worried. I hope the Senate holds firm to their strongly held principle of no confirmations in an election year but somehow I seriously doubt it.
Anon
Mitch has already “explained” it away by saying that it’s only no confirmations when the Senate and Presidency are held by different parties. When it’s the same party then I guess it’s fine for some reason? So yeah 100% they will confirm someone. But honestly I think I’m ok with that. The alternative (an open Supreme Court seat on Nov. 3) is almost worse. It would help Trump tremendously.
Anon
Although I just realized they might deliberately leave the seat open through the election and then quickly confirm someone if Biden wins, which would be even worse.
Betsy
I would think that if he does successfully appoint someone before the election and an election case goes to the Supreme Court, that justice would have to recuse themself, wouldn’t they? I think regardless of what happens there will be only 8 justices to decide any Supreme Court challenges that come from this election. I desperately hope that RBG’s memory will inspire so many Democratic votes that it doesn’t come to that.
Anon
Why would the new justice have to recuse themselves?
Ellen
I hope your right, but I doubt it will play out that way. I am so sad about RBG, but thought that she could hold out until after the election. After all she beat cancer 3x before. Also, how can people be mad for her NOT retireing? She was vibrant until the end and Dad said she was smarter than every other justice on the court he can remember. So why would she retire? To cook meals and crochet? FOOEY on that. Has anyone any details on the funeral? It is a Jewish holiday, so they should get this done with all of the dignity she deserves. Goodbye RBG, we will miss you and unfortunately will not see anyone who is like you any time soon again.
Mathy
What a loss. May her memory be a blessing.
Anon
What a loss. May her memory be a blessing.
Anon
I haven’t cried this hard since November 8, 2016. My god. What a loss for the country. I’m terrified for my daughter.
Anon
I guess that settles it. My daughter gets an IUD at what, 12? 13? 14?I guess it’s that or hormonal BC. RAGE!!!!!!!!!!
Anon
Abortion won’t be illegal in the whole US. Even if Roe is reversed, it will always be legal in blue states. I’m not worried as an upper middle class person who can easily travel. It’s people who don’t have a couple thousand bucks for an “abortion vacation” who are in trouble.
Seventh Sister
I realize the possibility is remote, but I’m wondering whether I ought to just get a tubal ligation instead of another IUD after the current one expires. While I find it sort of astonishing that there are people (mostly men) who want to ban birth control, they are out there and seem to hold a lot of sway in a certain political party. I’m just trying to make it to menopause without having another baby. Surgery would be a permanent way to make sure I don’t have any more kids.
Anonymous
+ 1 She was so genuinely encouraging to the next generations of women following in her footsteps. She thought Obama would be followed by another Democrat, remember the polls? The election and Kavanaugh nomination showed the deep well of sexism and violence toward women that still acceptable in our country and Trump getting to pick her successor is a bitter pill indeed.
Kate
I am so sad.
Anon
I keep thinking that, she stayed on the bench at 87 years old with metastatic pancreatic cancer, and I am sure that was not easy. I appreciate her so much for that, and for everything she did in her life and career. Rest in Power RBG.
Anon
It’s a huge loss. Women in this country are so fucked.
Anon
I saw a comment on twitter that said we can’t even mourn her properly because we’re all so terrified for our democracy and our civil rights. It’s terrible on so many levels.
Go for it
My heart hurts. May she Rest In Peace my hero .
Anonymous
We need to be buoyed by her example.
Anon
Heartbroken. Devastated.
anonshmanon
All of this.
Anon
Me too. I came here hoping someone would be posting about this but thought it might be quiet since people rarely post here after hours on the weekends. Finding some small comfort in knowing we are all grieving together. I am glad we had her with us as long as we did.
Anon
same. I saw the news and was almost wishing it was earlier in the day so i could come post here. I am devastated. Also kind of mad at her for not retiring during the Obama years. Mad at the ppl who didn’t vote for Hilary and already mad at those who plan on voting for a 3rd party or skipping the election bc they don’t like Biden. I hope everyone i see posting on social media actually does something about it- volunteer your time, donate to the campaign, etc.
Ymanon
I just saw the RBG news, and from Europe, I’m so sorry, US Corporettes. This year is unneccessary hard. Sigh.
Anon
PSA: If you’re channeling your grief and rage into donations tonight, please don’t donate to Amy McGrath. I hate McConnell as much as anyone, but she is polling double digits behind him and you’d just be setting your money on fire. There are about a dozen Senate races that are more competitive, including Maine (buh bye Susan Collins), North Carolina, Iowa, Colorado, Montana, Georgia and South Carolina (Lindsey Graham and his Dem challenger Jaime Harrison are tied in the latest polls!). Even poor Doug Jones in Alabama is polling better than McGrath.
Anon
If you are prohibited from making political donations because you or a household member work for the judiciary, donate to charities that support the missions that benefited from RBG’s decisions/dissents. I compiled a list based off of this article of her decisions, with charities unique to my state. It felt good to feel like I was doing something with my grief.
https://www.cnbc.com/2020/09/18/ruth-bader-ginsburg-biggest-cases.html
Anon
Try Get Mitch Or Die Trying instead, supporting challengers to Republican senators who have very good chances of winning.
Anonyz
I gave up in my early 30s after multiple refusals, but I’m thinking it might be time to find another gyn and try to get sterilized again. This is only going to get harder.
Anon
It’s the one time I’m grateful for my infertility.
Seventh Sister
I was surprised to learn it’s covered by my health plan! I just checked.
Anon
I’m in tears as well. What an incredible loss.
I have been dreaming of going for my master’s degree in foreign affairs ever since I graduated from undergrad five years ago. I have let things like anxiety over the application process/GRE, finances and “I won’t get into that school” hold me back. No more. It’s time. I will figure out a way. She made it her life’s work to ensure that every person can live up to their full potential and she left this world a better place than she found it – I want to do the same. What an inspiration she has been to us all.
Anon
This was meant for the RBG thread above
RBG4EVA
Word! me too! I have decided I need to be better to honor her memory!
Aunt Jamesina
Good on you for using the anger of this moment and channelling it into something positive. I had my dream master’s in mind for seven years before I just decided to go ahead and JUST DO IT ALREADY. Best career decision I ever made.
Trixie
I am always a bit of a Pollyanna optimist, but I am happy to see that Mitt Romney and Lisa Murkowski have stated that they will not entertain a vote until after the inauguration. And, Lindsey Graham is on tape stating that an appointment should not be made this close to an election (2018). If a few more Trump hater Republicans who feel safe in their seats can defect, we might be ok.
RIP and Godspeed to RBG. You inspired us all, and made the world a better place. Enjoy a well earned and deserved rest, and leave us to carry on.
Anon
The Romney thing was just a rumor, his spokesperson strongly denied it. Murkowski and Graham’s statements were old and they will find a way to walk them back. They’ll confirm someone in the lame duck session if Biden wins.
Anon
No, Murkowski’s wasn’t old.
Anon
https://www.adn.com/alaska-news/2020/09/18/hours-before-ginsburgs-death-murkowski-said-she-wouldnt-vote-on-a-supreme-court-nominee-before-the-election/
Anon
I stand corrected. I still think she’ll try to weasel out of it. I’m also not sure having an open seat on November 3 is a good thing for Democrats. Trump’s base of people who enthusiastically wear MAGA hats is pretty small. To win, he needs a lot of votes from people who find his personality repugnant and/or think he’s mishandled the pandemic but who care about keeping the Court conservative. An open Supreme Court seat is a huge motivation for those people. A friend’s Catholic pro-life mother had previously said she would sit the election out “because I can’t stand either of them” but just announced today she’ll be voting for Trump. Unfortunately, I think there are many more like her.
Anonymous
Yes, I think this galvanizes the right in a big way ahead of the election. Justifies the votes for them: “See it’s worth it to save unborn babies”
Anon
Graham has already backtracked. https://thehill.com/homenews/senate/517223-graham-signals-support-for-confirming-a-nominee-this-year
Aunt Jamesina
I have NO faith in Lindsey Graham. And Romney, Murkowski et al love to play to “good Republican” but have enabled Trump’s every move.
Anon
Murkowski, in particular, has folded like a deck of cards more than once. No faith in her. I would have more respect if she just said “I’m voting with the rest of them, deal with it” but what she does with the waffling gets her more media attention.
Anon
I would respect Collins more if she had said (during Kavanaugh’s hearing) “Trump owns me, get over it.” Instead she pretended it was about principle and that I could not abide.
pugsnbourbon
Exactly. They want to be on the “team” that overturns Roe so fk’n bad they’ll cross every line to get there.
Anon
“He said it on tape” means nothing anymore. Nothing.
Paging Having Kids Is Not A Choice
To the commenter who always says having kids is not a choice, I think you will soon be right. Your argument is really that not having kids is not a valid choice, but with RBG gone and Trump/Senate Rs going to jam through a nominee, abortion will sadly be a thing of the past in many parts of this country. Indeed, I foresee a huge assault on women’s reproductive rights. So while I disagree with you today and think not having kids is a valid choice, I think it soon won’t be a realistic choice (or at least, to delay kids per the woman’s preferred timeline) due to the utter horrible direction this country is going.