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Sales of note for 9.30.24
- Nordstrom – Beauty deals through September
- Ann Taylor – Extra 30% off sale
- Banana Republic Factory – 50% off everything + extra 20% off
- Boden – 15% off new styles
- Eloquii – Extra 50% off sale
- J.Crew – 50% off select styles
- J.Crew Factory – Up to 60% off everything + 50% off sale with code
- Lo & Sons – Warehouse sale, up to 70% off
- M.M.LaFleur – Save 25% sitewide
- Neiman Marcus – Friends & Family 25% off
- Rag & Bone – Friends & Family 25% off sitewide
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off
- Talbots – Fall Cyber Monday sale, 40% off sitewide and $5 shipping
- Target – Car-seat trade-in event through 9/28 — bring in an old car seat to get a 20% discount on other baby/toddler stuff.
- White House Black Market – 40% off select styles
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Fact v Feeling
What’s your response to people, in a professional context, who respond to your critique/complaint with the fake apology, “I’m sorry that’s how you feel but…”
Anonymous
I try to respond as though they have actually apologized and focus on next steps. A lot depends on context but I’ve used. “Thank you for your apology. Regardless of how either of us feels about the situation we need to do ABC/state appropriate next step..”
Sort of backs them into a corner of having to either expressly state that they were not apologizing and make a bigger issue of it; or just accepting the implication that they gave a true apology and move on.
Anon
“This isn’t about my feelings. My criticism was about X. If you think I am wrong, we can discuss that.”
LAnon
This is very situationally dependent on what your critique or complaint is, but a few phrases that I think are handy in politely pushing harder on something that someone is trying to be dismissive of:
“Maybe there’s a piece of this I’m missing because right now I’m not sure I’m seeing all the logic of this approach. To me, [explains my viewpoint again.]”
“I’m going to push on this a little bit because I think it’s important. My concern is X and I think we need to address it. I really don’t want this to fall between the cracks.”
“I’m not really worried about my personal feelings, I’m worried about [objectively describe potential negative consequences.]”
LAnon
Btw, I have found “I’m going to push back on this because my concern is X” to be one of the most useful phrases in the Ladyboss handbook of walking that fine line of being assertive but not too assertive. Framing negative feedback in a way that makes it clear that you’re not just “being difficult” or “being argumentative” or attacking the person. Even saying something vague like, “I want to pressure test that a little bit because it’s so critical we get this right,” before critiquing plans/proposals/etc seems to diffuse tension and make people more open to feedback. (Obviously would be nice not to have to walk this tightrope but oh well…)
Elodie
Wow, these are GREAT. Phrases I can actually see myself saying. I’m a very gentle person, and these are just the right tone for me on the days when I feel myself hesitating to speak up but have something to say. Thank you
Anon
I would not use the first two responses (they sound WAY too passive/apologetic for existing), but the third is good minus the word “really.”
LAnon
I would probably be more likely to use the first two with a superior who has made a decision that I disagree with rather than a peer or subordinate.
Anonymous
It depends. If it’s a subordinate then I will hear them out but still correct them. Personally I think it’s important for people to feel heard even if their excuse/complaint isn’t particularly legitimate. If, say, their draft brief is late then I’ll hear them out but then I’ll explain why their excuse isn’t a good one and try to give them advice for the future. The problem isn’t, my kid got sick the night before the draft was due so I don’t have even a very rough draft to send you, it’s (a) that you thought you could do it at the last minute so that an emergency totally derailed something you should’ve been working on 2 weeks ago, and (b) you didn’t communicate with me when you realized you couldn’t get it done (~2 weeks ago) so I could give it to someone else at that time. No one ever wants to tell a superior “no” but it is much better to say no when you’re a month out from your filing deadline than to turn in shoddy/no work 2 weeks out.
If it’s a superior then I basically take it as a sign that I shouldn’t complain about that thing anymore.
Away Game
If I’m sure I’m correct AND need their input/cooperation, I’ll insist on a specific corrective action from a peer or subordinate [good text in some of the answers above], and take it up the chain of command if needed.
On the flip side: I won’t apologize sincerely or insincerely on the basis of a complaint or critique that I think is wrong. In some cases, I may indeed respond that I’m sorry you feel that way, but you still need to do X or that policy remains Y. For example, you still need to get to get to meetings on time in front of the client because it looks bad for junior staffers to come in late (for a habitual late enter-er; not for a one-off issue). I won’t even tell you I’m sorry you feel I should make accommodations because you are a person “who is always late; that’s just who I am.” (For the record – I don’t care much if you are on time to get to the office in the morning ’cause I’m not really keeping track as long as you get your work done. But for senior client meetings? Figure it out.) Or I’m sorry you feel the vacation/leave policies are unfair to new hires, but you need to take it up with HR because I cannot authorize an extra week’s vacation with pay if you haven’t accumulated the leave yet. I’m sorry you feel it’s unfair that we asked you to use headphones, but your colleagues don’t want to hear the music from your speakers in the open office plan. I”m sorry you feel it’s unfair that I didn’t put you in for a bonus when you did 10% of the work on the project instead of 50%, and much of what you did was wrong, and Sally had to pick up your slack and knocked it out of the park.
Anon
I used to buy colored elastic hair band strings for less than a dolor and make the bow ties myself after tying my hair. It’s cheaper, prettier, and a lot tighter than these bands. It’s really strange to see hair ties like these that are so incredibly overpriced.
C
It reminds me of the ribbon hair bands that were so expensive a while back. You could easily buy a roll of the elastic ribbon at JoAnn’s or wherever for $5 and make a bunch of the hair bands in about 5 minutes by tying a single, simple knot in each. Yet they were SO expensive to buy!
Ellen
I agree. Beside’s, personally, when I work out, I SWEAT ALOT, and that is where my SCHRUNCHIES come in. Not only do they keep my hair way back and OUT of the way, but they also are VERY absorbent of MY SWEAT, and are much more FRUEGAL then these are.
Of course, if you are trying to make a fashion statement, or snag a good looking guy in the health club, then of course I don’t think my SCHRUNCHIES are the way to go. The manageing partner says I should no longer wear SCHRUNCHIES in the office or in court, but I continue to do so in the summer, b/c the judge likes me no matter what I wear, and the air condition is not as good as it was where we used to be, but at least we do NOT have a toilet in the middle of the office like we did back there! FOOEY! Frank now has to go down the hall to stink up the toilet, not our office! YAY!!!!!
Two Cents
Luke Perry!! :( How sad. So young.
Never too many shoes...
My teenage heart is broken. Dylan McKay was my generation’s (far superior) Edward Cullen.
The original Scarlett
Perfectly put!!
Pompom
As a fbook friend put it, at least Dylan is with Toni again!
But, on a serious note, this is so sad. He was young.
anon
i was looking forward to his guest appearances this summer on the 90210 revival. He was so young
Monday
He had not signed on as of yet to appear on the reboot. I don’t know if there’s any connection to health issues.
Anonymous
He just couldn’t be a series regular because he’s on Riverdale and very hard to manage two shows on two different networks but I think there were talks about him guesting. Stroke was sudden and unrelated from everything I’ve read.
Abigail
Would you ever follow up on a job application?
I had a phone interview, and then did and submitted the data test about 2 weeks ago. They’re doing multiple round of interviewing and I’m not available for the earliest round anyways, but I haven’t heard anything. Should I email my initial contact/the HR person, just wait, or assume I did not get this job?
anon
Do you need to know or do you just want to know? If it’s the later, and I sympathize, I think you have to just wait. If it’s the former, why do you need to know? It *may* be worth using that as the reason for checking in/following up.
Anonymous
For those of you who left big law firms, how did you know when it was time to leave? I feel like most posts relate to people who were unhappy at big firms. I am a mid-level associate who is happy at my firm, and although partnership is not in the cards, the firm would like me to stay for a few years (which I believe is credible as they have offered me incentives to do so). I have always wanted to go in house rather than stay at a firm. I started casually applying to in-house roles because it can take some time, and due to sheer luck was offered two different jobs. If this was a year or two from now, I’d be excited about both opportunities, but part of me thinks I should stick around for a few more years because I do like my job overall.
January
In your situation, given that your firm appears to recognize that you are not going to stay and make partner but still values you, you *may* be able to talk to a trusted mentor about this.
Cat
If you know you don’t want to pursue partnership, your clock is ticking. A year goes fast, especially at Biglaw pace, and in-house hiring can be fickle. If you don’t need the Biglaw money (assuming you’ll take somewhat of a pay cut?) I’d go ahead and leave.
AFT
Yes, this. The firm may want you now, but they see a ticking clock on you right now and realizes you won’t be forever, so it’s a good time to jump while you have choices & not when they decide you can be replaced. (speaking from personal experience)
Anonymous
I would probably move now because I’m quite risk averse. I’ve seen firms turn on associates pretty quickly when they become more senior and aren’t going to make partner. I would be concerned that I wouldn’t get job offers like these quickly enough. OTOH, if your firm has indicated that they’re willing to make you counsel or offer some other non-partnership track option, then it might make sense to stay.
chi law
Besides liking your current job, which has a time limit, is there something about these in-house jobs specifically that gives you pause?
Anonymous
I’d leave now. And I say this as someone who like you WAS happy in my biglaw years, esp. as a midlevel. However, if you already know partnership isn’t in the cards, then I don’t think it’s a good idea to turn down TWO offers right as a 4th-5th year on the hope that you will instead get similar or better offers as a 6th-7th years. 1-2 years is NOTHING in the context of law hiring. Frankly if these 2 companies are hiring in house now for your experience level/specialty, you can assume they WON’T be hiring again in a year or 2 because whoever takes those jobs is pretty much staying for 10+ years, not leaving next year to open up a spot for you. In house hiring as you acknowledge is already super difficult since it’s a cost center and since no one ever leaves; if you have offers now, take them now. If you turn them down now, do so with the knowledge that it is 100% possible that 2 years from now the firm that loves you now will be indicating that you have a year to leave and then you’ll be looking while under major pressure to find a job similar to those you’re turning down now. You shouldn’t count on firm promises ever. They of course tell good 4th and 5th years to stick around because they need people to do the work; that doesn’t mean that they don’t then turn around and tell those same people in years 6 and 7 that they aren’t making the grade and have to go. Ask me how I know.
anon
+1 to all of this. The potential upsides to staying a few years longer (some additional experience, a bit more money) don’t outweigh the potential downsides, in my estimation. Congrats, OP. Go forth and prosper!
Person
+at least 1,000,000
Equestrian attorney
All of this. I you plan to leave and these offers are for jobs you want to take, go now. It actually can be hard to get in-house jobs if you are too senior.
AFT
Commenting here too… I was one of those folks who stayed longer because I thought I was in a good-for-me place and it got much, much harder to move.
Senior Attorney
Yep. The fact they are offering you the jobs now would tend to indicate that in a couple of years you will be too senior.
The original Scarlett
+ 1 Million. Go now. Do not pass go, do not collect $100. Go. Just do whatever homework you can to decide which of the 2 offers is better.
Hair or Voltaire?
Talk to me about handling this gracefully.
Several years ago, I worked at Company A and my now-coworker volunteered at Company A (nonprofit, volunteering is legit). I never met him while we were both there, but later we both ended up in jobs at Company B. I found him difficult to work with and his work quality mediocre at best. I have since returned to Company A in a new job. When I announced I was leaving Company B, coworker asked if I would put in a good word for him at Company A. I deflected, since I can’t honestly vouch for his work. Now, several people at Company A have mentioned to me that coworker applied for a new job at Company A. They remember his volunteer work positively. I remember his work as an employee very negatively. There is a strong likelihood that since they know I worked with him previously, the hiring committee will ask for my input on his application. How can I politely contradict the prevailing understanding of his work without sounding like I’m just bashing a former coworker?
Vicky Austin
I don’t see how this is terribly complicated, to be honest, but if you need a script, maybe the following would be good:
“I remember that John Doe’s contributions as a volunteer several years ago were positively received. Unfortunately I cannot say the same of his employment at Company B during our shared time there. He had issues with [x, y] and struggled with [z]. Ultimately I cannot recommend him positively to you.”
They asked for your input! Don’t apologize for being honest!
anon
I would respond honestly but tread very carefully and frame your response in a way that gets across that you don’t agree with the prevailing wisdom but that is seemingly kind? That sounds like a big contradiction…sorry! Also, if you can avoid putting it in writing, that would be ideal.
anon0304
Also, a gentle reminder, that someone may not be good at 1 role, but may be good at another- I have seen this happen often. I would personally say that you haven’t worked that closely with him and don’t have much input. It sounds like he may end up working with you whatever you say, and workplaces can be very gossipy.
Personal note- I had one person flip out on me for saying we previously worked on the same team to her boss in passing (I didn’t say we worked well together or that she vouched for me… I literally said something that was true and easily verifiable- we were on the same team, under the same manage for a few years), and while I wouldn’t act unprofessionally twds her, I would have gone out on a limb for her before, and would definitely not now after hearing her weirdo reaction, so I’d tread lightly.
Mind Blown: E-Doctor Appointment
The BIGGEST PSA ever for working women with no time on their hands to spare for their physical health…… (wish I were kidding)…
I’ve had a sore throat, tight cough and post nasal drip nightmares are made of for three weeks. I figured the symptoms were textbook something (suspected bronchitis based on Google) but didn’t know what. I couldn’t find the time between child care, snow days and other excuses to see the doctor or get to urgent care. On a whim I logged into my health insurance website and found an e-doctor service (Teledoc). 15 mins to set up my account, a 2 minute wait for a phone call and one 3 minute phone call later with a doctor I’m diagnosed with bronchitis and have a steroid Rx waiting for me at my home pharmacy. Paid my regular sick visit copay and that was it!
I. Am. Floored. … and incredibly grateful. If symptoms aren’t better in 48 hours I need to be seen, and promise I will be. But, if you haven’t used this service and it’s available to you, you’re missing out!
Anonymous
Yes my insurance offers this and it is so convenient. Ours for some reason has no co-pay. Yay!
Z
How were they able to accurately diagnose bronchitis without listening to your lungs? That’s great you were able to get help so quickly, but I’m just thinking its harder to get it right without actually seeing you.
Anonymous
This. I wouldn’t feel comfortable without a physical exam.
Maybe for a prescription renewal for a long standing medication but my doctor’s office is usually willing to call in a bridge prescription to get me through until the next available appointment.
Anon
Regular doctors will sometimes prescribe over the phone, even if it’s not just a renewal. I’ve thankfully had only one UTI in my life so far but my OB called in antibiotics and lab work, so I got relief ASAP and I didn’t have to have an in-person doctor’s appointment. Same when I thought I had a thyroid issue. They called in bloodwork and on the basis of that I was referred to an endocrinologist, without having to sit through an appointment with a PCP who wouldn’t have been able to tell me anything except “go see an endocrinologist.”
Anon
I attend a lot of conferences that focus on medical treatment. You may not like telemedicine but it is the future.
Anonymous
I am skeptical of telemedicine for the same reason. I imagine this could easily lead to the overprescribing of antibiotics.
The cynic in me also thinks the point of this “benefit” is to keep sick employees in the office.
anon
My cynic says it’s to save insurance companies money/reduce insurance premiums.
GP
I am a doctor and so much this. I would be considered a patient was developing pnemonia and I wouldn’t be able to tell that over the phone.
Also I presume the Rx called in was some antibiotic. Many cases of bronchitis are not bacterial, making an antibiotic potentially useless at best and contributing to antibiotic resistance at worst.
I really question whether this was an appropriate course of action by the prescribing physician, but hope you are feeling better.
Leatty
Meanwhile, it took Teledoc 6 hours to call in a prescription for my daughter on Saturday. It would have been faster for me to take her to urgent care.
Vinyasa
We have this as a healthcare benefit. It’s on app called Dr. On Demand. Super helpful for stuff where you have an idea what’s wrong or you are traveling and don’t want to see out of network doc but need meds. I was on vacation and forgot my Rx cream for my skin, had a UTI while I was out of town. It’s great!
Anonymous
I used teladoc when I Had strep on a work trip. My kids all had strep. I woke up with all the symptoms. Doc called in the rx to the pharmacy next to my client and I was good in 24 hours.
Magic Unicorn
My kid’s doc does that for us without a copay if they already diagnosed the kid…
Teledoc seems like a way to get a copay out of insurance companies for service actual doctors don’t charge for.
Anonymous
I just used LiveHealth and was so impressed. Was at work with a killer, incredibly uncomfortable UTI. Had to leave a meeting 3 times to pee. It was a Wednesday and my regular doctor was closed. The nearest Minute Clinic had a two hour wait. I called via the LiveHealth app and was immediately connected with a great doctor at the Cleveland Clinic. He had me press various spots in my belly and lower back and asked me how it felt. He spoke to me for a long time. I told him I had a UTI once before and it was the same feeling. He said that fact alone was the number one indicator of an accurate diagnosis (there had been a study on diagnosing UTI’s) He was excellent. Within a 1/2 hour I had a prescription and I was better the next day. $15 Co-pay. Loved it.
Amelia Earhart
I’m so grateful for this morning’s thread about work/life balance.
I quit my first grown-up job in October with no job lined up because I was so burned out after setting myself on fire to keep others warm. I had been trying to maintain a life outside of work but it was getting impossible and I had a complete breakdown about work that resulted in therapy and anti-depressants. Last spring, I hadn’t taken real time away from work in over 2 years, so in a fit of anxiety/drinking on St. Patrick’s day, I booked an international trip but to get the time off approved (4 months before leaving), I had to promise to log in and send reports/check email every other day. I did, because loyalty! and dedication! and work ethic! and still came back to over 800 emails and was called out for not being caught up two days after being back. I was called out for not working weekends. I was called out for the time I left at the end of the day. My old job has since been split my position into 3 separate full-time jobs and I’m still trying to feel “normal”.
But, I have a new resolve that I will only give so much of myself. I hated that feeling of having no passion or desire to do anything else, I had dropped all my hobbies and pulled back from seeing my friends. And the nice part of new job is that some of my teammates in my department are also pretty firm about not working late (every day) or weekends, and maintaining work/life balance, which makes me feel a lot better/stronger in that resolve.
anonshmanon
sounds like you are in a much better place now!
Cubbi?
Does anyone us an under-desk elliptical or bike? Would love to hear pros, cons, and specific recommendations!
Anon
My cubicle mate got one a couple years ago. She loved the idea, but found that it was noisy in the real-world silence of our office (not noisy as in loud, just noisy because it’s so quiet) and that it wasn’t that comfortable to use (this was a bike).
Ellen
I have one at home, b/c I must work many times late at night on my billing at home. It is very good, does NOT take up alot of space, and keeps my legs very trim (even tho I also must walk 10,000 steps or more per day). I recomend it if you are trying to focus on your legs. On the other hand, if you really want to sweat and loose weight, my dad has a FULL old fashioned Nordick Track machine, which REALLY works BOTH your legs and your arms and your shoulder’s and you can REALLY sweat and loose weight! Dad tells me I am not really working out at home unless I get a Nordick Track — secretly, I know he is RIGHT! At this point, I will wait to see when I move whether I will have room for such a beast of a machine, but if it can make me svelte again so that I find a man who will marry me, I will have Dad install one for us! YAY!!
Inspired by Hermione
I have an under-desk elliptical and I hate it. If you want to actually work out to any extent, it’s too hard to focus, my chair hits the edge of it every single time I try to roll my chair closer to my desk, and the thing is too tall and my knees hit my desk. A standing desk is way better for my need to move around while I work.
MJ
Recommend a FitDesk over this. Cubicle bikes are super hard on your lower back.
Anon
What do you do with business cards? Does it depend on whether it’s a casual contact (shook their hand at a chamber of commerce event) or if it’s a potential/current client?
A. Do you keep a paper copy? If so, where?
B. Do you store them electronically? If so, do you use an app?
Anon
Paper copy, grouped by whatever logical sorting arrangement makes sense (chamber of commerce; conference; client), paper clipped or binder clipped together, labeled with a mini post-it note, and tossed in my top desk drawer. FWIW, I get hundreds of cards a year in my line of work.
anon
I have a bowl on my desk. I would like to input the ones I care about electronically, but I rarely do. I tend to have to dig around in the bowl or in my email to find contact info. Not the best system.
Anonymous
I write notes about where and when I met the person, research agenda, common interests, etc. on the back of the card, then file it in a little box. They are filed in categories that make logical sense to me but probably to no one else.
tesyaa
Back in the 90s, my boss used to have a binder with clear plastic sleeves specifically made for business cards – maybe 12 per page?. Would still be useful today because you could scan every page.
anon0304
I find these at the dollar tree every now & again and always grab a few :). I also try and write notes on the back to help me remember where I met the person. TBTH, I don’t look back at them often.
Anon
I just keep them all in a giant pile on my desk.
CountC
I enter the information into my phone or Outlookc whichever is most appropriate, connect with them on LinkedIn l, and then chuck the card.
Anonymous
What’s your favorite fast food place & order, calories aside? What’s your favorite healthy thing to get at a fast food place?
My answers:
1) McD Big Mac
2) Jimmy John Bootlegger unwich
Anonymous
Chick fil A. Grilled nugget meal, with fries, side salad, Avo ranch. With lemonade. So good.
Also Dairy Queen ice cream cake (a couple slices has been a meal for me more than once).
Also
Anonymous
1 and 2) Panera Southwest Chile Lime Ranch salad, no chicken
Skipper
Arby’s mozzarella sticks and a diet Dr. Pepper or an egg and cheese biscuit from Hardees.
Inspired by Hermione
Unhealthy:
McD Bacon, egg and cheese biscuit with hashbrowns
McD fries
Panera mac and cheese
Arbys roast beef sandwich
Chocolate frozen yogurt with gummy bears, oreos, and graham crackers
Favorite healthy
Panera poppyseed salad
Panera Asian chicken salad
Chipotle burrito bowl (healthier…)
Z
Taco bell 7 layer burrito with nacho fries. So glad they’re back.
Anonymous
1. Taco Bell Tacos, Arby’s curly fries, and Wendy’s spicy chicken. I couldn’t pick just one.
2. McD’s southwest salad no chicken.
anonymous
Bojangles!!!! I usually do the 4 pc supreme combo (fries and biscuit) and a Dr. Pepper, when driving, but I also love the non-boneless (boned?) chicken as well. Also cookout milkshakes. This is going to sound ridiculous but I consider my bojangles order “healthy” because it doesn’t make me feel like absolute crap like all other fast food.
Man I shouldn’t have read this thread at 5:45. I’m so hungry now.
Anonymous
If I really got to set calories aside, I’d go straight for a Mr. Hero’s Roman burger with waffle fries.
If I were trying to stick a diet, I’d get a McDonald’s Double Quarterpounder with Cheese and not eat the bun… which I guess is essentially what I’m eating when I go to Five Guys, if that counts as fast food!
Senior Attorney
1. McD’s quarter pounder with cheese, and fries.
2. McD’s bacon egg & cheese biscuit with hash browns and coffee.
Mickey D’s 4 evah!
Senior Attorney
Oops I misread. I thought we were just giving two fave fast food things.
Now that I’ve read the OP correctly, my answer to #2 is “none.”
Anon
Haha! I was like “wait, neither of those is super healthy…” but I agree, McD’s for the win.
Anon
The Who cares choice:
1) In n Out double single (2 meat 1 cheese) with fries and a coke. Close tie with McD’s quarter pounder deluxe with fries and a coke. (In n Out burger much better, McD’s fries much better)
If trying to be responsible
2) Taco Bell chicken soft taco with mild sauce and an unsweetened iced tea. I might throw a classic bean burrito in there because I cannot resist those.
Portia
1) A McGriddle (w/o the meat, so it doesn’t matter if I get the bacon or the sausage) with fries and a strawberry milkshake
2) Taco Bell veggie power bowl
anon0304
1) In n out! Grilled cheese, no onions. Fries well done (sometimes w/ cheese!). Soda. Root beer float or shake.
2) Chipotle or bipimbap type places, at least it makes me feel like there are healthier options you can choose… of course I always get all the tasty caloric add ins anyway.
Belle Boyd
1) Chic-Fil-A chicken nuggets with honey mustard sauce, fries, and unsweetened ice tea. There isn’t a Chic-Fil-A near work, so when I’m not at work and out and about near home, that’s what I’m doing for lunch.
2) Subway 6 inch spicy Italian with all the veggies except hot peppers and onions or Wendy’s chili. Not that either one is exactly healthy, but they’re not fried and they have veggies, so that’s how I convince myself.
Away Game
If I’m sure I’m correct AND need their input/cooperation, I’ll insist on a specific corrective action from a peer or subordinate [good text in some of the answers above], and take it up the chain of command if needed.
On the flip side: I won’t apologize sincerely or insincerely on the basis of a complaint or critique that I think is wrong. In some cases, I may indeed respond that I’m sorry you feel that way, but you still need to do X or that policy remains Y. For example, you still need to get to get to meetings on time in front of the client because it looks bad for junior staffers to come in late (for a habitual late enter-er; not for a one-off issue). I won’t even tell you I’m sorry you feel I should make accommodations because you are a person “who is always late; that’s just who I am.” (For the record – I don’t care much if you are on time to get to the office in the morning ’cause I’m not really keeping track as long as you get your work done. But for senior client meetings? Figure it out.) Or I’m sorry you feel the vacation/leave policies are unfair to new hires, but you need to take it up with HR because I cannot authorize an extra week’s vacation with pay if you haven’t accumulated the leave yet. I’m sorry you feel it’s unfair that we asked you to use headphones, but your colleagues don’t want to hear the music from your speakers in the open office plan. I”m sorry you feel it’s unfair that I didn’t put you in for a bonus when you did 10% of the work on the project instead of 50%, and much of what you did was wrong, and Sally had to pick up your slack and knocked it out of the park.
PhD in Progress
I’m looking to upgrade some really boring basics in my wardrobe – underwear and dress socks (both plain black and liners for my flats). I’m looking for things that are mostly natural fibers, because polyester tends to just stick to me and make me uncomfortable.
Anyone have any thoughts on brands? I haven’t been able to come up with anything – my husband ditched all his underwear for SAXX last year, and loves it – I’m looking to make a similar transition. Something that fits and breathes well, and is well made and durable.
Anonymous
Hanky Panky has cotton now, and they are my favorite, I tried several brands.
ER
I am liking my Everlane underwear, more than Gap Body (my other point of comparison). It is thin and doesn’t show.
Anonymous
You might try Cole Haan for the liner socks.
Mallory
Smartwool Secret Sleuth liner socks are great! The wool isn’t itchy, they stay put, and they don’t smell. Probably would wear them in any weather except when its really hot.
Anonymous
Pringle brand socks from Amazon are my favs.
Mallory
Smartwool Secret Sleuth liner socks are great! The wool isn’t itchy, they stay put, and they don’t smell. Probably would wear them in any weather except when its really hot.