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Anon
After spending my entire twenties having painful sex (with multiple different partners) and trying all the lubes out there, I am finally going to pelvic floor therapy in 2 weeks. Can anyone advise on what the first visit is like? Visits after that?
Anon
I’m sure this varies, but my pelvic floor PT was pretty much like every other PT I’ve been to. They spend most of the first visit talking to you, watching you move and testing strength and flexibility of your entire body, and then practicing some basic exercises that you’ll also do at home. No internal work at my first visit, if that’s what you’re worried about, though like I said, it’s certainly possible that different PTs do it differently, and it will also depend on your specific issues.
Anon
Bring your preferred lube with you. Just in case.
Anon
I’m so excited for you – I went to a pelvic floor therapist for painful sex and she helped me resolve my symptoms, sex is so so much better now. I was really nervous (and this was during early covid so appts looked different), but I will say that my pelvic floor PT was one of the best providers I’ve ever had. She listened to me and was so supportive – you got this! Also a plug for finding a different one, if you don’t feel comfortable with the first one you try – this is an issue where that really matters. I had a fine, but not warm experience with the first one I tried and then loved the second one.
Anonymous
Good for you for doing this! I did it for a different problem, so YMMV, but if my memory is correct my first sessions were fully clothed and full of things like squats and more like a gym session.
Anon
I’ve done a lot of pelvic PT. If your primary issue is vaginal pain, I’d tend to expect an internal exam on the first appointment. It’s kind of hard to treat a problem that they haven’t diagnosed yet, so you may as well get right to the point. They’d likely want to assess your pelvic floor to understand where the pain is, strength, and if you are hypertonic. You might be recommended different types of exercises to relax muscles if that is something that is causing you pain. They can do that via internal manual release or there are props like wands or dilators that you may need to buy. You may be prescribed breathing exercises. Scar tissue massage may apply if you’re have previous births or surgeries. Sometimes there is more normal, fully clothed external muscle massage. It is common to be prescribed regular non-internal stretching and strengthening exercises. Many PTs will do more generic whole body evaluations and look at things like posture. Another hot topic that they usually touch on is constipation as that affects your pelvic floor as well. You do not need to bring anything, but you should wear something you can work out in.
On follow up visits they will assess your progress and adjust your plan as necessary. They’ll also cover the above topics that they haven’t gotten to yet – PT appointments are only so long. You will probably not need an internal exam for every follow-up visit. Good luck!
Anoon
Very happy for you! On my first visit the physical therapist did an internal examination using a sonogram and gloved hands. Then walked me through exercises like squats and stretching lying down. I was given a prescription for an Amielle set of dilators and shown how to use them, and given instructions on how to use them at home. Followup sessions were a mix of stretches and some dilator work. I wore loose comfortable clothes.
Anon
For me, it turned out that I was allergic to Latex. Once I switched to natural condoms, I didn’t have any more pain.
Anon
Should I drop out of being a bridesmaid? How bad would that be?
I’m in my early 30s, single, live in a HCOL city. A college friend who I reconnected with a few years ago asked me to be her bridesmaid a few weeks ago for her wedding next year, and I said yes. We’ve become good friends after not being in contact for a while and I was flattered.
Now, I really hate weddings. My extended family has a lot of them and they just give me anxiety. I’ve gone to therapy about this and it helps, but big weddings and events are a trigger. It explains why I didn’t like summer camp as a kid, and sometimes bachelorette parties have the same energy. When my friends started getting married I hoped it would be better than for family, and it is, but not completely.
I’m going to an out-of-town bachelorette party soon with the nightclub and matching outfits and the whole deal, and not really looking forward to it. At first I thought that of course I would go to all weddings etc because they’re important but I’ve realized that 1) there are going to be a lot and 2) it’s not just the wedding day, but between bachelorette and everything its a big investment.
The friend in question is going to have an engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette, and the wedding weekend. I didn’t know that the bridesmaids did both the bridal shower and bachelorette tbh. I don’t think it’ll be crazy expensive or anything, but I’m already thinking that if the bachelorette party is out of town I’m not going. This friend has always been very rational and sensible so I don’t think she’ll be unreasonable about it.
I’m fine with – anything the day of, the bridesmaid dress, prep etc, and lets say 1 more event
I’m less fine with – multi day trips, being the event planners for any of the events.
Anon
I’m usually not one to jump to therapy, but this isn’t a normal reaction. If I was your friend, I’d be baffled and hurt by your logic. And in giving you advice, figure out how to manage your social anxiety. This is affordable for you and someone you allegedly care about. You go to the things, all the things, that’s what friends do.
Anon
I disagree. You can care about someone and think all of this is over the top. It really has gotten out of hand.
Anon
Then you don’t agree to be a bridesmaid. Honestly, what’s gotten out of hand is flaking because “I don’t wanna.”
Anon
She agrees to be a bridesmaid, which is one party (the wedding). Did she actually agree to participate in three other parties?
Anon
Yes. All those things have been part of the deal for decades.
Anon
She’s not flaking. She agreed to be a bridesmaid, not an ATM and a party planner. She can say no right now to planning the parties. She can say no right now to attending a destination bachelorette. It doesn’t make her a bad friend. It makes her a reasonable person with good boundaries.
Anon
Found the bridezilla.
Girl, you got married. It is not a major life accomplishment worthy of being feted at four or more separate parties. Any sentient being can get married. I’m married! It’s great. I didn’t need anyone to act like I was the queen for months.
Anon
Anon at 4:39, you are my spirit animal.
Anon
Call me a bridezilla if you want – I personally didn’t have a bridal shower, my wedding was at city hall, and my bachelorette party was local, for locals. But if you agree to be a bridesmaid for someone else, approaching it with “I’ll do the bare minimum and nothing more” isn’t going to win friends.
Anon
This is giving me anxiety just reading it. If I said yes to being a bridemaid, I would expect a bridal shower, rehearsal dinner and wedding. You’ve agreed to stand up for her at the wedding and to help her get ready. No need to go to the bachlorette, too.
Anon
It’s extremely common knowledge that bachlorette and bridal shower are at least on the table if you agree to be in a wedding
Anon
A bachorette party used to be going out drinking and maybe to a male strip club. Not three days in Vegas with matching outfits.
anon
well for starters i’m going to give you the caveat that i am older than you and there were no such expectations when me and my peers were getting married. that said: 1) you said you would be a bridesmaid, you didn’t say you could or would go to all events– can’t you beg out of this stuff and just go to the wedding and wear the dress and be in pcitures?; 2) you can say to her “I love you and I’m so excited to be part of your wedding party and I can’t make all these events (up to you if you want to be honest or just say money or work). For what it’s worth, I asked someone to be a bridesmaid, she said yes, I got her a dress (i paid for the dresses) and then announced she was pregnant and then the week before the wedding told me she couldn’t wear the dress, couldn’t find anything similar and was it ok if she wore something else. And i said that literally the only expectation for my bridesmaids was the wearing of the dress for pictures and she wasn’t “in” the wedding and we are still friends 20 years later. you guys should be able to navigate if you are really friends.
Anon
I was thinking about that – can I go to the wedding / wear the dress / be in pictures but not at every previous event?
I do think the expectations have gotten a little crazy lately. I would have thought that bridesmaid just meant the wedding part but I guess not.
Anon
Even when my mom got married 35 years ago there were bachlorette parties, bridal showers, and engagement parties. My mom’s bachlorette was an overnight “out of town”.
My mom is very low key (wore her sister’s wedding dress, her mom chose her bridesmaid dresses (pattern and fabric) and her aunt sewed them). She’s never had a manicure or pedicure in her life, doesn’t wear makeup, and shops exclusively at Kohls and second hand.
Anon
35 years ago, a lot of people lived closer to family and friends. A bridal shower involved mini sandwiches and iced tea at someone’s house and people gave small kitchen goods. A bachelorette party might involve an hour or two of planning for one night out, and the guests would buy the bride a drink and her moderately priced dinner.
Anon
Not so, I was a bridesmaid many times 35 years ago and it didn’t look much different from what I hear complained about here all the time. And nothing in OPs post speaks to the actual events, just her massive “doesn’t wanna go” for no reason. You can think things are out of hand today, but that doesn’t excuse you from living in the world today.
Anon
Yeah, but that’s nothing she could put on her instagram! My heart bleeds for your mother! Poor her.
Anon
Anon at 4:41, my point when referencing my mom was that this was all common place a) way before instagram and b) with women who aren’t doing things just for instagram. I included details about my moms wedding planning to show she was a hands off bride and about her personal style to show she’s not showy and doesn’t do things fit the image – if she did she’d wear makeup or nicer clothes
Anon
@ 5:17 I got you the first time. My comment was sarcastic!
Anon
I think it’s much better to limit the events you go than to drop out of being a bridesmaid completely. The latter is really hurtful and is likely to be friendship-ending even if the bride is a reasonable person. Be upfront with her now about what you can do.
Anon
This! Definitely show up on the day and to in-town events that you can make it to. I don’t think most brides get too upset about people not making it to out of town bachelorette parties unless you commit and flake at the last minute.
I would just let her know as the events come up. I would love to have my friend at all the events possible and would be very hurt if they’d agreed to be a bridesmaid and then backed out if nothing had materially changed.
Anon
I have a lot of childhood trauma and anxiety, and the most transformative lesson I’ve learned in therapy is that it isn’t my fault, but it is my responsibility. Meaning, I can wallow and say that things make me anxious and therefore won’t do them, but at the end of the day, I am still the person wallowing and not doing things that are important. Or, I can choose to heal my trauma and confront my anxieties, and show up in the world as the person I want to be. I don’t get a free pass because of my background; I am who I show up as.
You can choose to opt out of all the events and decline this invitation to be a bridesmaid, but know that it will likely affect your friendship and closeness with your friend. The things that cause us non-rational anxiety aren’t stoplights; they’re invitations to look at our trauma and the roots of our anxiety. Exposure therapy is one of the best treatments for anxiety, which involves incremental exposure to the things we are scared of. Over time, the fear lessens and we’re able to rewire our thoughts and emotional reactions to our triggers. By avoiding anything that prompts anxiety, you are giving power to that anxiety. The way to truly take control over it is by repeated incremental exposure, rewiring your thought patterns and changing your self talk, and/or processing any prior trauma that may be causing these anxieties.
Unfortunately, even if people understand that you have anxiety, not showing up can still pretty negatively impact relationships. You’re allowed to decide not to show up, but they are also allowed to decide that they want to prioritize friends who do show up. If you want to invest in friendships meaningfully, showing up is one of the biggest things you can do.
The first step to dealing with anxiety like this is choosing to work through it versus allowing it to dictate your life. It’s a long process, but taking those first steps are the hardest part. It’s by far the best gift I’ve given myself to choose to grow and heal.
TB
Thank you for posting this message today. I very much needed to hear the first paragraph.
Betsy
This is a beautiful response.
Anon
This!! I have pretty severe anxiety. It’s not other people’s jobs to manage it; it’s mine.
While I’m relatively open about having anxiety / being medicated / being in therapy, only 2 friends know just how bad it is. Other people don’t realize what it does to me physically and emotionally (bad things!) and how prevalent it is in my life because it’s my issue and not theirs.
Anon
Wow, this is great. I hope you visit often and write a reply like this (save and copy and paste?) any time it’s appropriate!
NYCer
If I were you, I would be upfront with your friend about your availability, and ask her if she still wants you to be a bridesmaid. I think it is better to bow out of the bachelorette from the get-go vs. feigning excitement and bailing at the last minute.
Also, how many bridesmaids does she have? The maid of honor often does the heavy lifting re planning events. I have been a bridesmaid several times and have never been the person actually planning any events.
Anon
There are about 5 bridesmaids.
Anon
+1 that bridesmaids don’t really have any planning duties
Anon
There are 5 bridesmaids. They sent out a doc asking who had time to help with planning and you could totally say no on that, which I did. But it was on the list!
Anon
potentially because they wanted to be inclusive because sometimes people get offended if just one bridesmaid takes over. i would show up to what you can, but being a bridesmaid means you at minimum attend the wedding. i had bridesmaids who couldn’t attend my rehearsal dinner the night before the wedding due to some travel logistics (lots of my friends were in med school/residency at the time and had complex rotation schedules) and it was fine. to bow out bc you don’t like weddings makes you a bad friend
Anon
I think you’re fine then! Tell the bride you can’t swing a destination bachelorette but are looking forward to the engagement party and shower.
Anon
IME, bridesmaids now don’t do any prep / planning work for the wedding or shower, but do attend all events, if they’re local.
Showers and more traditional engagement parties are usually thrown by aunts of the bride or her mother’s friends and bridesmaids attend or give a gift but that’s it.
Modern engagement parties are thrown by the couple to celebrate with their family and friends usually very soon after the engagement. Usually these are no-gift events (or bring a bottle of wine or flowers and a nice card).
IME, destination bachelorettes are planned by the bride and MOH; as a bridesmaid I may have provided basic information (my budget, availability, voting on a choice of activities) but the rest is planned by the bride and MOH.
If I’m local to the bride, I attend everything. If I’m not, I attend bachlorette and wedding. I’ve never been asked to do any prep for the wedding itself, except show up on time for hair and makeup with the right dress.
Anon
I think what you’re writing is reasonable – it’s just not what’s playing out.
This wedding the bridesmaids are def planning the bridal shower. I agree it should be aunts etc but that’s not the case here.
The upcoming bachelorette maybe the MOH was supposed to plan it but it ended up becoming much more of a group effort.
The therapy comments, I’m not reading. I tried to stave that off with the “I’m in therapy part”
Anon
You’re in therapy, but it seems like you’re identifying triggers to let yourself off the hook in avoiding them vs confronting your triggers and actually growing. Just food for thought.
Trixie
Life has many events besides weddings…maybe the OP is going to conferences or meetings, or funerals, or whatever…a wedding is not the ultimate test. and let’s allow for personality differences…not everyone will ever be outgoing, confident, and upbeat.
Anonymous
It’s not about being confident or upbeat. It’s about her putting her distaste for wedding activities over showing up for a friend. She’s going to other weddings. She could go to this. But she prefers not to because putting her friend’s needs above her own for an activity or two isn’t as pleasant. Fine to do but at least be honest about it. And, no, going to a conference isn’t the same–that’s doing something that’s about you.
Anon
Anonymous, she’s going to the wedding, which IS showing up for your friends.
It isn’t “an extra activity or two” – it’s three extra parties. Extra.
Anonymous
Showing up for your friends isn’t just showing up for the times that are about what you want to do. You don’t have to go to all or stay the whole time but saying you don’t want to either plan or go to anything because it’s just not your thing seems pretty flaky and selfish.
Anonymous
Bow out sooner than later since the MoH is sort of the organizer for most of these events usually. It’s kinder to her to find someone able to participate.
Anonymous
Sorry–reading fail. I thought you were being asked to be MoH. If it’s just a bridesmaid and there are a few of you, then I’d talk with your friend about what you are willing to do. I’d try to do as many in-town things as you can–you can always show up and decide to leave early. Just do not sign up and flake beyond the cut-off date on anything that requires money or a certain headcount. Forcing yourself to attend for an hour or so may end up being really good in the long run. I have huge social anxiety and dread these sorts of things. And I’m often pleasantly surprised that it ends up not being nearly as awful as I feared, and in some cases, I even end up having a good time. The more you put yourself out there, the easier this starts to become. It’s like public speaking in a way. It just takes practice.
Anon
If you don’t have a lot of mutual friends with the bride who will also be at the wedding, the pre-wedding events are a great way to get to know the others.
Anon
I’ve posted here before about how destination bachelor*tt* parties are rough and should go away. I stand by that. But you agreed to be a bridesmaid and “I don’t want to, I’ve never liked this stuff” is not a good reason for backing out. It will be hurtful to the bride, you made a commitment, and you can still manage which events to attend. Are you going to look forward to every second? No. No one does. But you do it anyway; commitment matters and people hate flakes. You’re doing this for her, not to maximize your own preferences.
Anon
This
Anon
Agreed.
Anon
Agreed. Being a good friend and honoring commitments is way more important than just making yourself comfortable. If you’re a flake for no reason other than ‘I didn’t feel like going,’ expect friendships to wane quite a bit over time.
Anonymous
Not helping plan things for a friend because you “didn’t like summer camp” vibes as a kid is, frankly, being a really crap friend.
Anon
Totally.
Anonymous
You need to suck it up an go. It won’t be terrible and then you won’t be afraid next time. Avoidance fuels anxiety.
Anon
+ 1,000. This is textbook avoidance and life is about a lot more than maximizing your own comfort.
Anon
Yep, agree completely. And if OP treats her friends like this she won’t have many over the long term, but I’m sure she’ll post in a few years asking how to make them.
Anon
This doesn’t answer your question: posts like this really strengthen my longstanding belief that brides-to-be should be very explicit about their expectations when asking friends to be in the wedding party.
If those expectations include a total of four events (engagement party, bridal shower, bachelorette, wedding), paying for those events, and planning, just say so. If that results in some of your friends saying no, well, it is a lot to ask.
I told my bridesmaids that I wanted them to come to the wedding in dresses that make it look like they are at the same party (please don’t one wear floor length black and the other be in a flowered knee length jumpsuit), no other parties to be had. I paid for hotels, hair, makeup. They paid for dresses and coordinated on shoes (both already owned silver heels).
Anon
And some people had freegan weddings with no attendants at all. Do you want a medal?
Anon
That was unnecessary and hostile. I’m sorry FOR you.
Vicky Austin
I’d cancel on the other bachelorette party that sounds like it’s for a different wedding before I’d drop out of being a bridesmaid. If your energies are limited, save them for the friend you actually want to show up for.
But also, your friend’s wedding is next year. That’s plenty of time for a) the events to be well spaced out and b) you to psych yourself up for them. If you really trust this friend, you could ask for there to be buffer time between the various events. (Or, alternately, if you can stomach helping plan after all, you might be able to have more input into the calendar.)
I have dropped out of being a bridesmaid before, but it was because I was completely cutting ties with the bride. (This was in college and it was a very toxic friendship I should have left or let go of long before; also, early 20s is very different than early 30s.) I don’t think there are many other circumstances that warrant it (sudden serious illness for you or an immediate family member, maybe?)
Proof Reader
How do I find someone to proof-read a college admission essay and resume? Just moved to the US and applying for an LLM program. Are there people who do this professionally? How much would that cost?
anon
there are definitely people who do this professionally. ask your professional network or google.
Anon
Come on, Kat, couldn’t you post some thing all of us don’t already own?
Anon
Put it with the pants from this morning and all it lacks is a bodycon orange crop top.
Jm
They seem strangely useful …
Anon
Remember Kangaroos shoes in the 80s? Man I loved those!
Aquitaine
I came here to mention the Kangaroos! Loved those.
Neighbor
Yes and those kids grew up to have penny loafers in the preppy early 1990s
Anonymous
Does anyone successfully take “exercise snacks” during the day? Have you seen a difference?
Anon for this
I heard this name… it’s just like lil’ cardio breaks during the day. So… I’ve always done this as a way to just keep my brain moving. I mean, squats are my easy go-to, right next to doing a lap up and down the stairs in my office.
Exercise helps me think more clearly, it helps me stay awake, and it just generally makes me feel better.
THAT BEING SAID – if you’re asking about it for weight loss? No, it didn’t help me lose weight. I gained 20 pounds due to stress/not sleeping/not actually eating a crazy amount of calories but definitely not eating enough protein for my needs and defaulting to like buttered toast and a cup of coffee for dinner.
What actually is actively helping me lose weight is getting enough sleep and getting a walking pad in my office. I got a cheap one off Amazon which is quiet enough that I can walk at a slow speed (2mph or slower) while I am on meetings/calls/reading email. I get into shape from HIIT/running/spin but I lose weight from low impact walking added into my days.
Anon
What are your thoughts on forgiving infidelity? I was always staunchly in the position that it would be a dealbreaker for me, but hearing Beyonce’s story of forgiveness and triumph in both Lemonade and to a lesser extent Cowboy Carter, and how their intimacy seems even stronger and more profound as a result, I feel like my position is a bit puritanical. Esther Perel has a passage about how we are forgiving of so many bad things in relationships but as a society draw the line at cheating. It seems like Beyonce and Jay Z have (or at least project) such a profound sense of connection that’s been bolstered by her ability to forgive and understand and his ability to look critically at himself and heal. It makes me feel like I should start to be more open-minded about it in other people’s relationships or my own…
Anon
I love Bey but my take on it is that she will never be over it, because she keeps on referencing it, and having to make a big production about how strong they are now. She’s an artist and she brings her whole life into her work, which I respect, but girl, we can all see you ain’t over it.
Anon
This
Anon
100%
Personally, I would never forgive infidelity. It seems like Beyoncé is trying to but is not over it. And frankly, nor should she be
Anon
Agree 100%
Anon
Yeah she seems far from over it.
Anon
That’s pretty personal and case specific. Maybe just rethink automatic judgement about other people?
Anon
This.
pink nails
+1 to rethinking the automatic judgement, and maybe judgement at all… generally one doesn’t need to have an opinion on other people’s relationships.
No Face
I don’t judge other people for staying, but I would not stay. Trust is everything to me. If I can’t trust my husband, the marriage is pointless. My focus would be building my own life and co-parenting well.
I love Bey, but I would not want any part of her relationship. He was in his 30s and she was a teen when they got together. He betrayed her and cheated on her. So much of her work involves him lying to her and cheating on her. Not a life I would want. But women have put up with a lot to keep their families together and I do not judge that goal one bit.
Anon
I was on a very unfortunate (for me) cross country flight with her and the rest of Destiny’s Child once, and I can tell you that she must have been uniquely immature when they met.
Anon
Omg! Tell us more…
Anon
SoCal to NYC area (I flew this route a lot at that time, so I don’t recall exactly which airports on this occasion). I was sitting in either business or first class (depending on which airport/plane layout that day). In the same section were a handful of very unruly and very young women who were shrieking and jumping over and between seats for most of the flight. When I asked the attendant if they could do something, I was told, “Oh, no, we can’t say anything, that’s Destiny’s Child.” This was pre-9/11. I assume this kind of behavior would not be tolerated post-9/11.
anon
pre-9/11 she would have been a literal teen. why are you so miserable you’re still flaunting this lame fact 20 years later.
Anon
Not the poster but I think it was mainly told as an anecdote about how young she was emotionally when she met (I think they started dating when she was 18 and he was 30). The whole thing has always given me the ick. A 12 year age difference is not a big deal if you’re talking about fully formed adults but when one is 18? She would have been in high school if she’d been on the traditional path. Yeesh.
Anonymous
I love Beyoncé the artist. I have no interest in her as a relationship role model.
Personally, a partner has to be a positive in my life. I wouldn’t stay knowing life would always be a little bit worse.
Senior Attorney
OMG I was married to somebody who made my life a little bit worse and no matter how many knots I tied myself up in, at the end of the day it just wasn’t sustainable.
Anon
Beyonce’s music is heavily produced art, not a factual representation of her marriage or happiness. She was about 20 when she started dating 30 year old Jay Z, and it’s a lot harder to divorce someone when you’ve never functioned as an adult without them. Plus as billionaires they can lead separate lives and appear in public together when needed. This isn’t like your neighbor being trapped in a 1000 sq ft apartment with their cheating spouse. Who knows how fulfilling Beyonce’s marriage really is
Anon
I think “Sorry” is pretty factual. They’ve both acknowledged it.
Anon
My marriage ended over his infidelity, so I have a strong position on this regarding my own personal relationships. My ex had an emotional and physical relationship with a very inappropriate person (a recently graduated college student in the major he taught in). But after that experience, I certainly could not forgive any infidelity.
However, that only applies to my own relationships. I have friends who have been cheated on who forgave and moved past the incident. Even though I don’t think that would have been my path because of my own baggage, it has worked out for these friends and they seem to be in a good place! I don’t judge that at all because I want others to have the relationships they want.
As to Bey and J, I have no opinion and none of their actions sway me in any way. None of us know them personally, so who knows what’s true, what’s not, what’s healed, and how their relationship looks from the inside. I assume it’s all theatre at some level and treat it as a play instead of some truth about the world.
Vicky Austin
I really don’t think I could forgive it. I might try. But it would crop up as deep-seated resentment forever and that wouldn’t really be fair to either of us.
Anon
I remember Beyoncé saying if not for their children, she would have divorced him. I don’t blame someone for staying or leaving after infidelity. Personally, I would prefer to leave. I can’t say what I would do if I found myself in that situation. However, we are allowed to have whatever boundaries we want and shouldn’t feel pressured to forgive certain things and not others based on society’s judgment. It’s your relationship and you get to say what goes.
Anon
This so much. It’s okay to not forgive. It’s okay to stay for the kids and try to make it work. As the aggrieved party, you (hypothetical you) get to make the decisions that are best for you. You already had a lot taken from you via infidelity; people shouldn’t be taking away your autonomy or right to your emotions, too.
BelleRose
My DH and I know it would be a deal-breaker for both of us. It was something we discussed both at the beginning of our dating relationship, and during our pre-marital counselling.
anon
where does one get glasses for the eclipse that are legit? i keep hearing not go order from amazon….
Anon
Universities and libraries in my area are giving them out.
Anonymous
https://eclipse.aas.org/eye-safety/viewers-filters
B&H is an approved vendor
Anon
This is the correct answer. AAS vetted vendors for eclipse glasses.
Anon
Many local museums (even if not science museums) will have reliable ones for sale in their gift shops.
Anonymous
I got some from my local science museum.
Anon
How about a pinhole projector? Last eclipse I could see the partial eclipse-shaped shadows on my west facing wall as the light filtered through tree leaves. It was very cool.
Anon
Warby Parker has free glasses in store today, if there’s one nearby.
Ses
I’m delighted the April fools post is back :)