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all about eevee
Hi – just want to apologize to everyone yesterday for calling the woman who was shot a “protester”. She was a domestic terrorist. Sorry, all.
Lilliet
I had to step away from the computer yesterday. I think it’s gracious of you to come back and clarify. FWIW (I just re-read yesterday’s thread) your comment to me sounded more like you were answering whether the woman who was shot and died was a lawmaker or other civilian in the building, not a demand that she was only a protestor.
I am not enthralled by any of the Republican’s attempts to NOW distance themselves from Trump. Why is this one moment the straw… because you’re personal safety was finally at risk? GTFOOH. The “What A Day” podcast has a good discussion at the end about how you can be proud to be an American but all also sit with the shame and embarrassment of where we are (and how we got there).
Anonymous
Agree. I was reading when you posted it at the time things were evolving quickly, most media/people were still using the term ‘protestor’ and your comment came across only as a quick clarification, not as an endorsement/minimization.
Cat
+1
Lilau
I completely agree with your point re:Republicans.
As I said last night, I’m equally disgusted with the majority of elected republicans who STILL managed to further these lies about the allegations after everything. Finally, I’m furious at every article I’ve read today that treats this as the culmination of the last few months. It is the culmination of years of acquiescence to a man who was always threatening to do this.
Lilau
“Lies about the election”
I’m sorry I didn’t sleep much last night.
Anonymous
I’m furious too. I was also on a group text where my cousins who have been quietly furious with their father for voting for Trump completely unloaded on him at last. He still doesn’t get it (“this is terrible but it’s not a coup or sedition.”) They make no apologies and neither do I, but it just sucks. These four years have truly torn families apart and all for a lying con man.
Anonymous
It’s the literally definition of sedition. Merriam – Webster defines it as “incitement of resistance to or insurrection against lawful authority”. They literally stormed the Capital to prevent by violence the legislative actions of lawfully elected officials.
Anonymous
They gave him the dictionary definition and he still refuses to accept it. He’s been completely brainwashed by right wing YouTube and his racist brothers and it’s really sad. He voted for Obama and Clinton, FFS.
Formerly Lilly
18 USC 2383 Rebellion
18 USC 2384 Seditious conspiracy
18 USC 2385 Advocating overthrow of government
18 USC 111 Assaulting, resisting, or impeding certain officers or employees
Some of these are fairly long so I haven’t included the body of the federal criminal statute in this post, but Google will get you there if you think the actual language of the crime will help him see reason.
all about eevee
Yes, my intention was just to clarify that she was not a lawmaker, but I want to be absolutely sure that everyone here understands how I feel about this so that no one carries a negative impression of me forward into other conversations. This was 100% domestic terrorism.
Curious
We like you, eveee. And, though it’s not relevant to the attempted coup, you have a good sense of humor.
LaurenB
I see tremendous parallels between the Republican lawmakers’ “oh, well NOW I’ve had the come-to-Jesus moment that talk of overturning a lawful election isn’t such a hot idea, now that my personal safety was at stake” and the morons you see in the news who are all “oh, well NOW I’ve had the come-to-Jesus moment that masks and social distancing are important, now that I or my loved ones have had a severe case of Covid.” Nothing’s real until it impacts them personally.
anonshmanon
I’ve long thought that this is a common thing among Republicans. Meghan Mccain suddenly discovering that parental leave is not nice to have but a reasonable ask is another example. Solidarity with other’s struggles aren’t their thing.
Anonymous
To be fair, Meghan McCain really found out the hard way that postpartum is no picnic. She also came out firmly against the attempted coup yesterday as it was happening.
As for Republican lawmakers who are all of a sudden acting like Trump is not a good guy, they can go drown in a lake. His behavior yesterday was NOT a surprise, it was NOT out of the ordinary, and it was NOT sudden.
Aunt Jamesina
But the criticism of Meghan McCain here is WHY did she have to personally experience something in order to have empathy? I imagine if she’d had an easier postpartum experience she’d have carried on with her regressive views about maternity leave. Most of us here aren’t very likely to experience homelessness or malnutrition or living in unsafe conditions or a food desert or an area with little economic opportunity, but we can still imagine.
Anonymous
Aunt Jamesina, that’s true, but we also have women posting here about their $500 budget for new heels because they’re bored of their old ones when that amount is more than millions of people make in a year. A lot of people tune out the problems that don’t apply to them. Even if they “imagine” it, very few people do anything about it. I’m glad Meghan McCain is speaking up and that she came to the right conclusion, even if it took her a while.
Aunt Jamesina
But your argument only holds water if those same $500 heel buyers are ALSO saying that people shouldn’t be able to (get maternity leave/have healthcare access/get a quality public education). And Meghan McCain’s CAREER is literally having a national platform to make arguments defending conservative positions. Changing her political viewpoints *only* once she personally experiences something is deplorable.
Anonymous
Meghan McCain is breaking with her party on this issue and is calling for Trump to be removed from office immediately. I am not a Republican, but I respect that and will work with anyone who wants to do the right thing moving forward.
anonshmanon
I wasn’t trying to drag Meghan Mccain specifically. Although to this last point, IIRC, she started being more vocal against Trumpism once Trump maligned her late father, which is yet another example of ‘it’s only a problem once it becomes my problem’. I don’t think she is any worse than Republicans fighting a war on drugs-except-drugs-that-are-take-predominantly-by-white-people or Senators standing first in line to get one of the precious vaccines and turn around to spread disinformation about the vaccine to the public or representatives preventing access to healthcare for all while enjoying fantastic, government-administered healthcare funded by the taxpayer.
LaurenB
The argument about women posting here about $500 shoes doesn’t hold water. Many of those same women are active politically and/or support politicians and causes to help bring about social justice.
Anon
Also agree on Republican leadership now acting as though they haven’t been complicit in all of Trumps activities, including fueling this type of base, for the last 4 years. I am particularly disgusted by Mike Pence somehow trying to come out of this as some type of voice of reason, hero, and American Leader, when he has been nothing but a henchman doing Trumps bidding and catering to this base for his entire Vice Presidency. Maybe I am cynical, but this behavior is all too little too late and a transparent attempt to save their own political careers rather than be (rightfully) associated with a party that has fueled the kind of disgusting and terrifying conduct we saw yesterday.
Anon
I couldn’t do any work yesterday afternoon and this morning isn’t much better so far. I feel sick.
Leatty
Same. My heart aches, and I’m really concerned about both the short and long term implications of this.
Curious
Me, too
AnonATL
Yesterday was… a lot. Sorry if anyone was upset by my labeling of the individual as well.
I know it’s not much, but if anyone would like to do something slightly more positive today, Bird and Stone is donating 100% of their Stacey Abrams set proceeds to the New Georgia Project. I have a few of their cuffs, and they are simple and lovely.
Anon
Are more than 13 people going to be arrested and charged? All of those who breached the steps and entered the building need to be arrested and prosecuted. Which government office is in charge of leading such an operation? Also- what about the officers taking selfies with the terrorists? As horrible as yesterday was, thank goodness no one who entered shot up the place
anon
I read that 52 or something like that had been arrested.
anon
But 47 were for breaking the curfew, the rest for having weapons. None were for storming the building. Don’t know if there’s a separate list from Capitol police vs. DC police.
Anon
Well, Trump tweeted in July that damage or vandalism to federal buildings or monuments would be prosecuted under the federal law enacted to protect statues of Confederate generals and slaveholder, said the penalty is a minimum of ten years in prison. If he got that right, seems like a great fit here. His tweet of 7/27/2020 should be read as part of the sentencing for his loyal supporters.
all about eevee
What’s hilarious is that he MENTIONED he made damaging federal buildings and monuments illegal in the speech he gave where he riled them all up and instructed them to storm the Capitol building.
Anon
The FBI is seeking information and digital media to help them identify the terrorists who were involved in the rioting and the looting at the Capitol yesterday, they have set up a website where people can submit tips: fbi dot gov/USCapitol. If you want to report a link – like a link to someone’s Facebook page – use fbi dot gov/tips. I am 100% sure that most of those idiots posted the selfies they took and pictures of the objects they looted to their social media. They are likely known to many people in their communities. I reported an individual that I did not know personally, but who was a friend of a friend on Facebook, who was there at the Capitol yesterday and posted video of it on his Facebook page, visible to everyone. If you see anything, especially attached to a name, on social media, report it to the FBI. That’s one way of trying to ensure at least some of these people will be brought to justice, or at least end up on a watchlist.
Ellen
Agreed. Apology accepted. What a motley crue those terrorists were. They should have been arrested. How silly that the goverment is now asking for leads on the names of these people. If they had an army there in the first place, they could have arrested them and herded them all into someplace like a stadium, where they could not destroy anything, and would have access to toilets.
Dad says when he was doing counter intelligence in Slovenia, they had ways to deal with insurgents. They just disappeared. I am not suggesting that, but we could have been more forceful.
I looked at how haggard Nancy Pelosi & Amy Klobuchar looked this morning. They had been up all night and had no makeup, so it is understandable. However, they should not have had to do this until 4:00 a.m., and I don’t think at their ages they should. Also their staffers lost sleep and the rioters ruined alot of their offices.
I am sure the talking heads on TV will be looking to bash the DC Capitol Police, when they really should be bashing the rioters. Clearly the DC Police were over matched and they did not want to make it worse by shooting everyone. But if they had more people (which they should have), they could have arrested all of these rioters, and then herded them away. FOOEY on the rioters!
Anonymous
It’s OK, everyone was posting quickly.
All I have to say is 25th Amendment now. Reports from senior officials are saying that Trump is acting in a very disturbing way and that they are afraid of what he might do in the next few days. Yesterday was beyond the pale and if the 25th can’t be used for this, what can it be used for?
Anonymous
This. 25th amendment now. Pence had to call in the National Guard. Lots of reports emerging that Trump was not unhappy with what happened. He will likely attempt to pre-emptively mass pardon any protestors. And as someone tweeted, if he cannot be trusted not to foment violence against the Capital, how does he still have the nuclear codes? He is completely unstable and accepting of violence against legislative authorities.
It is insane that they have not yet removed him ESPECIALLY since it is under 25 days and they only need a simple majority of one chamber vs. 2/3 majority in both.
Anon
Sadly, this will not happen. Within 12 hours we will hear how Trump is pivoting and acting presidential. I am barely even joking.
Aunt Jamesina
Now Trump is saying we’ll have a peaceful transition of power. I imagine that’s enough for the traitors in Congress to say, “see? Everything’s fine”.
Anon
Orderly transition, not peaceful. You are giving him too much credit.
Senior Attorney
I am 100% certain that statement was written by somebody on his staff.
The thing I can’t understand is how on earth these seditious traitors in Congress still don’t understand they are the villains of the piece?
Aunt Jamesina
Yes, thank you for the correction.
Flats Only
I wonder what is going on at the White House. Writing this at 12:42 PM, so his twitter has been back on for more than 5 hours. But no tweets. I really don’t believe it’s possible that he’s excising the restraint that a normal person/politician might under these circumstances. I think he’s locked up somewhere and they’ve taken away his phone. 4 AM run to Walter Reed under heavy sedation, perhaps?
Anonymous
I thought the 12 hours only start after he deleted the offending tweets and it’s not clear when he deleted them so not clear when he will be back?
At least Facebook had the sense to block him until after inauguration.
He has not once said he will conduct a peaceful transition to President-Elect Biden. His ‘orderly transition’ reference was vague. It was not express to whom he is transitioning – this is key given that the far right has been calling for martial law. If he is purposely keeping it vague, it leaves open the interpretation that he means transitioning to martial law.
S-non
25th Amendment does not fix the rot and systems that created this. Josh Hawley, Ted Cruz, Mike Pence, enablers in the administration and the media, Mo Brooks, and many others are disgusting.
Anon 9:25
Oh, I have no illusions about it fixing anything. I just don’t want it to get worse in the next 2 weeks and it is on track to do just that. Trump still has authority to pardon all the terrorists as pre-emptive pardons have occurred before. And I don’t trust him with access to classified information. In giving approval to violence against the Capitol, he made it clear that he has a ‘burn it down’ mentality that extends not just to the Democrats or Republicans who oppose him but to the institutions of governance themselves.
Anonymous
+1. The fact that the 25th Amendment won’t solve the “rot” doesn’t mean it shouldn’t happen. It’s a necessary but not sufficient condition to restoring our immediate safety.
anon
Tissue excision doesn’t solve existing gangrenous infection in the blood stream but we still can’t leave the dead tissue. Yes, the others are beyond disgusting. But allowing trump’s actions to go unpunished and tacitly condone his behavior by allowing him to remain in office will signal to the disgusting others know that there’s no consequences to being disgusting.
Of Counsel
Unfortunately they would not be able to get a 25th Amendment removal done quickly enough to do much good. If Trump challenges it (and he would) it is not an automatic removal from office, particularly with Congress in recess. The amendment was not really written with a mental incapacity in mind.
anon
No need to apologize. Everything was unfolding so quickly.
Anonymous
RE: Republicans now distancing themselves from Trump
One of the sad and missing parts of our government is that people are not allowed to change their minds. We talk about the need for meaningful debate but we need to give people grace when they change their position rather than labeling them as chameleons or criticism that it took them too long to change. Debate has no functional use if people are not allowed to be influenced.
Anonymous
Too little, too late. I’m all for people changing their minds in the routine course of business, but they get no head pats from me for only doing it to save their own skins. At that point, the self-interest is too toxic to deserve any praise.
Anonymous
I agree with this when you are talking about an issue like abortion or gay marriage. Whether to support a malignant narcissist con man whose colors have been shown and known since well before he was elected (see 2016 video of Cruz, Graham, Ellis, etc. decrying his lies, incompetence, and immorality) is not equivalent. Those people did not change their minds about who he is. They changed their minds about whether aligning themselves with him was politically expedient for them at the time.
Horse Crazy
Exactly this. They didn’t turn on him when he locked children in cages, or when he called Nazis very fine people, or when he mocked a disabled reporter, or, or, or….I could go on and on. This was the most convenient time for them to abandon him. Too late.
anon
Nah. Setting aside the fact that people are actually allowed to change their minds, that’s just not the situation here. We are not talking about reasonable differences in policy. First, they deserve criticism for supporting him and facilitating his and his supporters’ anti-democratic actions. Would you thank someone who lit a hospital on fire for throwing a cup of water on the ashes? Second, you don’t get a lot of brownie points for finally doing the right thing because you are finally afraid for your own political standing. Would you praise a rat for running off a sinking ship?
Anony-mouse
12:03 PM, I agree with you 110%. Unfortunately some people don’t realize that they’re not actually doing themselves any favors when they fail to extend grace to the other side when grace is due.
Anon
So I was on a deadline yesterday and not online or on social media. I’m working from home and was alone so I had no idea what was going on. I got some texts giving me a hint but I had no idea how crazy it had become. I responded with something re: protestors and got yelled at by multiple people that these are terrorists. I had to remind them I hadn’t even seen the news yet. You are not alone!
Also, I’m torn on whether it was good to not watch this unfold live versus I just missed out on a major day in history. I guess it’s a bit of both.
AnonATL
I was fairly young for 9/11 (I’m a millennial), but yesterday felt a lot like that. Everyone shocked. How could this happen here. etc. Especially watching it unfold in real time. Very surreal.
Anonymous
I am not a millennial so I vividly remember 9/11. Without diminishing yesterday’s events 9/11 was very different. There was an uncertainty for days whether there would be another attack. We didn’t have smartphones and internet was mostly dialup. Social media didn’t exist. We stood glued to the television in lobbies and waiting rooms since that was the only way to know what was happening. Americans were mad at the events yesterday but I think everyone knew it would be over quickly. We didn’t have that on 9/11.
Yesterday was a defining moment in our history to be certain. It may well be one of the critical pivots for the millennial and younger generation much like the Kennedy assassination and 9/11 were for older generations.
Anon
You are more confident then me. I would in no way be surprised if similar events happen over the coming days. As someone who lives in DC less than a mile from the Capitol, I don’t think I will feel truely safe again until January 21.
Anonymous in Texas
I’m taking my first yoga class this weekend. A local studio is offering a beginners class, only 10 per class and we’ll all be spread-out in the studio. Can anyone recommend what I should wear? I don’t want to buy clothes just yet, but I’m sure I have something that’ll do for my first class. TIA!
Ribena
Stay at home. Please. You can do yoga just as well at home.
Anon
Yes, please stay home.
This is exactly why the virus numbers are as bad as they are. Yesterday the US recorded a record number of deaths, almost 4,000.
Cat
1. A very good mask – this is indoors, correct? Sharing the same air with others in these circumstances – all exerting yourselves and breathing more heavily, thus both enabling easier spread and deeper inhalation – is way more dangerous than say, a grocery run. Staying six feet apart is not at all enough.
2. Any comfy workout outfit that won’t be too revealing in odd positions (loose tops will fall down when you are bending over, etc). Leggings and a snug tank (or tank that you tuck in to the waistband) are fine.
Anonymous
Honestly I would stay home. I completely understand the reason you want in-person classes because my yoga practice went from twice weekly to zilch during the March lockdown but it’s not worth the risk. Yoga involves a lot of breath work and the spacing issue actually won’t seem that spacious in the room. Normally yoga classes are quite tightly packed but in my experience, the new covid spacing just refers to mat location and many moves will still involve body parts or touch the floor off the mat.
A live in person class gives a very different feeling from a recorded class. Check if your local yoga studios have that option. Mine has options for online only live class and online participation in the in-person classes.
The Lone Ranger
If you would like a great beginners intro to yoga that you can do without sharing air and breathing all over everyone and having everyone breath all over you, SarahBethYoga (the SarahBethShow on Youtube) is doing a series. It’s a week into it, but the first week is all 10 minute sessions, so it would be easy to catch up.
If you do go to the class, please wear a mask. Yoga is all about deep inhalations and deep exhalations, so even 6 feet apart in a studio isn’t far.
anon
6 feet isn’t a magic number. Being in an indoor space with people from 10 different households is beyond reckless.
Anonymous
I had to laugh/cry at the comment of 6 not being magic. There are literally memes gong around about how the fact that we are being told to stay 6 ft apart is a sign that the pandemic is the devil’s plan because that’s the devil’s number and DH’s reaction was – ‘Is the devil on the imperial system? Because most of the world is metric and that’s 1.8 metres’.
Anonymous
+1. OP, if you won’t skip the class because we ask you to, please skip it for the health of your own family and friends and people you care about.
Anonymous
Wear clothes that you can stretch in. Sweatpants will work for your first class, but if you continue yoga practice in general, I’d suggest getting some athletic leggings or yoga pants (if you don’t want to spend a lot of money, plenty of options at Target or Old Navy).
For tops, wear a lightweight t-shirt that kind of skims your body. In my experience, wearing loose clothing during down dog is a bit of an awkward experience of trying to not breathe fabric or block my vision…
Anonymous
You need to stay home. Yesterday was the deadliest day of the entire pandemic in the United States. You can do beginner yoga at home very easily. There are no excuses.
Anon
I can recommend a yoga studio that has a zoom beginner’s series starting up if you’re interested.
Anonymous
Not OP, but would love the rec to this beginner’s series on zoom.
Alanna of Trebond
If you email me offline at [email protected], I became a certified yoga teacher during the pandemic and teach a beginner’s yoga class on Zoom. Please do not do yoga in person now.
Anon
No in person yoga right now. It’s too dangerous and you should know better.
Anon
I would recommend leggings with some stretch and a close fitting tank. My first yoga class was awkward because I wore a T-shirt and although it wasn’t short, I kept fidgeting because it would ride up and I didn’t want to flash anyone.
Anonymous
hazmat suit?
Anonymous
This was the LOL I need this morning. Thanks.
pugsnbourbon
One of those emergency escape hoods that Congresspeople used yesterday might be more comfortable to move in.
Anon in Dallas
Big Yoga in Houston (I see you are in Texas; no clue if you’re close) is doing outside classes so that would be way way safer
Anon
If you have to, please ask them to keep the doors of the studio open (ideally two sets of doors/windows to enable cross ventilation).
Aunt Jamesina
Stay home! Staying home sucks but it’s our civic duty.
Anonymous
You apparently didn’t need to do yoga before the pandemic; you don’t need to do it now.
Anon
I don’t normally like to pile on with the same responses, but PLEASE do not go to this class. I say this from experience, because I made this error in judgment, and I regret it and if I could go back in time, I would not do it again.
I love yoga and my studio shut down in March and I found it hard to keep up with classes at home. So, when my studio had their first in-person class in October, I was desperate to go. (And I’m in an area where things pretty much have not shut down at all, so my studio was closed much longer than many places. so it felt like they were being very safe with everything.) It was advertised as a socially-distant, masked class. And when I got there, they did have protocols in place, all the mat spots were marked six feet apart, etc. But once you got to your mat, you had the option of removing the mask for the class. I was one of the only people who left my mask on. Even though we were spaced out and the attendance was limited, it did not feel very safe, I have to admit. You might not realize this if you are new to yoga, because it seems like light exercise, but there is *so* much breathing in yoga. Deep, heavy breathing. I can see how easily the virus could spread in a studio. I’ve just buckled down on the home classes since then, because I had to accept it just isn’t safe to go back yet. Please think about it.
Anon
The hospitals in TX are full. My mom is a healthcare worker. Please stay home and stream Yoga with Adrienne.
Kitten
I feel like this is a troll post designed to ignite another debate. You really have no idea what to wear to a yoga class?
Horse Crazy
Come on. Stay home. Get real.
Anon
If you buy really comfy yoga clothes, they can do double duty as clothes to wear if you’re laying in a hospital bed with COVID and just can’t stand another day of a hospital gown, or pacing around your house as you wait to hear whether you killed a friend or family member after giving them COVID, as they lay in a hospital bed alone and scared.
Don’t.
Anon
In case you need more evidence of why you should stay home, I’m in a state that’s considered doing well compared to others but still bad compared to normal life. My coworker’s high school age daughter is experiencing post-covid complications including a suspect pulmonary embolism which can be fatal. She waited over 4 hours in an ER parking lot last night and then was sent home to come back today to be evaluated.
If suspected pediatric PEs are not being treated as high triage, then everyone needs to stay the F home.
anon
OMG. This is horrifying.
Sloan Sabbith
Jesus. That’s horrifying. PEs can be deadly- fast. I’ve had a couple and they have always treated it as a stat, CT scan now, do not pass go emergency.
Anon
Yup. Her dad is a firefighter too and knows a lot of the ER staff and couldn’t get her in any quicker. She got in today and is currently admitted. I haven’t received any other updates yet.
Trixie
Don’t go. Find an online class, and stay healthy and safe. But I think you know this, and you know what to wear.
Cat
Distraction – for the poster yesterday looking for a long cardigan with buttons.
https://www.anntaylor.com/pocket-boyfriend-cardigan/549660?skuId=30678491&defaultColor=8387&catid=cata000011&selectedColor=8387
No to synthetics
That is lovely but polyester and acrylic for $119? Sorry…you can get a higher quality merino or cashmere cardigan from a department store for equal or lower price.
Cat
yeah I wasn’t assuming anyone would pay full price for – anything – at Ann Taylor, much less a synthetic sweater. If what you want isn’t on sale, wait a week.
But the main criteria was buttons, so passing along the idea.
Anon
It’s a fake price, Ann Taylor is design to sell for at least 40% off.
Friday
Just came across this one. Only one button, but longer and $20: https://tjmaxx.tjx.com/store/jump/product/clearance/Extrafine-Merino-Wool-One-Button-Duster-Cardigan/1000587404?colorId=NS1003537&pos=1:4&N=3951437597
Anon
Speaking of yoga (AT HOME!)…
Since mid-March, I’ve had almost no physical activity to speak of — walks here and there, but pre-March I was previously averaging 15k steps a day, so basically nothing for me. On December 1, I resolved to do yoga every single day of December and I did it (10 min minimum) and re-upped for January with a 20 minute a day minimum. I feel much better and stronger than in early December, when 20 minutes felt really hard. But I’m starting to wonder if practicing every day is overtaxing my body and not allowing enough recovery time? Can I keep increasing practice times, and if so by how much? I find it much easier to stick to “every day” than to “x times a week”, but I’m not an experienced exerciser so I’m wondering if I’m doing this “wrong.” I’m using the Down Dog app and it gives pretty good variety in workouts every day. Would appreciate any advice!
anon
You could consider doing a restorative/yin flow on some days. That’ll give your muscles a chance to recover without breaking your daily habit.
anon
+1
Vicky Austin
+1 this is what I would do.
Anonymous
If you feel fine, stick with it and vary up the types of movements you do. Listen to your body: if a specific body part is complaining, roll it out or stretch it out and look for modifications. I think 20 minutes to an hour of yoga a day – intense or gentle, as you prefer – is similar in intensity and impact to taking a walk for the same amount of time.
PNW
I use Down Dog too, and recently started supplementing with Yoga with Adriene on YouTube as I was getting a bit stale on the DD routines. I don’t think having a “rest day” is that important compared to say running, but I do mix it up so that I’m not doing the same kind every day. I do maybe two days a week of intense (for me) active practice, and the other days focus on just a relax/stretch program or maybe target the hips or hamstrings (depending on what feels tight). It’s a good mix for me.
Anon
What lengths are your practices and which what are you using for the relax/stretch days? I have super tight hamstrings and that’s my main target area, so I’m extra curious about those.
PNW
For the active flow practice I do either 45 mins or an hour. The stretch days I have a couple of 30 minute Down Dog routines saved on the Restorative / Intermediate 2 setting with either a hamstrings or hip flexor target area. Yoga with Adriene also has a whole bunch of 20-30 minutes practices with different goals, I’m pretty sure she has one targeting hamstrings.
Anon
Thank you! This seems like a good balance to aim for.
Anon
When I used to go into shops, I used to see soft baskets made of coiled rope (sort of like rag rugs, but in a white hue) sold to corral things like remote controls or kid clutter. I need one for our dog’s toys (probably before, but now that we have a Roomba). And now I am not sure where to get them. #s are surging where I live, so I’d need to ship if possible and order from a website.
Anonymous
Target. Just filter by decorative storage.
Cat
yep. I saw a woman walking home yesterday with exactly this item along with Target shopping bags.
Anonymous
Yes. I have one of these from Target for my dog’s toys.
Anon
type in pillowfort rope bin on target
anon
+1. We have this for my daughter’s room but it’s pretty enough to display anywhere, IMO.
Vicky Austin
I saw a couple at the Container Store called belly baskets. Maybe use that as a search term?
Anon
Check out the “bright laundry day” basket at Ten Thousand Villages.
Anon
I got mine from tj maxx! I also know people sell them on Etsy
pugsnbourbon
Seconding TJMaxx – shipping is a little slow but that’s the case nearly everywhere.
If you’re willing to buy from Amazon, I have this basket and I absolutely love it: Goodpick Cotton Rope Storage Basket Woven Baby Laundry Basket for Storage, Plant Pot, Beach Bag, and Kids’ Toys Home Decor Blanket Basket Planter Basket,16.1” × 14.9 ”× 11.8”
Anonymous
Home Goods and the like have tons of these. They are more expensive at Target (but not by much) so if you see them on Target and don’t want to do go in person that’s a great option.
Aunt Jamesina
Search for cotton baskets or rope baskets.
lydia
Target has these and you can order them for mail delivery or drive up pickup — I have literally gotten 6 of these since the pandemic started, without setting foot in a store (setting up baby’s nursery).
Anon
after yesterday’s horror and watching more of the vote counting – is there any merit to the idea that the PA legislators violated the PA constitution with their voting rules? It sounds like the case was dismissed on procedural grounds? At least that’s what Hawley said (as an aside, anyone on here know him or his wife from college, law school or work? Speaking of supposed voter fraud- he doesn’t even own a home in Missouri, but used his sister’s address to vote)
OP
to add- i do not think there was any voter fraud in the past election, i voted for Biden and fully support him. The former lawyer in me is curious/worried for future elections
Ellen
No MAS! People say alot of things, but saying it’s so does NOT make it so. As Biden says: Enough is enough. Morover, there is no one on this blog — lawyers included — that know enough and can comment intelligently on such an arcane point. So JSFAMO to another topic! PTOOEY!
Anon
Here is an article one of his law school classmates wrote about him: https://www.usatoday.com/story/opinion/voices/2021/01/05/trump-lost-senator-josh-hawley-accept-result-like-i-did-column/4114231001/?fbclid=IwAR0st7w2Dhy-UCoEgb-eCLRe8uGupythKYNfPC3BHwb219tra3xRMnzBzIE
Anonymous
Why would you believe anything Hawley said? He’s a psychopath. He’s trying to become the new Trump. I don’t know how Erin Morrow sleeps at night.
Anonymous
Obviously not.
Anonymous
It’s so disturbing that after an armed insurrection your response is “so idk though are we sure they aren’t right about somethings?” Yes. We are sure.
anon
+ a million
busybee
Anon at 9:37, that’s not very helpful. The OP posted a question. The way to promote education and the legitimacy of the vote is to answer the question if you’re able. Not to tell them “yes we are sure” with no support, and not to belittle them.
Anonymous
I disagree. This has been covered extensively. It’s fully reported in the NYTimes and Washington Post. No one here needs to waste time engaging with the dangerous idea that there is any question about this.
Anonymous
This. Discussing it gives it credence. Hawley lies and lies and lies. Nothing out of his mouth is the truth.
anon
Yep it’s well past time to stop humoring the lies and conspiracy theories. Anyone perpetuating them ought to be shunned by polite society.
busybee
Good grief, asking a question is not perpetuating lies and conspiracy theories. Anonshmanon posted an intelligent, well articulated response. Belittling people and dismissing them as conspiracy theorists just doesn’t help anything.
anon
Calling a lie a lie isn’t being dismissive. If you don’t see that, then you’re part of the problem. FWIW I wasn’t calling OP a conspiracy theorist — but she should stop repeating the words/ideas of Hawley and others who definitely are.
Aunt Jamesina
@busybee, I absolutely think OP’s questions are in good faith, but I’ve seen loads of examples of people “just asking questions” when they’re really just perpetuating rumors and sowing discord. See all the people saying they were “just asking questions” about Wayfair this summer or “just asking questions” about vaccines. “Just” asking questions can be a way to spread ideas while maintaining a veneer of plausible deniability or trying to relieve yourself of the responsibility for what you say. It’s not always innocent.
Anon
The better way to shut it down is to say: yes, we are sure – see link (or explain how to find article). Just saying “yes we are sure” doesn’t help. Who knows why the person is asking, maybe she wasn’t following closely when all the news came out because she dismissed the allegations as absurd and didn’t bother but is now trying to reason with someone who is asking her these questions. I’m not sure why giving factual answers is difficult if it has been so fully covered. I am not the OP but I haven’t really been following this closely because I thought all the arguments raised by Trump and team were absurd and in good faith but it would be helpful to have the actual analysis handy if I want to shut someone else down.
Anonymous
Actually, yes, that should be the response. When violent protests are aimed at government buildings, you have to ask why did this happen. Blaming one person is not going to get us anywhere. Trump didn’t happen in a vacuum. There are a lot of angry white people out there and we’ve got to figure out what to do about it. The first step is to ask, why are they so angry and are they right about any of it?
Anonymous
Wow no that is not the first step. Unless the path you’re walking is legitimizing terrorism.
Anonymous
What to do about it is to put them in jail for attacking and vandalizing the Capital building. The images of the terrorists being allowed to just walk away is shocking to me. They should have corralled them all into the Rotunda and arrested every single person who entered the building.
pugsnbourbon
I mean there have been literally hundreds of hand-wringing thinkpieces about angry white people in the last four years. It boils down to racism. They are angry because they are racist and for decades (centuries really) people in power have exploited and encouraged that racism for their own gain.
Mrs. Jones
+1
Anonymous
If you look at the photos, the people storming our Capitol were of multiple races. Reducing it to “angry white people” is reductive and not helpful.
Anon
Um, are you looking at the same photos/videos I was? I was seeing almost entirely white people, and very predominantly male.
anonshmanon
-isms are systemic, not just individual. People of color can be racist. Women can also be sexist.
Anon
I watched coverage extensively yesterday and I saw not one nonwhite person on the Capitol steps or balcony or in the Capitol. I was looking for them.
If you are in any way, shape or form supportive of what happened in the Capitol yesterday, I am going to say you are in the wrong place to discuss that. I do not think that any attempts to “just ask questions” will be well-received here, we tend to have a pretty good radar for BS.
Senior Attorney
What are you talking about? Yes there were a (very) few brown faces, and some white women, but it was most definitely a crowd of angry white men, for the most part.
Nesprin
… Are you one of the folk who consider Italians and Eastern Europeans nonwhite?
anonymous
Oh my god no. Stop coddling these people. Stop giving them the benefit of the doubt. Since before 2016 we’ve admonished to “ask why white people are so angry and are they right about it”? That question has been examined and examined and examined to death over the last 4 years. With respect to the election fraud lie in particular, NO, they are not right about any of it. How can you think this is a valid question at this point? The rational civilized world has been over this again and again and again. I mean, did you fall asleep in August and just wake up? Asked and answered.
They’re mad because they lost. They’re mad because they lost and feel that they are entitled to win, because of their privilege and because they have been lied to over and over again by politicians they trust, and because they refuse to listen to reason and exercise their critical thinking skills, and refuse to face reality because it doesn’t comport with what they would prefer to believe. Not every grievance is valid. These people are not entitled to their own facts.
Lilau
THIS.
Thank you.
Senior Attorney
YES.
Horse Crazy
+ infinity. Thank you.
Mrs. Jones
+1 million
Anon
Sure, so long as we apply the same standard to BLM: don’t care if they are angry about anything, they have no right to burn down cities.
LaurenB
Well, duh, no one has said that BLM protesters have the right to burn down cities.
No Face
Trump, Hawley, and their ilk are acting in bad faith. Don’t fall for it.
As an aside, I have read pleadings from various Trumpy election cases. I laughed to avoid crying. Some of the worst lawyering I have ever seen. Incoherent arguments. Terrible writing. Failure to do even the bare minimum of what is required of us as attorneys.
Let’s say I hired an accountant to do my taxes. Instead of attempting to fill out my tax forms with accurate information, they submit a paper that said “2 + 2 = 789” in crayon. The IRS rejects the submission for failure to use the forms, and the accountant says “The IRS rejected the forms on procedural grounds!!! They didn’t even reach the merits of the information!!! Math words!!!!” That is what is happening here.
anon
Yes, exactly. Also, procedural stuff *matters.* SCOTUS cannot simply say, “well, Texas has no standing to sue states here but it seems like Texas is really really mad about this so maybe we should just let this one through.” That’s not how any of this works; it would be completely unacceptable and dramatically undermine our legal system to suspend the laws for something as fundamental as *standing.* Don’t fall for the insinuation that there was a actually amazing legal argument with rock-solid evidence but these sneaky, sneaky judges just used “procedural grounds” as an easy out.
Lilau
THIS.
The commonwealth of PA interprets its constitution, not a manic encouraging a violent overthrow of the American government. If that’s what you mean by procedural.
anonshmanon
When the Senate reconvened yesterday I saw him speak to why he was insisting on his objections (unlike some other senators) on Pennsylvania. It basically came down to the fact that mail in voting was conducted on a large scale for the first time (prior, PA only had excused absentee ballots). He phrased it as if this new mode of voting had somehow just magically appeared and nobody before himself had bothered to check what the constitution or the courts have to say about millions of Pennsylvanians voting this way.
Meanwhile this is not even an emergency expansion of voting access during the pandemic, this is legislative voting reform passed in Oct 2019. And the PA supreme court in Nov decided that due to USPS delays, ballots should be counted that arrive within 3 days of the election, and SCOTUS decided to let the decision stand. There is also still litigation about a small number of votes where the envelope wasn’t dated. The courts are handling it.
anonshmanon
Sorry I reread your question about the law and the state constitution…a set of laws has to work for the people in my opinion.
The GOP lawsuit trying to throw out all mail in ballots based on an alleged violation of the constitution was not launched at any time in the 13 months between passing the new law, and mail in votes actually giving Joe Biden the lead in PA. Only then did they go to court and try to have the rules changes back. That’s why the case was thrown out.
OP
i totally realize and understand that they should’ve raised this challenge much earlier if they were so concerned, thus the challenge was thrown out. like let’s pretend the filed the suit a week after the legislation was passed – so i guess my question is, is there any merit to the idea that it does violate the PA constitution?
Anonymous
No.
Anonymous
No. Does not violate. Zero chance of success.
The date thing is only an issue because it highlights that the Republicans don’t actually believe it violates the PA constitution either – if any did, they would have raised it earlier. They know it doesn’t, they don’t care that their court filings are filled with lies, they just want to win however they can and however specious the argument.
Anon
I don’t think you are crazy for asking questions. I’m a lawyer. Appalled by what happened yesterday. But when I read the letter from the PA congresspeople to the House and Senate about why they were challenging I thought they had pointed out a couple of possible legitimate grievances about how the court rulings violated their state statutes but then I remembered we have a checks and balances system and ultimately, it was for the court to rule.
Anon
i tried replying to this, but my reply got eaten. so let’s say the lawsuit had been filed a week after the new law had been passed instead of 13 months later – is there then merit to the suit?
Anonymous
No
anonshmanon
I am not a lawyer, but I was able to find a lot of information quickly by googling ‘PA Act 77 constitution’, just FYI. Of course take into account which outlet is publishing the information, but I am sure you can glean a lot.
Several suits were also filed and dismissed during the summer. The constitution lays out the criteria for absentee votes, not mentioning mail in votes (I’ll post the link separately). You could say that the 2019 voting reform provides an additional option beyond what the constitution requires. If you are concerned about big government, I guess you could argue that only those things explicitly written in the constitution should be happening, and government should not touch anything beyond that, but then what’s the job of the legislative branch? The law was passed, by the way, by a PA legislature in which Republicans controlled both chambers, and they still do.
anonshmanon
Posting this separately to avoid mod, though now it seems my initial response is in mod. ugh.
article 7 p 14.
https://www.legis.state.pa.us/cfdocs/legis/LI/consCheck.cfm?txtType=HTM&ttl=0
The constitution defines absentee voting, does not address mail-in voting.
anonshmanon
Beyond those matters of interpreting the jurisdiction of a state legislature with respect to an existing constitution, I do fully agree with other posters on this thread, and hope that you will look at the larger pattern here: From way before the 2016 election, Trump has consistently shifted and shifted the line of what kinds of statements a president makes, from what used to be considered ‘spin’ to what cannot be called anything but ‘lies’ today. From before the votes were counted in 2016 he started claiming that the election was rigged and that millions of illegal immigrants voted and somehow managed to play both the victim of the establishment and be revered as a strong guy by his base. This victim stance was pulled out whenever useful, even while he was commander in chief with the Republicans controlling congress. His base does not listen to NPR or read the NYT. If you consume only information that tells you one thing over and over again, while warning you against getting a second opinion by dismissing any disagreeing voices as fake news, you don’t question the lies anymore. You don’t ask for evidence. And if you are brainwashed sufficiently, not even the fact that all state governments, including the republican-led ones, a presidential commission, and all the judiciary find no significant irregularities in the election process, can point you to the possibility that your side might be ‘the baddies’.
Didn’t we discuss and research at length how in the world it might be possible that tens of millions of Germans didn’t stop the Holocaust or claimed to have been completely unaware while it happened? Yes, tens of millions of people can be brought to support and not question some very bad things. It doesn’t mean that Hitler’s ideas had some merit that we somehow need to preserve from the ashes.
Anon
I was in his law school class and we were friends (not close) for a while. He was then smart, funny and interesting. We lost touch but it’s still hard for me to accept who he’s become now. I guess it’s like seeing someone you once liked and respected be revealed as a criminal.
Anonymous
It’s not ‘like’ that. It is that.
He is still actively fomenting the people that did this yesterday. Or as Stephen Colbert more aptly put it – Hawley had to close his fist when he saluted the terrorists because otherwise we’d see the blood on his hands drip down.
Anon
This sounds like how most people would describe a sociopath after they found out he had been caught.
Anonymous
Or a typical violent male who has finally been convicted of domestic abuse. He was always that person. You just didn’t know it.
Anon
I suppose that’s possible, but I also think he’s changed significantly from the person I knew in law school. I recall us having reasoned debates and he did not come across as a lunatic, which is obviously not the case anymore.
Clementine
I suppose that’s possible, but I also think he’s changed significantly from the person I knew in law school. I recall us having reasoned debates and he did not come across as a lunatic, which is obviously not the case anymore.
anon
Since when are smart, funny, and interesting qualities that evidence a person has good character?
Z
I think we tend to assume the best in people, especially if they have charming qualities. The commenter that knew him in law school didn’t think a normal-seeming person would go on to attempt a coup, which is reasonable!
Anon
I am the commenter who knew him, and yes, this is what I meant. To the other commenter, no need to jump all over me. Sheesh.
LaurenB
The poster who knew Hawley didn’t say that. She was asked to describe him when she knew him, and that’s how she described him. She’s been very clear she is no fan of his. There’s no need to jump on her.
anon
I didn’t jump all over her? Just pointing out the difference between someone’s character (which is clearly what’s at issue, no one really doubts he’s smart and can be personally appealing if he’s managed to become an elected public official) and “smart, funny, interesting.” The poster obviously must have felt his character back then was somewhat okay or she wouldn’t have been friends with him (right?), but the only adjectives she used were smart, funny, and interesting. You’re reading too much tone into it, but thanks for stepping in, Hall Monitor Lauren.
anon
I went to law school with Ian Samuel and it was weird to watch his transition from the classic “smart and funny but also smarmy, clearly angling for a law professor/pundit career male Law Review member” to a prominent presence in legal internet commentary and then his fall from grace due to s*xual harassment allegations.
The process of watching someone you knew as a person become a personality is odd.
Anon
I’m struggling working with a partner who rarely picks up calls or responds to emails. Often he will promise to call at x time, and then I never hear from him. Then I keep emailing him, and he finally says he can take a call “now,” and it’s either at dinner time or close to bedtime, so I miss seeing it until a hour later, at which time he is again unresponsive. As a result, I waste more time doing an assignment and feel like I am walking in the dark. It turned out he was unhappy with something I did and didn’t tell me until my annual evaluation. Before wfh, I could just knock on his door, catch him that way, and get immediate help/feedback. Now with wfh, it’s extra difficult to catch him. How do I overcome this?
Cat
Can you enlist his assistant?
Clementine
This is so personal – I would ask his assistant or a person who he works closely with. In my experience, a good assistant knows all their quirks.
anonymous
Can you schedule check-in meetings with him and bring your questions to him at that time?
NY CPA
Schedule a standing 15 min with him everyday or every other day. If you need it, you can call him at that time and he should pick up. If you don’t need it, don’t use it. I have “office hours” for an hour twice a week for my team to do exactly this, because I know I can be hard to catch when my calendar starts filling up with calls. I absolutely will not schedule over my office hours.
NY CPA
Bonus: if my team doesn’t call me during my office hours, I have an hour of call-free time blocked on my calendar when I can knock out other work without being disturbed.
anon
This is a great suggestion, but it would require this partner to be on board with this solution and to stick to it. I don’t have high hopes that will actually happen.
NY CPA
Yeah definitely. It would have to be a two-way agreement. Maybe start more manageably with something like a standing 30 min once or twice a week? Might seem less daunting than every day?
anon
I have worked with this person, and it’s darn near impossible to find a good solution when they keep bailing on you. I would enlist others to help track him down. Maybe that’s an assistant.
But, I have to say — you’re going to have to make peace with this being a less-than-ideal working relationship and know that it is NOT your fault and is not a reflection on your skills or abilities to manage up.
AFT
Sympathy – I worked for the same person in my last biglaw job and honestly knew the only way to get his attention was to physically put myself in front of him (but also was kicked out of his office so many times when client calls came in during our meetings). I left for a different role pre-pandemic so never dealt with the lack of physical proximity, but my general approach was: 1) basically assume I was making all decisions and he wouldn’t weigh in; 2) emailing with “i’m planning to do this, let me know if you want to discuss” and recognizing he often wouldn’t chime in but I’ve given him the opportunity; 3) trying to set weekly “checkins/lightning rounds” where I would lob all of my questions at him; and 4) honestly, if he’s gonna ding you for not getting his attention, he’s not a good boss and you should realize that.
AFT
Good suggestions above that you should follow if you haven’t already, but honestly nothing really worked for me fully.
P.S. I work in a different job now, and while my boss is also very busy, sometimes misses emails, and isn’t always responsive when I need her *she doesn’t blame me for not getting her attention*. yes, busy people may be hard to get ahold of, but good bosses should be clearly communicating their expectations (e.g., if you’re trying to get him to weigh in on stuff he shouldn’t then he should tell you that) and not blame you for their unavailability.
anon
I am legit terrified and scared this morning. Please, please, please invoke the 25th. Who knows how much more damage will be done in the next two weeks. The conversation I had with my 11-year-old last night broke my heart into a million pieces.
Anonymous
I agree completely. This was completely predictable after four years of Trump supporting it, it’s what Trump wanted and directly encouraged yesterday, and all reports say that he is dangerous and unstable right now. He must go IMMEDIATELY.
Anonymous
Also, I encourage everyone to call their senators and representatives today and urge the 25th amendment and a strong response to the individuals who attempted to overthrow democracy yesterday. We need to keep the pressure on and not let lawmakers and get away with any attempt at “moving on.” It only takes a few minutes to call.
Anon
do you think pence would then pardon trump and his children?
Anonymous
I don’t think he would. I think yesterday (the violence against the Capital) was a line for Trump. Trump wouldn’t call in the National Guard to help stop the violence, Pence had to do it. NY Times was reporting that the support Trump showed for the terrorists after the violence started was eye opening for senior staffers. I think a lot of them had dismissed Trump as ‘just talking’ for way too long and blinded themselves to reality.
anon
I’ve read this argument a lot, and wow, it does not speak well for the senior staffers. He must be extra terrifying/convincing/diabolical in person if they could convince themselves that he was “just talking” until yesterday. I don’t know whether to be angry at them or to hope they aren’t suffering from serious PTSD from working with this maniac.
Anonymous
Ugh, this isn’t aimed at you specifically, but I’m so tired of people acting like “ok now here’s a line that Trump crossed.” That is literally all he has done his entire presidency. I won’t believe that this time is any different unless there is ACTUALLY a removal.
Monday
+1. What “line”? A line between what and what? Impunity and…more impunity?
Anon 10:14
I’m zero percent surprised by what happened yesterday but I think for Pence and others in the Senate, they viewed themselves as different from the general populace. So seeing Trump being okay with violence against them was a line for them. They care about themselves only.
Kinda like how one person posted down thread about the cognitive dissonance of Trump being anti-semitic/encouraging neo-nazis yet having Jewish family members – those closest to him think they are exempt from him being okay with violence. Yesterday showed them that he actually doesn’t care about violence against anyone except himself.
anon
I actually don’t think he would. Pence was at the Capitol as it was being attacked. He had a reasonable fear for his own life and the lives of hundreds of people around him. Word is that Pence is pretty angry about it. I don’t think he will forgive Trump by January 20th. This is not an endorsement of Pence–just my personal opinion on human nature. This assumes that Pence is not, in fact, a robot, though a 10% possibility remains.
KW
And I’ve read a few articles this morning that (unnamed) GOP sources said they have never seen Pence as angry as he was when Trump called him and asked him not to certify the results of the election, saying that Pence couldn’t believe it after everything he has done for Trump. So maybe (hopefully!) these will be the events along with the end of their term that finally cause Pence to publicly stand up to Trump. Assuming he’s not a robot, as you mentioned…
Anonymous
Doesn’t mean jack sh*t to me until we see action. Until there is removal or impeachment, it’s all just words. It’s all just Susan Collins being “disappointed.”
pugsnbourbon
Pence is desperate to be the GOP candidate in ’24 or ’28, he’ll do whatever it takes to stay appealing to them.
Ellen
This is what my Dad says, but not the 25th but instead with impeachment. There is no way the 25th works b/c Trump has stoked his cabinet with yes men and women. Dad thinks that Schumer can get enough Republican’s to sign on to do the impeachment, and then Pence can be “rewarded” by becoming the President, if only for mabye a week, and in that week, he can Pardon Trump for whatever crimes he can think of (there are probably plenty). Then, Trump can leave with a clean Federal slate. I think that does NOT absolve him from state law crimes, tho.
Anon
Trump was described by more than one news channel as “manic” last night. After the capitol situation was under control and congress was back at work, Trump was wandering the White House halls in a manic fashion. His mental health is not good. He is literally not fit at the moment to be president.
Anon
He never was fit to be president.
Anonymous
I would almost feel sorry for him if I didn’t detest him so much.
blargh
I had to write a class cert brief yesterday while watching a coup attempt unfold five miles from my house. My brain feels broken today.
Anonymous
I have an important report to write and I just decided to take PTO instead yesterday afternoon. I didn’t even have to do that on election day, but yesterday was beyond the pale.
Anon
I have a deadline today and I’m behind and there’s no changing the deadline. This all feels impossible.
AnonATL
Try having to do a ton of client facing work today…. Let’s all pretend like the world isn’t a damn mess while I try to solve your technical issue with a smile.
Rainbow Hair
I saw a tweet like “a friend texted me ‘do I still have to do my work during a coup?’ and if that isn’t the most American thing…”
It’s been absurd to work as usual while there’s a deadly pandemic everywhere, and it’s extra absurd to do it during a coup… and yet here I am.
Sloan Sabbith
I stayed up late last night trying to finalize a thing due tomorrow because I was too distracted yesterday. We are all there with you.
Anon
For those of you who are Trump supporters or who have them in your family, what is the mood today? Do you still support him or was this a bridge too far? This is a genuine question. I honestly want to know whether most Republicans are horrified or they think that it was just a legitimate protest with a few bad apples like a Trump supporter in my family seems to believe. It seems that there is one camp that is resigning the administration and speaking out at last and another that is digging in, but what are the average voters doing?
Leatty
My mom doesn’t love Trump, but she voted for him twice. She doesn’t blame him for what happened. I was so upset that I couldn’t continue the conversation with her.
Anon
I’m hearing a lot of the “few bad apples” argument. And if I’m honest, that’s the argument we (progressives) used last summer.
I’m also hearing “but it’s the People’s House!,” meaning people won’t distinguish between the U.S. Capitol and a private building, and that’s so troubling.
Anonymous
My dad is a semi-Trump supporter (more hating dems than liking Trump), but is someone who was absolutely happy to debate anyone about why voting for Trump was the right choice and why they were an idiot for voting for Hillary/Biden. His verbatim text message during the drama yesterday was “Trump is an idiot who has lost his job and probably the Senate. Round them up and put them in jail…”
anon
Well, that gives me some hope, but my hunch is most Trump supporters are more like Leatty’s mom.
Anonymous
His signs are still up in my suburb. I think that says it all sadly.
pugsnbourbon
My neighbor put his Trump banner back up in his window yesterday. Imagine going out of your way to show everyone how stupid you are.
Anon
also, can someone explain to me how these terrorists reconcile things like Trump being married to an immigrant and having a Jewish son-in-law and grandchildren, with then wearing shirts promoting auschwitz, with nazi symbols and the like? it doesn’t make sense. Trump’s own nuclear family doesn’t mimic whatever he ‘preaches’
Anonymous
If you are rich/white/related to Trump the rules are different in his world.
Anon
But they’re very special and he loves them.
Anonnn
They don’t. They aren’t rational and they don’t use common sense or trust facts. They aren’t even remotely worried about reconciling dissonance. I wish people would stop this exercise. It’s a waste of time.
Dear+Summer
This! This is why these movements need to be put down as soon as they form. These people are beyond convincing and extremely dangerous. The will be unhappy with anything that isn’t exactly what they want and will excuse and commit genocide
Shelle
I think about this all the time with Melania being an immigrant, breaking the rules with her work visa, and bringing her parents over here by chain migration – all this Trump actively opposes. I always reference the quote “I feel like I’m taking crazy pills!” because it doesn’t make any sense on the surface. But then my husband reminds me Trump thinks of her as one of the “desirable immigrant countries” like Norway from his January 2018 speech, obviously being barely disguised racism. The mental gymnastics his supporters do to justify their positions is impressively complex.
anon
Beyond simply being racist, this distinction of desirable vs. undesirable immigrants was also useful in preventing the other wealthy nations from putting more pressure on the US to fix their stupid immigration system. With the recently enacted immigration crackdowns though, a nice, white, highly educated, non-muslim immigrant like me (sarcasm) is also fearing for her livelihood and I haven’t been able to see my family in a year because I would not be able to come back to the US and lose my job. Now I feel like at least the wealthy nations’ citizens properly feels how broken the system really is. There are a lot of regulations that have made visas more difficult in the last years, and while some of them will be rolled back, I think Joe Biden will have many bigger priorities and also some rules are politically inopportune to tackle so we are looking at significantly lower immigration for the next years.
Ellen
I think Melania will dump Trump now that she has her green card. He will have little money and alot of legal problems unless he is pardoned by Pence, if Pence becomes President in the next week. What is the chance of all that happening? I think he will need to find a new woman if Melania leaves, tho at his age, with no money, his choices are very limited. Mabye one of those 50 something divorced bruisers I saw on TV yesterday might agree to marry him, but I don’t think the s-x would be good enough to lure any cute women his way.
Anon
He’s racist, they’re racist, and he lets them be racist out loud.
anon
I voted Democrat for the first time this past election, and my parents voted for Trump. I’m deeply considering if I will vote Republican moving forward if the party does not make any drastic changes. I reached out to my mom to gauge their response (immigrant, and was focused on the looting vs protesting back in the summer) and she was disgusted in those storming the capitol and with Trump. I know many are saying Trump voters are largely to blame, but I do think this is a good opening to my parents considering to not vote Republican despite their life long party allegiance.
Anon
Honestly, I think that the R party needs normal people in it now more than ever and that they should stay. Primaries matter. Turning up to vote matters. I don’t want a world where there is only just one side of the aisle and a lot of shouting otherwise.
Anon
American parties all lean so far right… hopefully we can get a new party left of the Democrats if the Republicans are done.
Anonymous
This. I can’t think of any other western democratic country that has such far-right parties with policies as what the Republican party has developed. Even the most far right parties in Europe don’t try to dismantle health care or public education, they are racist AF but not focused on actually dismantling the state itself.
anon
yeah, I was thinking the other day how Nancy Pelosi and Angela Merkel (leader of the Christian conservative party, with three major parties to the left of them) have a lot in common.
anon
Advocate for open primaries! I am an independent in Missouri. During primaries, I can request either party’s ballot.
Anonymous
This is how I feel and why I’ve stayed registered as a Republican despite my disgust at the current Trumpist leadership, etc. I didn’t vote for Trump in either of the primaries or the general elections, but it’s important that my voice can be heard in the primaries to try to bring it back to being a party founded on the ideals of conservatism, rather than populism.
Anon
Back in 2016, by the time my state has a primary, Marco Rubio was the only choice I found remotely tolerable. And I think I’m in an early-ish voting state. Still an R though — I stay mainly for primaries. I’m in a purple state and a blue city, so I really just don’t matter, but I matter in a primary. The D races seem to weed out people the right way but there was a real nutter in an obscure race who won something like 10K votes (but still lost, thankfully).
anon
The Republicans need to seriously rethink who they’re attracting to the party. It wasn’t always filled with nut jobs. If the Republicans want to save their party for the long term, they need to change their rhetoric and policies to align with those who are concerned with fiscal issues and the size of government — not encourage the hate-filled fringes. I could get behind that. The Republicans have flat-out failed on social issues, to the degree that this moderate cannot ever see herself voting R again, even though I have in the past.
Betsy
I hope you’ll continue to vote in your republican primaries. I was thinking yesterday, as George Bush and Mitt Romney were some of the only adult voices on that side of the aisle, how important it is for our political system to have two functional parties and I hope we’ll see republicans continue to work to bring their party back from the fringe.
Anonymous
On the subject of Bush2 era ppl – DH and I were discussing how Dick Cheney, Donald Rumsfeld and Karl Rove used to be the ‘bad guys’ and they have all come out against Trump. Like when those three think you are bad, you evil AF.
Anonymous
My parents voted for Trump purely for, according to them, economic policy reasons. (Facepalm). They were both horrified yesterday and think he needs to be removed immediately.
Anon
I’m seeing a range of reactions on my social media from Republicans and from Trump supporters.
“The protest was largely peaceful, and anything bad that happened was done by ANTIFA terrorists dressed up as Trump supporters,” “this was all staged; don’t believe everything you hear,” “it was interference by Biden supporters designed to prevent Republicans from revealing the election fraud in time to change the election outcome.”
“It’s not about Trump anymore; we have to take back our country!”
“Everyone is free to participate; it just happens to be a mostly white crowd.”
“This is the fault of Trumpism. I’m so sad about this and the Georgia outcome. But because of Trumpism and the far left, I’ll never be welcome in the Democrat party, so now I have no political home.”
Anon
My boyfriend likes to read the Fox news comments “to understand the other side” and he said it was a lot of people making the “it was ANTIFA terrorists pretending to be Trump supporters to make him look bad” argument. That doesn’t make any sense on so many levels!
Curious
My dad will be one of the people both (1) saying it’s a great thing they stormed congress and (2) blaming antifa. How the hell the two can coexist is beyond me. My family is falling apart. And it’s not just Trump to blame. Conservative news and parler and qanon can go f themselves.
PNW
I’m so sorry.
Curious
Thanks. I understand now when we talk about “brother against brother” in the civil war how heartbreaking that was.
emeralds
Agreed, Curious. This sounds so horrible to say, but I’m glad my father gave me a reason to cut off my relationship with him that was unrelated to his political views in 2018.* Our relationship would never have survived the last three years, but it would have been a lot messier and more painful to get to the breaking point.
*But not at all unrelated to the reasons why he loves Trump–which is to say, belief in conspiracy theories, his own victimization, and a willingness to create his own version of reality.
Curious
Emeralds, I’m so sorry.
Anonymous
Tucker Carlson has an op ed on Fox this morning. I imagine it captures what the other side is thinking today.
Last night, right wing media was mostly focused on the vet who was shot. You see that reflected in the op ed too.
Anonymous
The fact that they basically avoided reporting on the police officers who were injured was very telling.
Anon
I’ve been reading main stream media, and haven’t seen anything about police injuries. So, it seems like no one is really reporting on it despite the fact that they reported that 4 of the terrorist died.
Anonymous
I think the mainstream channels are focused on the whole peaceful transfer of power thing. Fox is trying to find any other angle so they’ve run with more coverage of insurrection related injuries/deaths.
During the BLM protests, every time a police officer chipped a nail Fox was all over it but when multiple police officers are transported to hospital after run ins with Trump supporters, zero coverage.
Miss Marple
I was watching the riots on the CSPAN website, which instead of using pundits to provide commentary, takes calls from all over the country. Many of the Republican callers took the view that the riots were justified and necessary to stop the Democrats from stealing the election and to keep Trump, who is the best president ever and has fulfilled all of his promises, in office. There was also a disturbingly high number of callers who believed that the rioters were not actually Trump supporters (except for a small handful) but Antifa wearing pro-Trump gear so that fake-news media could blame Trump.
FP
My mother is a Trump fan, and her husband is a Trump cult member. It is so incredibly personally sad to me. They apparently went to DC yesterday for the protest. They are not well-educated people or very intellectual, and have a lot of trouble understanding how to sort through propaganda. They eat it all up. I am honestly in a grieving process with my mother – I feel like I’ve lost her to brainwashing and there’s no way to come back from it. I used to be Republican (the Mitt Romney / John McCain supporter) but they lost me in 2015 when they hitched their wagon to Trump. I am just very, very sad for my country and my own family.
Anon
I’m so sorry. Virtual hugs.
anon
I am really sorry, FP. That has to be so, so difficult to accept. Grief is the perfect word to describe what you’re going through with her.
Curious
I’m with you, FP. I honestly feel like we need support groups for the families of QAnon and trump cultists and possibly conspiracy addicts anonymous. I just don’t see how to heal.
FP
It’s awful. It’s to the point where she is so addicted to Facebook or her phone or whatever conspiracy theory they are reading, they don’t even pay attention to my children when they visit (pre-pandemic). I can’t trust her with much anymore. I don’t mean to diminish anyone else’s struggle but I wonder if this is what it feels like to lose a parent to Alzheimer’s or dementia. She’s just not there anymore. It doubly hurts when you have a normal conversation with her and she is lovely and what you remember, then you see her comment on some “America First dot Guns” Facebook page and wonder what the heck is happening to her mind.
Curious
Yes. Exactly this. I told my dad I was pregnant the other day and within 5 minutes he was telling me not to get vaccinated because COVID is a scam to take down Trump. Like, hi, you’re going to be a grandfather. Oh, great, that’s cool, do you know this more important news?
Curious
I actually think a lot about dementia, because some other posters have said that losing the ability to focus on reality can be an early sign. He’s only 62 so it would be early, but he’s had a lot of stress in his life. But I think it is more easily explained as complete brainwashing. And like you, I don’t see a way back.
FP
Ugh, I am so sorry. I’m right there with you, Curious. My mom is in her early sixties and still works, so I don’t think this is the start of dementia. I think this is just what happens when you don’t have much of a social community, are specifically anti-intellectual, and are gullible enough to believe any and all propaganda targeted at you without understanding how you are making yourself a target online. I swear she is going to get her bank account cleaned out one day because she keeps taking these Facebook quizzes that are so clearly targeted to track answers to possible security questions.
Anon
This is happening with my mom too. At first I legitimately thought it was something like dementia. But now I think it’s more like being a cult. It is really hurtful when she turns every conversation back to the conspiracies, and yes, the grandkids are just fodder for vaccination debates. It’s incredible to witness. I was always more conservative than my mom growing up, and while I know boomer leftism can be shallow, this isn’t something I ever expected to see.
Curious
Anon, that sounds so familiar. It’s actually really nice to hear you all saying it’s hurtful over and over. My mom keeps trying to urge compassion (which I understand), but it runs the risk of not acknowledging that the rest of us are also in pain.
Btw — if you all would be interested in talking off of the comment section, shoot me an email at [email protected].
Monte
I don’t know any Trumpers in real life (I am a black woman from Chicago, so…), but I will say that when a friend of mine was struggling with his pro-Trump mom a couple of months ago, I stumbled across a subreddit for family members of QAnon devotees that might be helpful. A shocking amount of pain out there for folks dealing with loved ones going off the deep end.
Congrats on the pregnancy, Curious.
Curious
Also FP the quiz thing sounds totally freaky. Social engineering is so invasive.
Curious
Oh, thank you, Monte, and thanks for the pointer to the Reddit sub. Also, Chicago pride :).
Anonymous
There was a great article about this in the Huffington Post recently by Michael Hobbs, who also hosts a podcast where they addressed millennials losing parents/older relatives to these conspiracies, and some of the reasons/science behind why it’s happening. I found it very thoughtful and eye opening.
Curious
Thank you for sharing.
Anonymous
my mom (a chinese immigrant!!!!) doesnt think the election was legitimate so she supports anything that is happening. its mind boggling. i also couldnt continue a phone call with her because i was so upset yesterday
Horse Crazy
My conservative friends are reposting tweets from Ted Cruz and Senate Republicans about how violence is never acceptable. Ridiculous.
Anon
My partner’s parents are strong Trump supporters. They seem to genuinely believe that antifa or crisis actors were paid to be rioting. I saw some news articles about this. The fur and horn wearing man was IDed as a longtime QAnon and Trump supporters, but they think he has been playing along with a deep cover and actually is a BLM supporter. It is all very disturbing. I feel they’ve lost grip on reality. Anything that is objectively “fact” is now a false flag, deep state cover story.
Anon
After watching BLM burn down cities with the encouragement of Harris, AOC, and their sick, pathetic ilk, I DGAF.
LaurenB
Ivanka, shouldn’t you be tending to your father?
Anon
I spent 10 hours glued to the tv yesterday and have been on Twitter/news sites all day today. I work in local government in a non-law enforcement public safe role so luckily monitoring this utter nonsense is considered work, as I maintain situational awareness as to what’s happening elsewhere. That being said. I need a distraction:
My skin is meh, I would love to obtain the look of radiant skin either naturally/through skincare or easy makeup. I want a look that looks better than my actual skin but looks natural but I’m low maintenance and don’t know makeup very well! I prefer drugstore or cheap Sephora level products.
My current skincare routine involves toner or glycolic acid, a few times a week vitamin c serum (day) or lactic acid (night), hyuluronic acid, eye cream, and moisturizer (daytime spf too).
My makeup routine involves maybelline bb cream (I don’t love it), pixie blush stick, liquid top lid eyeliner, mascara, and brow gel. To me this feels like a lot of makeup, even though it takes me about 2 minutes. On days when I do less makeup, I just do mascara, brow gel, and the blush stick.
I’m in my 20s and feel like I just look kind of meh. As I said I know very little about both skincare and makeup, so don’t know where to start in updating my routine.
Anonymous
Toner, glycolic acid and vitamin C is a lot of stripping your skin. I’d see if lowering the frequency or ditching the toner and using a two-step oil and cleanser cleaning regime makes a difference. Dehydrated skin doesn’t reflect light as much or have the same bounce as healthy skin.
I’d also look at the BB cream—I found that one kind of heavy. A lighter liquid foundation or only spot coverage may be better if you have fairly clear skin.
Panda Bear
+1 – of course everyone’s skin is different, but in my 20s I was using way too many exfoliating acids and avoiding any oils. My skin got better when I started using less stuff overall (including washing less aggressively) and embracing more oil. When its safe, go for a facial and/or to the derm for skin care advice, and to sephora or a few beauty counters to try out new makeup options.
No Face
Other people know much more about skincare than me, but for me: (1) less is more, product-wise, and (2) begin with the beginning: drink tons of water, and eat lots of fruits and veggies.
Anon
I agree with others that it sounds like you’re using a lot of actives.
Try deeply moisturizing your skin. Sleep with a nice thick moisturizer on, either over your actives, or just the moisturizer a few nights a week. Some moisturizers I like are La Roche Posay Cicablast Baume, Drunk Elephant Protini, or Tatcha dewy skin cream. On top of that I like the cosrx rice spa sleeping mask. And sometimes I “slug”, which is putting a thin layer of Aquaphor on my face after everything else.
During the day you might try a drop of facial oil to look more glowy and hydrated. I like Sunday Riley Juno, but there are lots.
Eat lots of colorful fruits (berries particularly) and drink tons of water.
Anon
In terms of BB cream, less is more. I don’t love the maybelline one, I use the dr Jart, but try applying it by bouncing it with a damp beauty blender type sponge, and use about half the amount you’re currently using before seeing if you need more.
Anonymous
Agree with some of the other posters re: so many “actives”. I only wash my face in the evening. AM is Vitamin C, hyuluronic acid, Cerave moisturizer, sunscreen. PM is oil cleanse to remove makeup, gentle cleanser, the Ordinary’s buffet, Cerave’s moisturizer. 1-2x a week I use P50 PIGM 400.
I had the same routine as you and made the following changes which I think really upped my makeup game/I look much more “radiant.” My makeup now takes 5 minutes total but I think it’s worth it.
(1) under eye concealer, which smooths out my face giving it a brighter appearance, (2) applying blush on the tip of my nose, which gives me a sunkissed look,
(3) highlighter, which literally gives me a glowy look
(4) eyeshadow, which I never wore but I think helps brighten my entire face
Anon in Dallas
I may be too late here but one other thing – are you sleeping enough? My skin looks like shit right now but I know it’s because I haven’t slept well in a week. You lose all that natural radiance and “glow” if you’re not well rested and no makeup or skincare routine can restore it, at least long term.
Anon
For those of you who do your own brows, how do you shape them and how do you ensure they’re even?
I’ve been doing my own for years (since I moved). I recently realized good brows make a huge difference, but due to surging cases I’m not getting them done anytime soon. So, I’d like to learn how to do them myself
anon
Go slow and do a little bit at a time. I don’t know that I’d try doing major shaping/reshaping on my own, but it’s not terribly hard to clean up what’s already there.
I use a clean mascara wand to brush up my brows, then use cuticle scissors to lightly snip the long pieces. It doesn’t take much. Then I use tweezers to clean up the stray hairs under the brows.
Formerly Lilly
This. And since I was at home by myself for a long time in December thanks to Covid, subsequent quarantine, and the holidays, I deliberately just let them go for that period of time. Last weekend I did what Anon at 10:05 recommends, cleaning up only the strays that were way out of line. I was pleased with the results, once I added brow gel to my aging and sadly faded brows.
anon
Ugh, yes, the fading brows. I recently turned 40 and have started noticing this. It bums me out. I’ve always had naturally dark brows, even though my natural hair color is a mousy medium brown. Now I need brow mascara to get the same effect, and even then, it’s not quite the same.
Anon
Same issue, same fading brown hair and darker blows. What brow gel and color do you use?
Party Animal
Have you tried tinting them? I do it at home using either a mustache dying kit or a root touch up kit. Takes ten minutes and I do it every couple weeks. Works great and restores the life to my brows.
anon
I’ve been using the NYX brow mascara in brunette. It’s pretty dark.
Formerly Lilly
To anon at 11:11 – I use Glossier Boy Brow and sometimes a Anastasia of Beverly Hills product. I find the Anastasia brush easier to use as the Boy Brow has a crummy wiper, but I like the very natural looking results of Boy Brow best. The key is to buy a lighter color than you think you need. Whatever color you think matches your brows and hair, go one step lighter.
Senior Attorney
I do this, too. And to add color and volume I really like Benefit Gimme Brow+ Volumizing Eyebrow Gel. I used to use Glossier Boy Brow but I prefer the Benefit.
Anon
I don’t know. I thought about this and my face is not symmetrical to begin with. One side hangs higher than the other, including the eyebrows. I haven’t had a stroke or anything, but one side is also more expressive, the eye opens wider, etc. It’s like Shannon Doherty-level (or maybe why Mariah Carey only lets one side of her get photographed). I just pluck strays. Anything else winds up wrong and then is a grow-out nightmare.
Abby
Olivia Culpo has some of the prettiest natural brows in my opinion, and she says to never pluck more than 5 hairs a day. Besides that, I think it’s trial and error. I personally will get them threaded to shape them and maintain (in normal times)
Anon
No advice other than to say the technician I used to see used to say that brows are sisters, not twins.
Senior Attorney
Haha this is so true!
anonshmanon
oh that’s a good one! I’ll have to remember that…
Anon
I do 5 hairs on one side, then 5 on the other, then step back and look. If needed, I do this a second time, and leave the mirror. I look again 10-15 minutes later, and repeat if needed. It’s easy to get too overly enthusiastic and it helps forcing myself to really slow down and spend lots of time thinking about what I’m doing and “resting” my eyes so I can see it fresh, and see both sides. My eyebrows are naturally different shapes so I have to be extra careful to make sure they are even. I’ve been doing them myself since March and can’t wait to go back to the salon as soon as it’s safe.
Cat
I’ve been doing my own since college. The key is patience and stepping back after you tweeze a few hairs. When you’re all zoomed in on yourself in the mirror it’s easy to think a hair looks rogue or uneven – that’s what leads to accidental over-plucking.
Anon
In addition to other shaping tips, it’s important to get a clean line on the bottom. I always start plucking there. T hen use a pencil to make sure the bottom of the brow has good definition and feather in other places as needed.
Anon
Draw an outline with a fine tipped brow pencil of where you want your brow to be. If you draw this in a magnifying mirror, which I would need to do, be sure you step back and look at the outline in a larger mirror to make sure you like it.
On the bottom, pluck any hairs growing below the line. On the top, brush your eyebrow hairs up with a spoolie brush (mascara wand) and trim them at the top line. I usually don’t tweeze at the top, but if you have a ton of stray hairs feel free. Just don’t overdo it up there because it can look really strange.
Anon
I see a lot of Chewy dot com ads and they have a warehouse near me. I totally do not understand how it is economical to add fast shipping on something as heavy as giant bags of dog food (and then there is the toll on delivery workers and it is probably not all that green to send trucks to people’s houses vs one giant pallet to a store and smaller more economical cars deal with the last few miles of people’s deliveries).
I guess I am a bit ethically opposed to this (vs other deliveries that are lighter and not as burdensome on package delivery people and also vs things like curbside pickup). But I don’t see how you can afford to quickly ship something that is generally 30+ pounds.
Cat
Doesn’t quick shipping just mean that your order gets moved to the head of the line, for the most part? It’s not like they are suddenly flinging bags across the warehouse, flooring it in the truck, or airlifting Fancy Feast by helicopter to your door…
Anon
I think that if it is 2 day delivery, a lot of that moves by plane, which is not green. Lower things move by train, which is very green per pound moved and per mile traveled. Maybe we should look to get our very heavy goods moved to us via train and there can be an emblem to show % on ship (very green), % on train, % on pallet on truck, then % on train + % on delivery trucks going through neighborhoods.
No Problem
Hate to burst your bubble, but virtually nothing you’re getting delivered to your house or even to a local store is moving by train. Maybe some part of the manufacturing -> warehouse is done by train, but I think that’s rare unless you’re talking about especially large or heavy items. Trains are much more often used to move raw materials and manufacturing inputs (think agricultural products, coal/mined products, lumber, steel, car parts).
Cat
Based on detailed tracking of probably 95% of my packages over the past 5 years (I live in a city house, so am vigilant about knowing exactly when stuff is coming to get it off the stoop ASAP), the only ones that have been loaded on planes are specifically sent by air. Like- your local warehouse is not the one that’s the source for 2-day shipping for orders on the other side of the country.
Anon
I feel the opposite — if I order 3 items, they are often/usually sent from all over the US in 3 separate packages (Target at least lets you slow the speed to put more items together; I believe Amazon lets you do this, too).
Anon
I have issues with this too but I use them because no one in walking distance of me sells the only cat food that my cat likes (aka will not throw up on my bed). I’ve asked the one nearby pet store that doesn’t sell puppies if they would stock it and they no. I don’t have a car, and my cat only eats wet food (she has kidney issues) so it’s too heavy for me to carry more than a mile or so. I wish they offered a slow shipping option for those of us who order ahead and are not in a rush. If anyone has suggestions for other vendors, I’m all ears!
Anon
I know there’s lots of hate for Amazon, but subscribe and save is exactly this. You get a discount and they get to package your stuff efficiently and ship it slowly and send it when it works best for them, within a one week window. I buy as much as I can this way because it’s the best way to minimize environmental costs of shipping. I work at home and don’t really drive much (have a disability that makes it hard) so pretty much much every thing I buy in person requires an extra several miles drive to the store, as opposed to delivery trucks that are already in the area every day.
Anon
+1 to subscribe and save – I get lots of things like cat litter, detergent, dishwasher capsules, etc this way. I was going to have them delivered anyway due to the pandemic, but at least this way Amazon can ship them the slow way and use whatever is more efficient for them.
Anonymous
Ok. Then don’t do it. I get all my cat food and litter from Chewy. A- my brands are not available locally and B- I can’t carry such heavy things home walking, as I do for all my local shopping in my urban area.
Anon
How to pets even come to eat food that is not locally available to them? At the shelter I volunteer at, pets eat the food that we give them. A couple are on special medical diets, but our shelter wouldn’t operate on anything involving complicated food on a per pet basis.
Anonymous
That’s so nice for you that everything you do is perfect! I adopted an older cat, and the food he was being fed is not available at my local store which carries only Fancy Feast, which my vet did not recommend, and I wasn’t interested in dramatically changing his diet because that is also not great for an older cat.
Anon
My cat is older and has health issues. She can only tolerate this particular food, that I found after a lot of experimentation, or a very expensive prescription food. I could totally give her whatever from the closest store, but she would throw up (on my bed) in the short term and die in the slightly less short term.
The cat I had before her, and this cat when she was younger, could totally eat whatever food was put in front of them and would be fine. Just like a small percentage of humans have special dietary needs, so do other mammals. I’m sure you don’t mean to suggest that I kill my cat because she can’t eat the food that my local store chooses to carry, but that’s how your comment comes across.
Anon
We have one dog with a severe allergy to poultry, which is in a lot of commonly-available dog foods, and another one with an as-yet undiagnosable gastrointestinal dysfunction that means he can eat a very narrow range of ingredients and stay healthy. If we just fed them whatever we happened to buy at the grocery store or Target, we would compromise their health and their life span (not to mention spending thousands on vet bills to treat the attenuated problems). Just like for people, what pets eat matters. A good diet can help prevent or even cure animal health problems. I am sure you are capable of understanding that what shelters do for expediency’s sake, and what conscientious pet owners do for the health and well-being of their pets, are necessarily different.
Anon
Should we just feed plain meat and eggs to our dogs and cats? Like I’m not sure why they would even eat grains if it weren’t in the food we give to them. I feel like I don’t understand this enough — I know not to give table scraps but I could see just getting scraps from a butcher to make him a bit more of a eating-as-nature-intended dog. Or maybe adding that to the mix?
I just would draw the line at raw food b/c to me that would just be nasty (but probably not to him) and I’d want to immediately clean up any dribble, etc.
Anon
Cats can get pretty ill if there are no raw enzymes in their foods at all. They also are obligate carnivores who will get ill if the meat isn’t very high in taurine (brain, eyes, heart), and they need just the right amount of calcium, and a particular Ph balance, so it’s not advised to just feed them meat like the meat we eat. But people do feed cats whole foods; it’s just more like being a zookeeper than it is like feeding table scraps!
Anon
Look up the rates of diabetes, kidney disease, and IBD/small cell lymphoma in cats. High carbohydrate diets wear out cats’ pancreases. High levels of added inorganic phosphates (needed as flavor enhancement to get cats to eat filler ingredients) wear out their kidneys over time. Gastrointestinal irritants including carrageenan are associated with IBD. I understand that at a shelter, you’re trying to keep cats alive in the short term. I’m trying to keep my cats thriving long term, minimize their suffering, and spend less on veterinary bills.
Horse Crazy
My cat has urinary problems and needs to eat prescription food. My vet sells it for almost $4/can. Chewy sells it for $2/can.
Anon
Same, except my small-town vet doesn’t always keep it in stock (especially right now) and suggests that we order from Chewy.
Horse Crazy
Same same – also a small-town vet that doesn’t always have it.
Anon
I don’t know but a big bag of food is very heavy and I’d probably get repetitive stress injuries from lugging them from a delivery truck to a person’s door or apartment, so maybe those jobs would skew to large men (but they still get injured from RSIs). I guess big bags cost less per pound, but those savings come from somewhere (so if it is other people’s health, I can keep buying more lighter bags that I can safely carry on my own).
Anonymous
Again congrats on your perfection keep doing you!
Anon
I am pretty disgusted with the constant amazon vans on our street, so I am trying not to ship things and just doing store-pickup where possible. [Before you flame me, “where possible” is in there.] But I am trying to cut waste generally in January: waste of $, waste of time, not re-using leftovers, planning trips to the store, etc. Maybe a bit of Swedish death cleaning while I’m at it. And retailers: stop trying to get me to sign-up for automatic re-ups.
Anon
I don’t drive and am not very strong, so Chewy is great for me.
Anon
So, in all seriousness, should I report my nutty aunt who was there at the rally posting FB selfies all day, but probably didn’t do anything illegal? She’s stupid enough to fly out there with her kids, and deep in in enough to literally believe every conflicting QAnon conspiracy, but ultimately the type to stand on the sidelines and never get her hands dirty.
Cb
I’d report her, who knows how these lunatics will escalate? But also, unfriend her. Don’t subject yourself to that craziness.
Anon
Yeah, I’m not even on Facebook, but people kept sending me screenshots of her crazy. I mean, to be fair, we were glued to the news yesterday.
Anonymous
I’d report her. She probably won’t be charged with a crime, but she might have information on other attendees that will be essential to prosecution. It’s not the time to be loyal to these people.
Anonymous
Report her to who, for doing what?
Anonymous
https://www.fbi.gov/contact-us/field-offices/washingtondc/news/fbi-seeking-information-related-to-violent-activity-at-the-us-capitol-building
Anonymous
Even if she personally might be innocent of a crime, which is questionable, she’ll have footage that can identify others. Report her! Today is not the day for cowardice.
Senior Attorney
+1
Anon
Seriously. I think a lot of people in upper class privileged bubbles always think there’s some version of the principal’s office they can report people to. They don’t want to arrest people and it’s obvious because they did not arrest people. They’re not just waiting for people to send links to their relatives’ facebook pages.
Anonymous
Capitol Police openly let Qanon members walk out including the viking hat guy. FBI seems to be at least making an effort.
Just like in any terrorist attack, photos and videos are helpful in piecing together what happened and who can be charged with what. One advantage of facial recognition software working well for white men’s faces is that it should make it easier to identify the same terrorists across multiple photos/videos.
Anon
Perhaps I’m a bad relative, but if she was in fact one of the people who breached the capitol building, I would not hesitate to report her. Being related to me (by blood or marriage) does not excuse terrorism.
If she was just outside holding signs but did not enter or attempt to enter the building and didn’t do anything else illegal that I’m aware of, I would probably just unfriend and never speak to her again.
Aunt Jamesina
Was she just at the rally outside, or did she break into the building? There’s a world of difference.
Anonymous
I would report her given how furious I am over the whole thing.
They can’t prosecute her for anything if they don’t have evidence she was directly involved. But they have loads of security camera and social media footage they’re probably pouring over trying to ID specific people, and if you indicate she could potentially have been involved and share a photograph, they might be able to match it up against the images they have. If they can’t, she just gets relegated to the pile of useless tips.
Anonymous
This is why I would report her. She is a material witness. She VERY likely had photos that would be helpful in identifying people who were in the crowd and then went into the building.
Anon
Okay, that actually makes a lot of sense. She’s tall, striking and was unmasked (?) so they probably could easily spot her in the background of photos. I have no concerns about family loyalty, I just didn’t want to be wasting time that could be used to actually catch the worse actors who did commit crimes.
Anonymous
Not sure, but I had a family member there yesterday too, in the back of the crowd, and I wrestle with how to feel about it. She is lovely – really! – except for this GIANT BLIND SPOT.
Avery
Is she lovely if she supports disenfranchising millions of people? Is she lovely if she attended a rally whose leaders called for violence and sedition for weeks in advance?
Anonymous
Report her. She likely has footage on her camera that is relevant or knows other people who attend who may have been less law abiding. You absolutely need to report her.
https://www.fbi.gov/contact-us/field-offices/washingtondc/news/fbi-seeking-information-related-to-violent-activity-at-the-us-capitol-building
Anonymous
Ok honey no she ain’t lovely.
Anonymous
This. You can’t be lovely and support yesterday. They are mutually exclusive.
Senior Attorney
Yup. When you try to violently overthrow our democracy you forfeit any claim to loveliness.
Of Counsel
Particularly when you do it with a group of people wearing white supremacy gear and carrying Confederate flags.
pugsnbourbon
Wow so participating in terrorism/sedition is just a blind spot now?
Anonymous
Right? Like domestic terrorism is not a blind spot. It already has a name.
Anonymous
She was waiting on her bus on the Mall to leave when the Capitol breach happened. No pictures on Facebook – no posts at all from yesterday.
Aunt Jamesina
At a minimum, screenshot every last picture and post so you have them when/if she decides to delete them.
Anonymous
+1. Screenshots are vital.
hannah
I’m watching the DC police chief’s press conference, and based on what he said and what they’re looking for, I would report her. As others said, at the very least she has a lot of evidence.
I’m sorry.
Anon
I kept watching them in their largely unmasked throng yesterday and the thought that occurred to me was “the trash is taking itself out”
Sorry about your aunt. I have people like that in my family too (including a sibling!) It’s so hard.
Seventh Sister
I would. You never know what people are capable of doing.
Anon
I would report her because her footage may be valuable. Also, I think she should be held accountable.
+1 to unfriend her. I unfriended my elderly aunt who was posting QAnon conspiracies as well as the vaccine is really a microchip. I just choose not to consume that in my social media. Her kids, my cousins, actually have no contact with her (1 of whom is a moderate Republican). It is sad to see the family breaking apart, but QAnon followers are choosing this.
Anon
Just a groan.
I work in a field that’s equally divided between topics A and B, but I prefer A and feel much more comfortable with A. I’m familiar with B broadly, of course, and know finite topics in B fairly well, but really have to do a fair amount of familiarizing to feel comfortable with a good many technical issues. A former colleague/mentor recommended me as a speaker at an upcoming panel on B, genuinely believing the exposure would be good for me, so I hesitantly said yes to the invitation. I asked the organizer a month ago for a list of topics and questions to prep – she said she didn’t plan on having prepared questions (?!). Last night – two business days before the panel – the organizer emailed out a list of topics that are waaay in the weeds on B and nothing about B generally.
UUGGHH. I will now spend my weekend reading up on all these weedy B topics in the hopes that I can say something, anything intelligent on these weedy topics and I don’t embarrass myself or my employer. Ugh.
Aunt Jamesina
I’ve been there, it’s no fun. The good news is that you’ll never commit to something like this again!
Anonymous
This happens to me pretty frequently. When I protest that I’m not really an expert in B, I am told that “it’s fine, you know more than you think, we really need a representative of the organization to speak.” The way I usually handle it is to get all the B experts in the organization to brief me and send me resources, then figure out a way to connect B to A so I can talk more about A.
Also, it’s fine to push back against the moderator and suggest questions you are more prepared to answer.
Anonymous
I wrote a thank you email after an interview. The woman I interviewed with (who would be a peer) responded to my thank you email saying some specific nice things about me…for which I would usually respond and say “thank you” etc.
But given the context that she was responding to a thank you note I wrote…it’s normal/not rude to not reply to her reply, right? Or should I respond graciously to the nice things she said about me?
Cat
I think your instinct not to reply is correct, but if you do get the position, that’s a good excuse to reply at that point – “thanks so much for the kind words, I look forward to working with you!” type note.
I need magazines
Hi! Can the hive mind help suggest some
magazines that I could subscribe to? I currently gets cooking magazine and Elle Canada. Just looking for more content to read. Must be something I can read in public (haha). Looking for more words than pictures and something heavier than Elle.
Anon
Beauty and fashion or home or news or?
Aunt Jamesina
Check to see if your public library offers digital magazines to browse for ideas of what to subscribe to. Vanity Fair seems like it could fit the bill for you. The New Yorker is great, but every time I subscribe I remember how I never have enough time to read a weekly magazine. These days the only magazine I subscribe to is The Atlantic. Sorry for all of the American-centric mags, but it’s what I know!
Anonymous
I like Vanity Fair. I’m Canadian and reach for Chatelaine over Elle Canada. If you’re outdoorsy at all I like Explore magazine which is also Canadian.
Anon
The New Yorker?
Flats Only
Vanity Fair. The New Yorker.
Anon
Vogue. Vanity Fair.
The New Yorker is very good but it’s weekly and it piles up into a shame inducing tower. (I saw a meme about this recently and was so relieved I wasn’t the only one)
Cat
The Economist (though we do have trouble keeping up – it’s weekly and dense!)
Anon
I had to cancel my subscription, it made me feel so guilty to barely get through an issue. They pile up so quickly!
Anon
Try the audio version. Every week i read it starting backwards and listen to the audio going forwards. Otherwise I would never get through all of it!
Anon
Vanity Fair, New Yorker, The Atlantic
Senior Attorney
These are the ones to which I subscribe.
anan
Not sure if this is a useful if you are in Canada, but We have been getting The Week, which basically summarizes/ excerpts various new sources and op ed’s from the week’s news, including some international coverage. I like that it has a wide spectrum of views in a pretty digestible form.
I also could not keep up with the Economist, but I recently discovered they have a podcast and I do find it pretty informative.
kk
As Real Simple has become more and more like Buzzfeed, I have really liked Garden and Gun- they are an independent magazine and they have some really lovely pictures and articles.
LaurenB
I’ve heard of this but I can’t get past the name.