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Coffee Break: The Crossover Belt

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This belt would be perfect if you want to have a belt in your wardrobe to sometimes add to a sheath dress. I love this “mahogany,” a wine-colored/purple-y color that you’d be able to wear with navy, black, gray, red, and more. This would be a really versatile piece, and I think it’s well worth the $110 at MM.LaFleur. It comes in sizes XS/S, M/L, and XL/XXL. The Crossover Belt Here’s a lower-priced option (although it’s a bit wider). This post contains affiliate links and Corporette® may earn commissions for purchases made through links in this post. For more details see here. Thank you so much for your support!

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  1. Anonymous

    How do people eat tahini? Just learned it’s a good way to boost iron intake which I need to do. However I don’t cook so there’s zero chance that I’ll make my own hummus. Is there a more appealing way to consume it other than out of the jar – anything I can put it on/in? If it’s comes down to it, I’ll take a spoon from the jar bc I’m viewing this as “medicine.”

    • Anon

      You can spread on toast like peanut butter if you want a lot. Otherwise, use to make salad dressings.

    • Wildkitten

      I don’t cook either but hummus is just throwing chickpeas and tahini in a blender. Smoothies I can handle, so hummus I can handle. In case you’re open to options beyond tahini – you can also make smoothies with spinach which is good for iron. My favorite way to eat iron is bison burgers.

    • Anonymous

      Sauces for cold noodle dishes. The Barefoot Contessa’s szechuan noodles are great.

      • TO Lawyer

        I tried this once and found it was so salty for me! Did I do something wrong? Do you follow the recipe exactly?

        I would like to try it again because I have miso and tahini in my fridge…

        • ER

          Not AIMS, but I make this because my toddler likes it. If it is too salty for you, I would dial back the miso. Personally I find it too sweet for my taste.

          • AIMS

            Miso does tend to be salty so agree to dial back if that was the issue but I just use salt sparingly on everything else and esp. with stuff like sweet potatoes, find the combo really works.

          • TO Lawyer

            I added sambal to mine because I love the spice but that may have also added to the saltiness. Thanks for the tips – I’ll try it again this weekend!

          • AIMS

            @ TO Lawyer – if you like spice, I highly recommend the Rick Bayless green chili adobo recipe. It makes a big batch and keeps well and is so good on everything. It should come up if you google.

      • Torin

        I love her and I love tahini dressing, but somehow have not made this. I will correct this grievous error sharpish.

        • fake coffee snob

          Who *doesn’t* love her?

          I’ve been considering Julie and Julia’ing her book, actually. I have so much faith in her recipes and taste.

          • Former Retail

            And she has a new book coming out. I think it will go on my Christmas list.

    • Anon

      You could just eat storebought hummus. I’m not sure why that would be lower in iron than homemade hummus.

      • Anonymous

        It’s the tahini that has the disproportionately high amount of iron, not the hummus — so I was looking for ways to consume tahini (thanks for the ideas). I just mention hummus bc I knew that ppl would suggest making hummus to use up the tahini.

        • Wildkitten

          You might be able to mix extra tahini into storebought hummus. As a fellow non-chef, I love hacks like that where most of the work is already done :)

    • fake coffee snob

      You could make halvah if you like sweets. If you haven’t eaten it before, fair warning that it can be a bit of an acquired taste. I’ve never made it myself, always bought it, and I don’t know how different a homemade version would be.

      • fake coffee snob

        Also I believe the Zahav cookbook (which is WONDERFUL) has a lot of tahini-centric recipes.

    • Anon

      Besides hummus, you can make baba ganoush. The cooking can be minimal (microwave the eggplant, then blend it with tahini, olive oil, garlic, lemon juice, salt).

      • S

        That sounds like something made on a college dare! :) To each his or her own, but not even if I were stranded on a desert island…

    • Anonymous BigLaw Associate

      I will dip my kabobs/grilled meat like lamb/steak in it, as well as falafel. On shawarma. Will eat it on pita/sangak. And like other said, hummus/baba ghanosh. I personally don’t like tahini based salad dressings, but lots of people seem to.

      • Anonymous

        MM LaFleur has a lot of overpriced stuff. And their return policy sucks. You have to contact them to get a shipping label and then print it out yourself. And more than a week later I’m still waiting for a refund…

        • Anonymous

          Yep, their return policy is why I stopped ordering from them.

          I could never even try a Bento because I travel for work and the unreliability if their shipping schedule could make trying on in 4 days an impossibility. They claim to have been consultants, but obviously never really lived the typical travel lifestyle.

    • Senior Attorney

      Not defending MMLF, but on the topic of expensive belts: I bought a belt elsewhere about five years ago for the very-hard-to-swallow price of $165, and I’ve worn it multiple times a week since. It’s one of my very favorites and every time I put it on I’m happy I made myself pull the trigger.

  3. Baconpancakes

    Favorite non-foam beige t-shirt bras? Preferably with wide straps, 3 hooks, up to 36E/F?

    • JuniorMinion

      Wacoal has some good ones. I’m wearing one right now that is just double layer spandex with underwire so I can’t look at the model #. I also have had good luck with some of the spanx ones in terms of not seeing lines / bulges etc. I am a 32DD for reference.

      • LAJen

        I second this. I just discovered and adore the Wacoal Visual Effects Minimizer Bra, which does not act like a minimizer on me (32H, for reference) at all but does provide excellent support. I think the cups run slightly large, as I am firmly a 32H or 32FF in nearly every brand and even in other Wacoal bras, but I’m a 32G in this one.

    • Pompom paging Sloan Sabbith

      I don’t know if this qualifies as foam, but I live in the Elomi Amelia. Straps are wide without being hideous, there’s pretty lace on the side that doesn’t violate the stealth mode purpose of a t-shirt bra, and it has 3 substantial hooks. I’m a 36HH uk sizing.

    • Diana Barry

      I haven’t checked the sizes, but Spanx makes great br*as with the hosiery back so they are ultra smooth under clothes.

    • Anonattorney

      I like Chantelle Intimates, available at Nordstrom. I’m a 38E/F, and they provide great support, wide straps, 3 hooks, comfortable, great shape. I live in the Rive Gauche model, but that’s not really a tshirt bra. Check their other models.

    • HSAL

      The Bali Live it Up bra is amazing and the cheapest bra I own. I’m a 36G/H but the stretchy (but still decently supportive) material makes even the 36DDD fit comfortably with no spillage. Padded comfort straps. The Fantasie seamless is also pretty good, but doesn’t have wide straps.

  4. Target Sofa

    Anything I should know about ordering a sofa from Target? I like the sale prices, I like that they deliver it, no problem to assemble some bits.
    I guess I am asking are they super uncomfy or something?

    • new job who dis

      I have no experience unfortunately, but from ordering couches online other sites, sight unseen, the biggest problem I’ve had is how quickly they wear down. or the cushions defluff. or it gets damaged very easily. any reviews you can go off of?

      I would assume as well that Target quality couches wouldn’t have many years of good life in them

      • Former Retail

        I would google that sofa to see if it’s sold on other sites – Wayfair, etc. – you might find more reviews.

    • nutella

      I ordered a couch from Target when I moved into my law school apartment. It came delivered to my door (1) in a wooden crate, which then meant I had to then find special tools to open it and (2) when opened, discovered it had mysterious water stains on the cushions. That meant I then had to get it back in the crate for pickup/return. Pickup was easy enough but then the second one they sent (this time in a cardboard box) also had water stains on the cushions- different locations this time. When a third one came with water stains again, I gave up. They were all easily delivered and picked up, but the stains were weird and the crate was absurd. And the whole hassle of having to return it for repeatedly defective ones defeated the ease of delivery and pickup. I ended up borrowing a friend’s car and getting an IKEA one.

    • Anon

      Mine was fine for a year and then the springs all broke and now it’s awful. But it was super cute and super cheap, and easy to assemble. My customer service/deliver experience was also good.

    • Rainbow Hair

      I’ve had a similar sofa and found it pretty uncomfortable for sleeping — there’s a big bar right in the middle, and it’s not so wide that it’s easy to sleep on one side or the other to avoid the bar. The cushion gave out pretty quickly.

      It’s a bit more, but the Ikea Friheten sleeper sofa is comfy for both sitting and sleeping.

    • Anon in NYC

      I’ve had 2 couches from Ikea and they have been durable and comfortable (if you want an alternative to Target).

    • Scarlett

      I have some Target occasional chairs & their quality is really bad. It’s not sturdy & is a little difficult to assemble (not impossible). It’s not terrible if it’s a look you’re going for, or if you’re totally on a budget as the look is nice. If you’re not, I wouldn’t purchase it unless you want to replace it in a few years.

  5. PEN

    I have a nearly 200 year old house. Trying to decide between high velocity AC and mini-split units. Has anyone made that decision? Can you offer insight into your decision making process? Thanks!

    • AnonMidwest

      Wait, have you seen the ac made for historic homes I’m sure its available from several brands but The Unico system has been used in several in my area.

      I’ll be looking to replace the upstairs ac in my 112 year old house this spring and may consider this system.

    • Cat

      We went with mini-splits and have been very happy with them (going on 2 years now).

      – Ability to use them for mild heating is great in spring and fall (no need to fire up the whole radiator system when you really just need 15 minutes’ worth of heating in the morning)
      – Not sure how well high velocity allows for “zoned” cooling, but we’ve saved a ton of money using mini-splits because we leave the upstairs units on low fan / warmer setting
      – They’re VERY quiet; we understood that some high velocity systems are a bit noisier due to, uh, high velocity air movement
      – Installation resulted in only a few small holes in the wall, since you’re feeding flexible tubing to the units themselves.

    • BeenThatGuy

      I have a 100 year old house and have the high velocity AC. Full disclosure, the prior owners put it in. My house is incredibly cool when the AC is on. It’s programmable through the thermostat. The tubing is in all my closets and it’s not an eye-sore or cumbersome. If I had to complain about something, it’s loud compared to tradition AC. But no where near as loud as a window unit.

    • Anonattorney

      We had ductwork already for our furnace, and so we put in both central air for the main floor, and a heat pump (mini-split) for the converted attic space. So, I can’t really speak to the high velocity AC, but depending on your house, you may want both a central air component provided by the high velocity AC, and a specific cooling zone provided by the mini-split. For us, the mini-split is super fast, super efficient, and handles a large converted attic space that gets very stuffy in the summer. The central air is great for keeping the main floor at a more or less even temp, and we avoid the irritation and unsightliness of having multiple units throughout the house. FWIW, our house is roughly 100 years old.

    • Anon

      I’m not sure if these are technically mini-splits, but we got them a couple years ago for our c. 1920s home (radiator heat). They are great, and less of an eyesore than you’d think. One in each bedroom and a bigger (more BTUs) one on the main floor. Also, they cool AND heat which is nice here in the upper midwest where temps can swing wildly in the spring and fall. We can turn these on and not have to fire up the furnace/boiler…

      http://www.centerpointenergy.com/en-us/HSP/Pages/Mitsubishis-Electric-Cooling-and-Heating.aspx?sa=mn&au=res&_vsrefdom=ppc&WT.mc_id=PS_AC_-_Brands&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIyJjU5MrF1gIVQZF-Ch1qRwJNEAAYASAAEgJW8vD_BwE

  6. Jewelry q

    I inherited a large gemstone solitaire ring that is apparently somewhat valuable (close to $20k). I’m not a jewelry person, but I’d like to get the stone polished and reset so that I will wear it, both because it is gorgeous and fit sentimental reasons. I’m in a VHCOL location and the fancy jeweler here quoted me $1800 for repolishing, resetting, and appraisal for insurance purposes. Is there any compelling reason to get any combo of those services done here rather than at my parents’ local jeweler in a MCOL location? I assume that my parents’ jeweler would not have as much experience with the gemstone and I’m a little worried about the repolishing, although I don’t know why.

    I can afford the $1800 but I wouldn’t have bought the ring for that much money, so I’m hesitating to spend it.

    • Veronica Mars

      What is the setting? What metal are you looking for? I’d reset with a jeweler that specializes in it, unless you’re getting something very basic. Check out CVBinspiredDesigns on Etsy, she’s one of the best for CAD work. Also get a price comparison from David Klass. You might be able to save hundreds by going to a specialized jeweler.

      • Veronica Mars

        …or not save hundreds if you pick a beautiful, elaborate setting, but you’ll get something of superior quality to a basic Stuller mounting.

    • nutella

      You should get a second opinion/quote from another jeweler in your area. The most important thing would be to suss out if they will assist in repairs or small fixes (maybe the setting isn’t quite how you wanted, etc.), future cleanings and maintenance, and also help you get it properly appraised – which I am guessing you will want for a piece of that price. Them being local to you is an asset so that you can have the ring properly serviced when needed. All this being said, there’s nothing inherently wrong with a jeweler in a MCOL location – I would just want an actual jeweler who creates and services jewelry and not just a store that sells pre-made jewelry and has someone that puts watch batteries in. The key is that you aren’t buying a piece off the shelf but probably want something custom for your stone. That would mean the craft for the balance, proportion, and quality of pairing the stone with the band, shank, any other side or halo stones, and the fit (not just ring size but proportion to your hand, how high or low it sits, etc.)

    • Ms B

      Find a boutique jeweler who has a “bench” jeweler in house who can do what you want for less. I live in a Midwest city, but send my custom stuff out to a jeweler about 2.5 hours away that has a bench and does a lot of custom work. Check out the website to see if you like the house’s styles and work from there; lots of smaller places will give you references.

      Also, Pricescope is great for finding preferred jewelry vendors. The people on that board should be able to help you find the person you need (and help you design and codependently enable future jewelry purchases).

    • Jewelry q

      Thanks a lot for the replies…I think it’s an extremely simple setting, in gold. There are two trillium diamonds, one on each side, that are quite loose. I would also like the stone set a lot lower in the ring, to lower the profile of the ring from the side. Those are the only changes I’m looking to do. However, I believe that lowering the profile of the ring will require rebuilding the setting.

      My parents’ jeweler is an “actual jeweler” with CAD design services, and they also offer appraisal services. I’m just worried that something will go wrong, for example in the repolishing process.

    • ring

      Is it the stone itself that’s valuable, or the ring? Changing out an original setting of a well known maker will lower it’s value if that’s what makes it valuable.

      • Jewelry q

        Yes! If you’re still reading I would love a recommendation. My quote was from Gleim in Palo Alto.

        I wrote a longer reply earlier with more details about my ring, but it was eaten.

        • Scarlett

          go to K-Go & Co in SF; tiny place near the Westfield Mall, Eric is the owner. They’re incredibly reasonable & really nice. I had them re-set my engagement/wedding rings & they’ve made a ton of stuff for me.

        • Anonymous

          Its late but if you see this, don’t go to Gleim. I had them resize a ring that had a very thick band. It now has a very thin band and weighs substantially less. They also charged me 5x what I paid another jeweler to resize a ring later. Gleim is a huge rip-off.

          • Jewelry q

            Thanks for this. I looked at the yelp reviews this afternoon and saw they were also terrible. Will probably go to my parents’ jeweler.

        • Celia

          Also, having them do an official “appraisal” is probably pretty expensive. Do you definitely need it? Did they break down the pricing for all three parts? Cleaning shouldn’t be very costly at all –in fact, you can do it yourself with a jar of jewelry cleaner and a toothbrush.

      • Anon

        My recommendation was 14 Karats in Berkeley. They have a full bench and have done a lot of custom work for me that I love. Check out their website and see if you like their aesthetic.

    • Alanna of Trebond

      I think the midtier jewelers are better value than VHCOL jewelers. My opinion from NYC versus suburbs. But I have never gotten anything fancy done – just from experience purchasing jewelry

  7. 4th Floor

    Just a funny story/minor wardrobe victory to share!
    Woke up this morning after sleeping at my SO’s and realized I had brought a skirt and cardigan but not a blouse. After a mad dash through his closet, I found an acceptable plain t-shirt, tucked it into the skirt, threw the cardigan on top, and headed out the door. I did a double-check in the bathroom when I got to work, and it actually looks pretty good! But maybe I need to leave a larger work wardrobe at his place in the future.

  8. Anonymous

    I am in full zombie mode today. Work travel for weeks on end in multiple time zones, combined with a lack of healthy eating options and less than five star hotel rooms. Tried all my favorite pick-me ups (caffeine, exercise, extra sleep) and nothing seems to perk me up. I am in a rather rural area and my entertainment/social options are quite limited. Any road warrior suggestions?

    • anon

      Not sure if you’re looking for work motivation or self-care/entertainment options. If the latter, yoga videos in your hotel room? Find a grocery store and buy a healthy breakfast option and some fruit? Call a friend or family member you don’t speak to often enough? Start a guilty-pleasure book?

    • S in Chicago

      Long walk outside listening to a fictional book on tape. Forces sunlight (this is most key), moderate but not tiring exercise, a way to get grounded where you are and forces your mind off of planning the next thing. I always come back feeling calm and read for whatever is next.

    • Anon

      You are me. This happens to me a lot.

      Go out to dinner at a nice restaurant by yourself. Take a book. Even in small towns there’s usually a steak house or something. My favorite road warrior meals are steak house salads. Yum.

      Go to a movie by yourself. See something you missed seeing in your home town. Rural areas usually show these weeks later.

      Go shopping. It may not be the best shopping of your life but the local mall is a good place to stock up on tights, underwear, socks and other basics that are the same everywhere. I know if you are on the road all the time this kind of thing is hard to get around to doing.

    • Anon

      Just did 3 weeks like this. Take long walks, buy a Y day pass and go for a swim, get nails done, go on a drugstore beauty product binge, do a mall store run to stock up on basics, ship a box of beauty products and mall store purchases home, download Fall magazines and plan my Fall wardrobe, do a Pinterest board for a remodel project I want to do, read a mystery, actually apply a face mask, and discover that Clairol root touch up works.

  9. Anonymous

    Any recommendations for a “socks of the month” type service? Looking for a birthday gift for my husband. Thanks!

  10. Pompom paging Sloan Sabbith

    In the earlier thread, you mentioned being in DC for conference(s) at the end of October. Any chance–IIRC given your line of work–that you’ll be at EJW meeting and interviewing students? If so, let me know!

  12. Paging equestrians

    I know that there are a lot of current and former equestrians on this forum, so I thought this might be of interest to folks. A junior rider from the Pacific Northwest has qualified for the Maclay Finals (on a horse that she developed and braids herself!) but doesn’t have the resources to pay for the trip to the Finals. She and her barn mates are working to raise money through braiding clinics, used tack sales, and other efforts including donations via PayPal. If you want to read a feel-good story or are interested in helping, check out the Facebook page “Sophie Lang’s Road to the Maclay.”

    • H/J

      Hey! I saw your post on the COTH Forums as well. Good luck to Sophie- that is an amazing accomplishment!

      • Paging equestrians

        I’m not the OP–just another person who originally saw this on COTH–but I agree that this is an amazing accomplishment! Kids like this make me proud to be an equestrian.

    • CountC

      This is great! I haven’t been on COTH in ages (got to uh crazy pants and repetitive for me), so thank you for posting this here!

      • Paging equestrians

        Haha, I hear you on COTH… I’ve found that it needs to be paired with a glass of wine to go down smoothly sometimes.

  13. Anon

    My sister recently moved to LA from our hometown in suburban VA and is having a hard time adjusting. I’ve been thinking about buying her a (fun, fictional) book where the main character either makes a big move or lives in LA. Any recs? Note that my sis is decidedly broke so would prefer to avoid a book about being rich and famous in LA :)

    • Anonymous

      Not what you asked for, but the novel Commonwealth has elements set in suburban LA and suburban VA. More movement happens in the opposite direction though, and the folks in LA are not exactly happy and go-lucky. But it is a great novel!

    • Anna

      As an avid reader and a former California resident, I feel like I should be able to come up with some good recommendations for this, but am struggling. Commonwealth was very good, though a lot of it wasn’t in LA. The Tortilla Curtain might be my favorite LA book, but it’s not the book I’d give to someone I wanted to cheer up! If she likes mysteries, I just read my first Michael Connelly book, the new one with a female protagonist (The Late Show), which was okay, and very clearly set in LA. I also like some of the Sue Grafton mysteries set in a faux-Santa Barbara (but not LA). I think most LA fiction tends to be a little dark, as are most good books about big moves. Moving is hard!

    • Lorelai Gilmore

      I just read The Decent Proposal, which was a fun read and would be great for people who are new to LA – lots of loving descriptions of Los Angeles. How about Counter Intelligence by Jonathan Gold – about eating through Los Angeles?

    • LAJen

      Rather than a book, you might get her a subscription to Los Angeles magazine. I’m a native of LA and I absolutely adore this magazine–it introduces me to little things I didn’t even know existed. Also, let her know that there are things like free museum days around town, free concerts at LACMA on summer Fridays and Saturdays, free dance nights and concerts in or near Grand Park downtown, and that she really, actually doesn’t need tickets to go to the Broad–she can stand in line and it doesn’t actually take too long to get in (for free!).

      Also, the best tacos are not expensive and there are tons of gems around town that are wallet friendly. Also, I’d suggest she sign up for the Snowball Party, which is a scavenger hunt all across LA, where everyone’s broken up so they don’t just hang out with friends. Great way to get to know the city and also make friends (and nearly everyone who does it is in their mid to late 20s or 30s–it’s not college kids participating).

      • Anon

        I really like the magazine idea! She’s 26 so the Snowball Party sounds like a great idea as well.

    • Fishie

      I liked “Oh, You Pretty Things!” about an LA girl struggling with the LA life. Cute. Light. Fun.

  14. BB

    I am SUPER tempted to buy this sweater in bright orange…I don’t really need a new sweater and I’m sure the quality is pretty low…but…I want an ORANGE sweater for fall…cheap enough to warrant a total impulse buy?

  15. Paging your mom

    I know this crowd skews young but there may be some here my age.

    Talk to me about hot flashes.

    I’m in perimenopause (I thought I was in regular memo but my periods started back up after an 8 month break) and I am having a hard time in particular with hot flashes.

    Sometimes I have a trigger like alcohol or rushing to get somewhere, but sometimes they’re out of the blue. Like I was just sitting here at my desk and all of a sudden I felt my body heat up and I broke a sweat. This can also happen in meetings and it can be very embarrassing.

    Did any of you use hormone replacement? Did it work? How did you evaluate the risk/reward ratio?

    Any advice welcome!

    Signed – I Make May Own Weather

    • Anonymous

      My mother had a hysterectomy and was on HRT and never had them. Her skin is lovely. I plan on going that route (late 40s, usually always cold, just began to skip cycles (only 2x so far; not pregnant)).

      I have noticed that I am less freezing and think maybe this is the beginning of perimenopause.

    • Hot flashes suck

      Yes hot flashes suck. Funny story. I was about 3 weeks into a new job and briefing the exec team on an issue. It was hot out to start and I had walked over to the meeting from another building. A hot flash starts as I start presenting. My face starts perspiring and I’m sure they thought I was super nervous. One of the guys got me a glass of water and another turned up the ac, with no one saying a word about the situation. I though that was really sweet.

      Now I always make sure I have a couple of tissues with me to pat my face and some cold water (hot drinks can bring them on for me).

      No suggestions on hrt as I’m a breast cancer survivor and am on a drug to block hormones.

    • Fishie

      My friend went through menopause after breast cancer treatment and found acupuncture really helpful with hot flashes and other symptoms. I tried it for extreme flushing and rosacea and also found it to be surprisingly effective. Sorry, nothing about HRT here, but I wish you luck!

  16. Performance Review

    Had my first ever performance review and although I was wicked nervous, it went fairly well. Nothing out of left field, all pretty positive. Only awkward part is that they’re every-two-year reviews and uh, I’m planning on leaving next September and haven’t told my grand-boss, who did the review. My boss knows and agreed with me it wasn’t quite the right time to tell her. So every time she asked “What are your goals to have achieved in your one-year check in?” or “What do you want to see in two years,” I just pretended like I totally expected to be here.

    I don’t.

    • January

      That’s okay! They will not consider it a personal betrayal when you leave. Or if they do, you’re in a dysfunctional workplace. And it’s good to have performance goals for the next two years. You never know what could happen in a year.

      • Performance Review

        They will, part of why I’m leaving is because of its dysfunction. My boss understands completely, but the higher-ups will 150% consider it a betrayal. It’s going to suck for a lot of reasons but is absolutely the right decision for me.

    • Anon

      I’m curious – does anyone else have two year reviews? That seems like foreeeevverrrrr.

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