Open Thread — Ponytails at the Office: Yay or Nay?

professional ponytailsRecently, we were watching the trailer for the new Sandra Bullock movie, The Proposal, and were struck by the fact that, yet again, Hollywood portrays a savvy business woman wearing a high ponytail.  Which brought up a few questions in our minds — are high ponytails appropriate?  What about low ponytails?  Sweet Hot Justice amusingly called it a “welfare-mother ponytail,” and we’ve heard of some girls who have a limit on the number of days a week they can wear a low ponytail at the office — yet another, curly-haired friend of ours said she felt it made her hair look neater than if she wore it loose and always wears it.  Similarly, some of our friends insist a low ponytail makes them look older and more professional, while other friends worry the ponytail makes them look younger.

For our $.02, our dislike of the high ponytail has always been more about comfort — the elastic always starts to make our head and our hair hurt after a while.  Also, that’s our general look when we work out, which makes it seem too… depressing, given that working, working out, and sleeping are the main things we do, with a few nights of “going out” thrown into the mix, as well.

how to do a professional ponytailAs for the low ponytail, we have no problems with it.  It’s certainly our look of choice after the secretaries have left for the day and we’re settling in for a long night of work (that or a very messy bun) — but that said, as long as the ponytail is neat we see no reason why women can’t wear it as part of their working wardrobe.  Personally, both as a way to deal with layers and as a way to add some volume to the look, we’ve been a fan of what we’ve always thought of as a half-Gibson Girl ponytail, twisting the hair back around itself, as better explained in this YouTube video by xFLYNNIEx (end look pictured at right).  But then we worry that we’ve looked a bit like John Adams or something .  (We’ve worn it with the ponytail in the back, not to the side, as she does.)

What do you guys think?  Are ponytails acceptable? Should there be a limit on days, or on timing that you wear it?  Is there an age limit on certain styles, in one direction or the other?  Are there any comfortable elastics you use?  What about the side ponytail — they’re definitely coming back.  Is it inappropriate to be worn at an office where people inevitably have actual memories of the ’80s? (Should we run a poll on this? Let us know in comments.)

Comments

  1. I try not to wear pony tails too often, but I look very young. However, when I wear them on the weekends, etc., the clear Goody elastics are the best. They’re not heavy, they don’t hurt my head, and they’re less likely to leave an indentation in my hair for when I take the pony out! But I think with the right hair and face, a ponytail is acceptable.

  2. No side ponytails in the office, ever!

    I have generally noticed that people respond better to me when I wear my hair down as opposed to a ponytail. But I have one in for at least part of almost every work day. My hair can’t always handle daily blowdrying and my second day hair sometimes is in bad need of the ponytail. But never in court, at a depo, etc.

  3. I have very thick, long, curly, blond hair and unless I shower every morning before work and blow dry (for an hour) a ponytail or bun it is. It looks polished and is pulled out of my face, which makes it less of a distraction for coworkers and clients. I get compliments on my hair from time to time, so a ponytail can’t be all that bad.

  4. For some reason, even though it is straight, my hair just does not look good down. It looks much more polished and pulled-together pulled back in a ponytail or bun.

  5. I’m a NYC lawyer and I wear a ponytail nearly every day – whether I start out with one or not. I have above-the-shoulder straight hair and bending over documents at my desk all day makes my hair fall in my face far too much. I don’t think I have ever had anyone remark one way or the other about it. Although I will admit it looks much better when I keep up on my haircuts and I wear it down. I’m just long past my last haircut and the ponytail is sleek and easy.
    As for favorite holders – I prefer the Goody Stayput collection. I have thick but fine hair which is generally very slippery. A lot of elastics tend to slide out but these do as promised and stayput – until they are stretched out. the headbands are good for working out but they tend to slide off easier but I think that is because my head is small…..

  6. I think a ponytail, when done correctly with a good elastic that doesn’t stand out, is perfectly fine. I have long hair and prefer a ponytail on days when I know I will be looking down at documents all day.

  7. Anonymous :

    I never realized that people put so much thought into this…now I feel like I’m missing something I should have considered.

    Anyway, I wear a ponytail more than half the time. I have thin hair, and spending the time necessary to dry and style it in the morning isn’t a guarantee that it will look good all day if I leave it down. Even when I keep up with cuts and highlights, there are some days when after a few hours of being down, my hair loses all volume and looks sort of scraggly. More often then not, pulling my hair back is neater and more professional looking.

    As for holders, I use the goody no-pull holders in brown. I tried the clear ones for a while, but found they weren’t all that gentle on my fine hair.

  8. Anonymous :

    Until I got my fabulous new cut, I had long curly hair. It was a ponytail or a mess. Ponytails work best when it is really just gathering the hair back, then covering the goody holder with a pretty barrette, or fabric or something. That way you look styled, not just scraped back into a ponytail.

  9. I’m a huge fan of the ponytail. That said, a ponytail is one thing–laziness is another. The higher the ponytail the sleeker it should be in order to maintain a professional look. Flyaways and sloppy or colorful hair ties should be avoided, and it’s always good to take a piece of your own hair to cover the band if you have a few minutes it the morning; it looks more polished.

    I take offense to the welfare-mother ponytail comment in the article referenced above. I’m not exactly sure what that is supposed to mean, but it sure sounds like it might be a personal style problem, not a ponytail problem.

  10. This might be a silly question, but what are some other ways to wear long hair at the office? Just down all the time? Is there something besides wearing it down and in a ponytail that would work in an office?

    I look awful with shorter hair, and I hate the maintenance involved – my hair is virtually maintenance-free when long but gets kind of halfway wavy (and not in a good way) when short. As a 20-something, though, I don’t want my long hair to make me look even younger by wearing it in a ponytail all the time.

    I usually wear it in a low ponytail, but I would love to hear some other suggestions!

  11. Anonymous :

    Another suggestion: half up half down. You can gather the hair by your temples and pull it back with a hair pin at about the middle of you head. This looks pretty professional and it solves the problem of having hair in your eyes.

  12. Alexandra :

    It’s definitely a tough call. Wearing a ponytail in the middle or low looks the best in a corporate environment. I would save wearing a high ponytail for Fridays or the weekend. It might seem silly to analyze the height of the ponytail to some, but it really does make an impression on others.

  13. I second J’s question at 5:16–can we have an article on styles for longer hair at the office besides down and ponytail? I feel like buns make me look like a librarian or a ballerina, but that’s about the only other thing I can come up with besides up in a clip.

  14. Like the other curly-haired girls here, a high ponytail (done right!) I think looks actually more professional than when I wear my hair down. In fact, I am suprised to hear people say that they felt more professional with their hair down since I always thought that women were supposed to wear their hair back – low ponytail, half up, etc. – if it was past shoulder length for formal situations like court and interviews. I personally think that younger women wearing their (long) hair down just looks like they are trying to be “pretty” rather than “professional” – not that we can’t do both but professional should come first.

  15. PS – to anon with the new great cut – please give me details!! What kind of a cut? Any online pics you could point to? thanks!!

  16. “welfare mother ponytail” isn’t “amusing” in the least – it’s elitist. I’m pretty sad to read that kind of snobbery here on my favorite fashion blog.

  17. tinylawyer :

    While we’re at it, if anyone could share tips on how to put thick wavy hair up in a ponytail without it looking lumpy, I’d greatly appreciate it! I have so much trouble with this.

  18. Anonymous :

    Yasmin: pics coming to my law firm website soon. I got it cut shoulder length but tapered. Shorter in the front, longer in the back. It is also layered to lose some of the weight that was literally making my neck and shoulders hurt with trying to hold all that hair up. It frames my face more since I have a bit of bobblehead look going if it doesn’t. That’s why ponytails didn’t work. It was the equivalent of short hair for me.

    The front is long enough so I can push it behind my ears if it bothers me. Since my hair is so curly, it is very curly on the ends now. I wash it, towel it dry, twist some of it with fingers if I feel like it and go. Long enough to prevent bobblehead syndrome, short enough to be out my way. I absolutely positively love it.

  19. tinylawyer :

    While we’re at it, if anyone could share tips on how to put thick wavy hair up in a ponytail without it looking lumpy, I’d greatly appreciate it! I have so much trouble with this.

  20. Delta Sierra :

    E at 4:49, I agree about the welfare-mother ponytail remark, it’s offensive. Nothing wrong with a tidy ponytail at work. It’s better than long, loose hair on your shoulders, which I think looks unprofessional – especially if you are leaving hairs all over the office. Also, for people like me with hair that will. not. stay. up. no matter what I do or what I use, it’s pretty much the only alternative. In France 2 years ago I saw a lot of seriously chic business women with not-too-high ponytails tied with a black oblong thin silk scarf, in a bow, not too bulky, the whole bow was about the bulk of a man’s fist. Lots of black suits with white shirts. Looked great on them for sure. How do some women do that? They really have that ‘effortless’ thing that people talk about. Makeup is simple but perfect. Their clothes never shift position. Their hair stays put. Sigh. Someone should teach classes in this. I guess that’s one reason we come to Corporette, hoping to achieve that, or our own take on it.

  21. Sorry to double-post, but I had a 20-something female boss who wore a French twist every time she saw clients, and down and straight otherwise. It was very flattering and looked amazing. I just can’t do a great twist on myself.

  22. It’s funny, because I was just noticing at my firm (I’m a summer associate) that all the women seem to wear their hair down all the time. Or I see a few wearing it half-up, and once so far (second week) I’ve seen a bun. It makes me feel self-conscious about wearing a ponytail at work, but I think that a ponytail done right looks professional. I like to part my hair toward the side like I normally do for wearing it down and pull it back into a mid-height ponytail. A ponytail straight back looks too athletic/casual on me, but I don’t think that’s the case for everyone.

    When it’s down, it’s usually tucked behind my ears, and I’m not sure how professional that looks. Plus, when I’m working at my desk, I constantly play with it while trying to concentrate when it’s down.

  23. How about comments relating to women of color and their corporate hair issues?

  24. I just cut 5 inches off of my very long blonde hair to start my new job at an LA law firm because I just didn’t think I could ever wear it down – it was near my waist. But it’s still pretty long and I would love some ideas of good ways to wear it up beyond ponytail/bun.

  25. Hair pulled back looks more professional to me than worn down, as long as it’s pinned low. But the high ponytail? Maybe someone here can carry it off, but the super-sleek high pony tail reminds me of the salesgirl at the boutique or MAC counter. No thanks!

    I agree about the Parisienne look with a small silk scarf, it does look very chic.

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