2017 Update: We still stand by this advice below about long platinum blonde hair at work, but you may also want to check out our latest discussion of the best shade of blonde hair for being taken seriously at work.
This is a perennial question: is long hair professional? And a corrollary: is long platinum blonde hair professional? Reader K wonders:
I’m a law student with upcoming fall recruiting, and want advice for doing my hair for interviews. I have naturally platinum blonde hair (which is long – about 4″ below the shoulder). It makes me look younger than I am, but I don’t want to dye it or cut it short. How do I make it look professional and say, “I am not an airhead” for interviews?
I’m curious what the readers are going to have to say about this one, because we haven’t talked about long hair for the office in a long while, and I don’t think we’ve ever talked about platinum blonde hair. (Pictured: If you’re not watching HBO’s Game of Thrones yet, I highly recommend it — the first season just ended.)
First: Is Long Hair Professional?
I know a lot of other sources say that long hair is unprofessional — it makes young women look younger, and older women are too old for long hair. Here’s my strongest argument for why long hair is totally fine: Long hair, for some women, is the EASIEST. It’s easiest to pull back into a professional-looking updo (French twist, bun, low neat ponytail), and it’s easiest to maintain in the morning without too much styling. Personally, I prefer to wear my hair below my shoulders because when it’s shorter, it’s natural shape creates a “triangle head” look (which, trust me, is about as flattering as it sounds) and it requires 15+ minutes of styling in the morning (versus the 5 minutes I can get away with for longer hair, where the length and weight of my hair keeps it from creating a triangle shape). Furthermore, I know several very established and accomplished lawyers who look gorgeous and professional with their long hair, and I can think of a lot of others in the media spotlight — in the real world think Maria Shriver or Huma Abedin; in the fictional world think Dr. Lisa Cuddy, Veronica Palmer, or Jane Bingum.
That said, there are some limits and rules to “long hair.” My rules would be:
- You are never, ever, ever allowed to play with it. No twirling, no repeated smoothing of it, and certainly no absent-minded chewing or braiding of it during meetings.
- Your hair shouldn’t be overly long. I’ve said before that I think hair that approaches your bra strap (in the back) is too long. I’ve gotten some pushback on that from readers, and even though I agree that longer lengths can look professional on some women, I would still use the bra strap benchmark as the “it’s time to question whether you should get a hair cut.” For reader K, 4″ below the shoulder sounds like she might be approaching the bra strap.
- Long hair must be maintained well — the ends should be trimmed and shaped regularly, and if you have frizziness issues you should be taking steps to combat them (conditioners, etc).
Second: Is Platinum Hair Professional?
For my $.02, as long as it’s natural, rock out with your bad self. I would even say that platinum highlights on dirty blonde hair are fine — I have one friend whose hair has changed from platinum to dirty blonde as she’s gotten older, and she does upkeep to keep it blonder. On the other hand — I think it’s the rare woman who can change her hair color entirely and go platinum blonde. Furthermore, I’d say that any dyed hair that has that crunchy, “if it’s pulled too tight it might break off” look is not professional.
Third: How Should Long Hair Be Worn for Interviews?
2017 Update: You may want to see our entire discussion of how to style long hair for interviews.
For the most part, I think long hair can be worn long and neatly parted for interviews. For all those JD and MBA students going into an intense interview week, you might consider getting a blowout if your hair looks better with one — nothing too bouncy, but just simple, straight, silky hair — and then rocking that for a few days. For interviews, I think an “I intended this” updo or half-updo is fine — think a French twist, a bun, a hair-pulled-half-back-and-bound-with-simple-barrette, maybe even a very neat ponytail with your hair wrapped around the elastic. My only caution would be that you should avoid the “I suddenly got hot/tired of having long hair and yanked it back into a sloppy ponytail/bun with this elastic that has lived on my wrist for the past two months.”
OK — that’s my advice. Readers, let’s hear it — what are your thoughts on long hair? Platinum hair? Interview hair? Is there an age limit for longer hair? How long is too long?
Even if it’s not your natural shade, go ahead with it. The stereotype that blondes are ditzes will never be dispelled if all professional blonde women dye their hair. At any rate, so long as it’s well maintained and looks healthy and polished (not dried out and overprocessed), keep it whatever color you like.
If you’re concerned about looking like a valley girl or whatever, pull it back into a low ponytail or a neat chignon. Problem solved.
Spin clips. They are wonderful.
Thirded. I love mine!
My hair is just about to my bra strap and I don’t intend to cut it any shorter. I always pull my hair back into a low pony or use the spin clips. My hair just doesn’t look right when it is shorter and I think I keep it very tidy during work. Plus it is out of the way so I never play with it.
How long would you say your hair has to be for these to work?
I think basically long enough to pull into a bun without a lot of little ends sticking out.
fwiw, I think these are awesome but mainly for ladies with thicker hair. I bought them last year when my hair was about as long as Reader K’s, but it’s also very fine, so the best I could do was a rather severe, ballerina-esque bun and not the easy but pulled together ‘dos from the commercials.
I don’t know – I have thick hair and the spin pins don’t work correctly because I have TOO much hair.
Spin clips are amazing!
I’ve been curious to try the spin clips. I have and love the Modern Updo Maker, maybe I’ll give these next hair do-dads a try!
These look like a massive tangle waiting to happen. Can anyone with long, fine, and/or tangle-prone hair convince me otherwise? (please?)
My hair is the knottiest hair known to mankind (as my campers used to brush it, it would knot up again, like something out of Greek mythology) and I love the spin pins (mine are goody), and got a TON of use out of them when my hair was long (bust-length or so). The trick is that you really are screwing them in and unscrewing them out–where your hair is is sort of immaterial.
It it were me interviewing with that hair (very jealous, btw) I would part it on the side, pull it back into a low bun at the base of my neck. That way the hair is just a non-issue, and you won’t be able to tell how long it is.
Love that look.
My hair is long (just above the bra strap, usually). I can’t really do a neat bun or french twist because it’s layered and the shorter layers tend to poke out or fall out, so for interviews I wore it either in a low ponytail held back by a barette (does that even really count as a pony tail?) or half up, half down. Product was key to make it not look frizzy, and I curl the ends under so they don’t look messy if it’s been too long between trims. Would it possibly look more “professional” cut to my shoulders or shorter? Yea, maybe, but it looks fine how it is, and hair length is one part of my life I refuse to let my job dictate.
As for platinum blonde, if it’s your natural color, go for it (I say this as a natural blonde–though it hasn’t qualified as “platinum” since I was a small child and it was basically so white it would turn green if I swam too much. Though it still gets pretty light in the summer. Hurray for natural highlights from the sun). If it’s not your natural color, I’d really have to see the person. Depends on what shade of platinum exactly and their overall coloring. If it looks really fake then yea, I do think it looks a little unprofessional. And I think dyed platinum blonde rarely looks good on people–as opposed to darker shades of blonde–especially when your eyebrows are glaringly a different shade from your hair, such as Dany (the Game of Thrones character in the picture)–that literally distracted me the entire season. It’s just a hard shade to pull off if it’s not your natural color.
And finally, yes, if you haven’t watched Game of Thrones, go do so:-)
Such a good show! Just started on the books, which apparently the show followed very closely this season.
Just wanted to note that not everyone’s hair and eyebrows are naturally the same color – mine sure aren’t. Red red hair; brown eyebrows. I’ve been asked many a time whether my hair color is natural. Actually had a woman come up to me once and very bluntly ask “what bottle did you get your hair out of?” and then roll her eyes when I said “none!” Some people are so rude.
True, but usually they’re sort of related–red is close to brown. It’s when someone has platinum blonde hair and really dark eyebrows that it drives me crazy, like Orlando Bloom playing Legolas in Lord of the Rings. Maybe this really only bugs me in tv shows and movies, now that I ponder it…
And yes, the show did follow the books very closely–the books are great! And it adds a lot of depth to the show, I think.
Actually, there are people who have naturally light blonde hair and dark eyebrows! My sister is one example–her hair is naturally a very light, yellow blonde, and her eyebrows are almost black (like the rest of our mostly-brown-haired family). It can happen!
Correction: red red hair; not-red-at-all-in-fact-almost-olive-green brown eyebrows … not related. Any, my mom has light/medium blond hair and dark dark eyebrows … it happens!
I have blonde hair and DARK eyebrows…almost black. I lightened then a couple of times, but I prefer them darker.
Same here! And blonde hair on my arms and legs. And some people don’t believe my hair is natural – very annoying, although I’ve never had anyone be that rude.
Amusingly, my dad has black hair but a red beard! So it must run in families. :)
I have a friend, half Japanese half German, with jet black hair and a red red beard. He looks a wee bit goofy, but he rocks it at work.
I had blond hair as a child, and now it’s a very dirty blond. My eyebrows have always been a very dark brown, though. I don’t think there is anything on earth that could convince me to dye my eyebrows. That goes into my personal list of things that are too much for the sake of fashion.
I’m the same way! I am way too scared to even think about attempting to lighten my brows. I know they don’t match my dirty blonde hair, but that’s better than having my brows turn out… orange?
I would just like to say that I naturally have very light blonde hair and dark brown eyebrows. People often assume I dye my hair, sometimes even (I think rudely!) commenting on it to me. I refuse to dye my eyebrows or my hair though to make it look “natural” according to some people’s standards. Some people have dark hair with light eyebrows, some have light hair with dark eyebrows. Not a big deal.
I am a Khaleesi of the Dothraki. I am the wife of the great Kahl and I carry his son inside me. The next time you raise a hand to me will be the last time you have hands.
I realize this is a GoT reference, but since it didn’t show up in correct order as a reply, it seemed like a total ad hominem and it really, really cracked me up.
I actually didn’t mean to reply I just repeat this over and over during the day
I totally need to start watching that show.
SF Bay Associate
Me too. I tried reading GoT a decade ago, but it was too dense and complicated for the casual reading I was hoping for. Hopefully the show is available on Hulu or equivalent, because I bet it’s a lot easier to keep track of who is who when you have a face to remember instead of a name.
I had the same reaction to the book – it was interesting and compelling, but I felt like for the same energy I could tackle War and Peace (not that I’ve done that either, but hypothetically speaking).
Love, love, love the books! The show is great too, and wildly exceeded my expectations. I love the actress who playes Daenarys (pictured above). Maybe the books aren’t everyone’s cup of tea but I just loved them and recommend to everyone I know who likes to read.
Ha ha, just saw this episode! :) I am a little behind.
Love this show and their story line started out weird for me but they ended up being my favorite couple!
oh HAIL yes.
I can’t believe how geeky I am over this show.
Dani could be one of my favorite female tv characters of all time. I think she is actually
As a natural platinum blonde myself, I would add that anyone considering dying their hair that color should really consider whether she has the right complexion for very very light hair. Most people with fair hair also have fair complexions. It’s a trade off – you can envy my hair and I can envy the fact that in the dead of winter you are a 100 times more tan than I’ll ever be.
This. There is a woman in my office who is a natural brunette but dyes her hair bleach blonde. I think it would suit her so much better if she just warmed up the shade a little.
S in Chicago
You are so right. I have fair medium (not simply fair skin tone) and no matter how much I would fight it, my stylist kept making me way too blonde (she’s Latina with platinum hair). I finally just switched stylists since I was so tired of continually asking for darkening with glosses, washing with blue malva, etc. to try to make it less bright. My new stylist has me in a dark blonde with highlights (sort of like my childhood color) and I it looks so much better. I find I’m not struggling with finding the “right” lipstick color, etc. as much now, too. It really does make a difference when you’re in the right shade for your skin tone.
S in Chicago
Yikes! Too long of a day. Please forgive the typos.
This is the second time I’ve grown out my hair to waist-length; I cut it to a more “typical” length and promptly hated it. If/when I end up in a conservative professional office, I plan to just wear buns all of the time. I have very low-maintenance straight Asian hair, so my morning routine with bun only takes 2 minutes.
I have a friend who has worn her hair waist-length for years. She’s Japanese, which has a lot to do with pulling it off IMO, but I’ve always thought it looked chic and professional.
I absolutely love long hair and wish I had it. If it’s neat, go right ahead.
Reposting in the hopes of getting a response:
I just bought my first true wrap dress at an amazing discount at Banana. Yay! Two questions about tailoring a wrap dress:
1) Can the slit be sewn together without looking odd? This dress is of a jersey material but it’s not too thin.
2) Is it possible to remove the wrap part of the dress all together and sew it so it’s just a faux wrap dress?
Read more: https://corporette.com/2011/06/30/thursdays-tps-report-bella-cashmere-mix-jumper/#ixzz1QmuqUuHl
I’m not sure you can sew together the slit without sewing together the whole thing, and if you want to sew together the whole thing … why buy a wrap dress? …. because of the amazing discount? OK i get it … but you may wind up spending all the savings in alteration fees.
Jersey is by nature flimsy and wrap dresses take a lot of sewing to be made into non-wraps. So you’ll need (i think) a good tailor to sew long, strong, even seams that will be sturdy and not start gaping/looking uneven after a few wearings. The other issue is that you’ll lose the inherent flexibility of a wrap dress, which naturally adjusts/gives a little as you wear it. So be extra careful when you work with your tailor on the measurements and where you want to seams sewn.
That should be possible, Legally Brunette :)
Talk with your tailor when you bring the dress in. He/She might have to add some fabric to the ‘wrapped-over(bottom)’ half of the dress front, and then sew the side edge of that bottom half to the seam on the opposite side of the dress (say you wrap it right over left, then the side edge of the left-hand front panel would get sewn to the right-hand side seam of the dress. the additional fabric would be hidden and give you more mobility when walking).
I think it’d only look funny if you tried to limit how much the top flap of the faux wrap skirt is allowed to move; the tack points in the front of the skirt would be visible when you walk bc its jersey fabric. You could try having a dress weight dews into the bottom seam of the top ‘flap’ of the dress so it doesn’t move around so much, but still flows more naturally.
I hope that all makes sense and is helpful! I must say though that it makes me sad that you’re altering your first true wrap dress, I’ve been looking for a nice wrap dress for a while now bc of their versatility. Too many faux-wraps out there and not enough actual wrap dresses…
To add to KD’s comments, my first thought when I read that this is your first wrap dress is — don’t alter it until you’ve worn it once as a true wrap! I love wrap dresses and despise the faux wrap. IMO, they are very easy to wear. I do keep an eye (and a hand!) on the flap when I’m walking outside, but I find them to be the most flattering and forgiving style.
If it’s the dress I’m thinking of, the jersey may not do well being altered. I agree that you should wear it a couple times as a true wrap before deciding.
Thanks all for the helpful comments! My hesitation is that the flap is really large and I worry about exposing myself in the office or during a windy day. Also, I can’t figure out how to tie the waist belt without it looking awkward. But I agree that I should try it as a true wrap dress at least a few times.
Here is the dress, by the way. Unlike on the model, the dress hits me right at the knee (I’m 5’5). Cami definitely required. I got it for $29!
LB – since you have to wear a cami anyway, can I recommend this slip? I wear it with most of my summer dresses, it provides a little bit of support, is short enough not to show under my dress (but provides coverage should I get caught in an errant breeze) and doubles as a cami if I shorten the straps!
if you’re going to take it to the tailor, you might see if, instead of getting rid of the ‘wrap’ element altogether, you just see if he/she can sew in small snap buttons or other closures along the inside of the flap .. who knows. (otherwise you’re planning major alterations anyway)
Oooh, I like this less drastic suggestion!
Fantastic idea non, I never thought of that! Thanks to everyone, ladies.
I have crazy Mediterranean hair that I can wear in only a few ways: (1) bobbed very short so it piles up on top of my head (think Annie Potts); (2) cut in a grandma style (think Barbara Bush or the Golden Girls); or (3) long enough so that it weighs itself down. Since short styles on me require a lot of inconvenient maintenance (frequent, expensive haircuts in salons that know how to handle my hair), I really prefer a longer style. That way I can put it in an updo or controlled ponytail for interviews/court/clients or let it hang loose, without sticking straight out, on days when I don’t have to look so smooth.
I haven’t owned a hairdryer or curling iron since the early 1990s. F*** blowouts; I have bobby pins and know how to use them.
I would wear it up for interviews in a bun, twist or something else that’s not a ponytail…long hair worn down does tend to make people look younger when they’re already young, so wearing it up mitigates that problem. Also, it is hard to play with your hair when it’s up in a twist, so that’s another plus. I found it much easier to ignore my hair when it was safely up. :)
I think its fine, as long as its neat. I have blond hair (closer to dirty blond) that was down to the bra strap until two weeks ago — i now have a bob. I’ve gone long and short my whole life. I very much miss the long hair and wish I had not cut it. I think i look younger now and its much more difficult to do in the morning. With two kids, i need easy.
I used to wear my hair short. Then one day I looked in the mirror and saw my mom. That is OK if you are 60. Not so much when you are 35. So I grew it out. It is much easier to deal with. I almost always have it in a ponytail or pulled back. It is naturally curly. Sometimes I flat iron it. Mostly I don’t. As I have gotten older, I am going more natural with my hair and not fighting against what God gave me. That is mainly because once I had my son, I simply do not have as much time to screw with my hair.
In that vein, I have a co-worker (one of my partners in the lawfirm). She has natural platinum blonde hair. Wears to shoulder length. I have never throught for a second that it is not professional. The color is obviously natural because it goes with her skin coloring. She may help it out a little, but not so you would know.
Speaking of moms — I got my crazy Mediterranean hair from my mom, who has been blowing out her crazy Mediterranean hair daily for about 30 years. And she has a creeping bald spot in the front to show for it! Let it go natural, I say.
And for the love, make sure your hair looks as though it’s been brushed! I feel like I see way to many people interviewing with lots of fly-aways and such, it makes you like you have hippie hair when combined with the long length.
I also think a side-part is more professional than straight down the center. I don’t know why, but I think the center part looks hippish too.
Not a hippie
Unfortunately, some of us can brush our hair and five minutes later it looks like we just slept on it. I’m sure there are products out there that would help, but I’ve tried a million and never found anything that really works, so I just wear it in a ponytail every day. I wish I looked good in short hair but I don’t.
Fashion Faux Pas
NAH– me too, and it drives me crazy! I’d love product suggestions that will keep my hair looking brushed. I have very fine, straight hair, but tons of it, if it matters for product recommendations.
Try After Party by Bed Head. I loved it when my hair was longer. It made my hair look really sleek and more “finished.”
Is that the pink one? I can never remember what it’s called but it’s a very distinctive bottle. If that’s what you’re referring to, I swear by it. I have very fine hair that is prone to a lot of flyaways and it helps keep them under control throughout the day. I also use some mousse and a touch of hairspray to set it.
I’ve had that problem, and found that Garnier smoothing milk makes a world of difference.
Love this stuff. It’s the only product that allows me to get my second-day curls into a ponytail instead of a frizzy mess.
John Freida 3 day straight and a little biosilk to top it off after its dry.
This! I think we must have the same hair routine TK1!
btw, love the name choice, TK1 :D
This question immediately made me think of Portia de Rossi’s character on (much missed) Better Off Ted. Veronica always looked so professional! See: https://corporette.com/2010/03/08/better-off-ted-interview-with-veronicas-stylist/
Ha ha! I was **kind of** thinking the same thing except my thought was, “Remember Portia de Rossi’s character on Ally McBeal? Her hair always looked fabulous!” Guess I really am getting older. **sigh**
Yes, I always loved those gorgeous braids and chignons that she did. Back then I wanted to be Ally, but with Nell’s hair.
I heart this show!! That was a great character.
Another great show! I kind of want her wardrobe.
Great show! I always loved Veronica’s suits!!
I have just-past-my-shoulders curly (brown) hair, but it’s very thin so buns don’t look right on me. When I want to look professional, I wear it pulled back in a low ponytail with a brown barrette, or french braided with the ends tucked up and under the braid. I can’t wear it down because I will play with it all day.
I have very thin, formerly curly* hair and found the following tutorial on a messy bun helpful. Obviously for the office setting I’d go easy on the teasing and finish with a little smoothing product.
*Please save me the Keratin-will-kill-you speech.
But it will. :(
Also, one of the benefits of having thin, curly hair is that the thinness isn’t so obvious. With thin straight hair, it’s hard to hide it.
Vent =Speaking of hair, I just got a haircut that I totally hate :( And I was kind of liking my hair after the haircut just prior to the last one (two cuts ago)? But I tried a new stylist because I know my current stylist is going to be moving. I guess I’ve learned my lesson … again, unfortunately.
My paralegal sent me this this morning: “When you play the game of thrones, you win or you die. There is no middle ground.” I can’t wait for next season.
found a peanut
>>“I suddenly got hot/tired of having long hair and yanked it back into a sloppy ponytail/bun with this elastic that has lived on my wrist for the past two months.”<<
Ah. I finally figured out what to call my everyday hairdo.
lol! me too!
Those are the BEST elastics. I hate having to break in new ones.
Me too! They are never any good straight out of the package. I need them to go around my hair three times and the ones straight out of the package only go around twice.
Me too! I have thick hair, so it’s heavy, and three times is usually enough to delay the slippage of the holder.
I have longish blonde hair. I think I look worse when I try to pull my hair back because I have all this breakage around my face so that I have lots of sticking out hairs that look like antennae. On me, hair down looks more professional than hair up because any kind of up-do or pony tail looks like I’m heading out to the gym.
I also think that if a particular look is more attractive on you, in the professional setting. Not that I’m saying you should look like a skank at work, but that you don’t always have to go with the dowdier option because it would be perceived as more “professional.” It’s ok to look “pretty” at work!
Ugh, hair. I say the long blonde hair pulled back can look as professional as short. I too have blonde (not platinum) hair and wearing it long is a ton of work for my texture (thick, frizzy) but if your hair is smooth or smoothish and looks nice when put up, not sloppy (like mine) there’s no problem with long blond hair in an interview.
A friend of mine has too die for gorgeous blond long (mid back) hair and did her callbacks with her hair down and gorgeous as always. She also has almost straight As… Got callbacks and offers from the most selective firms (think Sulcom, Cravath, Kirkland, etc). Just make sure you don’t look crazy.
I should clarify that she did her screening interviews with her hair down as usual, as well.
My hair is long (definitely hitting bra strap) and I wear it down because 1) I look younger when I put it up, and 2) I look younger when it’s cut short, and looking young is already a problem for me in a conservative corporate environment. That said, I do worry about it for interviews, important meetings, and similar situations – any advice on keeping it out of the way?
Ok, I’ll bite – what is all this Thrones stuff that everyone is talking about today? Is it a TV show? Can I catch it on hulu (cheapskate roomie won’t go halvsies on cable)? Is it a book I need to start reading?
Game of Thrones, it’s an HBO series (the picture in the post is of one of the main characters). It’s based on a book series called Song of Ice and Fire, completely have forgotten the author’s name!
George R. R. Martin. The book is awesome and so is the show!
I think long hair is perfectly professional as long as it’s styled neatly and is not extremely long, like waist length. I also think color of hair should complement one’s skin tone, otherwise it’s not good.
Shoulder length hair looks best on me; I have worn it much shorter before and when I look at pictures of myself with that style, I cringe.
I am really bad about playing with my hair though. I know that is so not OK and am consciously working on leaving it alone.
I have long (probably 3 inches past my bra strap) dark brown, naturally curly hair. Most of the time I wear it either in a low pony tail with some sort of curl-defining gel in it, or in a “sock” bun (but I have enough hair that I don’t need the sock part to fill it out.) But I really prefer my hair blowdried straight with the ends curled under. However, it takes me at least 45 minutes to do that, and with 3 kids (and I’m too lazy to wake up that early), there is no way that gets done everyday.
what is a sock bun?
just google pictures of it, it is really hard to explain. but it makes for a neat, smooth bun.
I am such a hair twirler! I can see why it would be perceived as unprofessional, but it is so tempting. I try to only do it when I’m alone in my office. There is something so soothing about it. I’ll try to stop, but I’m not sure if I can. Wearing my hair back definitely helps me resist though, but that’s kind of a blah look for me.
Anyone have any tips for stopping that habit?
I have the same issue! I only do it when I’m alone and really focused on something, but I still do it. I find wearing my hair back or curling it & hairspraying it (thus making it harder to twirler) helps a lot, but I don’t have time to do those styles everyday.
Any kind of habit can seem unprofessional. I have male colleagues who tap pencils, let their phones vibrate against the table instead of hitting the side button (which will stop the buzzing!!!), click the pen in and out, bite nails, etc. I’ll say it: I think it’s ok to hair twirl in the privacy of your office when you’re deep in thought!
I don’t know about any tips, but I have twirled my hair since I was at least 8 years old. You’re right — there is something very soothing about it. My husband even has learned that when I am doing it, I might be feeling stressed. I just have trained myself not to do it in front of anyone at work or in public, and I really try to resist even in front of friends, so alone in my office or at home is totally fine, in my book.
“For all those JD and MBA students going into an intense interview week, you might consider getting a blowout if your hair looks better with one — nothing too bouncy, but just simple, straight, silky hair”
And…the idea that long curly hair is less professional just refuses to die. *sigh*
If you happen to like your hair blown out, sure, blow it out. Don’t do it because the alternative doesn’t look “simple.”
She says “if” your hair looks better with a blow out, and she says “simple” to contrast “bouncy.” Nothing there seems intended to denigrate curly hair. Actually it’s perfectly couched and disclaimed.
I just discovered John Frieda 3 Day Straight a couple of weeks ago and it has changed my life! I love the stuff!
I have extremely long hair (past my hips). I wear it in a french braid for interviews, always pulled back at work unless I know that having loose long hair is ok in a particular workplace.
I have NEVER had anyone tell me that my hair is unprofessional. Quite the opposite in fact – wherever I go, I get compliments and amazed comments on the length of my hair.
If you’re going to an interview, long hair can look professional as long as it’s styled in a professional manner. If your hair is really long, pull it back into a bun or low ponytail. If it’s shorter, make sure it’s blow-dried and styled in a clean, professional manner.
Just for perspective, I work in a global setting, and see many women lawyers and business types from Brazil, UAE, Costa Rica, China, etc. with long, gorgeous flowing hair. They wear suits, they control the room, they look beautiful. This short hair thing methinks is very American. I have mine shorter, but would like to be inspired by the other lovely women of the world to grow it out. They do style it for sure- no frizz… I’ve seen curls, waves, straight, amazing updo’s, but it always looks like an effort went into it. I get that the cultures some places are different- women are supposed to look more like women in some places, and sometimes treated accordingly not in a good way- but I like the sensuality that some display while working the issues, especially the Brazilians. They always look super feminine without looking trashy.
I have to agree with Anon — I don’t think long hair needs to be pulled back to look professional at all. Some styles for long hair are not ideal for a professional woman, but the same goes for short hair. With regards to long hair, oo much curling iron, too much flattening iron, the kind of overly layered locks that scream sorority might look young or air-headed. But I think some women can pull off long hair perfectly well — just like some can rock pixie cuts and others look great in bobs. If you’re going to have long hair, why make yourself stick it in a bun every day? I think that so long as it is neatly cut, flattering and not out-of-control-frizzy or messy, a nice passingly-natural color, and looks healthy, you are good to go. And I think there are plenty of examples of this. Michele Bachmann is not exactly my role model (understatement of the year), but she shows a woman of 50 can at least LOOK professional with shoulder length hair. Kat’s post mentioned Dr. Cuddy on House — I’d add Olivia Wilde’s character from that show as well. Kate Middleton knows how to rock a suit better than most, and her locks are always perfectly under control — I don’t think “bimbo” when I see a picture of her, and don’t think a professional woman in her 20s-early 30s would look unprofessional with similarly styled hair (but again — you gotta have the natural hair and quality products to pull it off)! If you have long hair, take care of it, give it whatever conditioning it needs, and make sure it is presentable. A ponytail is not the solution — it is not nearly as professional as well-maintained flowing long locks, or a short bob. I think nice buns are gorgeous… but again, why have long hair if you’re just coming up with ways to hide it five days out of the week?
I’ll be starting at a biglaw firm in a few months, and have been growing out my hair. I went through law school and interviews with short hair, but I doubt my image will be changed by the longer hair. At the firm, several of the female attorneys, including partners, have hair past their shoulders that they keep down (very neatly styled, of course). I don’t think it has affected their image at all to have that style. Then again, I am in the South — I don’t know if that has anything to do with it!
Anon in AR
I have thick, waist length hair and consistently get complements on how neat and professional it looks. My big secret is that I’m a total hair klutz. I can barely manage a straight part to save my life, and I don’t even own a blow-dryer.
I worked hard to master a few simple buns from this site http://www.longhaircommunity.com and bought half a dozen clips from http://www.ficcare.com. Now I can put together a neat, no nonsense bun that looks like I did it on purpose and holds all day. The ficcare “maximus” clips are pricey, but they’re metal, the springs are very strong, and a medium holds all my hair. (I don’t work for ficcare. Really!)
I’ve had my hair long (to the bra strap, a little beyond) and short (to the chin), and I’ve found that generally I manage better with the long hair. I find that pulling my hair back too tightly makes me look young. For interviews or hearings I am a fan of the side part/low ponytail or half up with a barrette. My hair has layers.
I find myself twirling my hair in my office (alone), but the best way for me to keep away from touching it is a headband. It keeps it down, where it truly looks best (ahem, when clean), but not touching my face or in my eyes.
In the end, when you are kick ass (or rather, in law school for fall recruiting, your grades are great, you have some work experience, and you have some kind of diversity to offer), you will get a job and people should and will respect you regardless of your hair color or style. It had become quickly apparent to me that the best dressed/coiffed is not always the best lawyer in the room…
For anyone with long, layered hair that wants to put it up in a clean bun, this is the best combination: hair gel and sock bun. Easy to do, will stay neat all day, looks very clean and professional.
Wow… I am in the minority here. I just whacked off 10 inches of (blonde)hair because I just feel more professional with shorter hair and I am interviewing for a new job. My hair is also baby fine and it is about half as thick with those 10 extra inches. I got a choppy do and it takes me 5 minutes to do my hair in the morning, where smoothing, ironing, fluffing, etc. the long stuff was taking 20 minutes. Everyone thinks I look 10 years younger and thinner with the shorter hair. Bonus!
As for color, natural-looking and healthy always looks best, not whether its light or dark.
“I suddenly got hot/tired of having long hair and yanked it back into a sloppy ponytail/bun with this elastic that has lived on my wrist for the past two months.”
Alas, this is me at work every single day.
I have long hair (just above my lower back) and i don’t have any problem keeping it looking professional and i think anyone who says that it too long s just jealous, i’m always getting compliments on it and my boy loves that it is so long. On to the professional side though i find it best just to pull it up into a neat bun or a french twist, this way your not tempted to play with it and it doesn’t get in the way
I’m a guy. I like Blondes, Brunettes, and Redheads. Best thing (probably for men and women) his as healthy, shiny hair as you can get! That said, you are not only a budding proffesional, you are still a young woman that wants a life. LONG HAIR, yeah! Sorry ladies, with the exception of the FEW women that can pull of short hair, guys like LONG HAIR. Have to say, women go on and on about shoes and ignore what men really like. The only guys who care about shoes are guys you want no part of. Please, let’s bury two – tone hair, and half-blonde hair is not blonde, it is just lazy, and not a little trashy looking. Long story short, KEEP IT LONG, and find an ‘up’ style for the professional look. Not a bad thing also, when long hair is ‘up’, men wonder what it is like down. You remain attractive, and now some mystery.
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I think I have the opposite problem in that whenever I wear my hair up, I look much younger. I went through my short hair phase in my first and second years of law school, and never at any point in my life had I been asked so much about whether I was a freshman in college. It may be unusual, but long hair worn down somehow is mandatory to keeping me looking my age for probably the next 20 years or so! Usually I’ll just leave it down (with the rules of no playing, twirling, braiding, etc.), but occasionally I’ll curl it or curl it and put it into a very low ponytail. The curled low ponytail helps when I want the hair off of my face, but because the curls give extra volume, it doesn’t make me look as young as a regular ponytail would.