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And some of our latest threadjacks here at Corporette (reader questions and commentary) — see more here!
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MsZ
I think this is my favorite item Kat has ever posted. Seconded by the Tory Burch dress featured here and on Privilege.
b23
Gosh, I loved that Tory Burch dress. I still dream about it.
K in NYC
I adore them too and normally my taste is far more casual than the pieces posted here… someone who can afford them will have to tell us if they’re as gorgeous on and in person as they are in this photo! (haha my birthday may be this week but even I know that’ll never be the type of gift within my budget!)
Homestar
Love, love, love these. I actually had a similar (fake pair) from Target from a few years back (the metal was a darker pewter rather than bright silver). I wore them all the time until I lost one. If you have the money for these, I am envious.
Not Kate
Frequent poster, anon for this question for the hive mind.
I’m currently looking to switch jobs. I have a 2nd interview for a job that would be better than where I am currently but keeps me going on a trajectory I’m not sure I want to be on. Before I got this/these interviews, I have already decided that I’m leaving my current job in May so that I can spend the summer with my children (and not deal with summer no-school childcare issues) as well as go abroad for a month+ to work on my language skills (with kids). I haven’t bought plane tickets yet, but flights over the summer go fast are going to be EXPENSIVE this year so I’ll probably have to book soon, maybe before I know one way or another with the job I’m interviewing for. They’ve taken a long time to set up the interview/call-back/etc… so it might not be the quickest process in the world.
So my question is, what should my approach with the new company be? Do I tell them I’m leaving my current job and already have plans for the summer? When do I tell them? Do I even pursue this opportunity further or should I just wait until after the summer and start a job search for jobs that are actually fit where I see myself in the long-run?
TIA
Bonnie
I don’t think you have any obligation to tell the new company at this point about your vacation plans. It may take a while to find a job so certainly pursue the opportunity further and also seek out others.
J
Agree. You don’t need to volunteer information until they ask you for the date that you’re available to start. Then you can tell them the date, but you don’t need to explain what you’ll be doing for the summer if you don’t want to.
Definitely go ahead and apply. Very often it takes companies a while to fill a position, and they may wait for the right candidate.
K in NYC
Pursue it, get the offer, and negotiate as if you’re able to start immediately (unless they ask you a start date, don’t lie but don’t volunteer info either at this stage). When all is done or when they ask, tell them your start date. Don’t offer to explain why or how you’ll be spending your time, but if they ask why a date so far out, say that you have some things to wrap up and some items already on your calendar but you’re excited to begin after they’ve ended. Different companies and folks need different amounts of notice before moving to a new company, they likely won’t bat an eye!
anon
I am totally projecting my own circumstances on you here, so if I’m off base just ignore me – but I would suggest thinking long and hard about whether you really want to take a job that is going to put you on the wrong track. If you start this job, especially if you’re offered the job in late spring/early summer and manage to negotiate a start date in September, how long are you going to feel obligated to stay in this not-quite-right job, and not be able to pursue the job you really want? Is that worth it to you?
AMB
A friend and I had been planning on going to Costa Rica for 10 days but due to scheduling conflicts only really have 5, and are now considering Vegas. Anyone have a favourite hotel/show/trip to the Grand Canyon to share? Looking to go in late April. TIA!
Woods-comma-Elle
Five days sounds like plenty for Vegas – it is sensory overload!
I only did the Grand Canyon rim, but would love to go down to the bottom and do the river etc., so maybe something like that could be fun. Also, a friend did the plane tour over the Canyon and said it was v good (although expensive).
Merabella
Lake Mead is really fun. It isn’t far from Vegas and you can do jet skis and stuff like that. I also like the Hoover Dam, but I’m an architecture nerd (like Ted on HIMYM – I have Architecture fun facts to know and tell).
5 days in Vegas is a LONG time. I would suggest spreading out the fun to keep yourself from getting into too much trouble. Get a spa package or something to recover from those crazy nights.
If you like outdoor activities Red Rock Canyon is fun, and much closer than the Grand Canyon. They also have a resort there that is nice and off the strip with a bus that drops you off at the strip.
When my now husband and I went to Vegas we really enjoyed the Cirque Beatles Show (LOVE).
Can't Wait to Quit
A day trip to Death Valley is really worth it, and in May it should not be too, too hot. Also, google the Neon Museum and arrange a tour – it’s really neat. The atomic testing museum is also worth an hour of your time. We often stay at the Flamingo because of its nice mid-Strip location across from Caesars and reasonable room prices. Pool cabana for a day would be fun too.
Can't Wait to Quit
Doh – they’re going in April. Weather should be even nicer.
AMB
There’s an atomic museum?! Hadn’t even thought of that! Thanks for all the tips ladies…
NoVAnon
It’s by the airport. Husband and I stopped there on our way to our flight home. Not huge, but worth an hour – nice displays and a cool movie.
NOLA
Ooooooo want want want these. I have a black diamond pendant and larger black diamond hoops that I wear constantly, but my black diamond hoops are silver and don’t look as sparkly as the pendant. Would love something this size.
anon
How to inform coworkers, clients, and vendors of a name change? I’ve alerted HR to begin the at-work name change process. Surprisingly, it took less than an hour total at both the Social Security office and DMV to get it all done. My firm is leaving my original last name email secretly active, and will also create a new last name email for me, where the original last name emails will be forwarded. We may have already covered this in a thread, but what’s the best way to start using my new last name, minimizing confusion for those I work with? Any other tips, or ways to handle comments you often received? I guess I’m wondering what to expect from this change.
TCFKAG
I would just start using the new name with in parentheses your old name (for awhile, like a transitionary period). Presumably there has been some life event that has precipitated the name change, so it shouldn’t come as a shock to your co-workers. Your only real concern would be vendors etc. not knowing who was e-mailing them.
Former MidLevel
Some attorneys I knew just added something to their email signature, e.g., “Jane Roe (formerly Doe)” for 6-8 months, in lieu of a formal “announcement.”
One warning, though – make sure your HR department changes your name correctly. My firm required that I bring in a new Social Security card before it would change my name, so I assumed that HR would change my name to what was on the card. I assumed wrong. The HR person assumed (wrongly) that I changed my name to “First Maiden New,” which was popular at the time (and grotesque in my circumstances). For whatever reason, it was *ridiculously* hard to fix my name in all the various firm systems. It took nearly two years to mostly get it right and I found places where it was still wrong even after that. So if your new name doesn’t follow the prevailing convention at your firm, be very clear with HR about what you want your name changed to.
J
My name has been wrong on my caller ID for the entire time I’ve worked at my job. They put it in wrong in all the systems when I started, and I got it fixed on email, and got a new sign on my door, and got it updated in the directory, but then I noticed that many people who knew my name called me by an incorrect name when I called them. 3 years later, I’ve given up trying to get it fixed.
phillygirlruns
i used my maiden name in parentheses for a while and added a “PLEASE NOTE MY CONTACT INFORMATION HAS CHANGED” at the bottom of my signature. that was it. i didn’t get any comments, other than the occasional congratulations.
Jules
I just today took over a file from my partner in a case in which opposing counsel, an associate at a biglaw firm, has just changed her name. After her e-mail signature block and just above the firm logo, she has the following statement, in bold: “PLEASE NOTE: My name has recently changed from Jane Doe to Jane Smith. My email address will be changed accordingly, so you may whish to update your contact information.” Her signature block on the e-mail says Jane Smith, Esq. (Doe).
And BTW, I don’t usually congratulate women on this kind of a name change unless I know them well enough to make a friendly inquriy — the first time I congratulated someone, she was chaning back to her birth name after a divorce! (Actually, she was pretty glad to be divorcing and accepted the congratulations happily, but you can’t count on that.)
anon
In a somewhat related question, I am moving to a new state (permanently) in a few months, and getting married and changing my name a year later. Has anyone changed states AND changed your name on your license at the same time? Will I have to do one first and then the other, or is this something that varies by state?
Jennifer
I moved and changed my name at the same time. We just brought our marriage certificates around and got everything done at once in the new state (we moved 1-2 months after we married). If you have a year between your move date and the wedding, I’d get the new state DL when you move and do the name change later.
sutemi
I did both at once and it was not a problem in MA. Living in Boston I don’t drive, I only used my driver’s liscence as ID for a few years and changed it after getting married.
J
Your email signature should be:
Jane A. Smith (formerly Jones)
Attorney at Law Firm
Please note my new email address: janesmith@…
And you or your assistant could send a note out to your clients if you want. I’d send it as a notice that your email address has changed. Something like “Dear Client, Please be advised that I have recently changed my email address. You can now reach me at janesmith@… My phone number and mailing address remain the same. Regards, Jane Smith (formerly Jones).”
d
Does anyone work with the IRS on a regular basis? just got vague voicemail from partner asking me to research IRS’s procedure for “seizing” proceeds from a bank account, maybe to satisfy a penalty (not taxes due) for failing to report a cash transaction w/ form 8300. Of course, I received no info on whether the account was actually levied/seized, or if it’s just “frozen,” whether penalty has actually been imposed yet or is just under investigation, or whether client received any notice from IRS, but need to draft a memo on the procedure to prepare him for a meeting tomorrow (very clear).
Is there a procedure for freezing accounts w/o notice? I dont’ think that it’s possible to levy without notice/hearing. I know it’s a boring topic, but if someone could PLEASE help me save my evening plans and point me in the right direction, I would be eternally grateful.
Anon
Hi, I read your comment and I work in IRS collections. Typically, if an additional assessment is completed on a tax year (ie 2010), the IRS first sends a proposed increase or decrease to an individual advising them of the amount to be increased and what was not originally reported causing the increase. A lot of times this is an unreported IRA or 401k withdrawal, stock/bond transaction, or a 1099 left off the original filed return.
Once the notice is sent, there is typically 30 days to reply. If no reply is received, the IRS moves forward with the assessment. This can take months to complete. Once an assessment date is generated, the next actions are for the IRS to notify a person of the balance due. For example, if you filed your 2010 tax return with a balance due of 5000, you would likely receive a notice in the mail with the heading Notice of Intent to Levy. This letter provided Collection Due Process (CDP) rights which a person would have 30 days to request. After the 30 days, a person has one year to request and Equivalency Hearing which is essentially the same thing as the CDP. These are based on the date the letter was mailed. If a year has passed from the date of the notice, the rights of the CDP have expired. This happens A LOT! The IRS is only required to send this notice once per assessment and they only have to demonstrate that it was mailed to the last known address. These are sent certified and the IRS records how the certified is returned (received, unclaimed, undelivered). Regardless of the return response, the IRS has met the threshold to notify the tax payer of the intent to levy.
If there is still no response (because the letter was sent to an address from 5 years ago) the IRS will then issue a Notice of Levy. It sounds like in your case, a bank account has been levied. When a bank receives a Notice of Levy it freezes all funds in the account on the date received. If funds are put into the account on the following day, they are not subject to the levy. Additionally, the bank must hold the funds for 21 days prior to sending the payment to the IRS. Each bank seems to have a different policy on how quickly or effectively they attempt to notify people of frozen accounts.
Without droning on much longer, the bottom line is accounts are frozen without people receiving notice if the IRS sent the notice to the last known address and made a good faith effort to notify the tax payer.
TaxGrl
So this much better reply came in while I was posting mine. Hope there is still time for evening plans!
d
Thanks a lot! I missed evening plans on another project, but your advice will help get me home on time! :)
TaxGrl
D, try looking in the Internal Revenue Manual for the procedure. I think it available free online. Tax almanac.org also has some discussion forums you can search–you may get lucky and find one on your topic that would point you to legal resources to use. Form 8300 instructions might also give you something to work with, although usually the instructions just have general info on penalties. Good luck!
phillygirlruns
attention philly ladies: we are having our first meet up on march 22, 6pm at the franklin mortgage & investment co. on 18th, between chestnut and sansom.
phillygirlruns
if anyone wants to be added to the email chain – phillycorporettes at gmail
hip hop anonymous
Hip hop hooray!
Cat
good choice! I will try to make it around 7 :)
AnonInfinity
I posted this morning, but just in case it got kind of buried and anyone has any thoughts:
Has anyone ever been to the Women In Law Leadership (WILL) conference by the ABA?
There’s one this December, and I’m trying to figure out if I want to try to get my firm to send me. For context, I am a 2011 grad, practicing in a large-for-my-area firm. Also very ambitious and generally attempting to be a BAMF.
SB
I have not – but I am cursious to hear from others if they have. If you do go, please report back! :-)
Seattleite
cbackson, a couple of weeks ago you asked me to re-post my email address. I did, but quite late in the evening. Here it is again – seattleite.training@gmail.com. Please confirm you’ve got this, and then I’ll wait to hear from you.
Dahlia
Husband has a business trip to Salt Lake City coming up and we were thinking that I’d join him to make a long weekend out of it. Can anyone recommend ~2 days worth of activities nearby – within an hour’s drive max? We enjoy hiking and similar nature-y stuff.
CW
You should spend some time in Park City – it’s very close and really cute.
Salt Lake City Native
Will you be here in the winter? (and by that, I mean before Memorial Day). If so, most hiking trails up in Park City will be closed with snow, but the ski resorts will be open at least that long. They are all within 45 minutes of downtown SLC, and there are 5-7 to choose from. The snow may have melted enough to hike in the lower canyons (City Creek canyon is right next to downtown, Immigration canyon, Big Cottonwood canyon, and Little Cottonwood canyon are all within 25-30 minutes away). If you are really into hiking, many people like hiking up Mount Timpanogas (40 miles to the south) or Mount Olympus – those are all-day hikes. I’ll post a link with good trail maps to follow. If you are into fishing, the lower altitude lakes should be open by then, but you will need permits and gear and warm clothes and such, which might be a bit much for a long weekend.
Shopping in Park City is great if you enjoy that, and there are a lot of good restaurant options in downtown PC and SLC.
If you and your husband are into pioneer history at all, there is tons of stuff here about that – museums and monuments like crazy. If your tourist tendencies make you interested in observing local religious culture, you are in luck because it’s pretty much everywhere you go. Temple Square has extensive tours, with beautiful buildings and gardens, and there is an LDS Church History museum.
Salt Lake City Native
http://www.utah.com/saltlake/hiking.htm
Maddie Ross
Be careful at Temple Square — you will be proselytized to, so if you’re not comfortable with that, I’d stay outside the main gates. It is pretty though and very interesting.
Oh, and I second Park City. It’s such a cute town!
Salt Lake City Native
That’s true – there are usually a handful of 21 year old female missionaries whose job it is to hand you a Book of Mormon. The beauty of it is that 90% of visitors are Mormon anyway, so as long as you dress conservatively and don’t ask for a guided tour they usually just assume you are Mormon already and leave you alone.
Dahlia
Thanks! It’ll be in April… I’ll check out all the suggestions :)
Kanye East
Actually, the snow this year has been pitiful; I keep hoping to salvage the ski season, but so far it looks like that’s not happening.
At this rate, Park City trails should all be dry, sun-baked dirt dirt by April.
Kanye East
Um…lunch with me?
Dahlia
Don’t joke like that, you’ll break my heart :)
Dahlia
(but if you are serious I’m totally up for that!)
Kanye East
hit me up: gewgawsgimcracks@gmail.com
Supra
Is it too late in the day for a [men’s] shopping threadjack?
I am looking for a nice, but casual coat for a man. Color: brownish (camel/brown). Preferably a lighter weight (can be worn on warmer winter days/fall/spring).
You don’t have to point me in the direction of the exact coat, but rather a place(s) to look. Under $400 (hopefully well under).
Cat
Barbour (would be at the higher end of your range), Jcrew (likely in the 200-300’s), LLBean (100-150, although some of them skew a little “dad”), BR
Supra
I love those Barbour ones (I’ve never heard of that brand/company before). I was hoping to avoid J.Crew because I wanted something a little different. I was looking at All Saints and Diesel, but they are mostly leather/cotton. Of course the time of year is problematic. Not too many coats left for sale.
anonymous
I just had an awkward situation at work, hive please offer your input: My boss is a religious Jew although he doesn’t wear a skullcap/yarmulke. He came over my desk to playfully jab at me that I missed an obvious exemption to an issue I raised that could’ve affected us. In response to his joke “At least you lead me to the water…”, I playfully slapped him on the back. I am wondering how big of a faux pas that was…obv it wouldn’t matter if I was a guy, but since I’m a woman I guess I probably am not allowed to touch him? What makes matters worse is that he knows I’m Jewish too, but I’m not religious so I don’t automatically think of these “rules” when acting…
To that end, how “hands-off” do we have to be with colleagues in general? Is a playful slap on the back too much b/w a male-female supervisor-supervisee? In the words of my kid sister, I feel like an awkward turtle right now.
Tired Squared
I feel like it depends on his reaction. Did he laugh along with you?
anonymous
I did it as he was about to walk away after making his humorous point. It was obvious he was about to walk away and he did…so it was in jest but it hit me right after that it could’ve potentially created discomfort on his end.
Monday
Even if it did, though, I can’t think of anything you could do to somehow reverse it–and bringing it up would just make the situation so much weirder. I’d suggest just letting it go, and not doing it again. You weren’t thinking about it, and that’s why it isn’t a big deal. If you had thought about it, it would be weird.
FWIW, I wish male superiors would not touch me, but some do. I have no problem with this kind of friendly nudge from anyone else I deal with at work.
K in NYC
agreed, just let it go!
Houda
I would think it is not a big deal but then again I come from a VERY touchy culture with no proximex (sp. ?)… we (men and women)get to cheek kiss our general manager so..
Two of my colleagues are very religious muslims and would not shake hands with a woman but whenever that happens by accident, they do not really make a fuss about it.
He probably didn’t think much of it
May
Proxemics.
OP: In a work environment, I’d generally bite the bullet and make the effort to curb my natural gestures on something like this.
It doesn’t sound like much to me, but I understand there are people who could make a big deal of this in their minds. Colleagues are different to friends, after all.
PM
When I worked with a very conservative Jewish lawyer, he declined to shake hands with women under any circumstances. I would say, if your boss shakes hands with women on a regular basis, he has signaled that touching is not beyond the pale. But in general I think it’s better to restrict touching to just arms/hands/shoulders.
anonymous
Yes, I am pretty sure we shook hands during my interviews so that was the justification I gave myself to calm my neuroses.
Jennifer
If he’s not Orthodox you’re fine. And if he shook your hand in the interview, you’re fine.
coco
And if he’s not wearing a yarmulke, he’s probably not a religious Orthodox (we had a variety of Orthodox-y where I grew up)
J
No, HE’s not allowed to touch YOU. You’re not the Orthodox Jew in this equation. You didn’t do anything wrong and I am certain you did not offend him. Don’t worry about it.
Regarding how hands off we should be – my boss once hugged me when I came back from a reaaaaaallllly long business trip. That was awkward, but I was glad to know he missed me.
Elsa
As a “Modern Othodox” Jew who works in a US business setting, I can assure you that you’re fine. (Based on your description it sounds like he would also classify himself as Modern Orthodox.)
Being Orthodox, he’s probably more sensitive to/ conscious of opposite-gender casual touching than the average person, but there is a spectrum within the Orthodox community in terms of what people are cool with (such as handshake vs. back-pat vs. hug). Regardless of where he falls on that spectrum in terms of personal preference and what he would initiate, he’s definitely not offended. Promise.
Networking Question
I’m wondering how many of you intentionally make an effort to network. Although it’s something I read a lot about in career-related articles, I don’t get the sense that it’s considered “normal” where I live (a mid-size city in the West) or among people my age (upper twenties). The field I work in is fairly small, and the number of jobs available in my city are few and far between. There have been layoffs at my company so I feel the need to create a safety net of contacts in case something happens. It’s hard for me to put myself out there when none of my friends seem to be taking these steps. I went to one networking event and it felt like everyone else knew each other well or had come with friends. It was super awkward. Can anyone relate?
My acquaintances do not typically attend networking events or set up informational interviews or try to reach out to new contacts. Actually, one does, but she is a small-business owner. So I’m not sure what the right approach should realistically be, without feeling strange about it. Can you shed some light on what kind of networking has worked for you?
Houda
I am still trying to figure out this whole networking thing.
I am consciously making an effort and so far I have found 2 ways:
– Joining my Alma Mater’s alumni association
– Accepting any invitation to round tables or conference that is even remotely interesting
I have just started doing this so we’ll see if that works. But yes it does feel awkward.
The other unexpected way for networking was going to a race with some members from my upscale gym. It turned out these people are interesting , Smart and very nice.
I am thinking of joining more races just for the talk before and after the race (I hope this didn’t sound desperate…but hey I live alone and have no friends.. I’ll take any human interaction I can get!)
Emily I
Some of my networking is done at bar events, but most of it is done just through my activities in the community. Having a friendly conversation with another mom when I pick up the kids at school? Networking. Stopping to chat with someone I sort of know after church? Networking. Attending a meeting of a local organization I volunteer for? Networking. It’s amazing the connections you can make when you put yourself out there in various situations. I think of networking as making a conscious effort to get to know people (and letting them get to know you).
KYC
i second houda’s suggestion of alum associations. i’m active in both my law school and undergrad associations and have found them to be great ways to meet new people. and you have an instant thing in common to talk about.
i’m also pretty active in the bar associations in my city. and i sit on a committee for a legal nonprofit. i find that a lot of my contacts overlap or intersect (the professional community in your city is always a lot smaller than you think) between the organizations i’m involved in so that i see a lot of the same people again and again. after a while, you become friends and/or they become mentors, so the meet ups are less awkward. they are less “networking events” and more “time to catch up”.
i think what makes “networking” easier is if you think about it as developing relationships or friendships. your goal and focus should be establishing a professional rapport, but this doesn’t mean you have to be devoid of personality or only talk about your job. i actually find that talking about things outside of work (news, sports, food, etc.) is a better way to network. that way, you establish yourself as someone that they like to talk to and then you can follow up later if you want to ask them something more job-related. the point of networking events is to make the connection. the relationship comes afterwards based on how you follow up.
J
I network actively, mostly because my company is always recruiting, but also because it’s good for my professional development to have a range of professional contacts. I don’t like events like c-cktail parties or happy hours; I’m introverted and small talk feels like hell on earth. I am on the women’s chapter board of my local alumni club, a member of bar association practice groups, and a member of a local voluntary bar association focused on my area of law. I often go to events like lectures, panel discussions, or community service. I meet a lot of people at these events, and see them again when I’m forced to go to a c-cktail party or other “networking” event. So I suggest you start by going to events that are not officially networking events, and then once you know people you won’t feel awkward at those events.
Nonny
Question about this season’s The Skirt:
Have any of you actually seen the Tan Lion or Yellow Ochre versions in real life? I am viewing on my computer and can’t tell whether Tan Lion is orange-y or more of a camel colour, and can’t tell whether Yellow Ochre is a clear yellow or more of a mustard. Tan Lion in particular seems a bit difficult to place. Colour interpretations welcomed.
Thanks!
phillygirlruns
i saw the skirt in a coral/light orange shade instore this weekend. it could have been tan lion, but i’m not sure. i had the same question as you a few weeks ago when looking at the colors online – “tan lion” is an odd name for a color that looked, at least on my computer, distinctly orange. whatever the name of the color i saw, it had more brown in it than a true coral and was not particularly bright in person.
Lady of the Lake
I think yellow ochre is the color I have and it’s definitely a mustard yellow.
Blue
Has anyone tried to return things from the J Crew Final Sale? It says that it’s all non-returnable, but I know some other stores aren’t really serious about that.
phillygirlruns
the general consensus is that when j.crew says “final sale,” they mean it. i’m sure they make occasional exceptions, but there is plenty of anecdotal data on the policy on the jcrewaficionada blog.
Cat
They mean it, unless you received something way off (e.g., obviously mis-sized, defective, color not as shown). It’s one of the reasons I’ve significantly cut back on shopping there – most of the offerings are overpriced even when on the first markdown, but when the prices fall to a reasonable level for the quality, it’s FS. Boo.
Nonny
Extrapetite recommends getting a gift receipt when purchasing items on final sale from J. Crew – apparently this is a way around the policy, though I haven’t tried it myself.
coco
From my time, in retail, I would say that it will completely depend on which manager/associate you get. If you walked into my store and met manager 1, if you gave them even an inkling of a sob story, they would return it. If you met manager 2, no way in h*ll unless there were an obvious (defective) reason. If you got manager 3, it would depend on how cranky he was. I didn’t work a J. Crew, but that’s been my experience with retail generally.
job seeker
Reposting from the networking thread: I’m going to a conference in my area of law on Friday, in the city where I am looking for a job. I’d love to use it as an opportunity to make some progress in my (long, torturous) job search, but I’m really bad at starting conversations with people at these sorts of things. Any tips? Also, any thoughts on whether/how to bring up my desire to find a job in that city? Further compounding the awkwardness, the other two attorneys from my group in my office will be there, so I’m going to be worried about getting caught.
K in NYC
My trick? I stand in a place where I can observe without looking like I’m waiting for the bathroom or something and try to get an eye for a few people (or even one person) who seems to be working the room and knows a lot of people or who seems really confident in the room. If it’s a man, I walk up, introduce myself, and say that I’ve heard he’s the “guru of whatever-we’re-all-here-to-discuss” so I thought I’d say hello. If it’s a woman, I’ve found that approaching and complementing her on something she’s wearing or her hair style or whatever is a great way to initiate a conversation.
It seems that men are quicker to open up if they feel professionally flattered and women if they’re personally flattered, but that’s just been my experience.
job seeker
Thanks for the idea! It still seems scary, but I probably need to conquer my fear.
Blonde Lawyer
To expand on our crazy things we do for our pets threads –
It is 12:28 am my time and I am currently awake in a spare bedroom with my dog listening to a “dog lullaby” of London Bridge for the 40th time. My dog is afraid of thunder. We are having a pretty impressive storm and her fear seemed to be worse than usual (shaking, pacing, panting, sitting up, laying down, getting up, moving, repeat.)
I found this sample lullaby while googling how to help her thunder fear. This London Bridge song is one of 18, supposedly specially designed for dogs. Lots of explanation on the site. It differs from regular “human music.” I put the sample song on and my dog actually laid down and put her head down!! I couldn’t believe it. Since there is only one sample song, it has been on repeat for the past hour! I might buy the whole album now.
http://www.caninelullabies.com/
phillygirlruns
definitely trying this with my dog, who is afraid of not only thunder and storms, but also open windows.
Jenny
Aw, you are a devoted dog mom.
My dog has recently developed a fear of the overhead light fixtures in the hallways of my building. I wish there was a song for that.
momentsofabsurdity
I suggest a Thundershirt, if you haven’t tried it already!
ss
It’s a bit late but in case you see this, Barbours age beautifully and you may have luck finding a nice secondhand one in a vintage store. My husband has a few in various stages of wear and always checks out secondhand clothes stores, just in case they have a nice one in his size. Expect to pay 100 – 200 and to get years more wear out of them.
The only oddity about Barbours is that you aren’t supposed to wash them with anything other than cold water to preserve their layer of water-proof wax. Bit of a problem as I generally long to take each new arrival to the dry-cleaners for a good scouring clean before allowing it in the house.
Anon for this
I wanted to share with you all this article as I found it interesting..
http://www.nytimes.com/2012/03/09/opinion/colleges-and-elitism.html
I have heard the stats mentioned in this article before and it always hits home for me. I came from a middle class background; my father worked a blue collar job and my mother stayed at home. My parents didn’t know the first thing about college and the fact that I graduated in the top of my HS class and was the first in my family to graduate from college at the flagship state U was a big deal. Also my parents offered no financial support and I paid for my entire education myself. Unfortunately, I have many times in my career come across people who have belittled my degree from state U. Including my husband on occasion, and his friends. All 0f whom graduated from a self-proclaimed prestigious university. I am well-read, well-spoken, sit on the board of a large charity, mentor women/children, etc. but I feel like none of that matters.
This is extremely frustrating to deal with and I am seriously considering an advanced degree from a more “prestigious” university to help move my career along. Although, of course, it will require loans. I admit it would be easier if I could just let it go but it’s very difficult to hear people diminish your accomplishments and to feel like you have to “prove” yourself.
Midwest
Sounds like we have very similar backgrounds. I agree with you, although I haven’t gone so far as to get an advanced degree from a more prestigious school. Honestly, I am da*n proud of myself and really don’t care what others think about my background. It says more about them than it says about me. I know how much I sacrificed just to get an undergrad degree (college was definitely not fun & games & partying for me), and thankfully, it led to great opportunities. My biggest internal battle is not forgetting my scrappy background now that I’m more successful by other people’s definitions.
Geezerette
Remember that wonderful quote: “Some people were born on third base and go through life thinking they hit a triple.” Maybe you could work that into a snappy retort when your state U degree is belittled.
OP
I love this. It is so true!
Ruby
Don’t know where you live, but I noticed this far more in east coast cities than Pacific Northwest. Don’t miss that annoying attitude. In a way I feel sorry for them because their world view is so remarkably insular- yet they don’t see that at all in their self-created and perpetuated bubble. There is an entire world of smart, savvy and interesting people who didn’t go to 1 of 10 schools. I have seriously no tolerance for it. I’d say don’t try to conform just to do that- find a way/place to live where you aren’t placed around condescending snobs.
Emily
I have earrings almost exactly like this that I got from Stella & Dot for about $40. I wear them probably 3-4x a week.