How to Turn a Bad Day Around

how to turn a bad day aroundLadies, how do you turn a bad day around?  What do you do to reinvigorate yourself, put the day in perspective, and ultimately move on? Do you have any tricks for “saving” a lousy day, or for letting go of the day once you’ve finished it? We’ve talked about ways to relax, laughter as medicine, and general after-work routines (as well as how to get your groove back in general), but not this.

For my $.02 — without sounding too much like the self-help section of the bookstore — I think gratitude is an amazing thing. (I am grateful for gratitude!) No matter what my mood is on the day itself, I find if I focus on three things I’m grateful for as I’m falling asleep, I get to sleep easier, sleep better, and wake up in a better mood. A few other ideas for shaking off a bad day:

  • Dance party! Shake it off, shake it off.
  • Have one drink with a friend and talk about other things, like how his or her life is going.  (I find that on a bad day, drinking more and obsessing over whatever went wrong just leaves me with a bigger black cloud over my head, so I don’t recommend drinking to excess or rehashing your bad day in detail — sleep on it one night, at least!)
  • Seek beauty.  Go for a walk and appreciate the skyline, the clouds, the trees — whatever is around you that you find beautiful.  If you can get out of work early enough to go to an art museum, you can do that. Along these lines, adult coloring books may also be helpful.
  • Focus on sensory input.  Go shopping, not to buy (necessarily) but to touch the different fabrics.  If stores are closed by the time you get out of work, try making cookies or bread or something you can knead with your hands.  (Or, steal a trick from the kiddos, and make your own playdough — odds are good you have everything you need in your pantry, and you avoid the temptation to eat the results.) Make some tea that smells amazing, and sit with the smell.
  • Laugh.  It’s one of my favorite ways to clear my head of a bad day.
  • Sleep.  Do whatever you have to to get a good night’s sleep.  If you have problems falling asleep, try the 4, 7, 8 technique, or challenge yourself to name five things that start with B in your bedroom.

Ladies, how do you turn around a bad day?

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Tuesday’s Workwear Report: Cross Drape Jersey Blazer

Our daily TPS reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

donna karan cross drape blazerWow: I love this kind of blazer.  It’s interesting, flattering, beautiful — but still muted and professional.  Gorgeous.  It was $1425 over at Farfetch, but it’s marked to $712 today (lucky sizes only, alas). Donna Karan Cross Drape Jersey Blazer

Here’s a more affordable option, as well as a similar plus-size version.

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Coffee Break: Orianne Pump

comfortable heel orianneNaturalizer has had the Orianne pump around for a while now, and it’s normally a pretty great deal at $99 or so — but right now on the Naturalizer website, this fun houndstooth version is down to $28. Lovely! (Amazon also has a few sizes and colors as low as $35; if you want to read a bunch of good reviews, do check out the Zappos page.) Naturalizer Orianne Pump

On the hunt for comfortable heels? Check out our recently updated guide!


The Hunt: Stylish Cashmere Sweaters for Work

cashmere sweaters for workSure, we all know what basics professional women are supposed to have in their closets, but if you’re buying one for the first time or replacing one you’ve worn into the ground, it can be a pain to find exactly the right incarnation in stores. In “The Hunt,” we search the stores for a basic item that every woman should have.

Ladies, we haven’t talked about the most stylish cashmere sweaters for work in far too long — and now is a great time to buy because there are so many sales on.  Which brands are you loving this year in terms of style, softness, durability, and more?  (Do check out our guide to cardigans for work, if you haven’t already!) Have you gotten any great deals on any cashmere lately? Which cashmere brand do you like to splurge on? 

If you’re curious, here are links to our prior roundups of the best cashmere sweaters for the office: 2015, 2014, 2012. Before we start, a few special interest categories:

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Splurge Monday’s Workwear Report: Suede Anasta Peplum Jacket

Black Suede Jacket:  The Row Suede Anasta Peplum JacketOur daily workwear reports suggest one piece of work-appropriate attire in a range of prices.

Happy Monday! If you’re looking for elevated basics to splurge on, The Row is hard to beat — their attention to quality, fit, and simplicity is amazing. I love how this chic black suede blazer can work with anything, from crazy prints to muted neutrals. It’s available for pre-order at Barneys for $2,890 (and here are the other options in suede and leather for purchase/pre-order, including grape at Neiman Marcus). The Row Suede Anasta Peplum Jacket

Two lower-priced options are here and here; a plus-size alternative is here.

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Weekend Open Thread

winter hatSomething on your mind? Chat about it here.

Ladies, we haven’t talked about winter hats in far too long — which are your favorites? I feel like I am perpetually on the hunt for a good one.  Last year (or two years ago) I found a pretty knit hat at Old Navy that was lined with fleece on the inside, which I liked for warmth — but it has not held up well at all.  I’m currently wearing a slouchy beanie like the pictured one (on sale for $21 at Nordstrom), which is fine. What are your favorites — what material do you like for warmth, durability and static, and what styles do you think are the most flattering?  Do you think you ever “age out” of certain styles, like pom poms? Pictured: Halogen® Metallic Cashmere Blend Beanie, $21.98 at Nordstrom in black, gray and white.