Coffee Break: Druzy Earrings

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1. I went for a blowout a week or two ago and the woman commented on how I needed a trim, so even though she wasn’t my usual person I was like, hey, sure, why not; I wear it up all the time anyway. I came home and suspected it was a really bad cut, but hoped it would be less detectible once my curls came back after the blowout.

   It’s hideous. There is a 3″ difference between the front of my hair and the back of my hair, with very little in between. And to make it all better, the shortest parts remind me why I’ve hated short hair on me in the past — it’s mushrooming out into a triangle.

   I’m just trying to ride it out and take vitamins and wear it up… anyone have any other ideas? Really don’t want to go get it all cut the same shorter length for summer, even though I know the “lob” is super popular now. Sigh.

   1. I understand the desire to want to at least keep what length you have left. What about just doing braids or bobby pinning the front back so the difference and mushroom look aren’t as noticeable?

      I don’t know what kind of curls you have, but I have just never liked my hair short and curly. It looks great on some people, but weird on me and, if you already know you don’t like shorter hair on yourself, I wouldn’t risk spending money to hate your hair even more.

   2. Can you throw yourself on the mercy of your regular stylist? He or she might have good ideas. And… consider complaining to the salon about the woman who did your hair. It sounds like she didn’t understand curls!

2. As painful as it is, I’d recommend going back to the salon and letting them know that you need a senior stylist to do a correction for you. A more experienced person can help even it out (maybe they don’t chop off 3″ but layer it a little more so it looks cohesive/intentional). Or going to a different, better salon and having someone take a look at it. I am a big believer in making salons fix their mistakes–on their dime–for bad haircuts.

   1. Agree with this as well. Another thought: if you typically wear your hair curly, always get a dry cut, styled the way you normally wear it.

   2. +1 A good, experienced, senior stylist will probably be able to fix this without taking off too much length.

   3. Depending on what type of place the bad-cut salon was, I don’t know that I’d trust any of them to do a proper cut. In my city, the blow dry bars are staffed by people who want to be professional stylists but are not there yet for whatever reason (still in school, haven’t passed licensing, can’t get hired into a slow-to-hire apprentice program at a salon they want, etc.). There may not be a “senior stylist” who can improve upon the initial person’s work. I’d go back to your regular stylist and take this as a lesson learned to not agree to any permanent changes at this kind of appointment. I don’t say that in a lecturing tone, but a sympathetic one–I’ve certainly been there and the growout period stinks, so I’m sorry :(

3. Baby gender reveal parties – do you bring a present? If so, for parents or baby?

   1. I skip the party and go day drinking instead.

      Kidding…

      I have no idea – I haven’t been invited to a sex reveal party (which is what it is – all you’re seeing on the scan is the anatomy). Maybe bring your favorite children’s book?

      1. +1 to skipping the party, unless it’s like meme says below – a casual party where they will happen to have a cake. I’ve been to events that were basically weekend BBQs where they had a gender reveal cake – ok, not my thing, but whatever, fine, I’ll clap and then eat pink or blue cake. Or if it’s your very best friend, and she really wants you there I’d go. But otherwise? Ugh. So not my thing.

         Maybe a congrats card? Is this someone likely to have a shower? If so, I’d save getting a present for that.

      2. +1 million. not even kidding on the day drinking.

         but if you have to go, a children’s book is a lovely gift.

         my standard reply when people ask if we’re finding out the gender (and I’m feeling snarky) is “No, we think we’ll wait a few years to find out.”

         1. “No, we think we’ll wait a few years to find out.”
            Very funny!

         2. Love it!

         3. +1000 let’s be friends

      3. I would not bring a gift, and unless this is a very close family member or friend, I would not attend.

      4. + a million, except pregnant so no day drinking. An ultrasound is not a reason for a party, or for gifts.

      5. My line is that we didn’t find out the sex because I don’t think kids should be having sex.

         I’m actually smarter than that, but I have so many problems with these parties and that cuts off the conversation where we’re both comfortable. Don’t go. Don’t encourage them.

   2. Is this a thing? I’ve never heard of it. My first reaction is to ask if these are first-time parents who mistakenly think everyone feels the sex is their baby is some hugely important revelation. But, hey, if it’s just an excuse to throw a casual party, I’m all for those

      1. It’s for a close friend. I don’t think they are inviting a ton of people. Just close family and friends so everyone gets the news at the same time. They did make cute invitations though. Yes first baby.

         Good point about sex/gender stuff though. While the “bows or bow ties” things are cute, it starts the baby off so gender normative without knowing what really is going on in there.

      2. +1. Public service announcement: I care about my friends, and I care about their kids, but I do not care to attend a gender reveal party.

         1. Yes, this.

   3. I’m not very close to the process, but my stepsister just had some kind of low-key gender reveal thing recently with a pink cake. She said they wouldn’t have a registry until after they knew the gender, so this may be how it works. (Also it seems that the gender is identified a couple months before a traditional baby shower time [~7 months], so maybe bring something small on the assumption there will be an actual shower later.)

   4. These always seem like the type of events that call for a standard hostess gift to me. They’re usually low-key parties for family and close friends in my area. I think they’re fun!

   5. Never heard of this kind of party, and didn’t do this even for my 1st kid. I just texted everyone whom I knew wanted to know at the same time. Didn’t need a party, but….if you do go:

      Just take a kids’ book (I would take “The Very Hungry Caterpillar”) that is gender neutral.

4. Hi there! I posted late this morning, so I’m going to post again. Do any of you in Houston know of a good therapist to discuss relationship issues with? I think I would feel more comfortable with a female therapist. Any suggestions appreciated. Thanks!

   1. When I needed that, I used someone who offers virtual sessions; she was able to skype with me so I could work with her when I had time instead of rushing to an office. if you would be interested in that, post your email and I will pass it on to her!

5. Hello hive, I wanted to hear any thoughts/advice on my situation. The in laws (including BIL and SIL) will be staying with DH and I for a week in August but I’m a bit hesitant to give them (my BIL) copies of our house keys. BIL has been known to steal from my DH back when they lived together. The trouble is that DH’s parent’s overlook the issue and try to avoid confrontation by completely ignoring it. I know it was years ago but I just don’t trust BIL and his wife. They are known within the family to take advantage of others and I’m afraid they will try to extend their stay or bring friends over while DH and I are at work. Is there any way to work around this aside from hiding my valuables and locking our bedroom door?

   1. Yes. It was saying no to letting them stay over. Not giving them keys doesn’t help if they are already in the house during the day. Lock your door, bring your jewelry to work for the week, and know that it doesn’t matter if they try to extend their stay because you will not be permitting that.

      1. seriously, if you have any good whiskey/gin/wine/etc in the house, hide that too.

         1. and prescription drugs – they tell you to remove all these when you are selling your house, too.

      2. I wouldn’t bring jewelry to work, but you can put it in a safe deposit box, or leave it with a trusted friend, or even lock it in your vehicle if you park in a safe place.

   2. We gave a contractor keys to our house when we were out of town so that they could do some work. We locked up all jewelry (safe) and put all financial documents and checks and credit cards in a locked footlocker in the basement and then put a clamshell lock on the basement door (you could use a closet). And we changed the locks after we got back (we were doing that anyway though).

      Or you could just not let them stay (but it doesn’t take staying over to steal), but I’d draw the line at keys or commit to rekeying your locks ($100 or so).

   3. You mention your MIL and FIL but where is your husband on this? I’d lock up your valuables and if they do invite guests over while you’re out of the house, your husband explains why this was totally inappropriate and, if necessary, recommends a nearby hotel for the remainder of the visit. As for extending the stay, you just say that it’s not possible. Period. (And it’s best if your husband delivers this news, too.)

      I agree with other commenters on not giving them copies of the keys. But I’d also suggest, if it’s at all feasible, installing a keypad lock on your door. My husband had the brilliant idea of putting one on ours and it’s fantastic. It’s mounted in brass so it’s attractive. We have our own code. We can add extra codes for whoever needs them — the au pair has a code, the cleaning company has a code — and the codes are easy to erase when you don’t need them anymore (ahem, like when unwelcome guests leave) without worrying about rounding up outstanding keys. You can go out for a run without bringing your keys (or trying to fish keys out of your purse in the rain). And you can just tell guests their code before they arrive if you can’t be home to let them in. No need to hide keys outside! You can buy the kits at Home Depot.

   4. TECH NOTE – Kat, I am still not having the name auto-populate in the posts.

      Have you already said yes to them staying at your house? What does your DH think about this? Does he trust his brother?

      Personally, I never give out copies of our keys when there are people staying, not even for people we like. If I were in this situation I would put away all our stuff and lock the room.

   5. If you can’t gracefully find a way to have them stay at a hotel, perhaps “Based on what happened [during specific incident when they stole specific thing], we think BIL/SIL would be most comfortable at a hotel.” If that’s not an option, hide all valuables as mentioned below and also be VERY clear as to your expectations (i.e. no guests, asking before using your items) so that if/when they break these requirements, you can diplomatically say that it would be best for them to stay in a hotel next visit.

      1. Or just make up an innocuous reason/excuse for them to stay elsewhere. They don’t have you know it’s about them.

   6. I have in-laws who are known to take advantage of others, particularly me. Setting healthy boundaries is really important, I think. I would have started by not inviting them to stay over. Now that you have, hide your stuff and do whatever else is necessary to minimize the risk. And seriously? Don’t have them over (overnight anyway) again.

   7. Move your financial records and checkbooks outside the home. If you will offer your guests wireless access while they are with you, change the network password in advance and change it back to your regular password after they leave. Make sure there are no bookmarks to banking sites or saved passwords on any computer you will offer.

      If you have enough time, I highly recommend a keypad doorlock for one of your doors. Mine was less than 100 bucks and has worked out great for cleaning people and helpful family members who drop off things at my house.

      1. Besides locking liquor, bank statements and jewelry, I’ll build on what Moonstone says and recommend the following:

         -Set up your wireless router with a “guest” password and delete it after they leave.

         -Set up all of your laptop/desktop computers with a “guest” user and put passwords on all the rest – don’t even give them a chance to look at your bookmarks.

         -Put a keyless lock pad on your door or your garage door and change the code afterward. Much cheaper than having to change locks and is also good if you ever lock yourself out.

         -If you have cable TV or similar system, put a lock on the pay-per-view feature.

         – And if you’re really worried, have your U.S. Mail forwarded or held for you during the time they will stay at your house.

         Good luck.

   8. I know I would be seriously offended by somebody rummaging in my private stuff even if they were only pawing through it in search of stuff to steal. Thus I would
      1) brush up on my homeowner’s insurance policy. Got good china? Le Creuset pots & pans? High-quality clothes or accessories? Add them to your coverage.
      2) Add these items to my List of Valuables and take additional steps to secure them (locks on electronic devices, locks on desks, locks on room doors…)
      – Intellectual property (do you have original prose, poetry, historical research, business plans, graphic designs, etc. on a laptop or home computer?)
      – Items of sentimental if not financial value (family photos, postcards, other travel mementos; toys or baby clothes from your own or your kids’ childhoods)
      – Items of privacy value, because they may get discovered en route if someone is snooping for portable objects of monetary value (diaries, letters, email; books on topics you don’t want to talk about–this doesn’t have to be anything from an obviously hot topic, such as a s*x manual or instructions for a s*x toy…it could be anything–books about Solving Infertility, or Cooking for Diabetics, or How to Successfully Retire at Age 45, or heck, even a plain old box of condoms…).
      3A) Instead of going to all this trouble and expense, how about just forcibly gifting your in-laws with a stay in some close-by luxury hotel?
      3B) invent some at-home project that will have people working in your home during their visit. Pay these people to watch your BIL and SIL and report any transgressions (guests, thefts).
      4) Better yet, refer to the past and rescind the invitation.
      Good luck. I hope it works.

      1. Somehow, I doubt these people will steal her original prose or poems.

   9. Don’t give them keys.

      I’d hide jewellery, all important papers, valuables etc. Depends on what he stole before…was it money/things/small stuff?

6. Test… can I post new content yet??

   1. Holy moly – it’s been a while! There’s a bit of delay (not instantly posting, as it used to for me), but I haven’t been able to post new thread topics in weeeeeeeks. Thanks for working on this, Kat!

7. You guys, I really want to start bringing my lunch to save money – I buy it from my office cafeteria, and it’s a good, healthy salad bar, but its $10/day, which ends up being $200/month. I feel like I could make my own lunch for cheaper but I just can’t seem to get it together. Any tips for the novice lunch-bringer, or advice on how to plan for lunches and pack appetizing ones? I don’t have access to a microwave, and I don’t like sandwiches, so obvious things (like leftover dinner food or…sandwiches) aren’t great options.

   1. But what is the opportunity cost of bringing your lunch? $10/day for a good healthy salad bar sounds totally reasonable.

   2. Is it a by-weight salad bar and do you have access to a fridge? If so, I like to bring or keep my own lettuce, dressing and some salad fixings in the office fridge (and some shelf stable stuff in a drawer – nuts, seeds and craisins) and will occasionally go down and pick up a couple of additions if I need something more interesting or fresh, like fresh cold rotisserie chicken or a hard boiled egg.

      1. No – it’s a flat fee, unfortunately.

         1. That stinks. Luckily some other ladies had some great suggestions below – which I am writing down. Thanks!

      2. I was going to say similar. If it’s a by weight salad bar, figure out what items you are buying that are the heaviest and plan to bring those to supplement what you can get in the salad bar. If it’s by weight, chances are the lettuce and spinach are actually cheaper per lb than bagged salad, but if you brought your own hard boiled eggs, chickpeas etc.

         Alternately, if you have access to a fridge where food won’t disappear overnight, could you bring items to make your cafeteria lunch spread into 2 meals – so get what you would normally get for one day, then divide it into 2 meals, and add things like yogurt, cheese, hummus and pretzels, etc to make the purchased lunch stretch out.

         If you don’t like sandwiches, do you like the things inside sandwiches? For instance, making turkey, cheese and lettuce wraps instead of turkey and cheese on bread? Or make yourself some grown-up lunchables – meat, cheese, crackers and fruit and/or vegetable – done!

         Is there a grocery store kind-of near where you work, and could you keep a week’s worth of lunch in the fridge? I used to go to the local grocery store at lunchtime on Monday and buy enough lunch food to assemble a couple of days lunches – something like a container of cottage cheese, a bag of baby carrots, 1/4 to 1/2 lb deli turkey, etc.

         Do you have access to hot water (like from the coffee dispenser?) I make oatmeal with a scoop of peanut butter and a handful of raisins fairly regularly – bonus in that all the ingredients last forever and don’t need to go in the fridge.

         Otherwise, could you start slow by committing to not buying lunch 2 days per week and just planning for those days?

   3. Cheese (I bring Laughing Cow, or the little BabyBel goudas with the wax on them)
      Raw almonds
      Little cans of tuns (I like the lemon and pepper ones)
      You can totally bring a salad, make a big one on Sunday night and bring some to work for the next 3 days.
      Cut up veggies (I do these on Wednesday nights, after all my salad is gone, for Thursday and Friday), or even just baby carrots and grape tomatoes if you don’t want to do any cutting.
      hard boiled eggs
      yogurts
      roasted chickpeas ( I buy them at the grocery store, I do NOT roast them myself)
      mini bag of popped pop corn
      grapes

   4. Make a big base of something over the weekend, and then chop and store “add-ins” separately. You could do a salad base plus nuts/hardboiled egg/fruit/cold cuts/various veggies the first half of the week and then a quinoa salad the rest of the week. (Cooked quinoa, and then olives, a couple types of cheese, chopped veggies, vinegars as dressing). In either case, they will stay cool if you have an insulated lunch carrier with an ice pack even if you don’t have a fridge, and you can just throw things on top of your base in the morning and go. Note: sounds easy enough, but even when my intentions are good, I admit my Sundays get fairly busy and I often don’t take me own advice. Victory if I can get through 3 days a week before I buy.

   5. IIRC, you live in Midtown, and you’re also a busy lady, so I’m erring on the side of quick & easy.

      Lunch bowls. Go to the Midtown Trader Joes on Sunday. Buy vegetables to roast (pre-cut butternut squash, Brussels sprouts, pre-cut cauliflower, fennel, potatoes, whatever you want). Roast ’em up. Throw in a huge bowl. Add some greens when they’re still warm to wilt the greens slightly (I like kale and chard). Add some grains if you want (farro and Israeli couscous are good).

      Divide into containers. Top with protein of choice (if you’re veg, then add TJ precooked lentils to the above mix, or even if you arent’ veg and want something heartier). Bring a container of crumbled goat cheese to top it off before you eat. Done.

      You can also make up a big salad at the beginning of the week (tomatoes, cucumbers, bell pepper, fresh parsley and mint, lemon juice, redwine vinegar, olive oil), add feta and protein at work.

      Variations on the theme can be Mexican inspired, thai (roast up some broccoli, green beans, carrots, use rice noodles if you enjoy them, sriracha and peanut sauce added at work). Endless options.

      TJs has pre-cooked chicken strips that are actually decent, so if you don’t want to cook, grab those. Or tinned fishes. Or you can roast up your protein of choice.

      I don’t work for TJs, but they make quick meal planning very easy.

      1. And actually, if you’re feeling reallyyyy busy…just by the TJ’s pre-prepped salads. Most of them are around $5. Lunch costs cut in half!

         1. True – although I think those salads are teeny tiny. I would not be full.

      2. OH MAN. This is so helpful. And I want to eat such a lunch bowl right now.

      3. NO NO NO NO NO! Unless you can walk, going to the Midtown TJ’s on Sunday is at the risk of your sanity. Go at any time other than the weekend, or a weeknight, or lunchtime, or . . . honestly, it’s less infuriating to drive to TJ’s in Buckhead.
         (Great suggestions on the food, though. I just can’t with TJ’s Midtown . . .)

         1. I’m the original Midtown TJ poster, and I should have added that you need to hit up TJ’s on a Sunday either before 1030am (that’s when I go) or between 3pm and 5pm (when there seems to be a lull). Anything else and it is madness. But seriously – before 1030am and the parking lot is 3/4 empty…

            1. There is a PARKING LOT?

            2. We’re talking Midtown Atlanta, not Manhattan :) sorry to get your hopes up!

            3. There are multiple TJs in the Twin Cities areas (and they all have parking lots :) ), but what I’m eternally baffled by is how SMALL the lots are. Too much competition for parking, part of the reason I never go.

            4. Thanks for the useful intel. May give it one more shot.

   6. For me – it’s all about the containers. I have a ton of rubbermaid containers so that I can make lunches at the start of the week, and it doesn’t matter if I forget one at work or don’t get it through the dishwasher until the weekend. (Mostly salads).

   7. Think salads that can be eaten cold, maybe something with beans or chickpeas so it fills you up. Or even pasta. You can also use leftover rotisserie chicken, or turkey to make the salads more substantial. One more idea: soup, but I think this would work well if you can somehow pack it in a thermos that would keep it warm. Make something with legumes or grains e.g. quinoa, rice etc. I happen to like Panera so sometimes I use their menu items for recipe ideas. E.g. there is a lentil quinoa bowl that also has chicken in it that would not be that hard to replicate at home. Saving $200 a month translates to $2400 a year, I’d say it’s worth it.

   8. Don’t you work in M&A? Girl, pay the $10. Your time is worth it. Otherwise, do three salads on Sunday and fill in as needed throughout the week with work-purchased lunches.

   9. It’s not really $200/ month — unless you plan to forego lunch entirely. I used to be religious about packing lunch, but then I realized that after groceries, the price difference was minimal, and I actually am making healthier (and more convenient) choices buying my lunch. But I never buy my morning coffee. That’s my self-indulgent compromise.

      1. Agreed. Unless you’re dumpster diving (and there is a time cost to that) you’re spending somewhere above $0/day so not $2400 saved by bringing lunch. I do find that having a fridge to store foods is convenient and helps with the bringing of lunch. I’m with kc esq, though, in that lunch with friends/colleagues/out of town visitors is worth saving money elsewhere.

      2. I concur. I don’t eat lunch at all anymore for multiple reasons and have noticed a decrease in my food bills. Beforehand, I packed my lunch religiously. It was barely cheaper, and not all that much healthier because I don’t go through my salads quick enough.

   10. I think the biggest thing for me is making my lunches for the week on Sunday. I usually only make three or four days of lunches, leaving one day to go out, but it still saves me a ton of money.

       It’s not all or nothing, even bringing lunch a couple times a week will save you money!

   11. The boyfriend and I choose a “protein of the week”, cook up a lot of it on a Sunday, and eat lunches based around that meat each week. For instance – chicken – chicken gyros, chicken caesar pitas, burrito bowl, quesadilla, BBQ sandwich. The other meats I use are pork, ground turkey, frozen Italian beef (Papa Charlies), and sausages. I realize you said you don’t have microwave access, but maybe there is a way to make a version of this work for you? Possibly investing in a thermos-type container for the hot portions of the meal and heating them up before you go to work so they’re still warm at lunchtime?

       This method been working very well for us – it does involve a bit of prep each night, but we decide on the 5 meals before I go to the grocery store, and I shop based on those choices. If the choices involve buying things like a pack of pitas or a pack of buns, I make sure to buy only what is needed from our grocery store bakery (a bun is $0.65 each) or plan the meals to use as much of the package as I can.

   12. I love to make different salads. Here are a few simple ones that fill me up and satisfy:

       Lentil salad
       Garbanzo bean salad with tzatziki dressing
       Marinated bean salad with carrots, zucchini, red pepper, and fresh herbs
       Tabbouleh
       Minted barley salad
       Pasta salad with tomatoes & basil
       Fusilli & curry salad

       All of these can be found in the cookbook Salads: Delicious Recipes for a Healthy Life byElena Balshova. These recipes use simple, healthy ingredients and take an hour to make on a Sunday. Love them!

   13. I like to take a big salad for lunch. Right now I am on a Greek salad kick, so I do romaine lettuce, cucumber, tomato, red onion, artichokes, olives, feta, and Greek dressing. I usually cut everything up on Sunday and then assemble each salad nightly. This keeps me full until mid afternoon when I will have a small snack. Another thing I like to do is to bring a yogurt and then other stuff to round it out. So I will have a yogurt, an apple with peanut butter, and veggies with hummus or something like that. I keep the jar of peanut butter and the container of hummus at the office so I just have to grab my fruit and veggies in the morning. And I usually cut these up at lunch time.

8. I’m attending a 4th of July weekend wedding and am looking for gift ideas or input as to whether I should bring a gift. The couple is not registered anywhere and I have heard through the grapevine that they said they don’t need anything. They are older (in their 50s) and are merging two established households. I have also talked recently with my relative (the bride) about her move and the urge to purge/declutter, so I’m at a loss for ideas. I was thinking maybe a gift card for a nice dinner out? Any suggestions?

   1. Cash. Just. Write. A. Check.

      Gift cards are so annoying to actually use

   2. How about a nice bottle of wine? I’m in my 50s and would prefer that to cash, especially from a younger relative.

   3. Gift card for a dinner out sounds like a nice idea. Or maybe a nice bottle of wine or champagne.

   4. Bottle of wine, nice chocolates, a nice scotch or whiskey if that’s their thing. Think small, consumable, and tasty.

      If you want to get something, perhaps a super-fancy wine bottle stopper or similar? Again, small.

   5. What about a charitable donation in their name? At a later stage in my life I would be thrilled if one of my pet projects/causes benefited as a result of a life event of mine.

9. DH & I will be spending a day in the city this week and I’d love suggestions for fun summery things to do. So far we’re planning to check out the Natural History Museum and maybe wander through Central Park. But I’d love any tips you might have! Thanks!!

   1. Buy a citibike one day pass and bike around the city. It’s great for the west side waterfront (but download the app and determine your paths ahead of time). My sister and I spent a day biking from place to place and eating all the yummies (ideas: shake shack, Dominique Ansel Kitchen, Momofuku milk bar, La colombe)

10. I need a new pair of glasses, and the frames I’m looking at only come in black and tortoise shell. I have black hair, dark brown eyes, and light complexion (East Asian), and I will be wearing this same pair for a long time. Is black more classic or tortoise shell? I will be wearing the same pair for years because I have a wonky prescription so my lenses are ridiculously expensive. Thanks.

    1. I think black is classic but it can be severe on some people. I would pick the tortoise shell, it’s not too dark and could complement your eyes well. I am wearing similar frames albeit with a hint of color (aqua) that peeks out. Other than color I think shape is the other thing that matters with glasses, pick something that complements your face well.

    2. I think tortoise. Black is very popular now, but I think on paler complexions it looks too heavy (I just went through picking new glasses and the black frames all looked too much).

    3. I have a pair that are black with very subtle peach trim so they look like very dark brown. They’re a little more severe that I expected, but there are occasions when I don’t mine that look. I would not go with straight 100% black, though.

    4. My coloring isn’t the same as yours but I’ve had both black and tortoise. The black was much more severe on me. Tortoise looks better with my brown hair, light eyes, and light skin.

    5. Thank you for all of your advice everyone! I decided to go with the tortoise based on your suggestions. I just want to say that I appreciate your taking the time to respond.

    6. I’ve worn black frames for years, and I recently realized that they are a bit too severe. I am South Asian, black hair, dark brown eyes and coffee complexion. I’d suggest trying the tortoise.

11. Re-posting from this weekend’s tech-troubled thread:
    Salary advice request! I’ve been offered a position at a small boutique law firm in the LA area. I’m just about five years out of law school, and a solid amount of that time is directly relevant experience. The firm asked me to provide my requested salary. I did my best to try to get them to to name a number first, but I think I’m stuck throwing out a number first. I plan to present a range, and I’ll be prepared to negotiate on other compensation, benefits, etc. Does anyone have any hard numbers they wouldn’t mind sharing about what they would ask for if they were in my position? Thanks in advance!

    1. Does this help? file:///C:/Users/502413389/Downloads/SalaryGuide_RobertHalfLegal_2013.pdf

    2. Small firms are tough. I would pick high (maybe 10-20% higher than your current pay) expecting that they won’t be able to meet you at that number. Also, keep in mind how badly you want/need the position. I have used the Robert Half before but found that most firms in my area pay a lot less than the ranges that are published.

12. Grumple. Hit submit on an order but did not get a confirmation. The items I bought are now sold out so I’m guessing it sent but… I really don’t want to deal with being on hold.

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