Suit of the Week: Boss
For busy working women, the suit is often the easiest outfit to throw on in the morning. In general, this feature is not about interview suits for women, which should be as classic and basic as you get — instead, this feature is about the slightly different suit that is fashionable, yet professional.
Happy hump day, ladies! I'm generally iffy on stripes, but I love the way they're used here, with the stripes on the skirt contrasting the stripes on the the inner lining to the jacket (which isn't visible if the blazer is fastened). Lots of designer stuff on sale at Saks right now, it seems — lots of lucky sizes (and colors), but it's worth taking a look. The jacket (Boss Jafila Stretch-Wool Blazer) is $575, and the skirt (Boss Vafila Pencil Skirt) is $325.
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Sales of note for 12.5
- Nordstrom – Cyber Monday Deals Extended, up to 60% off thousands of new markdowns — great deals on Natori, Vince, Theory, Boss, Cole Haan, Tory Burch, Rothy's, and Weitzman, as well as gift ideas like Barefoot Dreams and Parachute — Dyson is new to sale, 16-23% off, and 3x points on beauty purchases.
- Ann Taylor – up to 50% off everything
- Banana Republic Factory – up to 50% off everything + extra 25% off
- Design Within Reach – 25% off sitewide (including reader-favorite office chairs Herman Miller Aeron and Sayl!) (sale extended)
- Eloquii – up to 60% off select styles
- J.Crew – 1200 styles from $20
- J.Crew Factory – 50-70% off everything + extra 20% off $100+
- Macy's – Extra 30% off the best brands and 15% off beauty
- Spanx – Lots of workwear on sale, some up to 70% off, plus free shipping on everything (and 20% off your first order)
- Steelcase – 25% off sitewide, including reader-favorite office chairs Leap and Gesture (sale extended)
- Talbots – 40% off your entire purchase and free shipping $125+
And some of our latest threadjacks here at Corporette (reader questions and commentary) — see more here!
Some of our latest threadjacks include:
- What to say to friends and family who threaten to not vote?
- What boots do you expect to wear this fall and winter?
- What beauty treatments do you do on a regular basis to look polished?
- Can I skip the annual family event my workplace holds, even if I'm a manager?
- What small steps can I take today to get myself a little more “together” and not feel so frazzled all of the time?
- The oldest daughter is America's social safety net — change my mind…
- What have you lost your taste for as you've aged?
- Tell me about your favorite adventure travels…
Yay Kat and Kate, how did you know that I LOVE Boss dresses and suit’s? BTW, I love the pencil skirt! Great pick, Kat!!!!!
I wanted to report to the HIVE that I have been offered in INHOUSE position reporting to Roberta, and I am in a QUANDREY. She is due to retire in 2 year’s and then I would become GENERAL COUNCIL, but I would have to take a BIG cut in Pay. Of course, I would get STOCK OPTIENS, which I am TOLD were worth alot of money to HER.
WHAT WOULD THE HIVE DO? I think I want to consider it b/c I am lookeing to go in house to work less, and MAYBE get married and have a baby, which I can NOT do workeing 8100 hours a year at the firm. On the other hand, I can NOT get a clotheing allowance at the COMPANY, and would NOT be a general council for 2 years.
Help! I apreciate your INPUT. BTW, the manageing partner wants me to stay and dad may influence me also.
Here is a maybe dumb question. Is there a curly equivalent to getting a blowout? By which I mean, is there somewhere I can go that will style my hair curly in a short-term way? I’m not talking about styling naturally curly hair curly–I want to go somewhere where they will use a curling iron or curlers or whatever and make my hair curly. Not a few big bouncy curls like Drybar will put into your blowout, but full-on curls. Is that even a thing?
Irish dancers use wigs, if that’s the style you are looking for.
My hair stylist will blow dry my hair and then put curls in it – either with a flat iron or curling iron depending on the style I want.
I know the blow dry bar Blo has a curls option as well so if you have a blowdry bar close to you, that may be a good option.
Yup, just ask for an all-over curling iron set. It takes a long time, but they’ll do it.
Yes, the wash and set. They can also use a curling iron.
My husband was a hair dresser. He often styles my hair in what’s called a “brush set” for large bouncy waves. Too much drama for every day but looks dressier than the normal. (And he blows out my hair every day!!!)
OMG. I thought I was pretty happy with my husband but no more!
He really is the best lol but not bc of the daily blow outs, lol, truly.
I’m a Toronto shopper taking a trip to New York on a July weekend and looking to buy size 12 pumps and heels. Any store suggestions? Only store I can shop at here is Payless and I’m getting tired of their collection.
Marmi! That’s my recommendation from personal experience. Not as cheap as Payless, but their shoes have held up very well for me.
Haven’t tried it personally, but I hear that Aerosoles and Nordstrom Rack may also be good sources.
Fellow 12er here. Is it possible to order a bunch of stuff to your hotel and then return it before you leave? There just really aren’t a lot of in-person Size 12 options on the East Coast. (Nordstrom does have some, but no Nordies in NYC.) Saks and Bloomies do not. You might look for a brick-and-mortar Stuart Weitzman, but know that their shoes are $300+ (but hold up for years, esp. if you take care of them).
Marmi is good for flats and sandals, but their heels trend toward matronly. They are having a huge sale right now online though and might ship to Canada.
My favorite online sources are Nordstrom, Zappos, 6pm, LongTallSally.
Nordstrom
+1. Really is your best bet. Department stores are getting better about 11s, but 12s could still be tough.
Also take a look at brand stores that are known for large size range – Cole Haan, for example.
I don’t think there is a Nordstrom in NYC. Maybe a Rack but I don’t know. But Bloomingdales, Saks, Macys are all in midtown. There are also DSWs and TJ Maxx in a few different locations.
I have never found size 12s available to try on in a store. Where are these magic places?
My mom is an 11 and has the same experience. I can’t speak to whether there are specialty stores in NYC that will cater to this size, but in general I would think OP’s best bet is still going to be online shopping. If duties are an issue with doing this regularly to Toronto, she could still take advantage of being in the US by ordering to her hotel (or an Amazon locker-type package receiving facility), and shipping back the “nos” before she leaves.
Nordstrom Rack will have 11’s and 12’s. She should consider shopping online, though, and have stuff delivered to her hotel or to an Amazon locker.
My reply is in moderation. 12s are very hard to find in-store.
Nordy’s (but there is not one in NYC)
Stuart Weitzman (pricy, there are some in NYC).
Marmi’s flats and sandals are generally cute, but their heels skew matronly.
I would recommend you ship packages to your hotel and try on a bunch (and return on the trip). Z a p p o s , N o r d s t r o m, L o n g T a l l S a l l y are your best bet.
No idea if this is possible, but maybe you could order some on Zappos and have them shipped to your hotel? If you don’t get overnight VIP shipping, call and chat with them. The Zappos customer service people will do almost anything to satisfy you and I bet they’d upgrade your shipping if you explain the situation.
Thanks everyone for the suggestions!
Not in New York but macys dot com let’s you ship to store. You could order a bunch online, have them delivered to the flagship store, then try on and return in store.
Any second baby gift ideas? She’s having another of the same, and they seem pretty well stocked, but I’m excited for them, and I want to get something thoughtful
I usually get a set of weekly/monthly magazines on that baby’s DOB. That way, they (and parents) can look back and see what the world was like when baby came on the scene.
Time/Newsweek
People
Economist
Biz Week
then options of:
Scientific American
Smithsonian
Popular Science
Better HOmes/Gardens
Real Simple
City one lives in at time of birth
Motor Week/ Car and Driver
Golf/Sport parents like
Art/Fine Art/Architecture that parents find interesting
Hobby/that parents find interesting
If the first baby is old enough, then a current copy of Highlights, Ranger Rick, etc. to keep them busy for some time period.
I find that other than consumables, second babies are well set for gift items…
If you are Roman Catholic, a saint medal for the given or baptism name. There may also be a book on the life of that saint in a children’s form. Or a book of children’s bible stories (if they don’t have one already)
If you are Christian, a stuffed sheep (steiff usually) … “welcome to the flock.”
I LOVE THIS.
Thank you. (blushing)
Me, too!
Seriously, this is genius!
On a side note, it reminds me of the episode of The Office when Pam had her baby, but was in labor for 24+ hours and Andy was super bummed that the day’s local newspaper’s headline was something about a murder instead of the happy “Spring is Sprung!” from the previous say.
A gift for the older child.
Absolutely no clothes in 0-3 month size.
+1. I try to get the older kid a book that they can “read” to the new sibling.
I found that my burp cloths, baby bath towels and wash cloths were pretty gross after baby #1. A friend surprised me with new ones and I really appreciated having them for baby #2.
Same.
Agree, that stuff gets yucky after one kiddo. I like to give bibs. Some affordable vendors on etsy will monogram bibs in cute colors– might be nice to have a few things with new baby’s monogram.
This. As someone currently expecting #2 of the same sex, I would love burp cloths or baby bath towels/wash cloths. Not only did those get gross, but I’m still using a lot of the latter with #1 (despite being a toddler). Same with monogrammed stuff that’s personal to #2.
FOOD. I’m sure any sort of pre-made food would be so, so appreciated. I usually feel like the most appreciated gift shows your thought. Or a gift for mom? Are you close enough to babysit, either both kids or something special for the older one?
An offer to take the older child to a play place or movie – the child will feel celebrated and included and the parents can have a little one on one time with the baby.
If you know the baby’s name already, I like to get a personalized blanket. The ones I have given as gifts have been well-loved by the child as they grow up.
First baby? I get something cute for the baby or something practical for the parents.
Second baby and after? Spec’s gift card.
A friend of my parents framed the horoscope on the day I was born. I still have it- at my parents’ house, but I think it’s a cool idea, even if you think horoscopes are ridiculous. Maybe frame the front page of a national or local paper (wirh the caveat that it might be better to do something else if the baby is, for example, born the day after another mass casualty event or something equally awful that the parents might not want to be reminded of every day).
If they’re well-stocked, I like to give something “indulgent” … not necessarily more expensive than I’d spend for a first, just something they might not have splurged on with the first. Especially something like a really lovely nursing gown/lounge wear for the mama. Other ideas – a fancy label outfit for bebe, a museum/park membership or class, gift card for a newborn photographer. Also, casseroles!!
If she’s a baby wearing lady, a gorgeous silk sling!.
After traveling for 2+ weeks out of a carry on, I have decided I really want to simplify my wardrobe. In trying to do this, I find that I am really getting distracted by the urge to shop. I think, oh I’ll just get this perfect jacket and my wardrobe will be complete. How do I keep from falling into this trap?
This is silly, but I have a pinterest board of all the work clothes I own (it helps that I basically had to start from scratch post-baby). When I reeeeally want something (say a cute blouse) I can look at the board and say “I don’t have any clothes that would go with this. because i don’t like wearing clothes like this. i should not buy this.” or “do I really need another blue patterned shift dress with elbow length sleeves?” (except maybe I do, because I love them).
Tell me more about these blue shift dresses! What is your favorite?
I am not that poster, but that’s a dress I also gravitate towards.
closetlondon.com/navy-kimono-sleeve-textured-midi-dress.html – this is my favourite. I’m not a 6’11 model so the band you see sits under the boobs, but partway up them. I’ve had it hemmed to just above the knee and it’s lovely, super elegant and washes and dries well without needing to be ironed.
I wear a lot of Maggy London and London Times (I’m almost/sometimes plus sized, and I think ML doesn’t have the same size range as LT?) — if you search “london times extended short sleeve” there are two on 6pm right now in different navy patterns that pack well and wear so easily. I also have one from Tahari (“bi stretch elbow sleeve sheath dress”)
I also just traveled for two weeks out of a carry-on (granted, it was pushing at my expansion panel seams by the time I headed home and my packing skills had degraded) but it’s also making me question everything. Love the pinterest board idea! Trying to keep my life capsule wardrobe style while losing weight.
You might consider using a rental service. I simplified my closet WAY down but then got bored and was in danger of building it right back up. So I have Rent the Runway Unlimited, which allows me to go online and shop / browse and also gives me new options for styling my basic wardrobe. RTR or Le Tote would both be good options for this.
Ditto this. I started using Le Tote recently, and while the service is not perfect, I find that my wardrobe feels much more revived and intentional when I incorporate a new accessory or item (and avoid expanding my closet further…)
I was so disappointed in Le Tote. Everything I got from them seemed really shop-worn, to the point of not being usable for work (even in a business casual environment). The jewelry was fun though…
Would you apply for a position you had previously been rejected from? I saw an ad for a position for which I applied for about 2 years ago and was rejected. This is not a permanent job, it’s a contract research position the kind common in academic insitutions. I have the qualifications listed in the job. The thing is the person hiring is the same one I applied to the previous time. Last time the reason given for not being accepted was that it took too long to process my application–everything had to go through some kind of peer review system and somehow my stuff took longer than those of another applicant. My rational side says I should give it a shot, but on the other hand I wonder if I will be rejected yet again.
Well, what is the worst that can happen? You will invest a little time in the application, maybe, and might have an ego blow if you get rejected again. But what else do you have to lose?
Go for it, and good luck!
Yes. I applied and was rejected for a position a few months ago. The position was recently re-posted and given an upgraded title. I applied again with the same resume and snagged an interview this time around. So go for it.
I did this and got the job. The first time around, I got invited to interview in-person and it ended up getting cancelled inexplicably and I found out later it was due to weird hiring issues around the government shutdown. I applied again and it was (relatively) smooth sailing that time.
yes. This is anecdotal, and happened more than 10 years ago, but my husband and I BOTH got our jobs at BigLaw Firms after having been first rejected. My husband was actually rejected twice by the same firm before he was hired by the firm.
I applied for my current job in 2012 and then again in 2014. Got it the second time around, and it turns out the additional time spent gaining experience and the right skill set really helped elevate me when I came back to interview again. I had imagined the interview would be an awkward deja vu, but it really wasn’t. I say go for it, you never know what can happen!
YES.
(1) You have two more years of experience.
(2) How well you stack against other applicants is so dependent on who else is in the pool. (I wish I had better understood that when I was early in my career).
(3) It’s very likely that they won’t remember; If they do, they’ll recognize that you really want the job, and that’s always a good thing.
Now that I do a lot of hiring, I recognize that not reapplying for a position with the same company after being rejected (or not even interviewed) was my biggest mistake.
Ditto to all three points.
Somebody (maybe Wildkitten? I can’t exactly remember but rings a bell) posted an electric pedicure tool here recently. Anybody remember the link? Alternately, any recommendations for at-home foot maintenance in the summer?
I think it was the Amope, though I was not teh one who posted it.
I’m not Wildkitten but I bought the Amope Pedi Perfect electronic foot pedicure on the recommendation of Belle (Capitol Hill Style) and for once she was right — it is amazing. It really saves my feet for summer sandals by helping shave off incipient corns and smoothing off dead skin. My feet are very sensitive so a plain old pedicure stone was too rough. This appliance is gentle but effective. I use it every few days just to touch up my feet between pedicures. I also bought and use the O’Keefe’s Healthy Foot Cream that she suggested and it works well after using the Amope. It keeps my feet smooth and soft! Here is the article that inspired my purchases, both of which you can get on Amazon: http://www.caphillstyle.com/?s=amope
I am Wildkitten and yep Amope. There’s a fancier version than I bought avialable now.
I have the Amope Pedi Perfect and I think it’s awesome – is that it? I use it standing in the shower though (on dry feet) because otherwise the dry skin dust (I know, gross) goes everywhere.
I have the Emjoi Micro Pedi from Costco and it is awesome as well. I have always done regular pedicures and this just enhances the smoothness. I use it before bed, put on a thick foot cream (and socks in the winter) and my feet are super smooth and hydrated every morning.
I usually tie a scarf onto the handle of my satchel handbags. It sits there, day in, day out, for 3-4 months. Afterwards, it’s obviously wrinkled. I don’t know what to do… they are not fancy-pants expensive scarves. They are vintage (think Vera) or from asia via Amazon. So some are polyester and some are billed as silk. I don’t have an iron. (We use ours for home renovation – putting on veneer on cabinet door edges and so forth!)
I do have a small steamer though.
If I have to take 4-5 scarves to the dry cleaners once a year, so be it … I just don’t know what to do. Unlike a scarf worn around the neck or waist and then put away flat, these are knotted for months at a time…so they won’t unwrinkle (is that even a word) on their own.
I typically put the used and wrinkled scarves either inside the purse until it’s used the next year or put the scarves back into a stack in my dresser drawer. In either case, they remain wrinkled. I love the purse stuffers that are quilted from The Container Store to keep my purses full in their volume, btw.
Thanks for the ideas.
Buy an iron. Use it.
+1
Irons are like, $25
There isn’t a lifehack for everything.
Flatiron on low heat setting might work in a pinch.
is the issue that you want to use the scarves other ways when they’re not on purse duty? because leaving them in a drawer in between 4-month-long wrinkle sessions seems fine to me otherwise…
it shouldn’t be too expensive to dry clean them, but if you’re not feeling like taking the trouble, what about “faking” an iron by laying them in between heavy books for awhile?
I think you can wash/stream/iron them at home. Or use Dryell, if you’re worried about washing.
So, I’m apparently a fairly profligate Amazon ebook reader. So I’ve got a fairly nice Amazon credit now. I’ve got a Kindle 2 that has been slowing down and not holding a charge as well as it used to. Every once in a while, I’ve toyed with the idea of replacing it, but my circumstances being what they are haven’t been able to justify a pricey-ish not-really-necessary purchase. I can still limp along with the Kindle 2 for sometime. But with the credit, a new Kindle would be a little-less-pricey, still not-really-necessary purchase. If Mr. anon and I agree that I should go for it, which Kindle do I want? I really like the size and page turn buttons on my existing one. Not sure if I’m crazy about the idea of a touchscreen. Definitely don’t want a Fire. Also, I tend to do a lot of my reading at the office on my lunch break, so no access to wifi. Do I need 3G?
I do love my 3G Paperwhite. It’s awesome to be on the T and be able to download a book immediately. Last week I bought the Fire when it went on sale for $39, but it’s just my toy for watching videos, etc. My paperwhite is for reading.
I also have a 3G Paperwhite and I love it. The convenience of being able to download books wherever I am is incredible.
The paperwhite is TOTALLY worth the money for size/weight/being able to read in the dark (a marriage saver) but you don’t need to go fancier than that for sure.
Paperwhite all the way! I just make sure I stock up on any books I want while I’m on WiFi at home, then read on the El / at the office / at lunch or dinner. The Paperwhite is great for reading at night — it’s a nice soft illumination that’s much easier on the eyes than my phone — or in direct sunlight. (One of these days I really am going to bring my Kindle and a picnic to the park. If I keep telling myself that, maybe I’ll get around to doing it…)
I have a paperwhite (the Voyage?) but if I was getting a new one, I’d get the Oasis. It looks more comfortable to hold, plus the Amazon origami case I have on it is kind of clunky. I miss the original one that had a rubber band I could slip my hand into for easy reading while laying down.
If you want page turn buttons, you should probably get the Voyage. The Paperwhite is touch screen. I don’t bother with 3G because I have enough data to be able to tether my phone to the Kindle and download that way – there’s no point spending the extra money if you have a smartphone with data.
Love my Paperwhite didn’t spend more on the 3G version – I agree with dangerfield – when I’m not on the home wifi I just use my cell phone as a “hot spot” to connect my Paperwhite to wifi and then I can download books on the go.
Paperwhite all the way. My phone has the internet. My ebook reader just needs to read books.
I have the wifi version and don’t really miss the 3G option. There’s wifi everywhere, honestly, so I’ve never felt like I couldn’t download a book.
I read books through the Kindle app on my phone. I love it because it means I only carry one device and one charger. YOu might try it out before you spend money on a new Kindle.
My household has one push button and one touch screen kindle e-readers. Obviously we had the button one first, and there were reasons why I preferred it when we got the touch (my husband, on the other hand, preferred touch immediately). But once I got used it, I like it. I’m neutral. At this point, I wouldn’t base my decision on that.
Honestly, to me the biggest thing I’m sad to loose when ours die is the built in light in the cover. It looks like that’s not an option any more.
Unless you want to download a new book during your lunch, you don’t need 3G. I don’t have wifi at work, so I just plan accordingly when I’m at home.
Paperwhite – I rarely find myself needing to download books away from wifi, but if I do (usually as I’m boarding a plane) I just tether my cell phone to the kindle. Is that an option?
I would love some help and perhaps commiseration from you ladies. I just found out I tore my ACL. As someone who is extremely active in competitive sports, especially during the summer, this is devastating to me. I can’t help but feel like my summer is over. I feel very down. Any tips for staying active while I wait for surgery? And any particular tips for getting cardio in while dealing with a knee injury? TIA!
Swimming? Perhaps with a brace to immobilize the knee.
I haven’t had to use it because my injuries have always been stress fracture-type weight bearing moves, so I can still bike, but my PT’s office has a handcycle that I’ve heard is the devil. It doesn’t look like much and I know it won’t get you what you’re looking for mentally, but it will at least help burn some energy and keep your cardio base until you’re cleared to bike/run/play your sport.
Also, +1 to swimming with a pull buoy. I normally hate lap swimming, but in the summer heat with the outdoor pools open, it’s much more appealing.
There is a crossfit athlete, Miranda Oldroyd, that tore her ACL very badly last summer. Her instagram was full of interesting workout modifications as she went through surgery and recovery. If you’re a fan of the rower, you could brace your knee as suggested above and just bang out 5K a couple of times per week. If your gym is really cool, they might even move it outside for you!
I thought Julie Foucher was the one who tore her ACL?
I think Julie messed up her ankle during the games last year but still did the workouts wearing a boot.
My surgeon had me start PT before surgery, and I did around 2.5 months of “prehab”. I found it was great for my mental health as well as my knee, because the physical therapist gave me lots of exercises and activities to work on at home. I did a lot of bike riding and quad strengthening. According to my PT (and I’m sure every injury is different!), I only needed to avoid cutting/zig-zag activities while I waited for surgery.
Talk with your doctor about post-op expectations as well. It’s a very slow recovery and he/she can give you an idea of when you get back to sports. It was nice to have a “goal” to look forward to during my rehab.
+1 to this. I didn’t do formal prehab but I had started doing personal training before surgery and really built up my muscles. I rebounded after the surgery super fast. Also, I delayed years before getting my surgery and did all kinds of cardio in between. My only limitation was tennis or stuff that required a lot of lateral movement, and I just wore a knee brace for that.
someone tell me that if I leave my super fancy firm for a slightly less shiny firm as a midlevel to get better staffing and more work life balance and mayyyybe a shot at the brass ring it will be okay and my career will be fine?
Why is it so hard to let go?
It will be more than okay. It might even be better.
Once you have more work life balance you won’t even know why you questioned it.
Thanks. I pulled an epic allnighter last night, and am bummed about having a hard time making contacts, but terrified of burning bridges. There was a great thread last wk about people that can’t believe they were scared to leave their huge firms and it inspired me to throw my hat in the ring…
Re-read your comment. You just pulled an all-nighter. That is not normal or useful in the adult world (really not useful in college either) outside of certain medical professions. Get out!
As someone who left a big shiny firm, one of the few things that I miss is the ego boost of having a prestigious name behind me. The others are: having support staff dedicated to certain tasks like filing or proofing or printing, the money, and on occasion, the work (I think corporate litigation can sometimes be fun, but not when you’re doing 16+ hour days of doc review).
BUT that prestigious name is still on my resume, my work-life balance is amaaaaaazing (govt), and I’m in an area where I wanted to practice. I occasionally toy with the idea of going back into private practice for the work (and money), but my goal is always Mid Law.
I do identify with the ego boost thing. But i am never home before nine. I get one out of every three weekends. There are other parts of myself I want to work and working all the time is 100000% totally normal to me now. The last time I had such a hard time doing something so patently obvious was the right thing to do was when I broke up with my long-term boyfriend at 23.
“But i am never home before nine. I get one out of every three weekends. There are other parts of myself I want to work and working all the time is 100000% totally normal to me now. ”
Girl. The above ^^ is nuts. First, your career will be more than fine. It might not be identical, but it will be fine, and it could even get better. Second, while your career isn’t at risk if you move to a smaller firm, your life and you, yourself are very much risk if you try to keep this up when you are over it. I get it, when you’re in the thick of it and everyone’s drinking the same kool aid it’s hard to see how much you’ve given up to work that much. But “golden handcuffs” and “gilded cage” are metaphors for a reason.
Who are the people you are trying to impress with the prestigious name? Most non-lawyers don’t know the names of law firms. Even the top 10. Call your mom or your dad or your high school bff or anyone else you know that isn’t in the legal world and ask them to name 5 law firms. I bet they only know the personal injury people that advertise on TV. Unless you are impressing other lawyers, no one cares the name of your firm and I mean that in the nicest way.
This is totally where I am too. The giant BigLaw salary increase is not improving my outlook on leaving, either.
It will be fine, as long as you are picking the “less shiny” firm wisely. I went from V5 to V100. Best decision ever. The people I work with are way more normal, my work is more varied/interesting, better hours, more respect for my time. Another huge reason is the firm I went to specializes in technology clients. I actually feel like my practice (patent lit) is central to the firm instead of being something we do on the periphery that no one really cares about. My base comp is the SAME, bonus is a bit less but meh who cares. Support staff is also much much MUCH better, and that makes my life easier.
Do it! My husband worked at an AmLaw20 firm. He loved his work but hated the lifestyle. He moved in-house awhile back. I asked him if he would ever go back to a law firm. His answer was an unequivocal NO. He didn’t even have to think about it.
The transition was difficult as he navigated a new legal environment and working alongside non-attorneys, but as he settled in, he really felt like it was the right choice. For me, it gives me joy to see my husband actually have hobbies now! He has all these fun activities that he participates in that make him so happy that he never would have been able to do staying in biglaw.
Best of luck in whatever you decide to do! Just remember that when you die, nobody will care where you worked. In fact, I doubt most people even care now (as PP have mentioned).
I want to hire someone to come by and clean my apartment. One time, not on a regular basis. Any recs for NYC (Crown Heights, if it matters)?
klean freaks! I love them and use them for regular cleaning. I used to live in Bed-Stuy and they came to that apartment.
Si Se Puede. Woman-owned coop in Brooklyn, do a great job.
I’ve heard a few recommendations for Mom’s Standard but I haven’t used them myself. They’re Brooklyn based but I don’t know if they service all parts of Brooklyn.
Apologies if I missed it, but any update on the pup you were trying to rescue? I’m really hoping there was a happy ending in that she at least found a home somewhere, but I was somewhat afraid to ask given that the chances didn’t sound good :(
Your post certainly motivated me to get more involved with my local rescue (currently I just donate $ and supplies) to work against the sorts of nonsensical policies that you encountered.
I have a (fairly casual) shell top that is navy and kelly green stripes. For the life of me, I can’t figure out what color bottoms to wear with it. White would be best, but I don’t trust I won’t spill something. Black seems like too many colors. Navy seems too matchy. Help?
this sounds like a job for our friend camel or khaki.
Agree, camel would look lovely. Or jeans even as long as they aren’t too close in shade to the navy. a ‘true’ blue jean would work
Navy and Kelly green is one of my favorite combos. I wear it with gray all the time.
I wear navy and don’t think twice.
Purple, lavender, tan, gray, rust, burgundy, any wash of denim.
I’m making a career change and have set up a coffee date with a friend of a friend who basically has my dream job. We’ll be meeting on a Saturday afternoon when the weather’s expected to be in the high 90s. I was thinking of wearing a sleeveless shell, cropped pants and flats. Does that sound formal enough? Or too formal for a Saturday?
That sounds perfect to me. Its a Saturday afternoon, so look polished but not really formal.