Should you friend your boss on Facebook or other social media sites? What about colleagues? What do you do when your superior sends you a request? We haven’t talked about Facebook and bosses for a long time, so I thought we’d revisit. While there are still a ton of amusing stories of people getting fired when their boss saw stupid stuff on Facebook (Buzzfeed, HappyPlace), a recentish (2014) study says that adding your boss to your social networks can have advantages (Time).
For my $.02, I agree with most of the experts: privacy controls are HUGE here.
I keep a variety of different friend lists anyway — one very small one for my BFFs, a general one for my friends, one for parent-friends (so I don’t annoy my single/childless friends with a bunch of baby questions), and one for Brooklyn friends (so I don’t annoy friends elsewhere if I see a good deal somewhere local).
To be honest, I’d probably keep my boss off all of them but the general one for my friends.
Personally I hate that FB makes them so confusing — so I dug up some recent articles for further reading.
- Facebook’s New Privacy Checkup Tool Reviews Your Settings in 3 Steps [Lifehacker, 11/14]
- The Always Up-to-Date Guide to Managing Your Facebook Privacy [Lifehacker — 1/13, unclear if updated or not]
- How to Lock Down Your Facebook Privacy Now That Graph Search Is Here [Gizmodo, 7/13]
LinkedIn can be another ball of wax — it can be a great job-search tool, but it’s tough to use it if your boss is already your friend. (Here’s our last guide to using LinkedIn secretly, as well as some of our review of the best LinkedIn settings for jobhunting.)
What about the other social media sites — Pinterest, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, TikTok, etc, etc — how liberally do you use those as ways to connect with your friends (versus using them without much expectation of connection with your friends, such as pinning a million different ideas to Pinterest for a home renovation project or something, or using Twitter as a newsfeed). Do you often send things to Facebook from the other social media sites?
Ladies, what are your thoughts? Have you friended your boss and other colleagues on social media? (Do you think less of people who seem to be on all the time, or use it solely for whining or boasting?) If you ARE the boss, what’s your take on it?