Previously, on Corporette…
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Travel back in the Corporette® time capsule… Here's what was on our minds oh so many moons ago.
One year ago…
- The Top 10 Most Comfortable Heel Brands
- What Online-Only Beauty Brands Do You Love?
- At What Age Did You Start Dating Seriously — And How Did You Balance It With Academics and Career?
- Tales from the Wallet: How Much Money Do You Need to Be Happy?
Two years ago…
- Snack Ideas for Work
- How to Plan a Wedding While Working Long Hours
- The 411 on the FIRE Movement: Financial Independence Retire Early
- How to Wear Scarves to Work
- The Billable Life: How to Keep Track of Billable Hours
- How to Buy a Bra
Three years ago…
- Adventures in Business Casual: What to Wear to Work in Silicon Valley
- The Best Teas to Wake You Up, Calm You Down, and Maybe Even Replace Your Wine
- Help! My Assistant Talks Too Much
- How Do You Pamper Yourself When You’re Sick?
Four years ago…
- Do You Still Apply When You Don’t Meet the Job Requirements?
- Dating at Work
- Five Grammar Rules You Absolutely, Seriously Have to Know
- Planning Your Career for Babies
- “I’m Exhausted” — How to Investigate When You Have No Energy (An Open Thread)
- The F@#$ Off Fund
More Work Fashion Advice
- What to Wear Under Unlined Pants
- The Corporette Guide to Suits (constantly updated!)
- What to Wear for a Month in Court
- Bespoke Dresses — What to Buy When Your Top and Bottom are Different Sizes (recently updated!)
- What to Wear Under Wrap Dresses
- Do You Believe In An “Everyday Red Lipstick“?
- What Makes Something Frumpy? (we need to update this one — it's super old!)
- Poll: How High of a Heel is Too High?
- “You Dress Too Well” — Compliment or Criticism?
- What Colors Should You Avoid Wearing with a Gray Suit?
- Dressing to Show Authority — Without a Suit
- How to Wear Jeans to the Office
- The Best Clothes for Weight Fluctuations
More Career Advice for Professional Women
- Tips on Changing Careers
- Should You Friend Your Boss On Facebook?
- Conveying Tone in Email Without Sounding Childish (OMG! LOL…)
- How to Set Up the Best Home Office (Whether You Work From Home a Little or a Lot)
- Should You Invite Your Colleagues To Your Wedding?
- How to React When Presented with a “Gentlemanly” Limp Handshake
- How to Interview with Friends
- The Professional Implications of “Bitchface”
- The Care and Maintenance of Professional Contacts
- When You're the Boss: Being Liked vs. Being Respected
- Faxes from Older Colleagues: Should You Reply by Email?
More Lifestyle Advice for Overachieving Chicks
- Tales from the Wallet: A Money Roadmap
- Tips for Making Shoes Last Longer
- Left Behind by a Male Colleague While Wearing Heels
- Tips on Hiring a House Cleaner
- Do You Ever Buy Clothes (Gowns, Swimsuits) You Don't Need?
- What's the Best Advice You've Ever Read?
- Keeping Pet Hair Off Your Clothes
- How to Decorate Your First Apartment
- When to Save, and When to Pay Down Debt
- What to Wear to a Mock Trial Competition
- 19 Tips to Save Time Around the House
- Is It Wrong to Date at the Office?
- Kat's Tips for Internet Shopping
- Saving For Retirement — How Much?
- Tales from the Wallet: Financially Preparing for Baby
Ha, I always think the answer to “how much money do you need to be happy?” is “just a little bit more than you have at the moment!”
Do you hold a grudge? I find that I can’t stay mad at people, even if they’ve really hurt me. Case in point: I got dumped at the end of December by a guy that I had really fallen for. We had met through work (different firms), so we continue to have the occasion to see each other professionally. I’ve done a good job of cutting off all unnecessary contact, and keeping what little contact we do have strictly professional. But fast forward two months and I find myself getting friendlier and friendlier towards him. I can’t seem to stay mad, even though he really hurt me. I don’t want to get back together with him and, objectively, he was really a jerk to me. He deserves for me to stay mad at him, but it seems to require so much more energy to be cold towards him than it does to just treat him nicely. Is this my subconscious telling me that I’m not over him, or am I just not capable of staying mad at someone? FWIW, this has been the case with other people who I’ve been mad at for one thing or another. I just can’t seem to stay angry.
I’m the exact same way and was in an almost identical situation (get this: my ex dumped me 3 days before the bar exam and I was still super friendly and wanting to be his friend when he later joined my firm…). I think it’s just a personality trait, as I’ve never been able to hold a grudge, even when I really want to.
Honestly, it is much better for your mental health to have this trait. As long as you are aware of it so you don’t get taken advantage of, and make sure you don’t repeat past mistakes, you are fine.
I, on the other hand, remember my grudges from 2nd grade, and it is not healthy at all. No, it is not…
I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing that you can’t stay mad. I think it’s important to set up boundaries, and to make sure you learn from the past, but being quick to forgive does not seem like a bad trait to me. I admire that!
Well, I am a grudge-holder and am actively working to become less that way. As long as you’re not continually exposing yourself to situations (and people) where you’re going to hurt over and over again, you’re probably fine. I can forgive, but I do not forget easily and it does color how I interact with people.
Honestly, it is much better for your mental health to have this trait. As long as you are aware of it so you don’t get taken advantage of, and make sure you don’t repeat past mistakes, you are fine.
I, on the other hand, remember my grudges from 2nd grade, and it is not healthy at all. No, it is not…
Has anyone moved from very senior level strategic sales role to public relations/lobbying? Would like to hear about your transition and outcomes.